Mkazi kapena mwamuna, mwachibadwa chilakolako chokondweretsa ena, yesetsani kukhala ndi chidwi pa munthu watsopano pamsonkhano woyamba. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, iwo samakayikira nkomwe kuti kuwonekera kwa iwo kumapangidwa mu gawo la masekondi. Kuti tipange malingaliro abwino kwa munthu, sitidapatsidwa mphindi zisanu ndi zinayi.
Kodi ndizomwe zikuyenera kuti zichitike m "masekondi 15 oyambirira a kuyankhulana kuti mukwaniritse zomwe zimatchedwa" kulowa "? "MALAMULO A ZINTHU ZITATU" ndi maziko oti muthandizane nawo ku interlocutor, zomwe zimati kuti mwachangu ndi ogwira ntchito, muyenera kudziwa ndi kuchita zinthu zitatu zazikulu.
Zowonjezera zitatu - SMILE, NAME ndi COMPLEMENT.
PHILE
Kusintha ndi kuyenda ndi njira yoyamba yolankhulana pakati pa mayi ndi mwana. Chifukwa cha kutsanzira, zolankhula zathu zimapatsidwa zithumwa, zithunzithunzi, kufotokozera ndi kufotokozera. Mimicry ndi umboni wodalirika wa zolinga zenizeni, zolinga ndi malingaliro a munthu, mmalo mwa mawu ake, omwe angakhoze kubodza mosavuta.
Kutseguka koona, kotseguka kudzafotokozera zolinga zabwino za munthuyo ndikuchitira umboni kuti palibe zolinga zoyipa zobisika, zolinga zowawa. Chisomo chimatsimikiziridwa ndi aliyense mwa ife ngati chiwonetsero cha kukoma mtima ndi kudandaula, kukhulupirirana ndi chifundo.
Kodi munayesapo kusekerera munthu wodutsa? Mwinamwake, wodutsa-nayenso adzayankha ndi kumwemwetulira. Nthawi zina pali wina: poyankha ku kumwetulira kwanu, munthu wina akuyang'ana kutali kapena akudabwa kwambiri. Chifukwa cha izi chimakhala mwachilendo cha kumwetulira kwanu, kapena m'mavuto ndi psyche ya munthuyu. Kumwetulira kochokera pansi pamtima kumatha kutentha moyo ngakhale munthu wovuta kwambiri ndi wophimbika, kumwetulira kumasokoneza. Kusekerera ndi mawonetseredwe akunja omwe ali ndi maganizo abwino. Ikhoza kuchepetsa zovuta zosangalatsa ndi kubwezeretsa kulingalira kwa maganizo. Imbani matamando a kumwetulira ndipo mungathe kutumiza infinitum. Koma momwe mungadzitonthozere, ngati mtima wanu uli woipa, ndipo anthu omwe mukuzungulirani sakukondwera konse?
Yesetsani kupeza mu mawonekedwe a munthu chinthu chochititsa chidwi, chidwi, mwinamwake ngakhale chokongola.
Ngati izi sizikugwira ntchito, yesetsani nokha. Tengani galasi ndi kunyumba, pamaso pagalasi yesetsani kupanga zowonongeka zina. Kumbukirani kumapeto komwe mumakonda kwambiri kachidindo ndikuyang'aniranso pagalasi. Kusiyanitsa kwakukulu poyerekeza ndi chidziwitso chojambula chikuchitika?
Yesani kusewera ndi achibale anu kapena abwenzi mumsewero umene ena amachitcha kuti "peepers." Ochita nawo masewerawa (awiri) amakhala pa mipando moyandikana wina ndi mzake, ndipo, pakuyangТana maso a mdani, yesetsani kumuseka. Wotayika ndi amene amayamba kuseka. N'zotheka kugwira masewera onse mu "peepers".
Zikomo! Musaiwale zokha za mawu a Baron Munchausen: "Kuseka kumatsirizira moyo kwa iwo oseka, koma kwa iwo omwe ali ocheka ...".
NAME
Lamulo lachiwiri la "kuphatikiza" la kuyankhulana bwino pakuyamba kukhudzana ndi NAME. Zotsatira za dzina lodziwika (kapena lolembedwa) pa wonyamulayo silinamvetsetse bwino. Komabe, ziri zoonekeratu kuti dzina lotchulidwa lija limagwira ntchito zakuya kwa chidziwitso chaumunthu komanso mwa njira yosangalatsa limasintha chikhalidwe chake mu gawo lachiwiri. Kwa aliyense wa ife, dzina lake ndilo lokoma kwambiri lomwe amadziwa. Mawu awa adatchulidwa maulendo makumi zikwi ndi milomo yachikondi ndi yachikondi ya amayi. Chifukwa chake, tili ndi mgwirizanowu wa zinthu zathu, zathu, pamene dzina lathu likutchulidwa. Maganizo osamvetsetseka omwe amachititsa kuti tigwirizane nawo amachititsa ife nthawi yomweyo kuganizira dzina lathu, loyankhulidwa ndi aliyense, nthawi iliyonse ndi kulikonse.
Chitsanzo.
Yesani kuyerekeza chikhalidwe cha munthu yemwe amatchulidwa ndi dzina kuchokera ku boma la munthu yemweyo, pokhapokha mutayitchula, mwachitsanzo: 1.- Natasha, dikirani ... 2.- Hey! Dikirani ...
Zokwanira kudziyika nokha m'malo mwa munthuyu ndikuganiza momwe akuyendera, kuti muthe kumvetsa bwino izi.
Timayankha bwino dzina lathu ngakhale pamene interlocutor akuyankhula molakwika za ife. Kumbukirani "nthabwala ya ndevu"? Woyenda pamsewu amadutsa msewu wotanganidwa pamalo olakwika. Ponena za iye, galimoto yamoto imasiya. Kuchokera pawindo la galimoto mutu wa "Russia watsopano" ukuyang'ana ndikukwiyitsa kuti: "Ndipo kwa inu, mbuzi, pamenepo ndimeyo inamangidwa !!!". Woyendayenda, wobwerera kunyumba, akuti: "Ndipo" anthu atsopano a ku Russia ", amatha, ali achinyamata abwino - mmodzi anaima lero, ananditembenukira kwa" inu ", ndipo amadziwa dzina langa loti" Kozlov "kwinakwake !!!"
Dzinali ndilo chizindikiro cha umunthu wake, chizindikiro cha umunthu wake. Tiyeni tikumbukire izi pamene tikulankhulana.
KUCHITA
Mu psychology ndi kutamanda ndi gulu la "stroking." Mukuchita "zokondweretsa" kwa wothandizana nawo, kumene iye mosadziŵa akuyenera kuyankha mofanana ndi "kubwezera ngongoleyo." Kodi "kuvomereza" kwanu kukuvomerezeka - zimadalira momwe zinthu zilili (malo, nthawi, chikhalidwe, chikhalidwe cha "stroking"). Ndikoyenera kapena osayenera kuti "stroking", monga mumvetsetse, zimadalira pa inu nokha, ndiko kuti, pokhoza kwanu kusankha malo, udindo, nthawi, mawonekedwe oyamikira, chifukwa. Zonse izi, zimadalira kwambiri pakuwona kwanu, luntha, kumasuka ndi kukonzeka.
Poyang'ana, nthawi zonse zimangowoneka kuti palibe chophweka kusiyana ndi kuyamika interlocutor. Koma atangomaliza kuyamika ndikuwona mphindi ya mkwiyo, chisokonezo, manyazi, zovuta kapena khoma la osayanjanitsika, timayamba kumva kuti tachita chinachake cholakwika ... Tikuwona kuti talakwitsa, ndikufika pamtima wa interlocutor kwa ife tsopano chatseka. Nthawi zambiri timapanga zolakwika zotsatirazi:
1. Timayamikira mwachindunji munthu wosadziwika kapena wosadziwika.
Tangoganizirani kuti munthu wina mumsewu amakuuza kuti: "O, ndiwe wosangalatsa bwanji!" kapena "Mtsikana, ndiwe wokongola kwambiri!".
Kuyamika, kunanenedwa pamphumi kudandaula, kumatsimikizira kwa osayamika ndi osayenera. Mumtima mwake, angakonde ngakhale wothandizira, koma chifukwa cha diso lowonetsetsa labwino, wolandirayo amangokukanikirani pagulu. Kuyankhulana kwina kukuwoneka kosawoneka, kotero kuyamikira uku kuli koyenera kokha kwa munthu wodziwika bwino. Pachifukwa ichi, zidzakhala zovuta ngakhale kuzigonjetsa ndi ziphuphu.
2. Timapereka chiyamiko mwachidwi, zosavuta, chifukwa "tikuyenera kuyamikila zonse."
Ziribe kanthu zomwe mumanena panthawi yomweyo. Wothandizana nawo malingaliro ake amalingaliro amodzi adzamva msanga zonse zomwe zikuchitika, ndipo ngati palibe chikhulupiliro, ndiye kuti palibe chiyanjano china. Kuyamikira koteroko kudzaonedwa ngati kunyozedwa.
3. Timapereka chiyamikiro mosakayika, osadalira zenizeni komanso momwe timagwirizanirana.
Pamene chilakolako choyamika chikhala chosokoneza, pafupifupi kutayika konse. Sitikuwonanso chizindikiro chodziwikiratu: munthu ali ndi nkhawa kapena mofulumira, kapena akuwopa, kapena akutengeka ndi chidwi (ndipo chofunika kwambiri kwa iye) ntchito.
Ngakhale zilizonse, ife "timakakamiza" gulu lino kumtundu wathu, kulankhulana kwathu, "nthabwala zathu" komanso "kuyamikira kwathunthu." Momwemonso, ife, monga momwe, timadziyamikirira tokha, osati kwa interlocutor. Kupambana pazinthu izi sikungatheke, popeza kuti munthu wothandizana naye sangakufuneni, komanso mavuto anu ndi malingaliro anu. Chokhachokha chingakhoze kupangidwa mwa kugwiritsa ntchito mwaluso "mkhalidwe wa interlocutor", mwachitsanzo, "kulowetsa" chifukwa cha kutamandidwa kosavomerezeka.
Imodzi mwa njira zothandiza kwambiri za "stroking" ndi zomwe zimatchedwa "kuyamikirika kosavomerezeka." Izi ndi pamene ife timasonyeza chifundo, kutamanda, kuyamikira osati za iye mwini, koma kuyesa bwino momwe zinthu zilili, maganizo, anthu, zinthu ndi zinthu zina zomwe zili ndi ubale weniweni kapena wosawonekera kwa iye. Mwamuna wina, pakuwona msungwana wokongola akuyenda galu (wa mtundu uliwonse), adafuula mokondwera kuti: "O, galu wani! Mutha kukhala wopusa! .. Ndipo kodi amadziwa chiyani? .. "ndi zina zotero.
Munthuyo, atawonekera ku ofesi ya mkulu wa kampani inayake, anadandaula kuti: "Ndiwe wokoma mtima bwanji! Ndiwotentha komanso wokoma mtima ... ndipo zonse ndi mawu, ndi kukoma." Inde, mu kampani yotereyi mwina ndizosangalatsa kugwira ntchito ... " .
Pazifukwa zina, chiyamikiro chatsopano chikhoza kubadwa. Yang'anani pozungulira inu! Pambuyo pake, dziko lozungulira ife liri lodzaza ndi zinthu zosiyana (zamoyo ndi zopanda moyo). Palibe chilichonse chomwe sichili chabwino kapena chabwino. Chikumbumtima chathu ichi chimapangitsa iwo kukhala choncho. Wodalitsika munthu yemwe ali pa desiki yake mulu wa magazini, zithunzi, zokumbutsa ndi zinthu zina, chifukwa cha kulenga muofesiyi. Musazengereze kusonyeza kuyamikira kwa munthu yemwe ali woyera mu ofesi yake, monga mu chipinda chogwiritsira ntchito, ndipo palibe chopanda pake pa kudzipatulira ndi chilango mu bungwe lake. Ngati mufunadi kupeza zabwino muzolowera za moyo kapena ntchito ya interlocutor - mudzazipeza. Ndiye sipadzakhala mavuto ndi kuyamikiridwa.
Zochita zolimbitsa thupi: mutatha kuona chinthu chilichonse, yesetsani kupeza chitamando kwa mwiniwakeyo. Lembani lingalirolo mu bukhu lapadera pansi pa gawo "Zomveka zosavomerezeka kwa eni ake omwe atizungulira." Yesetsani kusonkhanitsa zolemba ziwiri kapena mazana atatu, ndipo mukumva kuti zosavuta zimakhala zophweka.
Malinga ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, chimodzi mwa zozizwitsa kwambiri ndi zosaiŵalika ndizo zotchedwa "Minus Plus".
Chofunika cha kuyamika uku ndikuti iwe, poyamba, umangotsutsa munthu pa zinthu zosayenera. Wothandizana nawo amavutika, amayamba kudandaula pang'ono za kusayika kumeneku ndi mwayi woti mutuluke ndi maganizo anu. Koma panthawi ino mumayamika, zomwe zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri. Wothandizana nawo amasangalala. Kuthokoza koteroko ndi kotheka kwa zana limodzi ngati "kuchotsa" koyamba kuli kochepa kuposa "kuphatikiza" kwachiwiri. Chotsitsimikizirika chotsimikizirika cha kuyamikiridwa kumeneku chikufotokozedwa ndi umunthu weni weni wa psyche, momwemo ntchito yake.