Kulera ana, monga vuto lofunika kwambiri komanso lofunika kwambiri, lapatsidwa chidwi kwambiri nthawi zonse padziko lapansi. Kufunika kwake nthawizonse kwakhala kukuzindikiritsidwa, zikwi zochuluka za ntchito za akatswiri ochokera m'madera osiyanasiyana - kuchokera kwa akatswiri a maganizo ndi masewera - amaperekedwa kwa iwo. Inde, nkhaniyi ndi yochuluka kwambiri komanso yopanda malire, monga zamatsenga. Pambuyo pa zonse, makamaka momwe mbadwo wotsatira udzakulira, zimadaliranso m'mene gulu lidzapitirire kukhalira ndi kukhazikitsa.
Palibe njira yeniyeni yowalera yokhazikika, yosakayikira, yomwe sidzakhalapo. Ziri zoonekeratu kuti m'mayiko osiyanasiyana njira zosiyanasiyana zophunzitsira zaka mazana ambiri zakhala zikupangidwa - ndizokwanira kuyerekeza pambali iyi Sparta ndi Japan Yakale kuti muzindikire mosiyana. Kufananako kunkawonedwa kokha mwa kutsogolera kwakukulu - khalidwe. Ndipo izi makamaka chifukwa chakuti mpaka zaka za makumi awiri ndi makumi awiri, ntchito yayikulu ya aphunzitsi awo a ntchito inayambitsa chipembedzo. Anayang'anitsanso banja, ndipo kotero linali pano, kuyambira kubadwa kwa mwanayo, maziko a maphunziro adayikidwa.
Inde, kusiyana kwa njira za maphunziro anali olamulidwa ndi amuna - anyamata ndi atsikana analeredwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana, ngakhale mu Middle Ages wambiri. Koma, ngakhale kuti anyamata asanakwanitse zaka 7 analeredwa ndi amayi ndi abambo, iwo amadziwa bwino bwino yemwe ayenera kukhala. M'mabanja amakono, ndi zochepa zochepa, kulera ana Komanso makamaka zimakhala pamapewa a amayi. Choncho, zimadalira umunthu wake, malingaliro ake, chikondi, chikhulupiriro ndi udindo womwe umadalira mtundu wa anthu omwe mwana wake wamwamuna adzakula, kupindula kapena kuvulazidwa kumabweretsa, omwe adzaukitsidwa ndi kubwezeretsedwa. Ndibwino kuti, ngati mwana wobadwira m'banja akufunidwa, kugonana m'banja kumakhala kokoma mtima, ndipo mayiyo ndi wachikondi komanso wachikondi: pazomwezi munthu ali ndi mwayi wokula munthu wodabwitsa. Ndipo ngati "anali ndi mwayi" kubadwa m'banja lomwe ubale pakati pa makolo sali pamlingo wapamwamba. Chikoka cha maubwenzi ndi makolo pakuleredwa kwa ana awo chimakhudza kwambiri.
Amuna ali okhudzidwa kwambiri mu ubale wa banja. Mwamwayi, zimakhudzidwa mwachindunji komanso molakwika - pambuyo pake, maubwenzi oipa m'banja sali kanthu koma kukhumudwa, pamene mavuto a m'banja, zosamalira, zochitika, ndi ntchito, ndi sukulu, ndi kulera zikugwera pa mkazi. Pamene mukuyenera kuchita chirichonse, kukanika, kupeza, kugula, kuphika, pamene palibe yemwe akuthandiza ndipo mungathe kungodziyembekezera nokha. Koma mphamvu sizikhala zopanda malire, kusintha kumabwera, mitsempha yonse ndipo idzayamba kulephera. Ndipo kuti thupi lichoke pamtunda uwu, mkwiyo umapulumutsa.
Aliyense amadziwa kuti "chidani chikhoza kutentha kuposa chikondi." Zili ngati kukupatsani mphepo yachiwiri, mumamva mwamphamvu, wamwano, wopanda nkhanza, mumapanga njira yanu, osawerengera wina aliyense. Koma monga momwe aliyense amadziwira bwino kuti vutoli ndi loopsa kwa mkaziyo komanso banja lake. Kugonjetsa kumangopangitsa kuti anthu asamachitire zachiwawa, gawo ladzidzidzi ladzidzidzi limasonkhanitsa ndi kubwerera kwa "wolemba" mu chiwerengero chachikulu. Ndipo, chifukwa chake, zimatengera mphamvu ndi kukalipira kumenyana kachiwiri, kugonjetsa ... Ndipo njirayi yatsekedwa. Anayambira ndi kuchepetsedwa ku bwalo la bitch lokha, lowonongedwa ku ndime yosatha, yopanda malire, yosatha.
Ndipo choipitsitsa kwambiri, kuti pamodzi ndi iye mu bwalo ili, zowonongeka zowonongeka m'dziko lapansi, kulimbika kwanthawi zonse ndi mkwiyo zimakakamizidwa kukhala osadziŵa "ogwidwa" - achibale, mwamuna, ana. Kodi ndizodabwitsa kuti mikangano ya m'banja inayamba, ndipo mwanayo ndi mwana wake anayamba kuyesa khalidwe la amayi? Ndipotu njira yaikulu yophunzitsira ndi chitsanzo chokhala ndi moyo. Mosasamala kanthu za chikhumbo cha makolo, ana mosamala kapena mosadziŵa amatenga mwachitsanzo njira yolankhulana, maubwenzi, zochita ndi makhalidwe. Ndipo kotero, ngati mayiyo sakonda momwe ana ake akusinthira bwino, palibe amene angakhumudwitse: ichi ndi chitsanzo chake cha khalidwe.
Ndi momwe chidontho chimakhala chochulukira, ndipo, mwatsoka, izi sizodabwitsa, monga "chizoloŵezi" chatsopano cha moyo. Kotero nchiyani chomwe chidzayembekezere mtsogolomu - chikhalidwe cha anthu?
Ndikufuna kukhulupirira kuti ayi. Mwamwayi, amayi ambiri omwe ali ndi malingalirowa ali ndi chikondi chokwanira komanso kuleza mtima kwa ana awo omwe. Zinthu zili bwino kwambiri ngati pali wina amene amamuthandiza pa izi. Pambuyo pa zonse, zirizonse zomwe zinali, ndipo kholo liyenera kubereka ana, osati amayi amodzi okha, ngakhale ngati ali abwino. Choyamba, chifukwa ndondomeko ya maphunziro ikupitirira, sangathe kuchitapo kanthu pokhapokha. Ndipo kachiwiri, aliyense anganene kuti mnyamatayo amafunikira bambo - komanso monga chitsanzo cha khalidwe, komanso monga bwenzi, monga wothandizira, komanso ngati wothandizira. Ndi pa mapewa a abambo ake omwe ali ndi vuto lalikulu pa maphunziro a mwana wake. M'banja lomwe pazifukwa zina pali mayi yekha, mmodzi wa achibale akhoza ndipo ayenera kubwezeretsa bamboyo, chifukwa chothandizira amuna kuti abereke mwanayo sichidzabwereranso ayi, ziribe kanthu momwe mkaziyo akuyesera.
Inde, kwa mwana wamkaziyo, abambo ayenera kukhala chitsanzo cha amuna, chithandizo ndi chitetezo, choncho palibe amene amamasula kuphunzitsa msungwanayo. Palinso kufunika kokhala mgwirizanowo komanso kutenga mbali. Chomwecho, chirichonse chomwe makolo ali kunja kwa banja, ayenera kubweretsa kunyumba kokha ndi kutentha, zabwino ndi chimwemwe, kutenga nawo mbali ndi chikondi. Chitsanzo cha chiyanjano pakati pa makolo ndicho choyamba chimene ana amachitira, komanso kulemekeza, kuthandizana ndi kuthandizana, kukhala ndi khalidwe labwino komanso chikondi mumtundu kumapangitsa munthu kukhala wogwirizana.