Mukakumana ndi alumni, pa msinkhu uliwonse funso loyamba ndilo: "Kodi mwakwatiwa?". Ndipo pambuyo pa zonse, zomwe zimanyoza kwambiri, musafunse zazitali ndi zopindulitsa, osati za kupambana mu ntchito, koma kokha.
Koma uwu ndiwo moyo, ndipo mkaziyo akuyenera kukhala ndi banja, ana, kupitiliza mtundu wa anthu. Ndizigawo izi zomwe zimapindula bwino. Ndipo ngati ataphunzira kumaliza zaka 10, 20 kapena 30 zapaderazi, amayamba kumumvera chisoni. Iwo amamwetulira mwachisangalalo, akusangalala ndi chisoni cha wina, kapena amayamba kupereka ntchito zawo, akuusa moyo ndi kulira. Pamene mukufuna kuwatonthoza, panthawi yomweyi mutsimikizireni kuti ndinu ofunika, choncho mukufuna kubudula aliyense mu lamba.
Vuto silili loyenera dzira lodyedwa, poyamba. Ndipo kuchokera ku mafunso osayenerera ndi osayenerera mumangoyenera kuzitsuka, ndipo musamamvere. Pambuyo pake, pamapeto pake zonsezi zimakhudza inu ndipo palibe wina, ndi moyo wanu. Koma chinthu chokhumudwitsa n'chakuti mumadzifunsa funso ili, ndipo simungadzipusitse nokha ndipo simungathe kuthawa kulikonse. Ngati muli ndi zaka 30, mulibenso banja, ndiye izi ndizo zomwe mumadziika.
Planet ya amayi osakwatira
Akatswiri a zachikhalidwe cha anthu amati dziko lathu posachedwapa lidzakhala dziko la amayi osakwatira, chodabwitsa ichi chakhala chachikulu kwambiri, chomwe ndi kusungulumwa kwa amayi. Ndipo izi ndi za akazi, omwe zaka zawo zaposa zaka makumi anayi. Ndipo chifukwa chake pali zifukwa zomveka.
Malingana ndi chiwerengero, chiwerengero cha akazi chimaposa amuna. Chifukwa cha msinkhu, kusiyanaku kumawonjezeka, chifukwa anthu amakhala ndi nthawi yochepa yokhala ndi moyo, komanso amafa kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, ku Russia kuli amuna ochepa mamiliyoni 10 kuposa akazi, ku Ukraine, akazi anayi amawerengera mwamuna mmodzi. Ndipo apa ziwerengero siziyankhula motsatira akazi.
Amuna ambiri amakhala ndi zizoloŵezi zoipa, mavuto awo okhala, thanzi, malipiro, ntchito, ndi lamulo, ndi zina zotero. Kukula kwakukulu ndi kukula kwa amayi omwe akukhudzidwa ndi miyambo ndi ndale, kufunafuna mwayi ndi ufulu wofanana, kudziyimira ndalama kumabweretsa zofuna za amayi. Kupitiliza kukonzekera akazi amakono sangathe kuchepetsa nthawi zonse bar ndi kufuna kuwona pafupi ndi amuna, msinkhu womwewo, ndipo mwinamwake wapamwamba.
Kusamuka kwakukulu kwa chiwerengero cha anthu kupita kumidzi, kumene moyo umayendetsa mtunda wa anthu kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake, kupita kwawo, ndipo umasanduka kusungulumwa kwakukulu pakati pa anthu. Malinga ndi malipoti atsopano, zochitika za moyo wa amayi osakwatiwa zinkafufuzidwa, ndipo zinatsimikizira kuti mwayi wa mkazi wazaka makumi anayi wokwatira kukwatiwa ndi 20%. Koma simukusowa kukhulupirira ziŵerengero, muyenera kukumana ndi chimwemwe chanu. Mulimonsemo, izo zingakulepheretseni inu ku ungwiro kwanu ndi kukhumudwa. Ndipo choyamba mudziwe mmene mumamvera za "mtsikana wakale."
Kodi ndi akazi otani omwe ali osakwatira?
1. Amene sakhala "otentha" pankhaniyi, ndipo amatanthauza kuti iwo sali okwatira, monga zochitika zazing'ono. Amanena kuti sadakumana ndi munthu amene angagwirizanitse miyoyo yawo.
2. Amene amafuula pamtsamiro, zolondola, zovuta, zochitika ndi zina zotero. Akamafuna kuti ayambe kuopa, amawongolera kuti ayambe kuchita mantha.
3. Mfundo zazikuluzikulu komanso zokhuza akazi omwe ali otanganidwa ndi ntchito zawo komanso cholinga choletsa ukwati. Amaganiza kuti amuna ndi anthu ochepa, odetsedwa, otsika, omwe sali oyenerera kuti azisamala amayi awo. Ndipo pa nthawi yomweyi, izi sizikuwalepheretsa kugwiritsa ntchito kugonana, monga othandizira, ntchito yothandizira.
Koma ziribe kanthu momwe amagawira ndikugawa nawo chodabwitsa ichi, zoona zenizeni kuti akaziwa ndi osakwatira. Ndipo, mosasamala kuti ndi gulu lanji, iwo akuyenera kuika maganizo awo, momwe angasunthire ku chimwemwe. Mayi aliyense ali ndi "potion" yake.
Kodi munthu angathetse bwanji kusungulumwa?
Musanyengedwe nokha.
Kuti asalankhule pagulu, mkazi kapena mkaziyo, yemweyo mkazi wachibadwa amafuna kukhala ndi wokondedwa, ana, banja ndi kukhala wosangalala pafupi ndi wokondedwa.
Akazi, atetezeka ku mafunso osokoneza bongo ndi kuukiridwa, amakonda kuganiza nthano za chisangalalo chawo popanda munthu. Amatsindika kuti safuna kukwatiwa popanda mfundo. Iwo samasowa amuna, iwo amangokhala ndi mavuto. Popeza ali olemera, okhutira, opambana, ndi zina zotero. Ndipotu, kusungulumwa konseko, kusungulumwa sikubweretsa chimwemwe, sikumutonthoza kapena kukongoletsa mkaziyo. Nthawi zina, ngakhale amayi odziimira okha amafuna kukondedwa, osati anthu omasuka, ofooka komanso odalirika. Ngakhale kamodzi mmiyoyo yawo iwo akuwombera ubongo wawo pafunso ili: "Chifukwa chiyani alibe mwayi ndi amuna?".
Lonjezani dziko lonse lapansi
Siyani chokopa chanu, chifukwa muli ndi mwayi wokhala butterfly, mpaka iwo akakhale agogo. Azimayi omwe amaona kuti kusungulumwa kwawo kwasakhalitsa, amachita zonse kuti athe kuthetsa, amakhala ndi mwayi wokhala osangalala kusiyana ndi omwe adakwera mumadzi ndikudziyika okha mtanda.
Zokha, ndithudi, pali ubwino wambiri: munthu samayenera kuvutika ndi zolakwika ndi zofooka za ena, wina sayenera kudalira wina aliyense, kugawanika, sakuyenera kuwerengera ndi wina aliyense, palibe yemwe akukonza, akulamula, kapena wotsutsa.
Ndiwe mbuye wa moyo wanu ndipo muli anu. Mwina mukuganiza kuti mukakwatirana, mumataya mwayi wotere? Pewani ubwenzi wapamtima, poopa kukhala chidole m'manja mwa wina ndi kukalowa mumsampha? Inde, simukufuna kuti anthu omwe akuzungulirani kuti awerenge "osasangalala", "nkhanza", "kunyada," "okwera"? Pambuyo pa izi, munthu aliyense adzafuna kukumana ndi iwe, ndikuwululira chuma chosadziwika cha moyo wako. Mawotchi oterewa pa tsiku lomwe simudzapeza.
Kodi mungapeze bwanji mwamuna?
Musayime kufufuza
Inu simunadzipangire nokha pulogalamu ya chimwemwe chanu? Zidzakhala zonyenga kukhulupirira kuti zidzagwa kuchokera kumwamba, kwa iwo omwe adalira misozi chifukwa cha sopo, ma lazybones? Koma kodi tikukhala m'zaka za zana lotani? Musalole kuti mupite m'manja mwanu. Muyenera kutsogolo kukakumana ndi tsogolo lanu. Chinachake chiyenera kukhala chochitika nthawi zonse, kufunafuna.
Pali njira zambiri zodziŵira, ngakhale "nkhono zopanda chiyembekezo, omwe amawopseza kuti asiye mphuno zawo mu chipolopolo chawo chomwe sichifikira. Awa ndi ma intaneti osatha, malo okhala, munda, ntchito, mpumulo, maseŵera, magulu pazinthu. Ndipo mndandanda woterewu ukhoza kupitilizidwa ndi kupitilira, icho chidzakhala chokhumba chanu. Ambiri amanyazi kufunafuna chimwemwe chawo, amaganiza kuti ndi kovuta kukonzekera moyo waumwini.
Koma kodi mkhalidwe wodzichepetsa umenewu unabweretsa chimwemwe? Kodi pali wina amene amamverera bwino mwa kudzichepetsa kwanu, ndipo ngati ayi, ndiye bwanji mukukhalabe kunyumba? Kapena muli ndi zaka mazana awiri zatsalira?
Musamangokhala wokha
Ena amachita khama ku bizinesi, kulowa nawo marathon, kuti amaiwala za moyo wamba komanso za kukhalapo kwabwino. Musayang'ane pa vuto ili, lizongowonjezera. Musaganize za kufunika kwake, ndibwino kuti mukhale masewera, ndipo ngati izo zikugwira ntchito, zikhoza kukhala bwino, koma osati zabwino kwambiri, chifukwa zimasiya ziyembekezero ndi chiyembekezo m'kamwa. Moyo uyenera kuperekedwa mosavuta ndipo udzakhala wokongola komanso wosavuta.
Mu moyo waumwini, izi ndi zofunikira, popeza zonse zimawonetseredwa mu thanzi lanu, chifaniziro, nkhope. Ndiyeno zimakhala zomveka, zomwe zidzakukumbutsani ndi mafunso.
Muzidziyesa nokha
Mavuto onsewa a amayiwa, omwe ali okhudzana ndi ubale ndi amuna komanso kusowa kwa banja, onse amachizidwa ndi chithandizo cha kudzifufuza mwakhama, zoga, masewera, zakudya, mabuku abwino ndi akatswiri a maganizo. Ntchito yamkatiyi imapangitsa amayi kukhala osangalala komanso ogwirizana, mosasamala kanthu kuti mwakhala mukupanga banja, kapena mpaka palibe chomwe chikuchitika, kaya pali munthu wapafupi kapena ayi. Chinsinsi chachikulu chiri mkati mwa amai onse, ndipo fungulo silili m'thumba la munthu aliyense, koma m'thumba lanu.
Mmene mungalimbanire ndi kusungulumwa
Mukafika kunyumba, mumasiyidwa nokha. Ndipo chotupa chachikasu chosungunuka chimakulungidwa mumtambo wandiweyani. TV yayamba kale kukhala membala wa banja, mukukambirana ndi makanema omwe akukonda kwambiri ma wailesi. Mukukonzekera kuti musamve kusungulumwa, kuti mugwiritse ntchito njira iliyonse. Kusungulumwa ndi kudzidziwitsa nokha ndi mawonekedwe apadera. Kusungulumwa kumabadwira mu moyo, kumverera uku, chidziwitso. Pambuyo pake, mudziko lenileni timazunguliridwa ndi anthu ndipo mwina timayandikana ndi anansi athu, ogwira ntchito kuntchito, paulendo wathu wamba-mwakumana tsiku ndi tsiku. Kusungulumwa ndi mtundu wa zochitika ndi kudzidzimva ngati wopanda pokhala, kutayika kosafunikira, kunyalanyazidwa, kuiwala, kutayidwa, kumasiyidwa ndi onse. Kodi ndi zifukwa ziti zomwe zimayambitsa izi m'mudzi wandiweyani, mkazi amamva yekha?
Zifukwa zomwe mumasungulumwira
1. Zapitirira zomwe zikuyembekezera
Pali miyezo yathu, nthawi zonse sagwirizana ndi miyezo ya ena. Amatiwoneka osasangalatsa, owopsa, opusa kwambiri. Kufufuza kwa superman yabwino kungakokedwe kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo kuwopsya kukhalabe nokha kumakula mofulumira.
Yankho lathu. Sikoyenera kufufuza mnzanu woyenera kapena munthu woyenera, pambuyo pa zolinga zonse siziripo. Kawirikawiri chithunzithunzi chabwino sichinachokera pa zochitika zenizeni pamoyo, koma zimapangidwa mu zithunzi, nyimbo, mafilimu, mabuku. Pachifukwa ichi, kusweka kwa dziko lenileni sikukuwonekeratu kuti mu dziko lenileni anthu awa sangakhale othandizana bwino, okonda, amzanga ngati ankhondo mufilimuyo. Mu munthu aliyense, mungapeze chiwerengero chachikulu cha zinthu zoipa, ndipo ngati mumayang'ana pa iwo, ziwononge kugwirizana. Njira yothetsera vutoli ndiyo kuganizira za makhalidwe abwino.
2. Kuopa kukanidwa, ndipo chifukwa chake, mantha a kuyankhulana
Kuwopa kukanidwa, mantha - zonsezi zimadalira kudzichepetsa. Anthu awa amawopa kuti akanidwa, chifukwa cha mantha oti alibe chidwi. Ndipo amamanga khoma lachi China pakati pawo ndi anthu oyandikana nawo. Ngati mukuganiza kuti simukuyenera chikondi, ndiye kuti sichidzakhala. Anthu osungulumwa sangathe kuthetsa bizinesi iliyonse kapena nkhani yaumwini, kuvomereza pa chinachake, amakhala ndi mavuto pamene akufunika kuyitana winawake, sangathe kusangalala ndi makampani.
Yankho lathu. Ndikofunika kulankhulana, ngati kuti simunali wosangalatsa komanso kovuta. Ngati simunena mawu, munthu wina angakukondeni bwanji? Kodi ndizomveka kuti mukhale pakhomo? Pambuyo pake, munthu wamkulu samangooneka ndipo sakugwirizana bwinobwino pansi pa kama. Simukuyenera kudziyerekezera kuti ndinu heroine kuchokera ku bicycle yotchuka yomwe, asanakwanitse zaka 40, amayang'ana pansi pa bedi akuyesera kupeza munthu, ndipo patapita zaka makumi anayi adayika bedi lina, kotero kuti mwayi wodziwana nawo ukuwonekera.
Palibe amene anachotsa maofesi a nightclub ndi barabu a karaoke, masewera olimbitsa thupi, dziwe losambira ndi kuyenda ndi anzanu. Ambiri amadziŵa bwino pa intaneti. Izi siziri nthawizonse chinsinsi cha kupambana, nthawi zambiri amuna amayang'ana ubale kwa usiku umodzi wokha. Anthu ambiri amanyazi kupita kumalo ammudzi kapena pamsewu, koma pa intaneti samawopa kuti azichita masewera olimbitsa thupi, amawopa, samaopa kufotokoza maganizo awo. Ndibwino kuti musankhe mosamala anzanu, simukusowa kuti mutenge phokoso loyamba lakongola kwambiri pa chithunzicho, chifukwa adanena kuti ndinu wokongola kwambiri kujambula. Ngati mukuganiza kuti simukuyenera chikondi, ndiye kuti simudzakhala chikondi.
3. Kukanika kukambirana
Anthu oterewa amakonda komanso amafuna kulankhula, koma mwamsanga ataya chidwi ndipo atopa. Kudzimva kusungulumwa kumachokera pa chikhalidwe, pamakhalidwe aumwini, ndiko kuti, pazimene zimakhala zovuta kuzikonza.
Dzikondeni nokha, khalani mogwirizana ndi dziko lanu lamkati, mogwirizana ndi inu nokha, pulumutseni nokha. Izo sizidzakhala zophweka. Poyamba, m'pofunika kuzindikira dziko lapansi, monga momwe akuwonera antchito omwe nthawi zonse amasiya kuseri kwawo, kupyolera mwa agogo awo, omwe ali ndi chidwi chifukwa chake muli ndi zaka 30 opanda ana osakwatiwa? Tengani manja a zitsimikizo ndi kudziphunzitsa, ponyani kuti alipo. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yanu, musamalire zinthu zomwe mumakonda, kuti tsiku lonse likhale ndi maganizo abwino. Ngati simukufuna kutsuka mbale, musasambe, palibe amene angachiwononge, ndipo ichi ndi chachikulu komanso kusungulumwa. Mukhoza kumvetsera nyimbo, kuwerenga buku lanu lokonda, kusamba, kusamba musanagone, penyani kanema yomwe mumakonda.
Kwa munthu yemwe amasokoneza mgwirizano, pa msinkhu wosadziwika, anthu amamuyandikira. Chisangalalo, chiyembekezo, kumwetulira ndi mtima wonse sichidzasiya anthu osayanjanitsika. Ngati malingaliro anu ali ndi kusungulumwa kwanu, ndiye kuti zovuta zoterezi sizingatheke. Funsani funso? Kodi moyo ukhoza kukhala wabwino ngati mukutsatira mfundo yakuti "ndibwino kukhala ndi wina kusiyana ndi mmodzi?" Zonse za iwe, muyenera kusintha kuti musamuthandize ena, koma kuti mukhale osungulumwa. Tikanena kuti ndife okha, izi zikusonyeza kuti palibe "kalonga wa kavalo woyera." Sinthani njira yanu yopezera kusungulumwa ndipo dzifunseni zomwe mukufunikira kuti musinthe nokha, kuti musasungulumwenso. Ndi bwino kulimbana ndi kusungulumwa nokha.
Zochita zimathandiza
1. "pempho"
Cholepheretsa kuyankhulana chiyenera kuchotsedwa malinga ndi mfundo za mantha. Yambani ntchitoyi ndi pempho.
Funsani mafunso kwa odutsa, ngati kuti akudutsa, mwangozi. Pezani mawu ofunika.
"Kodi mungandithandize?" ... "Ndikufuna kukufunsani" kapena "Zingakhale zabwino ngati munandithandiza," pofotokoza momveka bwino kuti simudzakhumudwa ngati mwakana. Zopempha izi mosamala, pamene mudziwiratu kuti mudzakanidwa, ndipo muyenera kungodziwa kuti mukulephera, ndipo pasanapite nthawi muyenera kuyiganizira. Sipadzakhalanso chakukhosi, sipadzakhalanso zovuta pakuyankhulana.
2. "Tsiku lolimbana ndi kusungulumwa"
Sankhani tsiku kumapeto kwa ntchitoyi, ikhoza kukhala Lachisanu kapena Loweruka, pamene mungakwanitse kupita kuntchito ya gulu lanu lokonda kwambiri kapena ku kampu kapena chiwonetsero, mu mawu amodzi kumene mumakhala omasuka. Mukufuna kuphatikiza zothandiza ndi zokondweretsa, ndipo pitani osati kumangomvetsera kapena kuwona, koma kuphunzire pa kuyankhulana. Pitani kwa munthu amene mumamukonda, ndipo funsani maganizo ake ponena za chochitika ichi. Muyenera kukumbukira za kumwetulira ndi kusunga maganizo.
3. Kusinkhasinkha "Moto Wanga"
Pamene sizikumveka zachilendo, muyenera kumenyana nokha ndi kusungulumwa. Imodzi mwa njira zothandizira, idzakhala yosinkhasinkha, yomwe cholinga chake ndi kubwezeretsa chiyanjano ndikupeza mkatikati. Tsekani maso anu, taganizirani kuti ndi madzulo. Inu munachoka panyumba ndikuyenda kudutsa pakiyi. Inu musachedwe, ingoyenda nokha. Chipale chofewa chimayambira mumayendedwe a nyali, pamsewu mumasungunuka. Munayima ndikuyamikira chisanu. Kwezani maso anu ndipo muwone nyumba zowoneka ndi mawindo, momwe kuwala kukuyaka. Ndipo pawindo lililonse ndi dziko laling'ono.
Tangoganizani mkati mwanu, komanso, kuwala uku kukuyaka. Zimakupatsani mtendere wamtendere ndi chitonthozo. Ndipo kuti ndi inu simukuchitika, izo zidzatenthedwa ndi kuwala, kutentha, kowala. Kuwala ndi lawi lawi la moto, iwe ukhoza kulitenga ilo mmanja mwanu, ndipo apa liri patsogolo panu, mmanja mwanu. Muthokozeni chifukwa cha mtendere ndi kutentha. Yemetsani kuwala ndikubwezereni. Tsopano iye adzakhala ndi inu nthawizonse. Tsegulani maso anu.
Tsopano tikudziwa momwe tingagwirire ndi kusungulumwa sikuti ndi mtsikana. Dziwani kuti kusungulumwa kumabadwira mu moyo wanu. Kotero, inu mukhoza kusintha izo.