Munthu woyenera - weniweni kapena nthano? Kodi amaoneka bwanji? "Munthu woyenera kupyolera mwa mkazi" ndi mutu wa nkhani yathu lero.
Kuyambira ali mwana mu moyo wa msungwana aliyense pali chithunzi chabwino cha munthu wa loto - kalonga wamatsenga. Iye ali kale ndi zikhalidwe zonse zofunika zomwe munthu wokha angathe kukhala nacho. Ndipo ife timayesetsa kumayang'ana iye pakati pa abwenzi athu, abwenzi, odziwa ndi alendo. Timapitirizabe kufunafuna izi mwa kupanga zolakwitsa, kudzidzinyenga tokha kapena ngakhale titapanga chisankho cha mzake mu moyo.
Koma kodi ndi ndani, mlendo wodabwitsa uyu? Ndipo nchifukwa ninji nthanoyi imakhala ndikukula bwino, ngakhale mutakumana naye, mutenge mtima wabwino, komabe sizingatheke? Sichidzasintha, ngati mchenga akugwirana ndi zala zanu, mtsinje womwe umasintha nthawi yake, monga nthawi yomwe sichidzachitikanso. Popanda kukhala nthawi yaitali komanso osapereka malonjezo, amapita kwa bwenzi lake, ziribe kanthu, chinthu chachikulu - kwa mkazi wina. Ndipo patapita kanthawi kuzungulirako kubwereza ndipo winayo akulira kale mumtsamiro, atayika mwamuna wake wabwino ... Koma chifukwa chake ndi chiyani? Ndiyeno ife timayamba kudziimba tokha tokha, kudzidzudzula tokha kuti ife sitinayende mwathunthu, ndi zina zotero. Koma mwina sizingakhale za ife, koma za izo?
Kodi tikudziwa chiyani za munthu woyenera? Kodi iye ndi chiyani? Palibe yankho limodzi la funso ili.
Koma ngati tidziika ndekha kuti timugwirizane naye, ndiye kuti tiyenera kukhala okonzeka kumenyana ndi moyo wake wonse ndi zoopsya zooneka ndi zoopsa. Tifunikira kuphunzira momwe tingayembekezere ndi kuchenjeza zoopsya: komwe msaka wodziwa zambiri anabalalitsa misampha, komwe mkango wamphongo yekhayo unabisala, ndipo munthu wathu wabwino amawulukira ngati mbalame yopanda nzeru ku dzuwa lotentha. Pa mapewa athu adzapatsidwa ntchito yosungiramo zofuna zabwino. Pambuyo pake, nthawi zonse ayenera kuvala ndi singano komanso atapatsidwa chakudya komanso athanzi. Ndipo popeza amathera nthawi yake akuchita zabwino, alibe nthawi yokwanira yosamalira zapadziko lapansi. Ndipo nkhaniyi sikutanthauza kuti muli ndi ana, omwe mukufuna kuwasamalira mosayenera. Nanga bwanji mkazi wokongola? Kodi ziziwoneka bwanji? Kumene mungatenge nthawi yambiri kuti musamalire zinthu zonse ndikusunga bwino maganizo? Dongosolo loopsya silinathe, koma ngati mutayesa - zoyenera zimachoka kwa inu.
Iyi ndi nthano yovuta kwambiri. Kapena mwinamwake izi ndi zoona? Tidziwa zochuluka bwanji za anthu omwe amachitira umboni munthu wabwino kwambiri? Osati pa TV zojambula, osati m'mabuku a chikondi, koma panopo. Mmodzi yemwe amakhala mu zenizeni za dziko lathu lapansi, osati mu malingaliro a olemba ndi oyang'anira. Kodi tingadzitamande ndi anzathu oterewa?
Funso limabwera: Kodi mkazi ayenera kuchita chiyani, njira yomwe sadayende nayo munthu woyenera? Kupatulira moyo wanu wonse kuti mufufuze ndikukhalabe osungulumwa, mukuyamikira maloto anu? Kodi ikhoza kutumiza malonda, kugwirizanitsa abwenzi ndikukonzekera zosaka zomwe zili zabwino?
Palinso njira ina yosatchulidwe. Munthu woyenera akhoza kulengedwa. Chitani khama ndikuphunzitseni kuvala mwaukhondo, kuyang'anitsitsa bwino, kumvetsera kwa inu kwa maola ambiri, kukhala okondwa pabedi, kusiya makhalidwe oipa ndikukhala othandiza ... Mndandandawu ukhoza kupitilira kwamuyaya. Koma pali chimodzi koma. Kodi mungatani kuti mtima wanu utiuze kuti munthu uyu ndibwino kwambiri? Zidzakhala buku lathu lowerenga, limene timaloweza mutu uliwonse ndi mtima, popeza iwo omwe adalemba.
Ndichifukwa chake tikuyenera kuvutika, kutopa tokha ndikuyembekezera, dikirani, dikirani ...
Koma bwanji, pamene amayi ambiri amakumana ndi munthu yemwe si wangwiro, ali ndi zofooka zambiri, kulanda kwa zidyezi kumamamatirira iye, kukwatira ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala okondwa muukwati?
Yankho ndi losavuta. Ndikwanira kuyang'ana pozungulira, kuyang'ana padziko lapansi kumene kutali ndi anthu abwino, amuna ndi akazi, amakhala. Uku ndiko kukongola kwa chilengedwe chathu. Mmalo mofunafuna ndi kuzindikira zofooka, tiyenera kumvetsetsa ulemu wa munthuyo, dziko lake lamkati, lomwe lingathe kubwereza maulendo zana osati zofuna zaumunthu zokha, komanso zathu, kudzaza miyoyo yathu ndi malingaliro atsopano, malingaliro ndi zoyenera. Koma takhala otanganidwa kwambiri kukweza malingaliro athu enieni ndikuwulula maulendo ake kwa ena kuti timagwiritsa ntchito nthawi ndi mphamvu zathu zonse panthawiyi, m'malo mopatsa munthu wosakhala ndi mwayi woti adziwe yekha ndikudziwonetsera yekha.
Zolinga zonse posachedwa zimasinthika, bwanji bwanji osabwezeretsanso maganizo awo pa lingaliro loti "lokongola". Ndi momwe mwamuna wabwino amayang'ana kupyolera mwa mkazi.