Tonsefe tikuzunzidwa ndi lingaliro lakuti chikondi ndicho chinthu chokha chomwe chingakhale chofunikira. Koma bwanji kusiyanitsa chikondi kuchokera ku attachment?
Mlembi wina wotchuka amati pafupifupi anthu onse amaganiza za chikondi chachikondi mwa njira iyi: "Chikondi ndikumvetsetsa kosamvetsetseka komwe kumachokera kwina kulikonse ndipo kumakukhudzani kwambiri ngati chikuku." Mudzazindikira kuti intuitively. Ngati kumverera kulipo, mudzakhala kuti muzindikire ndikusowa kulingalira kwa nthawi yaitali. Inu mudzaziwona, mosakayikira.Chikondi ndi chofunikira kwambiri kuti muzipereka zonsezi. Zimakhulupilira kuti zimakhululukidwa kuti mwamuna asiye mkazi wovomerezeka chifukwa cha chikondi, TH ndi nyumba kwa mfumu - mpando wake wachifumu Nthawi zonse mwadzidzidzi, ndipo simungathe kuchita china cha izo si nkhani kwa munthu "...
Komabe, ichi si chikondi chenicheni! Chikondi chenicheni sichili choncho. Chothandizira chikuwoneka mwadzidzidzi, ndipo simungathe kuchita chirichonse pa izo. Komabe, chikondi chenicheni ndi chikondi chopanda dyera komanso chokhulupirika. Iye akugwiritsabe ku izi. Mungadabwe chifukwa chake muyenera kudziwa kusiyana pakati pa chikondi ndi chikondi. Chifukwa chake ndi ichi: Kudziwa kusiyana kumeneku kukupulumutsani kuti musachite cholakwika. Chaka ndi chaka anthu mamiliyoni awiri akukhala ndi maso oyaka akupita ku maofesi olembetsa ndikulumbira mokondana kuti akondane wina ndi mzake kwa moyo wawo wonse. Kwa ambiri a iwo, ukwati umakhala wolandiridwa bwino. Kwa ena onse, iye anangolekerera. Komabe, kwa theka la awiri awiriwa, ukwati umasanduka tsoka lenileni. Pakapita kanthawi amayamba kumvetsa kuti sangathe kupirira.
Chavuta ndi chiani ndiye? Kusiyanitsa ndikuti mabanja ena amasankha kumanga banja lawo pa chikondi chenicheni, ndi ena - kokha pa chothandizira, chomwe chiri mwachibadwa chikondi chonyenga.
Kodi munganene chikondi kuchokera pachikondi?
Panthawi ya "golide yothamanga", anthu ena amakhulupirira kuti "adagonjetsa mitsempha." Komabe, patapita nthawi, atakhumudwa kwambiri, adaphunzira kuti kupeza kwawo sikunali koonadi golidi, koma mchere wosavuta wotchedwa pyrite. Kunja, pyrite ndi ofanana kwambiri ndi golidi, koma ilibe phindu lililonse. Nthawi zina amatchedwa "golide wa opusa".
Zakhala zanenedwa kuti n'zovuta kuona kusiyana pakati pa chikondi chenicheni ndi chikondi. Komabe, tsopano mutha kuphunzira mfundo khumi zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuzindikira molondola: kumverera kwanu ndi golide weniweni wa chikondi chenicheni kapena "golide kwa opusa". Tisanayambe kufunsa mafunso ofunikira awa, tifunika kudziwa zotsatirazi:
1. Kukonzekera kwa "mafungulo" awa sikungakhale kofunikira. Aliyense wa iwo ali ndi tanthauzo lofanana, ndi ena onse.
2. Izi sizingathetsedwe mwachindunji. Mukuyenera kuwerengera.
Mphindi 1: Chikukukhudzani bwanji?
Chikondi: Ngati muli ndi chilakolako, mwinamwake, mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi deta ya mnzanuyo. Chithunzi ndi chokongola nkhope ndi zomveka, zizindikiro zokongola, koma musayiwale kuti maonekedwe ndi onyenga. Zili ngati pepala lokulunga, limene mphatso inakulungidwa. N'zovuta kuweruza ndi zomwe ziri mkati mwa bokosi.
Chikondi: Pamene chikondi chako chiri chenicheni, umakhudzidwa ndi umunthu wa wokondedwa wanu wonse. Inde, mukumverera kwanu kudzakhala komweko komanso kukonda thupi, koma pamodzi ndi makhalidwe ena ambiri.
Mutu 2: Ndi makhalidwe angati osiyana omwe mumakonda mwa munthu?
Chothandizira: Monga lamulo, chiwerengero cha makhalidwe amenewa ndichabechabechabe, ngakhale kuti chingakulimbikitseni kwambiri. Mnyamata, mwachitsanzo, akhoza kungokhala wopenga ndi kumwetulira kapena chibwenzi cha bwenzi lake.
Chikondi: Ngati mumakonda chowonadi, ndiye kuti zonse kapena zambiri mwa munthu wina zimakukokerani. Aliyense wa ife ali ndi makhalidwe ambiri, malingaliro ndi ziweruzo. Ndi makhalidwe angati omwe mungawazindikire, ndipo ndi angati a iwo omwe amawoneka okongola kwa inu? Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri, chifukwa pamene changu choyamba chikutha, muyenera kukhala ndi zofuna zambiri.
Mutu 3: Kodi mukukumbukira chiyambi cha zonsezi?
Chojambulidwa: Chojambulira chikuwoneka mwamsanga. Sungakhale chikondi chenicheni pokhapokha poyang'ana, koma poyang'ana chikondi chimatha.
Chikondi: Chikondi chenicheni chimaonekera pang'onopang'ono. Mwanjira ina ndipo simungathe. Muyenera kumudziwa munthu musanamukhulupirire, choncho izi zimatenga nthawi, nthawi yochuluka. Apo ayi, ndizosatheka kumudziwa aliyense.
Mphindi 4: Kodi chidwi chanu chilipo?
Chothandizira: Ngati mwamangirira, chidwi chanu chimachoka, kenaka chikuwalira. Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zikuluzikulu ndikuti chikhomo chikuwoneka mofulumira kwambiri, choncho mizu yake si yaikulu. Kawirikawiri, ubale wanu ndi wongopeka chabe.
Chikondi: Ngati mumakonda kwambiri, malingaliro anu adzakhala ofatsa komanso ofunda, kusiyana ndi kusasinthasintha kwa chilakolako chokhumba. Adzakhalanso osatha. Chikondi chenicheni chimakula pang'onopang'ono, koma mizu yake ndi yozama.
Mphindi 5: Kodi kumverera uku kukukhudzani kwakukulu?
Chothandizira: Kawirikawiri, cholumikizira chimasokoneza zotsatira pamoyo wanu. Kukonda chikondi kumachotsedwa kwathunthu ndi iwe, ndipo iwe umalowa mu maloto. Inu, mwinamwake, ponyani zonse zanu. Mwachidule, simuli anu, kotero inu simukusowa kanthu, kunyalanyaza ntchito zanu.
Chikondi: Pamene chikondi chanu ndi chowonadi, makhalidwe anu abwino kwambiri amawonetseredwa. Mukuyesera kuchita zambiri momwe mungathere komanso momwe mungathere. Chikondi chanu chimakulimbikitsani. Iwe uli ndi mapiko. Mphamvu yanu yolenga imadziwonetsera kwambiri.
Mphindi 6: Pakati pa ubale, mumamva bwanji ndi ena?
Chothandizira: Ngati muli otetezeka, kwa inu dziko lonse lapansi limakhudza munthu mmodzi yekha, anthu ena amawoneka osayenera kwa inu. Maganizo anu amakhala ofunika m'moyo. Ndizo zokha zomwe zili zofunika kwa inu.
Chikondi: Ngati mumakondadi, wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu wofunikira kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi. Komabe, panthawi yomweyi, maubwenzi ndi abwenzi ndi achibale samataya tanthauzo lawo, koma, mosiyana, amakhala ndi tanthauzo losiyana ndi "mithunzi" ina.
Mphindi 7: Kusiyanitsa kumakukhudzani?
Chikondi: Mayesero abwino kwambiri oti mumverera ndi kuyesa patali. Pamene mutangomangirira, mtunda ndi nthawi zidzakupwetekani. Tsiku lina munthu wina yemwe ali pafupi, adzalowetsa kwa munthu wokondedwa amene wakhala pa chithunzi.
Chikondi: Ngati mumakonda, ndiye kuti mulibe wokondedwa, mumangomva bwino kwambiri. Pakulekanitsa muli ngati kuti mukutsalira gawo lanu. Wina, ngakhale munthu wonyengerera kwambiri, sangasinthe wokondedwa wanu.
Mphindi 8: Kodi mumalumbira nthawi zambiri?
Chothandizira: Ngati mwakonzeka, ndiye kuti mumalumbira. Inu, ndithudi, mwamsanga mupange mtendere, koma posakhalitsa pali kutsutsana kwatsopano. Iwe wapangidwa kuti uwoneke ngati nkhanu mu kuzizira. Ngati ali osiyana, onsewa akugwedezeka kuchokera ku chimfine, koma amayenera kukangana, akugwirana ndi singano. Mwinamwake mukukangana chifukwa mulibe chirichonse chokamba. Mantha, misonzi ndi chiyanjano cha "chikondi" zimangokupulumutsani kukhumudwa.
Chikondi: Ngati mumakonda kwenikweni, pangakhale kusagwirizana, koma chikondi chingathe kuwasokoneza, kukangana kumakhala kochepa kwambiri komanso kawirikawiri. Onse awiri pang'onopang'ono mudzaphunzira kupatsana wina ndi mzake, kuti mukhale pamodzi, mudzaphunzira kumvetsetsa ndi kuvomerezana wina ndi mzake momwe mulili.
Mphindi 9: Mukuwona chiyani ngati ubale?
Chothandizira: Ngati muli pamtima, mumakonda kuganiza nokha ndi mnzanuyo ngati anthu awiri, choncho mumagwiritsa ntchito mawu anu ndi malingaliro anu mawu akuti "Ine", "wanga" "ine," "it," " ". Mumakonda kuganiza za inu ngati anthu awiri osiyana.
Chikondi: Ngati mumakonda, mumakonda kunena kuti: "ife", "ife", "wathu". Mukuganiza kuti ndinu amodzi.
Mphindi 10: Kodi mulibe dyera kapena wodzikonda?
Chikondi: Mwamuna akhoza kukomana ndi mkazi wokongola, kokha chifukwa chakuti, kudzipangitsa kudziona kuti ndiwe wolemekezeka, adzatchuka. Iye, mwinamwake, wosadziwika ndi wowonongeka, koma popeza ali "mfumukazi" ya ofesiyo, amakondwera kukhala ndi mbali yake. Mofananamo, mkazi akhoza kugwirizira mnyamata pa leash, osati chifukwa chakuti amamukonda kwenikweni, koma chifukwa cha kudzipereka kwa mnzanuyo kumadzutsa mtengo wake pamaso pa enawo. Inu mukudandaula kwambiri za inu nokha, kuganizira za "kodi iye adzandisangalatsa ine?". Inu, mwinamwake, mumadandaula ngati mungapeze chinachake kuchokera pachibwenzi ichi.
Chikondi: Ngati mumakonda kwambiri, ndiye kuti zimakhala zovuta kuti muganizire kuti maganizo amenewa adzakumbutsani. Nthawi zonse mumayesetsa kuchita zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti mubweretse chimwemwe. Inu, makamaka, muli ndi chidwi ndi zomwe mungapereke, osati kulandira.
Yang'anirani zomwe mumamva.
Mutatha kuwerenga malangizo khumi awa, mwina mwakhala mukuganizapo ponena za malingaliro anu. Koma musachedwe. Muyenera kufufuza mosamala kwambiri, chifukwa izi ndizovuta kwambiri.
Pafupifupi nthawi zonse, mayesero a malingaliro okhudzana ndi mfundo khumizi amasonyeza chisakanizo cha chikondi ndi zokondweretsa. Choncho, ndikukulangizani kuti muyese fungulo la munthu aliyense payekha la mfundo khumi: 0-amatanthauza chiyanjano, ndi 10 - chikondi chenicheni.
Phunzirani mwakachetechete mafungulo kuchokera kwa oyamba ndikupatseni malingaliro anu enieni. Palibe chifukwa chofulumira!
Mwachitsanzo, poganizira Mutu Woyamba, mukhoza kusankha nokha: "Kuti ndikhale woonamtima, ndinkakonda chidwi chenicheni, chifukwa ndikudzipereka ndekha pano." Kotero, pa ntchito!
Tiyeni tione zotsatira.
Ngati munayamikira ubale wanu pazinthu izi, pindani mfundo zanu. Ndipo tiyang'anitsitsa zomwe zinachitika.
Mapu 80 ndi pamwambapa. Chotsatira ichi chikusonyeza kuti malingaliro ndi odalirika mokwanira. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti kudzakhala ukwati mawa. Si chinsinsi kuti chikondi chiyenera kukhala chogwirizana. Ndikofunika osati kuti mumakonda bwanji munthu, koma akuyeneranso kukhala ndi malingaliro ofanana. Choncho, amafunikanso kudutsa mayesowa.
Kuchokera pazigawo 50-80. Mukufunikira nthawi kuti muone momwe ubalewo udzakhalire. Lembani ndi chipiriro chochuluka.
Zosaposera makumi asanu. Muyenera kuganizira mozama za ubale wanu. Mwinamwake, inu mumangokonda chabe. Mudziko lino, mukhoza kupanga zolakwa zambiri kapena kutayika chirichonse. Musawope ndipo musachedwe. Khalani wolimba ndikupanga chisankho cholondola.
Musachedwe.
Musaiwale kuti nthawiyi ndi mnzanu wapamtima kuthetsa vutoli: chikondi chanu, kapena chikondi chenicheni. Choncho, musachedwe, mulole nthawi, nthawi yokwanira musanachite chimodzi mwa zosankha zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu.