Amayi ambiri, kupita ku tchuthi, kufuna kukondana mu moyo: ngati akukumana ndi munthu mmodzi yekha ndi wapadera amene ali ndi caress ndi chisamaliro ndi chidwi. Ndipo ine ndikufuna kuti chikondi choterocho chilodzetse mutu wanga osati pa holide yokha, komanso kukhala kosatha.
Ndiye bwanji kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino osati kupita kunyumba ndi mtima wosweka?
Chinthu choyamba chimene simungathe kuchita ndichokhazikitsa: mulimonsemo, pezani buku. Chilichonse chidzachitika momwe ziyenera kuchitikira, makamaka, kusangalala ndi gombe, nyanja, kupumula.
Kumbukirani kuti choyamba, anthu omwe amapita ku malo osungiramo nkhani za chikondi, ayenera kuzindikira kuti ubalewu ndi nthawi yomwe malowa amagwiritsa ntchito ndi nthawi yosangalatsa.
Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti chiyanjano ndi buku la malo osungirako zachiwerewere la mkazi wamwamuna ndilosiyana kwambiri.
Monga lamulo, amuna amafunikira zokhazokha kwa kanthawi, amafuna kutsegula, kuthawa moyo. Malupanga awo ndi ophweka, aloleni iwo azikula mu chiyanjano popanda ntchito iliyonse.
Mkaziyo amaganiza mosiyana, mwa lingaliro lake, akuyeneranso kukhala chidutswa chachisangalalo, ndipo akufuna kuti awonetsere munthu chomwe chiri chochuluka kwambiri. Amatha kuchokera ku usiku wokongola kukula m'mutu mwake buku lonse ndikukumbukira izi kwa zaka zambiri.
Mwamuna ali paliponse ndipo paliponse mlenje, cholinga chake ndi kupambana mkazi, iye akufuna kumutsimikizira kuti iye ndi woyenera. Choncho, tiyeni tidziyang'anire tokha, tisonyeze kuti tapatsidwa mwayi wodzikonda tokha, podikira.
Koma palibe choipa kwambiri kwa mkazi kuposa nthawi imene amakwiya, kuyang'ana pozungulira ndikugwira malingaliro a amunawo, kufunafuna mgwirizano wapakati. Amayi awa akuthamangira mu dziwe ndi mitu yawo, atangomva kuyamikira koyamba ku malo odyera.
Panthawiyi, tifuna kuyesa zolakwika zonse ndi zabwino zomwe zimagwirizana ndi ubale umenewu kuti tipeze mphamvu zathu zamaganizo, ndipo, ngati kuli kotheka, chitonthoze zilakolako zathu.
Kodi ndi zinthu zabwino ziti zomwe zimakondweretsa akazi a tchuthi?
- Malo osungira malowa ndi tsiku la tchuthi. Uwu ndiwo mwayi wa mkazi (monga munthu) kukhala zomwe akhala akukhala mumtima - wopatsa, wochuluka, wolimba, wokonda. Komabe, pazifukwa zina, zenizeni, munthu samadziwonetsera yekha: ndizovuta, zovuta, komanso zowonongeka ndi moyo. Ndipo malowa akhoza kusewera gawo limodzi, gawo lodziwikiratu.
- Kupumula - svidaniy wokondana kwambiri, zokongola, maulendo achikondi ndi ngalawa komanso misonkhano pamphepete mwa nyanja.
- Mukhoza kukonda zokonda popanda kuganiza, kulankhula nokha za chirichonse chomwe chimangofuna. Palibe amene angayang'ane!
- Mwina chikondi cha tchuthi chidzakhala chiyambi cha chikondi chenicheni, kapena mwinamwake, kuti muthe kupeza tsogolo lanu.
- Ngati pa tchuthi ubale ndi mwamuna udzakhala wopambana, mukhoza kupeza moyo watsopano, mudzagonjetsa kukhumudwa kwa ofesi ya ofesi!
- Adventures pa malowa akhoza kuwononga ubale ndi wokondedwa kapena mwamuna. Susowa kuti muyankhule za ubale wanu watsopano ndi abwenzi anu.
- Mwamwayi, pa mabombe inu simungakumane ndi anthu okondana okha, komanso achigololo, achiba. Iwo akhoza kukuthandizani inu, kumangiriza mutu, ndiyeno nkungokhala pa ndalama zanu kapena zoipitsitsa - kuba.
- Ndi maubwenzi opanda pake, mukhoza kubwerera kunyumba ndi matenda achiwerewere kapena omwe ali ndi pakati, kotero muyenera kutetezedwa nthawi zonse.
- Kugonana popanda chikondi kungawonongeke, simukufuna kukumana ndi maso anu, mtima wanu udzakhala wopanda kanthu, mukufuna kutaya zonse mwamsanga, mutuluke mtima wanu ...
- Komabe, kugonana mu chikondi kungachoke pamtunda wambiri, kotero musati mutenge kwambiri chikondi cha tchuthi.
- Kuchita masewera ndi mlendo wabwino, musapite koyamba kuti mukapange khofi kupita kuchipinda chake ndipo musadzitchule nokha. Tiyenera kumvetsetsa poyamba zomwe mukuchita.
- Ndi chikondi cha tchuthi mukhoza kukhala wodzikonda. Inu mukhoza kungoganiza za inu nokha, zomwe mukufuna ndi inu. Mungapeze kuchokera kwa mnzanu wapamtima omwe mukufuna (yang'anani, mphatso, kugonana). Koma chinthu chachikulu sikumusiya kuti ayandikire kwambiri kwa moyo.
- Mpaka mutamudziwa bwino bwenzi lanu latsopano, musamalengeze malonjezo ake onse okwatira kapena kukwatira mkazi wanu. Ngati zichitikadi, zidzakhala zosangalatsa kwa inu.
- Khalani osangalala, kondwerani! Pezani nawo maphwando anu achichepere, discos, maulendo. Lolani kuti mukhale ololera ndi losavuta kwa iye. Fufuzani mitu yatsopano yolankhulana ndi zochitika zodzikongoletsera.
- Kawirikawiri amakhulupirira kuti atsikana sagula chikondi, koma amagula zochitika, zovala, zonunkhira, ndi kulipira m'malesitanti odyera. Amayi a Votov amavomereza udindo wa okonda kwambiri omwe amakonzekera thupi lawo lokondedwa mapeto a tchuthi asanathe. Mu ubale simuyenera kulola izi kuti zichitike, kumbukirani, munthu yekha ayenera kusamalira.
Kodi mungasankhe bwanji pa ubale watsopano?
Ngati simungasankhe kupitiriza, muyenera kusiya ubwenzi umene unayambira mukakhala pa tchuthi. Uzani banja lanu latsopano kuti mwakhala naye nthawi yapadera, koma chikondi chanu chatsirizidwa pamodzi ndi mapeto a ena onse, palibe chiyembekezo chopitiriza. Zifukwa siziyenera kufotokozedwa, ndipo simukuyenera kukhala ndi mlandu.
Koma ngati mumayamba kukondana kwambiri ndipo simukusiya kuganiza kuti popanda munthu amene simungapume, ndiye kuti mungapulumutse bwanji payekha?
Vuto lokhalo ndilokuti kuchokera kumalo a masiku anu achikondi pa tchuthi muyenera kupita kumidzi yosiyanasiyana. Ndipo inu mukuvutika kuti chiwonongekocho chakupatsani inu chisangalalo kuchokera kutali.
Ndipo ndiko kuyendayenda pa nsanja, chikondi chopsompsonana ndi malonjezo. Izo zatha, ndipo inu munasiyidwa nokha. Mukufuna kulira nthawi zonse, ndikumbukira nthawi zonse, kumbukirani nkhope ya mkazi. Mayi aliyense pakadali pano akufuna kudziwa zomwe akukumana nazo, zimakhala zovuta kwa inu komanso, "Bwanji ngati wandiiwala kale za ine?"
Kuti musataye mtima, muyenera kutsatira malamulo:
- Lamulo loyamba: musaganize za zoipa. Ngakhale pamene mukuyenda mumzinda wina ndi sitimayi, musaphonye, tengani magazini yosangalatsa kapena kusonkhana kosakhala nthabwala kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa.
- Musaphatikizepo nyimbo zotsitsimula za kugawidwa, chikondi. Tiyenera kukhulupirira kuti mulibe chifukwa chokhumudwitsa, ndibwino kuti ubale wabwinowu watha. Kupsompsona kwanu ndi mawu anu onse anali owona mtima ndipo amachokera mumtima.
- Sikofunika kumanga khoma la kusakhulupirika - zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri. Ingolankhulani za kumverera nokha, popanda kutsutsa izo. Adzawona zomwe mukudandaula nazo, zomwe mukukhala nazo.
- Tiyenera kukhala ndi ulemu. Musayambe kuyitchula, nkudon sangataye ngati akukonda kwenikweni. Kulankhulana kukhale koyenera: osadandaula ndikufunsa "Kodi mumandikondabe?".
- Khalani ndi zokondweretsa zanu: kukonzekera maholide kwa achibale, kudziwana ndi anthu atsopano, kukhala ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi chizoloŵezi chatsopano, kugwira ntchito kapena kuphunzira.
- Popanda kupatukana, palibe msonkhano. Ganizirani ndikukhulupirira kuti chikondi chanu chidzadutsa nthawi yoyesa.
Koma mulimonsemo, musadandaule chifukwa cha chikondi, musadzione kuti ndinu wolakwa kapena woipa, amene mwagonjetsedwa. Kufunafuna chikondi ndi kulakwa kwanthawi zonse ndi mayesero.