Ndipo, ndithudi, ankhondo. Tsoka ilo, si aliyense amene angapewe chiwonongeko cha kupereka chaka cha moyo wake kuti apindule ndi dziko lakwawo. Pomwe izi ndi zabwino, ndidakali nkhani yotsutsana, koma, komabe, zenizenizo zatsala. "Sindikudziwa ngati ndikudikirira mnyamata kuchokera ku usilikali kapena ayi?" - Funsoli likufunsidwa ndi atsikana ambiri, koma si onse omwe amadziwika mokweza. Izi sizosadabwitsa, chifukwa kuti kusadikirira wokondedwa ndi kusakhulupirika, komwe kudzatsutsa kwambiri. Koma momwe mungapewe mikangano ndi kuchita chinthu choyenera?
Ngati, mutsikana wanu atalandira pempho, funso "simudziwa ngati mukudikirira mnyamata kuchokera ku gulu" kapena "osati kumutu kwanga, muyenera kukhala pansi ndikuganiza mosamala. Inde, mutha kuyamba mwakhama kunena kuti ichi ndi chikondi chachikulu ndipo chaka cha inu sichikutanthauza chilichonse. Koma, ngati muli ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri kapena khumi ndi zisanu ndi zitatu zakubadwa, makamaka chaka chino chikhoza kutanthauza zambiri.
Mwachitsanzo, kupita ku yunivesite, yambani kudziŵitsa anthu atsopano ndipo zikhoza kuchitika kuti pakati pa abwenzi atsopano padzakhala wina yemwe angakukopereni. Kodi mungatsutse? Inde, atsikana onse amakhulupirira kuti okondedwa awo ndi apadera, apadera, apadera kwambiri komanso opambana.
Koma ngati sitiwona munthu kwa nthawi yayitali, kuyerekezera zochita zake ndi kuyerekezera kumayamba mosavuta, makamaka ngati pali chinachake choyerekeza. Anthu atsopano m'moyo wathu amatipangitsa kuganizira momwe timayamikirira wokondedwa wathu.
Ngati muli ndi mnyamata yemwe amapita kunkhondo, muli ndi chibwenzi choyamba, ndiye palibe chodabwitsa chifukwa akuwoneka kuti ndinu wapadera komanso wapadera. Koma musaiwale kuti moyo umangoyambika, ndipo mwinamwake penapake pamakona mukuyembekezera cholinga chenichenicho, ndipo uyu ndi munthu wabwino amene angakhale wokondweretsa kukumbukira. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ganizirani ndikudzipenda nokha, yerekezerani zochitika zomwe zingadzachitike chaka chotsatira, osati kuchita kwa munthu, zopweteka kwambiri.
Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti simungathe kudikira - ndiuzeni nthawi yomweyo. Musati mudikire tsiku lomaliza musanatuluke, chifukwa izi ziwoneka ngati kuseka. Lankhulani ndi mnyamatayo ndikufotokozera malingaliro anu. Inde, mosakayikira, adzakhumudwa ndikuphwanya chiyanjano. Musamunene kapena kumukwiyira chifukwa cha izi, chifukwa ali wolondola. Pakapita nthawi, mwinamwake mnyamatayo akhoza kukukhululukirani ndipo ngakhale kamodzi adzakuthokozani chifukwa cha kukhulupirika kwanu. Komabe, choonadi chowawa ndi chabwino kuposa bodza lokoma, ngati kuti ambiri ndi anthu ambiri padziko lapansi lino sakukangana ndi izi. Choncho, musayese kupempha chikhululuko kapena kukumbitsani kuti mukhalebe mabwenzi. Ingochokapo, kulola munthu kupulumuka masautso awo, kuiwala za izo ndi kuyamba moyo watsopano popanda iwe.
Mwinamwake, iwe mwiniwake umamuphonya iye nthawi yoyamba, koma, posakhalitsa, chirichonse chiyamba kuiwala, ndiye onetsetsani kuti inu mwachita chinthu choyenera ndipo munasankha zoipa zochepa kwambiri. Koma ngati mutatha kufufuza zochitika zosiyanasiyana ndi zochitika zanu, mumadziwa kuti mukukondabe chibwenzi chanu ndipo mwakonzeka kumudikirira nthawi yotere - zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ubale umenewu umatanthauza zambiri ndipo nthawi zina mumayenera kupereka zinthu zina kwa iwo. Mwa njira, za ozunzidwa.
Ngati chibwenzi chanu chikukupemphani kuti musapite kumalo osangalatsa kwa chaka ndikudziwana ndi anthu atsopano, makamaka anyamata, taganizirani. Mawu otere - mwachindunji kuti mnyamata sakukukhulupirirani, ali ndi nsanje kwambiri ndipo akufuna kulamulira moyo wanu. Mnyamata wokwanira sangathe kuyika zinthu zoterezi. Amamvetsetsa bwino kuti mumakhalabe gawo la anthu omwe mukufunikira kugwira ntchito bwino, kuti musakhale othawa. Mawu amenewa, poyamba, amasonyeza kuti mnyamatayu ndi wofooka komanso wamakwiya. Podziwa kuti m'gulu lankhondo sangakhale wokoma, akufuna kuti moyo wanu ukhale wofiira, wopanda pake komanso wotopetsa. Anthu okonda samachita zimenezo. Choncho, sankhani ngati muli okonzeka kumanga ubale weniweni ndi munthu woteroyo. Mwa njira, simuyenera kupereka malonjezanowa nokha, ngati munthuyo sakufunsa.
Tsopano zikuwonekera kwa inu kuti popanda izo simudzakhala ndi chidwi. Ndipotu, munthu ndi munthu amene amasinthasintha. Zidzatenga miyezi ingapo ndipo mutha kuyanjana ndi chiyanjano kuchokera kutali ndikukumbukira kuti mukhoza kusangalala popanda izo. Choncho, ndibwino kuti mwamsanga muchenjeze kuti simudzakhalanso nunayi, kukhala pawindo, ndikulira usana ndi usiku, mudzayembekezera kuti abwerere. Mudzaganiza za izo, kumbukirani, kuyitana pa mwayi uliwonse, koma simungakane moyo wanu wamba. Munthu wachikondi amvetsetsa zonse.
Inde, gulu lankhondo lero silili tchuthi ku malowa. Monga kale, chibwenzi chanu chifuna thandizo ndi chithandizo, makamaka miyezi yoyamba. Ndicho chifukwa chake muyenera kuyesetsa kumudziwa nthawi zonse, kuti mum'kumbutse kuti iye ndi wabwino komanso wamphamvu kwambiri, omwe mukumudikirira komanso kuti mumamuyamikira. Kuonjezerapo, yesetsani kumuchezera nthawi zambiri ngati mumaloledwa mwayi wapakati ndi wachuma. Khalani otsimikiza kuti kukumana nanu kumapatsa mnyamata watsopano mphamvu komanso mphamvu zowonjezera mphamvu. Ngati akutumikira mumzinda wanu - pitani kwa iye pa mwayi uliwonse. Ngakhale mphindi zisanu ndi inu ndi tchuthi kwa msirikali. Chaka chopanda wokondedwa ndi chovuta kwambiri. Koma, musadzilole nokha kukhala achisoni ndi kulira. Mukumvetsa kuti zonsezi zidzatha, mnyamatayo adzabweranso, ndipo moyo udzayambanso kuyenda.
Choncho, muyenera kungoyembekezera pang'ono. Chibwenzi chanu chiyenera kuwona ndikukumva mtsikana wolimba ndi wodekha, yemwe ali ndi chisoni kwa iye, koma samakhala wovutika maganizo ndipo salankhula za kudzipha. Ngati ndinu munthu wotero, zidzakhalanso zosavuta kuti munthu apulumuke ndi chizoloŵezi choopsa cha nkhondo ndi kubwerera kwawo. Ndipo dzifunseni tsiku ndi tsiku mumayendedwe akuti: "Sindikudziwa ngati ndikudikira mnyamata kuchokera kunkhondo kapena ayi?" Ndi zopanda phindu, malingaliro amenewa adzangokupangitsani kuti musiye. Nanga ndichifukwa ninji mungadandaule kwambiri ...