Mwina bwana wanu ali ndi mawu okweza, komanso amakonda kulankhula, ndipo kufuula, ndiko kuti, kumuuza maganizo ake n'zosatheka. Nthawi zonse muyenera kusiya kulankhula, kusakanizika ndi mkwiyo. Mwina simukuyenera kumvetsera anthu oterewa, kungozisiya kapena kudziyesa kumvetsera nyimbo? Ndipo pamene abwana osasangalala ayamba kukambirana, yesetsani kukutsutsani kapena kupeza, kenako mumutumize mwaulemu, kuti muli ndi zambiri zoti muchite ndipo muyenera kugwira ntchito. Anthu ambiri, osakhala ndi "mfundo zothandizira" ndi bwana, motero amasiyidwa opanda ntchito, amachotsedwa.
Ngati simukufuna kutaya ntchito chifukwa cha bwana wovuta, ndiye gwiritsani ntchito malangizowo, chifukwa simungathe kukhazikitsa ubale ndi munthu wovuta, komanso mutha kusintha maganizo anu payekha.
Yang'anani mozama
Matt Brown, mkulu wa kampani yowunikira a YSC anati anthu amabwera ku bungwe osati kuti asokoneze moyo wanu ndikuchita ntchito yanu bwino. Yesani kumvetsetsa chomwe chimayambitsa vuto. Izi ndizomvetsa chifukwa chake munthuyo amachita izi, chomwe chimamulimbikitsa, chifukwa chake akukwiya.
Yambani kuganiza mosiyana
Ngati inu, mutayamba kuyankhula ndi munthu, mutha kale kumuthandiza Knome ngati interlocutor osasangalatsa komanso yovuta, ndiye kuti zokambiranazo zingasokonezeke nthawi yomweyo - mumadzipangitsa kuti mutha kudzipanikiza, koma izi sizingatheke. Otsogolera ambiri amalangiza kusintha maonekedwe anu. Mwina bwana wanu si munthu wovuta, samawoneka ngati inu.
Sinthani zochita zanu
Ngati sitingapeze chiyankhulo chofanana ndi wina wovuta, ndiye kuti zidzakhala zosavuta kuti tipeze zomwe amadziwa komanso kumvetsetsa, ndikuganizira zomwe akufunikira kuchokera kwa inu. Inde, mungaganize kuti: "Ndichifukwa chiyani ndiyenera kusintha chifukwa cha anthu ena, chifukwa vuto sililipo?" Koma ganizirani kuti simungathe kupereka mabwana anu mavuto aliwonse, koma akuwoneka kuti ndinu vuto lomwe liyenera kuthetsedwa, ndipo kuti kukwaniritsa, kuchita, iwe-bwana wako ndi wokondwa ndi chirichonse. Muyenera kukhala ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yolumikizira ndi kutenga udindo wonse. Mwina vuto ndilo kuti mumayendetsa molakwika, yang'anani maganizo anu ndikuyamba kuchita mosiyana.
Musachedwetse yankho la vutoli
Dziwani kuti ngati mutachedwa kuchita ntchitoyi, mukhala ndi zambiri, ndipo posachedwa mutembenuzidwa kukhala bwana wanu ndipo vuto lidzakhala lovuta kuthetsa. Kuyika mfundo zonse pamwamba pa "ndi" nthawi zina sikokwanira kukambirana kamodzi. Matt Browne, kuti choyamba muyenera kumvetsa tanthauzo la vuto, ngati muli ndi mkangano ndi munthu kuposa inu.
Kulankhulana pa msinkhu wawo
Vosnovnom m'mikhalidwe yovuta, anthu amayamba kuthetsa vuto la mafano olankhulana achilendo, ndikumangotentha. Zidzakhala bwino ngati mukumvetsetsa momwe machitidwe anu oyankhulirana akusiyana ndi kachitidwe ka bwana wanu, ndipo yesetsani kulankhula "m'chinenero chake".
Ngati mukuyenera kuuza bwana nkhani zoipa - konzekerani zoipa
Ngati mulibe chibwenzi ndi bwana wanu, ndizovuta kwambiri kulengeza uthenga woipa, ndipo simukufuna. Koma zotsatira zake zoipa zomwe mungakumane nazo zitatha kukwanitsa kutsatiridwa ndi zochita zawo. Musaganize za mmene mumamvera, ganizirani pa chinthu chachikulu.
Musalimbikitse khalidwe loipa
Musathetse mavuto a bwana wanu, mwinamwake mudzafunikanso kuchita izo nthawi zonse. Ngati anthu ayesa kukopa chidwi chanu pamakangano, musawalole kuti achite. Ngakhale mutapambana mkangano, mutha kulimbana.
Khalani omveka komanso osasinthasintha
Ngati simukukonda momwe munthu amachitira, muuzeni za izo ndikuwonetsa kuti ndi amene ayenera kusintha. Ngati bwana akupitirizabe kuchita zoipa, muuzeni nthawi yomweyo, ndipo musamayembekezere omvera otsatirawa.
Osamvetsera njira, yang'anani pa cholinga
Nthawi zina vuto limabuka kapena katswiri samachoka, pamene mukuganiza motalika kwambiri za njira zothetsera vutoli, osati za neyasama. Inu nokha muyenera kufotokozera momveka zomwe mukufuna kuti mukwaniritse. Onetsetsani pa cholinga chenicheni cha zokambirana, ana pazinthu zonse zikuyenda bwino komanso "mutenge".
Pali zinthu zomwe sizitha kuwongolera
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti munthu akhoza kuchita motere, chifukwa cholimba kapena bungwe silikugwirizana naye. Mwinamwake zidzakhala zophweka kuti musinthe mgwirizano wa mgwirizano kapena, makamaka, kusiya ntchito - kukana ntchito zake. Pali zochitika zoterezi, mwachitsanzo, pamene munthu akuwonetsa nkhanza ndipo sangathe kupirirapo. Ndipo yankho apa ndi chinthu chimodzi chokha - ngati chiri ndi luso lanu, ndiye moto mnzanuyo kapena muzisiye nokha.
Chikondi!
Akatswiri ambiri amaganizo amati pali njira yodabwitsa komanso yotsiriza yothetsera vuto - kukhala ndi bwana. Ngati kuli kovuta kulankhulana ndi munthu, ndiye kuti mumangokonda naye, ndipo sizili zovuta nkomwe, chifukwa munthu aliyense alibe makhalidwe oipa okha, komanso abwino. Muyamikire munthuyo, mukuganizira makhalidwe ake onse, ndipo mumvetse kuti adakali odabwitsa komanso odabwitsa. Nthawi iliyonse tikakhala m'chikondi, ndiye kuti mavuto onse ali pambali yathu, komanso simukuwazindikira. Nthawi iliyonse yolankhulirana imakhala yabwino ndipo imabweretsa chisangalalo, ndipo pamene munthu ayang'ana zomwe zimakupangitsani chimwemwe, iye mwini amayamba kusintha kwabwino!