Zimakhala zovuta makamaka pamene, pamapeto a chakudya cha candlelit, akukutengerani m'chipinda chake kuti mukondweretse zinthu zochititsa chidwi za moyo wa meerkats pa Discovery Channel. Mungakhumudwitse, amati, chifukwa chake mwamuna wanga anasiya chilakolako cha kugonana. Ndipo inu mukhoza kuganiza pang'ono, kutembenuzira malingaliro, kusiya manyazi ndi kuwonetsa ndi mphamvu yatsopano chikhumbo chosautsa cha wokondedwa.
Mwamsanga pamene chilakolako choyamba chitatha, ntchito za kugonana zikuwonekera, ngati miyala imatayidwa mumadzi pambuyo pa madzi otsika. Ndipo kugonana kumasanduka nambala yopanga, yopangidwa kwa nthawi yaitali. Winawake amachitapo kanthu, wina amayankha, wina amamuuza, ndipo wina amawonetsa ma charades, wina amayesa kukhala pamwamba. Vuto ndiloti chisangalalo kuchokera pakuchita bwino kwa "phwando" lake ndi chosiyana kwambiri kuposa chomwe chiyanjano chenicheni chimabweretsa. Kusewera ndi kumverera ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana. Musawone kuwoneka wopusa, mantha onyozeka kapena kudandaula kuti mnzanu akhoza kutsutsa, kutayika chidwi - ichi ndilo lingaliro lachizolowezi. Ngakhale kuti wophunzira alibe malire ake okha "zamorochki", yemwe nthawi zonse amayamba ndi zoyesayesa, amagwera mwa kusimidwa, akuyesera kumvetsetsa ngati akufuna chilichonse kuchokera kwa iye.
Poyamba kuyambira ubwana
Ntchito komanso ngakhale "zoyambira" nthawi zambiri zimagawidwa mofanana ndi ntchito zapakhomo ndi maganizo a anthu awiri. Kusiyana kokha ndiko kuti kukambirana, kwa amene amatsuka mbale, kumapita mwachangu kwambiri kuposa kukambirana za kugonana. Ambiri amakakamizidwa kufunafuna ntchito. Malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo a maganizo, chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusamvetsetsana ndikuti sitimaphunzira "kuwerenga" zizindikiro za kugonana. Ndi anthu ochepa chabe omwe amadziwa kuti kugonana ndi kugonana komweko kumayikidwa ndi ife ngakhale akadakali ana. Chinthu chachikulu apa ndi fano la makolo kapena achibale apamtima. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwamuna wanu anakuleredwa ndi mwini nyumba: kutenthetsa, kosavuta, mumatchetche ofewa, ndiye kuti zabwino za mkazi zimakhala pamutu pake. Ndipo izi zimasamutsidwanso kumoyo wa kugonana. Mzimayi womvetsetsa ayenera kukhala wophweka, wamnyumba, wokoma mtima. Ngati muli wokongola, mukudzikonda nokha m'mbali zonse, ndiye kuti mudzakhala ndi mavuto. Zotsatira zake, malingaliro anu osamvetsetseka amagulitsa zosiyana zotsanzira zogonana. Mumatha kugwira ntchito mofulumira kuti muvale ndi kukonzekera kufika kwa mwamuna wake, ndipo akukuwonani inu pamwambowo, akuwona izi ngati chizindikiro cha kukana. Pambuyo pake, kwa iye, suti yoyera - chizindikiro choti muyenera kupita kwinakwake. Chotsatira chake, mumakhala madzulo kumalo odyera, kubweranso pambuyo pa pakati pausiku, ndipo m'mawa mutavala - chovala chovala komanso osaphika - mwadzidzidzi mumamukonda kwambiri, ngakhale kuti simukukondwera ndi mawonekedwe a "disassembled". Nanga bwanji kugonana! Mukumukana, ndikudabwa kuti chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wake adasiya kugonana. Ndizodabwitsa kuti amayi abwino omwe ali ndi mabanja, komanso abambo, kumbaliyi amadzilolera zambiri kuposa momwe amachitira m'nyumba yachipinda chokwatira. Tatopa ndi masewera omwe timasewera, timayang'ana munthu amene tikhoza kutsegulira, ngakhale poyamba ndikuyesera kuti muyanjane naye. Monga inu muli.
Vuto likhoza kukhala lotani
1. MUYENERA KUYENERA INITIATIVE. Chabwino, iwe uyenera kupereka msonkho kwa kulimba mtima kwako. Komabe, chifukwa cha chisokonezo ndi kusungulumwa, kulimba mtima sikungateteze. Mwina sangakane, koma ngati iye mwini safuna kugonana, mumayamba kukayikira nokha. Komabe, musamafulumire kukayikira kuti ali ndi chikondi chenicheni. Ndi bwino kuganizira kuti kugonana kwa banja sizowonjezera chifukwa cha ubale wa maganizo. Ngati okwatirana onse ayesa kukangana pakati pawo, pali chiopsezo kuti kugonana kudzafanana ndi kukangana. Ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi adzinenera kuti ndi amodzi ndi ubale, amatha kugonana ndi zimbalangondo - koma samakhala ndi zenizeni. Malingana ndi akatswiri, mtsogoleri wa amai nthawi ndi nthawi ayenera kusonyeza kudzipereka pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku kuti athandize chikhumbo cha mwamuna wake kugonana. Nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira kuziwonetsera.
2. INU NDIYENERA KUYAMBIRA KWAMBIRI KUPITA KWA MUNTHU. Ngati mayi yemwe anakulira mu miyambo yovuta amafuna kugonana, zonse zomwe angasankhe kuchita ndi kumukumbatira mwamuna wake, ndipo palibe. Mu kuya kwa moyo, mkazi wotero amaopa kudziwonetsera yekha kwa mwamuna wake cheeky. Katswiri wina wa zamaganizo amabweretsa mlandu pazochitika zake, podziwa uphungu wake, mmodzi mwa akazi odzichepetsa adapempha mwamuna wake kuti azisewera nawo ntchito yake, ndiko kuti, kuyembekezera mwakachetechete kufikira iye mwini atapempha kugonana. Patatha mwezi umodzi analemba kalata yonena kuti: "Tiyeni tigone tsopano" - ndipo anasiya malo olemekezeka. Ndipo ngakhale heroine wa nkhaniyi sanasinthe usiku ndikukhala wolimba mtima komanso wosatetezedwa seductress, atatha kulembera kalata yoyamba, banjali linaona kuti chilakolako chawo chinabadwanso monga iwo sanayesere kulota. Mwamuna uja adasonyeza kuleza mtima, mkaziyo - kulimba mtima, ndipo onse awiri adalandiridwa ndi khalidwe latsopano la kugonana ndi ubale.
3. SEXU NDI MUNGAKONZEKEREZA PORN. Ndizo nthawi zonse. Ali ndi inu, ali wachifundo, ndipo pansi pa chivindikiro cha fumbi la piyano amapezamo magazini a zolaula ndi magulu a CD ponena za nyambo zakutchire. Bweretsani "trophies" kumalo awo oyambirira ndipo musaganize ndi kupanga nthabwala za izi! Kuli bwino kubwereza chizoloŵezi chosamalira nthawi zonse. Musawope kuti munthu wofuna chitonthozo mu zinthu zoterezi, adzakutsutsani chifukwa cha "khalidwe lachiwerewere." Ayi, ingomvetserani. Inde, ngati mnzako amakonda kukhala "wotentha," simukusowa kupita kwa iye ndikuwonekera mu chipinda chokwatiramo mu chikwama cha namwino. Mphepete pamphepete mwa khitchini, mwa njira, inachotsedwanso.
Tangoganizirani momwe kusayenerera kwake kufotokozera malingaliro ake ndi mkazi wake kumanena za kusowa kwa chibwenzi ndi chikhulupiliro cha anthu pakati pa inu. Kodi akukuuzani mmene tsiku lake linayendera? Kodi iye akugawana nawo zomwe iye amaziwona za anthu ndi moyo? Mwina zokambirana zanu zangotembenuzidwa kokha pamitu ya tsiku ndi tsiku?
Momwe mungalembedzere script
Chizolowezi - chikhalidwe chachiwiri? Ayi ndithu! Komabe, molingana ndi kugonana kwa anthu ogonana, kusintha kwakukulu si njira yopambana. Ngati akudziwani kuti ndinu munthu wovuta komanso wosakhwima, sangathe kukondwera ngati apeza tigu yakuda ndi yoyera ndi chikwapu madzulo amodzi. Choncho, musanayambe kuwonongeka kwa zochitikazo, yesetsani kukambirana mwachinsinsi.
YENDANI KWA FUNSO NDI CHENJEZO CHONSE. Ziribe kanthu momwe mumalankhulira molimba mtima vutoli - chifukwa chenicheni cha kukhalapo kwake chidzabweretsa chisoni. Choncho musalankhule za mavuto, ingolankhulani zokhumba zanu ndi malingaliro anu. Mau oyamba omwe angawoneke ngati ovuta, mauthenga abwino: "Ndinasangalala kwambiri pamene mwandikumbatira mmawa mwangozi, koma ..."
PULUMANI KUCHOKERA KUCHITA PASSIVE. Sankhani chitsanzo chabwino pa ntchito yanu yatsopano: munthu wokongola kwambiri, wodzidalira, wowala. Taganizirani momwe fano lanu limasonyezera kugonana, ndikukongoletsa kalembedwe kake.
FANTASY. Tangoganizirani zomwe zimakhala zokondweretsa, zotsimikizika, zazing'ono, zabwino zokhazokha, ndikusankha momwe mungagawire malingaliro awa momveka bwino ndi mnzanuyo. Mwinamwake, iwo angakonde nonse awiri, ndipo mukasangalalira, mukubwera ndi suti zoyenera ndi zina.
YAMBIRANI MTIMA. Pakati pa kugonana, ganizirani thupi lanu ndi malingaliro anu malinga ngati mukufunikira kusangalala. Mmalo moganizira pa mutu wakuti: "Kodi kugonana ndi nthawi yochuluka? Ndipo sindikusowa zolaula ", konzani zowawa zomwe zimadzuka mu thupi lanu losokonezeka. Yesani, yesani. Ndizothandiza kukhala mtsogoleri mu masewera achiwerewere, kamodzi. Sankhani nthawi ndi malo, ganizirani za zomwe mukufuna kuchita.
KUDZIWA KWAKHALA KWAKUDZI. Kodi n'zotheka kuti mwamuna wake adataya chilakolako cha kugonana chifukwa cha kugonana, kuyerekezedwa kotheratu panthawi yake? Ngati chifukwa chagona apa, mwina sizingakhale bwino kunena, tangolongosola momveka bwino kuti mwakhazikitsidwa kugonana tsiku lililonse lomwe simunalowemo panthawiyi. Nthawi zina kudzidzimva ndi kusadziwika kwa nthawi ndizofunikira.
KUKUMBUKIRA kuti ndi okhawo amene amayesa kutaya chigoba, kuyandikana kwapafupi kumakupatsani inu kudzidziwa nokha ndi mnzanuyo. Khulupirirani wina ndi mzake, chifukwa chikondi ndikutsegula ndi kutsegula.