Amuna amakonda kusonyeza kuti ali apamwamba m'mbali zonse za moyo - kuphatikizapo m'munda wogonana. Kukhwima ndi kuuma si zachilendo mu ubale wapamtima wa mabanja ambiri, koma abambo amatsogoleredwa ndi nkhanza. Iye ndiyenso akuyambitsa masewera ogonana kwambiri. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? Chifukwa chiyani amuna ngati kugonana kovuta - izi zidzakambidwa pansipa.
M'dziko la zinyama
Kunena zoona, pali zofanana pakati pa anthu ndi zinyama. Amuna onse mu nyama (monga anthu padziko lapansi) amayesetsa kukhala amphamvu, ochenjera komanso okongola kwa akazi (ndi akazi) ndipo motero, akhale ochenjera kuposa ena. Chikhalidwe chokha ndi champhamvu chokha chimapereka mpata wopeza malingaliro a kugonana kofooka ndikukulitsa mtundu wake. Wachiwiriwa sagwiranso ntchito kwambiri kwa amuna, koma mosadziwa amayesetsabe kulamulira otsutsana nawo. Kugonana kovuta ndi chifukwa.
Ngati mukufuna kuyendayenda kudutsa m'nkhalangoyi, ndiye kuti mwawona momwe nkhunda zazing'ono zimakhalira pa nyengo yoswana. Mbalame yooneka bwino (yamwamuna) mwadzidzidzi imayamba mwadzidzidzi kuzungulira kachikazi kakang'ono, kumutsatira, kupukusa khosi lake, kutsika mutu wake pansi ndi kutambasula mapiko ake. Angathenso kutengera malo ake, kusinthasintha khosi lake, ndi mchira wake ukuzungulira ngati firimu, kupanga phokoso lalikulu. Pafupi, mwamuna amayesa kugonjetsa mkazi. Kusiyana kokha ndiko kuti nkhunda ndi yopanda malire ndipo silingaganizire china chirichonse choyambirira. Mwamuna, pokhala pamalo apamwamba a chisinthiko, angapereke mphete yamtengo wapatali, maluwa kapena nyumba pakati pomwe ngati chitsimikiziro cha kuona mtima kwake. Ndipo akazi amasankha kwambiri "oyenerera" - ndiko, kupitiriza, kudzikwanira, kutetezedwa ndi kunyalanyaza pang'ono. Ndi kusiyana kwakukulu, khalidwe la munthu ndi nkhunda ndilofanana. Ndipo zotsatira zake ndi chimodzi - malo a mkazi wogonjetsedwa.
Mu zinyama, kunyalanyaza mu kugonana kuli kofala. Moyo pawokha umawakakamiza iwo kuti achite izi. Ng'ombeyo idzafa, ngati sichifuna zake zokha, sizidzakondwera chifukwa cha kupitiliza mpikisano. Amuna omwe ali ndi chidziwitso ngati kugonana kovuta pa chifukwa chomwecho. Mwa njira, akazi ambiri amamukonda. Pambuyo pa zonse, ife timagwirizana kwambiri ndi zinyama ...
Kugonana koopsa sikopusitsa!
Zoonadi, sitinganene kuti amuna ena amakonda kugonana molakwika chifukwa chakuti ali ndi zizindikiro zowonongeka. Izi siziri zoona. Kuti tiyankhe funsolo chifukwa chake mwamuna amakonda kugonana kovuta, tiyenera kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake mwamuna amakonda kugonana.
Inde, penapake mu chikumbumtima, tili ndi ntchito: kusiya mbuyo. Koma m'kupita kwanthawi, zosowa izi zikupita kumtsogolo. Mu chilengedwe, pali mitundu itatu yokha ya zamoyo zomwe zimatha kugonana kuti zikhale zosangalatsa: nyamakazi, dolphins ndi anthu. Kufunika kwa kugonana, timayamba kumverera pafupi ndi nthawi ya kutha msinkhu. Choncho, anthu amagonana, chifukwa amafuna. Nanga bwanji za amuna? Ndipo amuna amachitanso izi chifukwa amasonyeza kuti ndi amuna. Inde, mukhoza kupereka zifukwa zina, koma izi ndizofunikira.
Pali zambiri zomwe zimayambitsa zochitika m'madera omwe nthawi zambiri zimakhudza ife. Mwamuna ali wamphamvu, mkazi ali wofooka. Kwenikweni, izi zikutanthauza kuti mwamunayo ndiye wamkulu, ndipo ayenera kumugonjetsa, pogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu ndi ulamuliro wake. Ndipo makamaka mwatsatanetsatane, kusaka kwa akazi ndi njira yabwino yolingalira ngati mwamuna wamwamuna wamphamvu. Pofuna kulimbitsa udindo wawo wamwamuna, mutatha kugonjetsa, nkofunika kukhazikitsa utsogoleri wake ndi "kukwatirana" ndi mkazi wogonjetsedwa. Uwu ndi momwe kupambana koyera kumasonyezedwera - mwa anthu ambiri umagwirizanitsidwa, ngati osati ndi kuponderezedwa, ndiye mwachinyengo chilichonse cha mnzanuyo.
Chiyambi cha chiyanjano chikhoza kupindula mwa kulipira chilolezo mu lesitilanti, mu tekesi, kugula matikiti a kanema kapena malo owonetsera. Kenaka akubwera siteji yachiwiri - pomwe ndi munthu yekha amene amasankha pamene maganizo ake nthawi zonse ndi abwino kwambiri. Koma chofunikira kwambiri ndi gawo limodzi lachitatu - nthawi ya kugonana kovuta, zomwe zimamuthandiza munthu kuti atsimikizire kuti ali ndi mtsogoleri mmodzi ndi mtheradi mu ubale.
Kugonana kwakukulu kumakhala kochititsa chidwi kwambiri, chifukwa ndi kugonana mwachibadwa, m'malo mochita zinthu zosakanikirana, manja osasangalatsa, kuusa moyo ndi zida zopanda phindu monga mawonekedwe apadera ndi magalasi ogona kuchokera ku Italy. Zisonkhezero zimapambana pa kumverera, kukhumba pa chikondi. Chilakolako chokhala anzanu mwachinyengo chimabwera moyenera pamutu ndikukweza msinkhu wa testosterone, umene palibe amene angakhoze kuchita chirichonse. Mwamuna amangofuna kuti mkazi azikhala wapamwamba kwambiri pazinthu zakuthupi ndi zamakhalidwe abwino.
Wozunzidwa kapena wosaka?
Ngati mkazi akudziwa psychology ya amuna, iye amalola wokondedwa wake kupita ponyansa kuti apambane nkhondo yaikulu. Awonetsetsa kuti sakufuna kugonana koopsa ndipo adzalira, kumupempha kuti azikhala wochepetsera (ndithudi, kudziyerekezera), zomwe zingamulimbikitse munthuyo. M'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku amamuzungulira mkazi wachikondi ndi chisamaliro, kusonyeza momwe amamukondera. Koma kugonana kumakhalabe mwano - mwamuna ndi mkazi sangathe kupatula nthawi yopsompsonana, posankha kuti apite kumbali yeniyeni ya kulankhulana.
Sizingatheke kupeza munthu yemwe ali wokhumudwa kwambiri ndi chirengedwe (ngakhale, ndithudi, pali iwo omwe amakonda mulungu wamkazi mwa mkazi, ndipo samaganizira ngakhale zazingatheke). Ndi zonsezi, simungathe kuimba mlandu amuna chifukwa choganiza zamwano. Mwamuna ayenera kukhala msaki, woteteza, mutu wa banja. Amafuna kukhala ndi udindo woonetsa mphamvu zoposa udindo wonse, ndipo ngati mkazi salola zinthu zoterozo, amayesetsa kuzindikira mphamvu zake kwinakwake. Inde, osatchulidwa kuti munthu ndi mzere wa dziko lapansi ndipo ayenera kuzunguliridwa ndi zonse zokondweretsa iyemwini. M'malo mwake, ngati mkazi amuthandiza mu "masewero" awa, ndiye kuti apambana basi. Malingana ndi kafukufuku ndi kafukufuku osiyanasiyana, amayi ambiri amafunanso kugonana molakwika, ndipo magawo atatu aliwonse ngakhale maloto ogwiririra. Ndi wokondedwa, izi zimakhala zochitika zachilendo.
Kodi ndi akazi ati omwe akulota kugonana kovuta?
Ziri zosavuta kudziwa kuti amayi akhoza kutenga masewera olimbitsa thupi.
Choyamba, pali akazi omwe amakonda amuna omwe onse amawasankha. Panthawi imodzimodziyo amakwaniritsa zokhumba zawo zonse, ndipo miniti iliyonse zimaperekedwa kwa iwo pa mbale ya golide. Kugonana koopsa - mtundu wa malipiro a chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, akaziwa amafuna kugonana koopsa. Momwe zinthu zonse zimasankhidwiratu.
Chachiwiri, pali akazi omwe amasankha mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya moyo, kuphatikizapo kugonana. Zoonadi, iwo amangolakwitsa kokha, komabe iwowo akhoza kukhala amwano komanso omvera ndi mnzake. Sakonda kukonda. Kugonana kovuta kumapulumutsa iwo tsiku ndi tsiku.
Chachitatu, awa ndi amayi omwe amakhala mu chikhalidwe chomwe chikuwabweretsa pafupi ndi udindo wa manyazi. Akazi oterewa amatha kutchedwa makhalidwe masochists. Amakonda pamene munthu amawachitira mwano ndi kuwachitira nkhanza mmoyo wapamtima.
Chachinai, mkazi wosadziwika kunja. Kuti azisangalala nazo, mwamuna amakakamizidwa kupita ku chibwibwi. Mwanjira ina, simungatenge mkazi woteroyo. Chifukwa cha khalidweli, akazi oterewa amakonda kugonana, koma malire pakati pa zochita zachiwawa ndi zachiwawa ndizochepa kwambiri.
Pomalizira, tikuwona kuti m'zaka za zana la 21, kugonana kwakukulu (koma osati chiwawa!) Sangathe kukhala taboo kapena chinachake chosagwirizana ndi malamulo. Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi amakondana, ndiye kuti zonse zomwe amachita pa bedi mwavomerezana ndi zachibadwa komanso zosangalatsa. Kawirikawiri amuna amakonda kugonana kovuta ndi mkazi amene amamukonda. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani mumakhala osangalala?