Mutu wa nkhani yathu lero ndi "Ukwati, Banja, Ukwati". M'menemo mudzaphunzira zambiri za nyengo zinayi za chaka cha ukwati.
Ukwati, banja, mgwirizano waukwati ... Izi ndizolembedwa kwambiri ndi akatswiri a zachikhalidwe, koma kodi akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza chiyani? Kodi ubale pakati pa okwatirana umakhala bwanji? Pakalipano lingaliro la nyengo zinayi ndilofala kwambiri.
Spring
Kuwuka kwa chilengedwe kuchokera ku nyengo yozizira kugona, mitsinje yoyamba ndi masamba, mpweya umadzazidwa ndi kutsitsika ndi kuyembekezera chozizwitsa ... Kodi sizinso moyo wa banja pachiyambi: namwali watsopano ndi wodzaza ndi ziyembekezo? Anthu awiri omwe ali ndi malingaliro okondana kwambiri pa wina ndi mnzake, amakumana ndi zenizeni. Okwatirana ayamba kumvetsa kuti fano la wokondedwa wabwino, motero mwachikondi ndi mwatsatanetsatane omwe amachitikira ndi iwo asanakwatirane, alibe chochita ndi zenizeni. Komanso, zinthu zingathe kukhalapo malinga ndi zochitika zingapo, zomwe zimakhala bwino kwambiri ndi kupeza kwa kuvomereza, pamene abwenzi onsewa amayesa kuthetsa kusakhutira kwawo ndi makhalidwe atsopano omwe ali nawo ndi maganizo abwino. Zolakwitsa sizinagogomezedwe, ulemu ukutamandidwa, banja limapitirizabe kukhala mwamtendere.
Choyipa kwambiri, ngati chithunzi chabwino ndi chapafupi komanso chachibadwidwe kuposa enieni. Zikatero, ndondomeko yopitanso maphunziro imayamba. Pogwirizana ndi mwamuna wamasiye, nkhondo yosadziwika ikugwedezeka: zofooka zimachotsedwa, zizoloŵezi ndi njira ya moyo akusintha. Koma ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti kachiwiri maphunziro akhoza kuthyoledwa.
Palinso chinachake pakati, pamene mwamuna sangakhoze kulandira fanolo ndipo sangasinthe. Pachifukwa ichi, kuthetsa banja sikutheka.
Kodi chiyanjano chiyenera kupangidwa pa chikhalidwe chanji? Inde, kuganizira kusamvana. Ngati simukumvetsetsana, simukuyenera kukhala chete pazomwe mukukumana nazo, monga momwe mukudziwira, osadziwika kuti palibe. Kupewa kukambirana ndi kunyalanyaza mkangano, kukangana ndi kuyesa kuugonjetsa, ndipo zokambirana zokha zimayambitsa njira zopezera njira yothetsera mavuto ndikusankha njira yabwino kwambiri.
Kusudzulana kumawoneka m'banja mwachidziwitso kapena chifukwa cha mimba. Zosangalatsa zabwino ndizo, koma m'malo mwake zimatsimikizira malamulo.
Chilimwe
Mitsinje yamkuntho inathawa, chilimwe chinafika. Mphatso za chilengedwe zimatsanulira ku kucha, zokolola zimalimidwa, munthuyo amagwira ntchito mwakhama kuti apindule ndi banja.
Okwatirana omwe akhala m'banja muzaka pafupifupi khumi ndipo atha msinkhu wa pakati, amakumana ndi mavuto ena. Funso la katswiri wodzigwiritsira ntchito ndi lovuta. Pa nthawi imene mwamuna wake anali kukulitsa ntchito, mkazi wake anabala ndi kubereka ana. Kenako panafika tsiku lomwe banja silikusowa kukhalapo kwake nthawi zonse kunyumba ndipo mkazi akhoza kupita kuntchito.
Pachifukwa chimodzi, mkazi amapeza zofuna zapamwamba pa banja, amawopa kuti asamvere tanthauzo la "mayi wabwino" ndi "mkazi wabwino" ndipo amadziyerekezera ndi momwe amachitira ntchito zapakhomo. Komabe, akuyenera kudzizindikira yekha ngati katswiri, akufuna kupita kwa anthu, kuyang'ana bwino, kuyankhulana ndi anzako. Pachifukwa ichi, chifukwa cha kusowa mpumulo, nthawi ndi mavuto ena ambiri, kusamvana kumayambitsa. Mkazi amatha kutopa koma sangathe kudzikwaniritsa yekhayo ntchito komanso yekha. Polimbana ndi kuvutika maganizo kumene kwakhalapo, pali malingaliro osudzulana. Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji mavuto ndi kupulumutsa banja?
Choyamba, tiyenera kuvomereza kuti vuto liripo, ndiyeno pitirizani kuyankha. Musakhale ndi zolinga zosatheka. Kukhala mzimayi wabwino, amayi komanso nthawi yomweyo kuti afike pamaluso sizingatheke - chinachake chiyenera kupereka nsembe. Muyenera kuphunzira kupatulira chachikulu kuchokera kwa wachiwiri ndipo musapachike pa trivia tsiku ndi tsiku. Kukhoza kwakukulu kuyang'ana mkhalidwe kuchokera kumbali, makamaka ndi kuseketsa, kudzabweretsa phindu lalikulu. Kuyamikika kwa nthawi kapena nthabwala yoyenera kumapanga chikhalidwe cha chikondi ndi kumvetsetsa.
Kwa amayi omwe ali muvuto lovuta pakati pa nyumba ndi ntchito, akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti atsatire ndondomeko zotsatirazi:
- yongolerani nyumba ndi zochitika;
- Musagwire ntchito kunyumba;
- kutsimikiziranso zoyamba za milandu;
- adziphunzira kukana aliyense amene amasokoneza banja.
Kutsata malangizowo osavuta kumapulumutsa banja ndipo sikudzasokoneza kukula kwa ntchito. Zimakhala zovuta kugwirizanitsa ntchito ndi banja, koma n'zotheka, popeza munthu wopambana amachita bwino.
Kumbukirani kuti aliyense anachita "zobisika" zaunyamata kuchokera ku galasi ndi maluwa osiyanasiyana. Zinthu zapadera, payekha, sizomwe zilizonse zapadera, koma pamene chirichonse chikugwirizana, matsenga amapezeka. Choncho zimachitika m'moyo wa banja, chifukwa chikwati ndi chilengedwe.
Kutha
Ndi nthawi ya chaka chino mu ubale wa banja, monga nthawi yophukira, mwambi "mutu wa ndevu - chiwanda mu nthiti". Ana amakula, samasamaliranso makolo awo. Ndi katundu wotani omwe okwatirana akubwera panthawiyi ya choonadi? Kodi pali china chilichonse chomwe amawagwirizanitsa, kupatula malingaliro okhudza achinyamata?
Vuto la msinkhu wa pakati likugwirizana ndi kukonzanso zamakhalidwe abwino ndipo nthawi zambiri amagwirizanitsidwa ndi amuna. Atatha msinkhu wa pakati, iwo akuyang'ana mmbuyo ndipo ali ndi mantha pozindikira kuti theka la moyo wadutsa, ndipo palibe chopambana chomwe chachitidwa. Ndi pambuyo pa malingaliro amenewo pali chikhumbo chopanga banja latsopano monga chizindikiro cha moyo watsopano.
Matenda onse ndi maganizo omwe ali osavuta kupewa kuposa kuchiza. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza pa msinkhu uno kuti azikhala ndi chidwi ndi ntchito za mzake, zochita zake ndi zomwe akuchita. Ngakhale mnzanuyo sanadziwike ndi chinthu china chapadera - musamuuzeni za izi tsopano, ndikukulitsa chithunzi cha wotayika. Ganizirani zomwe zapindula ndipo musamvetsetse kuti mukusowa. Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri: musamakumbukire zaka za mawu akuti "zaka si zofanana." Pezani zifukwa zilizonse zolephereka ndi matenda: nyenyezi sizinapangidwe, zachilengedwe zasintha, ntchito yakhala yovuta - chirichonse, osati kutchula zaka.
Ngati vutoli silinapewe, khala woleza mtima komanso wanzeru. Thandizani mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, kambiranani naye, musakhale ndi nsanje popanda chifukwa ndipo mosamala, muzisamala maonekedwe anu.
Chimene sichimasokoneza ife chimakulimbikitsani. Ngati mutatha kupulumuka nthawiyi, mphotho idzakhala yachisomo, nzeru zamdziko ndi maubwenzi amphamvu omwe adutsa zaka zambiri.
Mu mphamvu ya mkazi, vuto la zaka zapakati limaletsedwa. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kupatsa mwamuna wanu mpumulo, kusamalira thanzi lake, kuonjezera kudzidalira kwa wokondedwa wake mwa kuumirira komanso kuwonjezera zowonjezereka. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri chimene mkazi ayenera kuthana nacho vuto la pakati pa moyo ndi kuleza mtima. Mukufunsa, ndipo ndani angamuthandize? Chikondi, Banja ndi Nzeru.
Zima
Mwadzidzidzi chisanu choyamba chimagwa, kotero mu ubale pakati pa anthu mwadzidzidzi amabwera m'nyengo yozizira.
Kodi nthawi iyi ya chaka ndi yotani kwa banja lomwe lakhala likuyenda kutali? Ndakhala ndikukhala pamodzi kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo kukumbukira kwanga kukumbukira nthawi zofunika kwambiri.
Munthu chaka ndi chaka amadziwika bwino chifukwa cha ukalamba wake. Zingakhale zolakwika kufanizitsa chimwemwe chomwe chimakhalapo kwa achinyamata, ndi chimwemwe chopezeka ndi anthu a ukalamba. Ngati kwa achinyamata achinyamata amalingaliro amenewa ndi odzikonda, ndiye kuti okalamba amasangalala ndi anawo komanso tsiku lililonse amakhala pamodzi. Kusudzulana pa msinkhu uno ndi kovuta kwambiri. Kukonda mwamuna kapena mkazi kumapeza khalidwe latsopano losayembekezereka: chikondi, chikondi, mantha. Mwamuna ndi mkazi akhoza kukangana, koma kung'ung'udza kumeneku kumangokhala kudzidalira, komwe kumathandiza kukwanitsa ukalamba mokwanira.
Ndi chiyani chomwe chingakhale chokongola kuposa anthu okwatirana omwe akuzunguliridwa ndi ana ndi zidzukulu? Kutenga chikondi kupyolera mu zaka, iwo ali ngati aang'ono monga pachiyambi cha chiyanjano chawo, ndipo nthawi ilibe mphamvu pa maganizo enieni!
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalimbikitsa kuti awo omwe afika pa "zaka za siliva" amatsatira mfundo zotsatirazi:
- Chinthu chilichonse chiyenera kuchitidwa mwaluso komanso poganiza;
- kuyankhulana kwambiri ndi achinyamata;
- kuthetsa mavuto ozindikira;
- Chikondi chiri pakati pa chirichonse.