Zimakhulupirira kuti kutsanzira chiwonetsero "kumafuna" makamaka amayi, komabe, monga momwe zilili, amuna pa nkhaniyi sali otsika kwambiri kwa iwo. Zonsezi sizineneza, pali ziwerengero zofukufuku za sayansi, kotero amati nayenso 40, ngati si 50% ya amuna, nthawi zonse amatsanzira orgasm. Pali mafunso ochuluka, monga, "Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani akufunikira?", "Kodi mungamvetse bwanji ngati adawonetsa zolaula kapena ayi?", "Nanga bwanji ngati akutsanzira?"
Koma pali zotsatila zotsatila kuti akazi azipindula, zimakhala zosavuta kugwiritsa ntchito mnzawo, koma munthuyo ali ndi zovuta zambiri. Ndipotu, umboni waukulu wa mwamuna ndi umuna. Zofuna zapadera ziyenera kutuluka, kufotokoza kapena kubisalapo.
Ngakhale, ndi luso lina la munthu, izi sizingakhale zovuta, chifukwa kondomu yomwe imagwiritsidwa ntchito ikhoza kuyambidwa mwamsanga mu chophimba, kapena kutayidwa panjira yopita kusamba kapena chimbudzi. Nkhani yonse ya teknoloji, kudziwa momwe angachotsere "umboni" waukulu, kubweretsanso zovuta zowonongeka ndi zizindikilo zina zosaoneka sizovuta kwambiri.
Azimayi ambiri amafotokoza momwe amachitira kuti azitsatira mnzawo mwa njirayi, amafuna kuti amve kuti sangathe kumupatsa chimwemwe, kapena amayesa kubisala mavuto ena mwa iwo eni. Chodabwitsa kwambiri, koma amuna, kufotokoza zifukwa zomwe nthawi zina zimatsanzira orgasm, amapereka zifukwa zomwezo. Ndipo ngati atetezera wokondedwa wake ku malingaliro osasangalatsa, izi zimasonyeza kuti mwamuna ndi njonda, ndipo ngati atabisala kudzidalira, amalankhula za kudzichepetsa kwake, mwinamwake kusaganizira.
Chifukwa chiyani?
Pali zochitika zomwe munthu adasokoneza, chifukwa cha chikondi, koma sanadziwe. Chifukwa chiyani?
Chifukwa chodziwika kwambiri cha chodabwitsa ichi ndicho nkhawa iyi. Ndipo sitimatanthawuza gawolo lachisokonezo, pamene mitsempha imakhala yotere, kuti zotsatira zake zikhale zopanda mphamvu, chifukwa cha maganizo. Umenewu ndi vuto lalikulu kwambiri padziko lonse. Koma pali "nthawi imodzi" yomwe ikusowa pabedi, akhoza kugwirizanitsidwa ndi mavuto kuntchito, ndikumverera kukangana ndi mnzanu wapamtima, ndi zina zotero.
Muzochitika zoterezi, mwamunayo ali mu chikhalidwe chotero kuti zochitika zake zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake thupi limagonjera kugonana ngati mawonekedwe, koma maganizo amalingaliro amatha kusokonezeka chifukwa cha kukhumudwa kwa zinthu zina. Kuonjezera apo, zovuta zomwe zimachitika mwanjira imeneyi zimakhudza thupi, kuti panthawi yopanga chikondi, sitingakwanitse kuyatsa mafuta, momwe polojekiti ikulowera ndi zinthu zomwe zimatsatira imine nthawi zonse zimabweretsa chidwi. Yankho ili kupsinjika ndi lapadera kwa thupi la amuna ndi akazi.
Chifukwa china chomwe chikhoza kukhala chifukwa cha kusowa kwa gawo lachisokonezo cha kugonana kwa munthu ndilopangidwe kochepa. Amuna ambiri atatha zaka 30, zimatengera nthawi yochulukirapo kuti mufike pamtendere wokhazikika. Kuonjezera apo, amuna amakonda kudzikweza pazochitika zogonana, ndipo sikuti sakonda wokondedwa kapena sakonda udindo umene akufuna tsopano kugonana nawo.
Zithunzi za abambo pa kugonana ndizofunika kwambiri, zimalola munthu kusintha molingana ndi chiyero cha mnzake. Ndipotu, amayi ena amasangalala mofulumira ndipo ali okonzeka kufika pachimake cha chisangalalo nthawi yomweyo monga Spartner, ndipo ena amafunika nthawi yochuluka kuposa izi. Ittut kuthandiza munthu amabweretsa malingaliro ake, omwe amachepetsera chisangalalo chake, kapena mosiyana amamulola kuti azichedwa. Kotero, panthawi yovutitsa, munthu samatha nthawi zonse kuti amuthandize kuganiza kwake, ndipo izi ndizo chifukwa cha zovuta zina.
Momwe mungakhalire?
Musati mupulumutse nthawi yotsogolera, nthawi yayitali laskipolozhitelno ikukhudza onse awiri. Simukusowa kugonana mukamazunzidwa ndi anthu omwe akuzungulirani ndi zochitika zonse lero.
Sikofunika kuti tisiyanitse. Ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo mwasintha khola lochepetsetsa, kenaka kachiwiri ndi zina zotero, izi ndizovuta, zomwe zingathetsedwe mwa kukambirana. Mwina chirichonse chidzakhala chophweka kusiyana ndi chomwe chikuwoneka, mwachitsanzo, zidzasintha kusintha.
Musayese mosasamala panthawi yogonana, ngati mukufuna kuyesa chinthu chatsopano, mvetserani chikhumbo chanu.