Kwa amayi ambiri, chodabwitsa chotero monga vuto la amai la zaka makumi atatu ndikukhala vuto lalikulu. Mzimayi amafananitsa zochitika zenizeni ndi malingaliro ake ponena za moyo ndipo nthawi zambiri mkazi amakhala wosakhutira ndi zotsatira zomwe zachitika. Mkazi ali ndi kumverera kuti moyo wake ulibe phindu, komanso kukhala wosakhutira ndi iyemwini wonse, chifukwa cha kuvutika maganizo kumene kumawonekera.
Ambiri amadabwa chifukwa chake zaka 30 zakubadwa za mkazi zimaonedwa ngati zovuta? Kawirikawiri ndi m'badwo uwu, akazi ali ndi "kudzizindikiritsa yekha", anakhala mpongozi wake, mkazi, mayi, mwinamwake, iye anachitidwa ngati katswiri. Pankhaniyi, wakulakwira udindo kwa anthu omwe ali pafupi naye, maudindo ambiri. Ana amatenga nthawi yochuluka ndi mphamvu, komanso nthawi yocheperako okha komanso magulu awo. Ngakhale zomwe zinabweretsa chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo, tsopano zakhala chizoloŵezi chomwe munthu mwiniwake wataya. Amayi ambiri pa nthawiyi amawonetsa moyo wawo patsogolo. Ngati mkazi wapita monga mkazi ndi amayi, ndiye ntchito yake yapamwamba imakhala yoyamba. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, ngati mkazi atakhala ngati katswiri, amayamba kudzizindikira yekha ngati mkazi ndi mayi.
Mu nthawi imeneyi ndi kofunika kuti mkazi akhale ndi "maganizo" (ngati ali kuntchito, kunyumba kapena pakati pa abwenzi). Pakhoza kukhalabe vuto, ngati mkazi ali wokondwa, ntchito yake imabweretsa chisangalalo, maubwenzi ake apabanja kapena moyo wake umakhala bwino. Makamaka vuto la zaka makumi atatu limamvekedwa ndi amayi omwe alibe moyo wawo, ali ndi kusakhazikika kwaumisiri. Kenaka amayamba kuyesa miyoyo ya abwenzi awo, omwe m'moyo wawo achita ntchito yabwino, ali ndi mwamuna ndi ana. Ndipo ngati mkazi alibe "chikwama", akhoza kukhala wovutika maganizo.
Ndiye moyo ukhoza kuoneka ngati wopanda pake, chifukwa palibe amene akumudikirira kunyumba, ndipo ngati mumakumana ndi anzanu mumsewu, ndiye kuti kumverera kwa amayi osadziwika kudzawonjezereka kwambiri. Muzochitika zilizonse ndizofunika kukhalabe ndi mphamvu ya mzimu komanso kuthetsa mavuto onsewa. Koma izi zingatheke bwanji?
Choyamba muzidzikonda nokha, yambani nokha kwambiri, monga zaka zachinyamata. Onetsetsani kuti mupeze nthawi yochita zinthu zomwe mumazikonda - kujambula, kugwedeza, kusoka, kusoka. Samalani ndi thupi lanu - pitani ma salons okongola, tengani madzi osamba. Chimwemwe chidzabweretsa ndi makalasi mu gulu (lembani, mwachitsanzo, ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, mu gulu labwino). Komanso, phunziro silidzangobweretsa chimwemwe chatsopano chatsopano, komanso chiwonetsero chogwirizana.
Zomwezo ndizofunikira kwa amayi okwatirana, chifukwa ngati amayi anu ali ndi maganizo abwino, ndiye kuti adzatha kupereka zambiri kwa ana kusiyana ndi ngati atakwiya komanso atatopa. Zimalimbikitsanso kuti akazi okwatirana atsitsimutse ubale wawo ndi akazi awo, makamaka ngati chiyanjano cha ubalecho chatayika. Siyani ana kwa agogo kapena wina wapafupi naye ndipo mupite ku cinema ndi mwamuna wake, kapena kuresitora (kapena kandulo yamadzulo), mwachiwiri, konzekerani chikondi chamadzulo. Pangani zozizwitsa, valani zovala zanu zabwino, muzimva olandiridwa ndi okongola ndipo mwamuna adzakuyang'anani m'njira yatsopano.
Ngati ntchitoyo sichikubweretsani chisangalalo ndi kukhutira, ndibwino kuti musinthe ntchito. Ganizirani ngati mumakonda zapadera zanu, ndiye dzifunseni nokha ngati mukufuna kupitiliza ntchitoyi kapena ngati mukufuna kusintha ntchito yanu. Muli nayo nthawi yosintha ntchito yomwe mwasankha muunyamata wanu.
Koma nthawi zambiri chifukwa cha vuto ndi kusakhutira pamoyo wake. Pambuyo pake, ngati palibe munthu wapafupi pafupi ndi mkazi, ndiye kuti mavuto onse a moyo kwa iye adzawoneka opanda pake. Musapulumutse banja losagonjetseka chifukwa cha ana, ana kuchokera ku ubale wotere pakati pa makolo sangakhale osangalala, ndipo mkazi adzakhala ndi kupsinjika maganizo komanso / kapena neurosis. Nthawi zina zimakhala zoyenera kuyamba moyo wapadera ndi slate yoyera.
Chitani chirichonse chimene chimakupatsani inu chitonthozo, chimwemwe, chitonthozo, chifukwa kupatula inu, palibe yemwe adzakupangitsani inu kukondwa. Pewani chirichonse chomwe chimakupangitsani kudandaula ndi / kapena kukhumudwitsa. Lembani moyo wanu mwachidwi ndipo musaganize kuti pali vuto la amayi a zaka 30!