Mapulogalamu a chilankhulo cha Neuro kapena NLP ndi malo omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito mwakhama kwambiri omwe amapereka njira zophweka komanso zowonjezera pofuna kuthandizira njira zopanda kuzindikira. NLP imagwiritsidwa ntchito bwino pambali ya chikondi ndi maubwenzi. Njira za NLP zithandizira kupeza chikondi, kumanga ubale wogwirizana kapena kutsitsimutsa maganizo. Chikondi ndi masewera, ndipo masewera onse ali ndi malamulo ake. Inu mumawadziwa iwo_ngati inu muwapindule, ayi-musakonzekere kutayika ndi zotsatira zonse zomwe zikutsatira. Kukhala wosakondana ndi chikondi kumapweteka kwambiri, choncho ndibwino kuti mwamsanga muzindikire malamulo akuluakulu ndikuphunzira njira zosavuta zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupewa zolakwa zomwe simungakhululukidwe ndikukhala osangalala mu chikondi.
Mukhoza kusintha. Chinsinsi cha chifundo pakati pa anthu ndi kufanana. Ziyenera kupezeka kukhazikitsa malo a interlocutor panthawi yolumikizana. Muyenera kukhala galasi, kusonyeza khalidwe la mnzanuyo, mpaka kumtima wopuma. Manja anu, maimidwe, nkhope ya nkhope, tempo yolankhula ayenera kukhala pafupi kwambiri. Chikhalidwe chachikulu chowonetsera magalasi ndi chilengedwe chokwanira, kopanda pake munthu angaganize kuti mukuwongolera.
Khalani mtsogoleri mukulankhulana. Muyenera kusintha maganizo anu, pang'onopang'ono kutsogolera mnzanuyo kumverera ndi zomverera zomwe zingasokoneze maganizo ake. Ngati mnzanuyo akumveka ndi kutsekedwa mtima, kumwetulira, kuyankhula modekha komanso popanda kupanikizika. Posakhalitsa adzafuna kukuwonetsani ndikuwonetsa maganizo omwe mumapempha. "Kusintha" kwa chikhalidwe. Ngati mumakonda munthu, ndiye makamaka, ndi momwe mumagwirizanirana ndi chikhulupiliro. Onetsani. Khalani ndi mayanjano abwino. Mu NLP, "kuyamika" ndi imodzi mwa njira zothandiza kwambiri kuti mumangirire munthu payekha. Chofunika chake ndi kupeza kapena kugwira nthawi ya chimwemwe cha munthu ndikumugwirizanitsa ndi iye mwini. Nyimbo, zokoma, fungo, zokhudzana ndi zomwe mnzanuyo akumverera pamodzi ndi inu, ziyenera kutulutsa maganizo abwino mmenemo. M'tsogolomu, adzalumikizana ndi inu ndikumayesetsa kuti aziwathandiza.
Limbikitsani. Akatswiri a NLP amatchedwa njira imodzi yothandiza kupanga khalidwe loyenerera lotchedwa "positive reinforcement". Ichi ndi chizindikiro kwa munthu kuti amachita moyenera ndipo khalidwe lake ndi losangalatsa ndipo limakwaniritsa zoyembekezera. Monga chilimbikitso, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito kumwetulira, kukupsompsona, kuyamikila, kuyang'anitsitsa, kudziletsa, kudziletsa, etc. Kulimbikitsana mnzanuyo ndi kulimbikitsa, mumapanga machitidwe ndi luso lomwe mukusowa. Gwiritsani ntchito njira yopititsira. Ndi mphatso yabwino kwambiri ya kukumbukira anthu. Lili ndi zikumbukiro za anthu omwe adatikopa ndikudzipangira okha. Maganizo a anthu atsopano akugwirizana ndi zochitikazi. Mwachitsanzo, dzina la munthu wabwino ndi lothandiza kwa ife tidzakhala ndi makhalidwe abwino a anthu ena onse panjira yathu ndi dzina lomwelo. Gwiritsani ntchito zozizwitsa za kusamutsa ndikupangitsa mnzanuyo kukumbukira zinthu zabwino zomwe amadziwa kuti angakufikitseni.
Njira Zisanu Zambiri Zopangira Chikondi
Wolemba wa NLP njira ya Victoria Isaeva (Eva Berger) mu bukhu lake "NLP kuti akondweretse chikondi: 11 njira zomwe zingathandize kukondana, kunyengerera, kukwatira aliyense" amapereka njira zothandiza zomwe zingathandize kuyamba mgwirizano watsopano kapena kusintha zomwe zakhala zikuchitika kale .
Chinthu "Chinthu choyamba choyamba"
Musanayambe msonkhano wokondweretsa woyamba, yesetsani kubwezeretsanso monga wolemba masewera, wotsogolera ndi wojambula pa filimu yanu yotchedwa "Tsiku Langa Lokongola." Mudzakhala ndi ulendo wopita ku msonkhano wamtsogolo, yemwe ndi mlembi wake. Pamene mukusankha, zidzatha. Kuti muchite izi, kumbukirani tsiku lanu lopambana kwambiri kapena mkhalidwe umene mudakondwera nawo. Khulupirirani maganizowa kachiwiri, kubwezeretsa phokoso, fungo, zithunzi ndi zozizwitsa mu kukumbukira kwanu. Awapangitseni bwino kwambiri, yesetsani kumva zonse mwathupi. Sonkhanitsani maganizo awa ndikuwatsitsimutsa tsiku lomaliza. Tangoganizani momwe kumverera kwa chimwemwe ndi zosangalatsa kumakula mukakumana ndi mnzanu, mumamuwona, mumve ndikukumva chidwi chake. Fotokozerani mwatsatanetsatane malo osonkhana, momwe mumakhalira, momwe mukukumvera kumbuyo, kununkhiza, kuwona malo ndi mkati. Mukulankhula za chiyani? Kodi mumadya kapena kumwa chiyani? Kukulitsa zochitikazo, kukhala ndi thupi lachisangalalo. Mulole chisangalalo chidutsitsike ndi mafunde otentha, moyo uziimba, ndi m'mimba mwa agulugufe flutter. Tengani "iwo", ndipo khulupirirani kupita tsiku lanu losangalala.
Njira "Njira ya atatu YESU"
Wolemba wa njirayi amatchedwa Socrates. Zimagwiritsidwa ntchito mogwiritsidwa ntchito pofuna kugwiritsanso ntchito malingaliro a munthu ndi cholinga chopezera chilolezo cha munthu. Mfundo yamakono yokhudzana ndi kupeza malingaliro ovomerezeka ku mafunso atatu okhudza zinthu zoonekeratu (mwachitsanzo: mlengalenga ndi buluu, udzu ndi wobiriwira, madzi amanyowa). Ndizotheka kwambiri kuti munthu anganene kuti "inde" kwachinayi, koma kale ndi nkhani yofunikira (mwachitsanzo: kodi mumandikonda?). Victoria Isaeva akupereka kugwiritsa ntchito njira iyi yakale komanso yopambana pofuna kuti munthu avomereze pankhani zokhudzana ndi chitukuko cha maubwenzi: chibwenzi, kugwirizana, maukwati, maulendo, kugula, ndi zina. Funso limene mukufuna kumva ndilo "inde" sayenera kufunsidwa, ndi angati omwe angayankhe mu mawu otonthola komanso ndi mawu olimba.
Njira Yopangidwira "Kutaya Magetsi"
Kutaya zida ndizochitapo kanthu kapenanso mawu omwe mwakonza mwanjira yothetsera (kusalongosola, kusankha zochita). Mu NLP-chikondi, njira iyi ingathandizire, mwachitsanzo, kupeĊµa mikangano kapena ngakhale kupatukana. Ngati wokondedwayo atatopa kupirira, mumakhala wolakwa ndipo mumalapa moona mtima, koma mukumva kuti mukukonzekera mawu okhumudwa, kapena kuti: "Ndikudziwa kuti ndikulakwa bwanji. Palibe chikhululuko kwa ine, ndipo ndi zovuta kusagwirizana ndi izi. Ndikumvetsa ngati mutakwiya ndi ine (kudana, kutaya), koma ndiroleni ine ndikukonzekere zolakwa zanga ndikuwonetsetse kuti ndine wabwino kuposa momwe ndikuchitira! "Cholinga choyembekezera" chigamulo "chikuwononga ndipo nthawi zambiri chimapatsa mwayi kulandira chilakolako.