Munthu aliyense amayesetsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zambiri momwe zingathere. Wina akuyesera kuti apite kuntchito zapamwamba, wina akulakalaka kupeza maphunziro a mtundu uliwonse, ndipo wina akuyesetsa kuti azikhala mwamtendere. Komabe, chisangalalo chokwaniritsa zolinga zonse sichidzamveketsa kwambiri ngati palibe wina woti azigawana nawo. Kusungulumwa sikungathandize munthu aliyense kukhala wosangalala. Posakhalitsa, munthu aliyense amaganiza za ukwati. Ndipotu, banja ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa maziko a chimwemwe.
Muyenera kukhala okonzekera ukwati. Ndipotu, moyo muukwati siwophweka komanso wopanda malire ngati ukuwoneka poyamba. Moyo wa banja ndi ntchito ya tsiku ndi tsiku ya okwatirana kukonza maubwenzi, kukhazikitsa mgwirizano m'banja ndi kukhazikitsa kulankhulana momasuka. Mwamuna ndi mkazi wake ayenera kumanga khalidwe linalake, kuti aliyense akhale ophweka kuti azitsatira ntchito yatsopano ya banja.
Mukafunsidwa momwe mungakhalire banja lamphamvu, yankho ndi losavuta - muyenera kudziwa zofunikira za banja lolimba. Komabe, "kudziwa" ndi chiyambi chabe. Poonetsetsa kuti moyo wa banja uli wokondwa, kudziŵa zonsezi kumafunika kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Kotero, maziko a banja lamphamvu ndi labwino ndi:
Ulemu. Lemezani zofuna ndi zokonda za theka lanu lachiwiri, chifukwa aliyense ali ndi malingaliro ake a moyo, omwe ayenera kulandiridwa monga momwe zilili.
Kusamalira. Kawirikawiri ndi chisamaliro chomwe chimalola anthu kuzindikira kuti akusowa wina.
Thandizo limodzi. Muukwati, nkofunika kwambiri kuthandizana ndi kuthandizana panthawi zovuta komanso kuthana ndi mavuto pamodzi.
Mphamvu yokhululukira. Kawirikawiri pakati pa okwatirana pali kusagwirizana ndi mikangano, koma wina ayenera kukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti palibe munthu wangwiro, ndi kukhululukira zolakwitsa.
Kuseka ndi kuseketsa. Kawirikawiri moyo wa banja umakhala wosasangalatsa komanso wosasangalatsa komanso umatha ku mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku. Tayang'anani zovuta zonsezi ndi kuseketsa, zidzakuthandizira kulimbikitsa banja, kuthera nthawi yambiri pamodzi, kungoseka.
Chikondi. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri m'banja. Kumbukirani kuti theka lanu lachiwiri silili lanu ndipo mumayamikira makhalidwe omwe mumakonda mukakumana.
Masiku ano, maukwati amakhala kawirikawiri. Ndipo ngati mukuganiza za izo, abambo athu agogo ndi agogo aamuna nthawi zambiri ankakhala moyo wautali komanso wachimwemwe. Kodi chinsinsi n'chiyani? Zikupezeka kuti iwo anali ndi zinsinsi zawo momwe angakhalire banja lamphamvu komanso moyo wa banja wokhalitsa:
- Okwatirana m'banja ndi onse amodzi. Aliyense ayenera kuganizira za moyo wake osati pa "I", koma kuchokera ku "ife". Pogawana zovuta zonse ndi zosangalatsa, okwatirana adzasangalala kwambiri.
- Mukhoza kuletsa mkwiyo wanu. Musanayambe kusakhutira kwanu ndi gawo lina lachiwiri, ndi bwino kulingalira ngati izi zidzabweretsa zabwino m'moyo wanu. Mwinamwake muyenera kuyesa kumvetsetsa mnzanuyo (y).
- Chifukwa cha vutoli ndikutengera nokha, osati mwa mnzanuyo. Pakutsutsana, monga lamulo, mwamuna ndi mkazi ali ndi mlandu. Kawirikawiri, zolakwika za theka lachiwiri ndi zotsatira za zochita zoyambirira za mnzanuyo.
- Yesetsani kuchita zabwino kwa banja lanu nthawi zonse. Kondwerani theka lanu lina.
- Kaŵirikaŵiri zimachitika kuti pambuyo potsutsana, palibe mwamuna kapena mkazi amene akufuna kutenga gawo loyambanso kuyanjanitsa, ndipo nthawi zina amayesanso kuwonjezera ku chilondacho, potsatira mfundo yakuti "kamodzi ndikudzimva, ngakhale ndikukuipirani". Koma kodi izi ndi zolondola? Ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti ndi sitepe iliyonse kwa inu mumapanga chisangalalo ndi chimwemwe, ndipo pang'onopang'ono pambali, kuchokera m'banja, zopweteka, misozi ndi zokhumudwitsa zawonjezedwa.
- Kumbukirani kuti muyenera kuthandizana nthawi zonse. Ndipo ngakhale zochita zili zofunika kwambiri, musaiwale chabe za mawu okoma. Aliyense amasangalala kumva kuti ndi wokondedwa kwambiri. Ndipo chabe mawu ovomerezeka amasangalatsa moyo.
- Tengani maudindo pazochita zanu, chifukwa ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse bwino maganizo a mnzanuyo, komanso kuti mudziwe bwino zomwe mukuchitazo. Sikuti aliyense angathe kutenga udindo pazochita zake, izi ndizofunikira komanso mosakayikira, khalidwe lofunika kwambiri kuti mudziphunzitse nokha kuyambira ali mwana.
- Mu ubale wa banja, kudalira n'kofunika kwambiri. Monga lamulo, amene amanyenga, iye mwiniyo samakhulupirira. Kukhulupirika kwa onse okwatirana kudzathandiza kulimbitsa mgwirizano wa banja.
- Komanso musayiwale kuti ndikofunika kupanga anzanu ndi anzanu apamtima, ndipo iye - ndi anzanu. Ndipotu, maubwenzi apabanja sayenera kuthetsa ubwenzi.
- Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti simukufunikira kukonda apongozi anu ndi apongozi anu, muyenera kukonda amayi awiri.