Monga gawo lirilonse la moyo wathu, kugonana kumasonyezedwa mu malo osamvetsetseka komanso osadziwika a psyche - m'maloto. Maloto achiwerewere akhoza kugwirizana mwachindunji ndi zilakolako zathu zenizeni, koma nthawi zambiri mu maloto zinthu zimachitika zomwe sitingaziganizirepo tsikulo. Kuti tiwamasulire molondola masomphenya a kugonana, tinatembenukira kwa akatswiri a maganizo. Anatipatsanso ife "buku lotolo" la sayansi: kutanthauzira maloto ndiko kugonana. Izi zikugwira ntchito kwa onse ...
Aliyense amaona maloto osakondweretsa. Kawirikawiri amawoneka m'mawa kwambiri ndipo sikuti ndi oposa kwambiri. Mayi angathe kuwukitsidwa m'maloto ngakhale atangolankhula kwa bwenzi lake, amavomereza maganizo ake kapena ... amabereka mwana. Koma nthawi zina, mosiyana, mu maloto timapanga kotero kuti m'mawa timadzuka osati tokha. Musaope: zomwe zili m'maloto siziyenera kutanthauziridwa kwenikweni.
Maloto aliwonse ndi chinthu chenichenicho ndipo amachokera ku zikhumbo zanu, zochitika zanu, zomwe mukukumana nazo ndi mantha. Ndipo nthawi zonse musathamangire ndi kudutsa mu bukhu la loto - sadzapereka yankho. Komabe, akatswiri a zamaganizo anatha kuzindikira zochitika zofanana za maloto olakwika.
Moni kuchokera kumbuyo
Kodi zikuchitika kuti mumaloto mumakumana ndi munthu amene mumakonda kale komanso mwakuwombera kumene mumakhala naye pabedi? Kodi ndi zoona kuti simungathe kuiwala? "Malingaliro amodzi ogonana ogonana ndi munthu amene kale anali naye pachibwenzi sayenera kuchitidwa mozama. Zikuoneka kuti izi ndi zosangalatsa zokhazokha: malingaliro anu amalingaliro "amakukhalitsani" chinthu chokongola cha kugonana kuyambira kale. Koma ngati malotowo amakhala ovuta, tiyenera kuganizira, - anatero katswiri wa zamaganizo Olga Levinskaya. " Mwinamwake, mwanjira iyi, vuto losathetsedwe liyesera kudziwonetsera, lomwe simukumvetsetsa nalo, mwachitsanzo, mukukwiya chifukwa cha zodandaula zakale kapena simunamalize chifukwa chimodzi."
"Kugonana ndi munthu amene kale munkakonda kungakhale chithunzi cha zikhumbo zanu, zomwe zimagwirizana ndi fano lake, " akuwonjezera katswiri wamaganizo Vadim Piotrovsky. - Mwachitsanzo, ngati mumalota munthu amene mumamukonda kale, izi zikhoza kusonyeza kusokonezeka kwachinsinsi: mukufuna kuchotsa nkhawa zomwe zikukuvutitsani, pumulani ndi kukalowa mu chisangalalo chosasamala. "
Mu manja aakazi
Pokhala ndi maloto a chiyanjano ndi mkazi, musafulumize kunena kuti kubisalako kumabisala. "Mwinamwake mu moyo mulibe chisamaliro chokwanira ndi chikondi, mumasungulumwa ndipo mumatayika, ndipo muchithunzi cha basi-mkazi kuti chisamaliro, chisamaliro ndi chisomo zomwe mukusowa mumazichita, " akutero Vadim Piotrovsky. - Ngati mumalota zogonana ndi mnzanu, mnzanu kapena mayi wina wodziwa bwino, ganizirani momwe mumamuchitira. Kawirikawiri, pogwiritsa ntchito maloto osagwirizana ndi anthu omwe sitikuwaona kuti ndizogonana, chidziwitso chathu chimawonetsera chinyengo kapena chidwi. Kugonana, kotero, kumatanthauza chikhumbo chathu chofuna kukhala ndi makhalidwe a mnzathu amene tilibe, mwachitsanzo, kusangalala, kukwanitsa kuchita zinthu mdziko, zolinga kapena zokwanira. "
Vuto la usiku
Nanga bwanji ngati mukulota malingaliro anu mukuona munthu yemwe samangokuchititsani kugonana, koma mosiyana ndi izi, ndi zonyansa kwa inu? "Pano mfundo yomweyi ikugwira ntchito: ngakhale mnzanu wokhumudwitsa, mnzanga wapamtima wa m'kalasi komanso woyandikana naye moyipa pa khonde, nthawi zina timadziwa makhalidwe omwe tikufuna kuti tipeze. Ngakhale munthu uyu akukukhumudwitsani, nthawi zina mungafunike kukhala ndi chinthu chofanana ndi iye, osatha kusamvetsera maganizo a ena, "akupitiriza kutanthauzira maloto a Vadim Piotrovsky.
"Maloto amenewa nthawi zambiri amaimira kusungunuka: Mwachitsanzo, mnzake wosasangalala ndi ntchito yosangalatsa, " anatero katswiri wa zamaganizo Olga Levinskaya. - Monga lamulo, maloto okha ndi osasangalatsa komanso osasangalatsa, kugonana mwa iwo ndi kosasangalatsa, kosangalatsa komanso kokhumudwitsa. Pankhaniyi, ichi ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizira kuti ndi nthawi yosintha kanthu pamoyo wanu. "
Fikirani kwa nyenyezi
Kugonana ndi anthu otchuka, mwinamwake, ndilo mtundu wofala kwambiri wa maloto osokonekera. Kutanthauzira kwake kumadalira zambiri pa nkhani ya maloto ndi ubale wanu ndi munthu wotchuka. "Ngati chipinda chanu chimapachikidwa ndi zojambula zojambula nyenyezi yomwe mumaikonda ndipo mumakonda kwambiri, malotowo ndiwomwe mumawonekera. Ikunenanso kuti mu moyo simunapeze munthu wanu woyenera. Kugona "nyenyezi" kungasonyeze mtundu wina wa infantilism: simunapange zojambulidwa zanu ndipo mukugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi zojambulidwa, "akutero Vadim Piotrovsky. - Ngati wolemekezeka mu maloto anu samakuchititsani kuti musakhale ndi maganizo m'moyo, mwachitsanzo, mumudziwa ngati mtsogoleri wodziwika bwino, amalankhula za chikhumbo chanu chofuna kukwaniritsa china chake m'moyo. "
Kugonana ndi Mlendo
Ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kuona mu maloto momwe mlendo amakusokonezani. Maloto oterewa ndi ochepa kwambiri. Olga Levinskaya anati: "Kugonana ndi munthu amene simukumudziwa kumalankhula za malingaliro anu okhutira ndipo muli ndi ludzu lochita zinthu zosangalatsa. - Pothandizidwa ndi maloto oterowo mumasiyanitsidwa ndi zodandaula za tsiku ndi tsiku ndikulowa mu dziko losangalatsa la zosangalatsa zakuthupi, zomwe simukuyenera kupereka yankho kwa wina aliyense. Simukukhala ndi maganizo okonzeka, maganizo ndi mavuto, omwe mungasokoneze panthawiyi, popeza simudziwa mnzanuyo, ndipo simukuopa zotsatira za kuyandikana mwangozi. Komabe, ambiri adapeza mbali ina ya nkhaniyo, pamene mukupeza kuti mukugonana ndi munthu wosadziwika pamalo ammudzi, ndipo mazana a anthu akukuwonani. Nkhawa ndilo letimotif yaikulu ya maloto amenewa. Zingatheke chifukwa chosasangalatsa pochita ndi wokondedwa weniweni kapena mantha a chibwenzi pambuyo povutika maganizo. "
CHITSANZO CHA OPENDA
Eugene Kulgavchuk, katswiri wa zamagulu, wamaganizo, wothandizira pulezidenti wa Russian Association of Sexologists.
Chodabwitsa ichi, monga maloto okhudzika - ndi chimodzi mwa mawonetseredwe a kugonana kwa munthu. Mwadzidzidzi pakhomo ndi katswiri wogonana pogwiritsa ntchito khadi lapamtima, mafunso awa amachokera mu bokosi lapadera. Posiya kudziletsa kwanthaŵi yaitali, chiwerengero cha maloto okhumba akuwonjezeka. Kotero ndi chithandizo chawo, ubongo wathu umatikumbutsa za mbali yofunika kwambiri ya moyo monga kugonana. Komabe, maloto osasangalatsa samawachezera anthu omwe ali ndi chikhalidwe chogonana, chifukwa mphamvu zawo zogonana sizifotokozedwa bwino.
Maloto achiwerewere ndi ofanana ndi malingaliro olakwika. Chokhacho, mosiyana ndi chomaliza, iwo amawonetsedwa mozama. Maloto ndi osavuta komanso ovuta. Mu maloto osavuta pali chiwembu chofunikila - ichi ndicho chilakolako cha zilakolako zathu zosadziwika. Mu maloto ovuta, chiwembucho chimakhala chosiyana kwambiri, chimagwirizanitsa ndi kugonana, ndi maganizo, ndi maubwenzi.
Kutanthauzira kwa maloto ovuta kuganiza bwino kumasiyidwa kwa dokotala wogonana-psychotherapist. Ndipo ndikofunikira kulingalira makhalidwe a munthu wina, kulingalira zomwe zili. Pambuyo pake, maloto omwewo kwa anthu osiyana akhoza kukhala ndi tanthauzo losiyana kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, chochitika chosangalatsa chogwiriridwa mu maloto a mtsikana angakhoze kulankhula za kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa (kubadwira muubwana) chifukwa cha chilakolako chogonana chochuluka.
Pakalipano, sikuli koyenera kutenga nawo mbali kutanthauzira maloto. Maonekedwe abwino a kugonana amafuna kukhala ndi maganizo abwino, osati odzikonda. Popanda umboni wapadera izi zingangosokonezani maganizo anu tsiku lonse.
KUCHITA KWAMBIRI KWA MAFUNSO kumalongosola zozizwitsa za maloto opusa mwa njira yake. Sikoyenera kufunsa mwatsatanetsatane kuchokera m'buku lililonse la loto kutanthauzira maloto - ndikofunikira kutanthauzira kugonana mu loto mosagwirizana. Komabe, pali makhalidwe ambiri kwa ena maloto.
SEXY - mumakopeka ndi kugonana koletsedwa, chiopsezo ndi zokondweretsa.
THIRST - kukhumba kugonana ndi kusakhutira.
ORANGE - kuyesedwa, zosangalatsa. Mumakonda kukhala ndi malingaliro ogonana pogonana ndi munthu wosadziŵa.
ARBUZ ndi chigawenga. Ngati munalota za momwe mungadulire mavwende, ndiye mu moyo weniweni, zosangalatsa zenizeni zogonana sizikupezeka kwa inu. Muyenera kudziyerekezera kuti musakhumudwitse mnzanuyo.
BAZAR - moyo wokhudzana ndi chiwerewere.
BANANI - chiyambi cha munthu, phallus.
KUSINTHA - mukufuna kusintha nokha kapena kukayikira wokondedwa wanu wosakhulupirika.
GORB ndi matenda anu, omwe amakulepheretsani kudzizindikira nokha momasuka ndi kumasuka.
Kabluk - mboni za kusakhutira kwanu ndi gawo lanu la kugonana.
ICONA zikutanthauza kuti ubale wanu ndi mnzanu ndi wochimwa komanso wolakwika.
INVALID - mukuvutika ndi zovuta, ndipo izi zimakulepheretsani kuti muzindikire ubale ndi anyamata.
ZINTHU ZONSE - mumagonana kwambiri. Mukuyesera nthawi zonse, koma mwanjira iliyonse simungapeze zomwe mumakonda.
WINDOW - nthawi zambiri mumatseka kwa mnzanuyo, mutenge nokha, ngati chinachake chitasintha mosiyana ndi momwe mumafunira.