Mbadwo uliwonse ukung'ung'udza kuti, iwo amati, wachinyamata lero anapita "osati mmodzi", amavala ndi kumachita "si choncho" ndipo kuti mwachiwiri "zinali bwino kale". Komabe, wachinyamata wamakono ali ndi vuto lalikulu kwambiri, kudzichepetsa, kapena kukana kukula. Izi zimazindikiridwa osati makolo okha, aphunzitsi ndi a psychologists. Azimayi samakhutira ndi amuna osakwatiwa, ndi akazi omwe ali ndi akazi omwe ali ndi zaka zambiri ... Ndipo siziri zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa thupi - kutaya mtima chifukwa cha kusowa kwa oxygen panthawi ya kubala, matenda osokoneza bongo komanso mavuto ena azachuma - komanso za matenda a maganizo. Ndipo ngakhale ziribe kanthu kobadwa ndi majeremusi ndi congenital palibe, ndi makolo omwe "amapereka" olandira cholowa cha mtundu umenewu ndi cholakwika, infantilism - kusafuna kwa munthu kukula.
Pali mawu akuti "ayenera"
Zizindikiro za "matenda" - infantilism, aliyense akudziwa bwino - kusakhazikika, kusowa ufulu, kusakhumba kugwira ntchito ndi kutenga udindo. Kuwonjezera apo, kudziletsa, kusasamala, zofuna zapamwamba komanso kusinthasintha kwachidule - mwachidule, chirichonse chomwe chiri chodziwika kwa ana ang'onoang'ono. "Khalani osasamala komanso opanda nzeru!" - Sang m'nyanjayi yotchuka yotchedwa Tortilla. Koma ndi chinthu chimodzi chokha kukhala "wosasamala komanso wosasamala" ali ndi zaka 7, ndipo ndipadera - pa 17 kapena ngakhale 37 ... Tsoka, mpaka zaka 10-12 kuti muzindikire kuti woloŵa nyumba zizindikiro za kusamvetsetsa sizingatheke, chifukwa ana onse aang'ono ndi osewera, ndipo amadana ndi mawu oti "ayenera". Pambuyo pake, ali ndi zaka 13 mpaka 14, lingalirolo liyenera kusintha mosavuta - mwachindunji kuti akule, pamene mwanayo sadziwa kuchita zomwe akufuna komanso zomwe akufuna, komanso zomwe akufunikira. Mwachitsanzo, chotsani zisudzo mu chipinda, mutenge mchimwene wamng'ono kuchokera ku sukulu ya kindergarten, kapena kudwala kwa maola ambiri pa fizikiki yodedwayo. Mwana wamkuluyo, amakhala ndi maudindo omwe ali nawo, udindo wake womwe ayenera kupirira.
Koma kwa ana ena kusuntha kwa chidziwitso pazifukwa zina sikuchitika, ndipo iwo akupitiriza kukhala ngati ana - komanso m'zaka zapitazo, ngakhale pambuyo pake. M'malo momvetsera mphunzitsi, amalankhula mokweza pa phunziro ndi mnzako, kujambulani m'mabuku olembera ndikulota ulendo wopita ku Africa. M'malo mopanga homuweki, kusewera kwa maola pa kompyuta kapena ... kugona ngati makanda! M'malo momuthandiza makolo mnyumba, amakhumudwa kuti sanawathandize ndipo sanagule chinthu cholonjezedwa kale. Mmalo mouza zoona za chifukwa chochedwa, iwo amabwera ndi zifukwa zapamwamba monga "Ndinayenda ndikugwa mu chiwongolero" kapena "Mphuno ya madzi yanga inayamba mwadzidzidzi m'mawa." Ndipo kotero.
Makolo ena amayamba kupeza zofuna zokhazokha komanso zogwira mtima, kenako amadabwa kuti: "Mnyamata ali ndi zaka 25, ndipo akukhalabe pamutu pa makolo ake!" Adzakhalanso, chifukwa kwa iye kuli bwino. Pambuyo pake, sagwiritsidwa ntchito kugwira ntchito, kuyankha chifukwa cha zolakwa zake ndi zolakwika. Izi, mwa njira, ndizoopsa zowonongeka. Anthu omwe amakhala osungulumwa sakhala okhutira ndi ntchito yabwino - pambuyo pake, kumafuna udindo waukulu. Ndipo amakhalanso ndi mantha akumva mwaufulu wawo wa ukwati wa Mendelssohn, akufuna kukhala ndi chikwati cha boma: ngati chili chonse, tidzabalalitsa, ndipo palibe amene adzakakamizidwa. Nthawi zambiri amasintha mabwenzi ndi anthu ogonana nawo, chifukwa nthawi zonse amakhumudwa. "Ankhanza" akukana kubereka ana: izi ndizovuta kwambiri! Pano pali galu - nkhani ina. Zoona, ngati mumayenda naye tsiku lililonse m'mawa ndi madzulo kudzakhala wina ...
Ndani ali pangozi?
Kodi chidziwitso cha ubongo chichokera kuti - kusafuna kwa munthu kuti akule? Pali lingaliro limene iye adakhala wathunthu chifukwa cha ... ubwino wochuluka mu chikhalidwe. Monga Boris Grebenshchikov akuimba kuti: "Ana a akuluakulu amatha kupenga chifukwa alibe chosowa." Achinyamata amakono amadya: kukhala ndi chirichonse kuchokera ku laptops kupita ku magalimoto, iwo sakufunanso kuyesetsa pa chirichonse. Kukangana kumatsimikizira, makamaka ngati tikuganiza kuti infantilism yakhala matenda a achinyamata, osati ku Ukraine kokha.
Komabe, mawu otsiriza akadali kwa makolo. Ngati akulimbikitsana ufulu wa mwana ndi ufulu wake, anawo sangawonekere "kukhala omangika" muunyamata kwa nthawi yaitali. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, ana omwe amawanyalanyaza kwambiri, okondedwa ndi chikondi cha makolo, chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro, musakhalenso ndi chala chala. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani akuluakulu ali ndi chakudya cha supuni, bedi lidzawongolera, nsapato ziyeretsedwe, zovala zimatulutsidwa, ndi kupita nawo kusukulu kunyamula thumba lonse la raznosolov?
Ngati amayi ndi abambo sakuleka kuganizira ndikusiya kusamalira mwana monga wodwalayo, akudziwitsimikizira kuti ali ndi "maganizo opatsirana maganizo". Makamaka ngati ziri ...
Kamwana, mwana woyembekezera kwa nthawi yaitali. Makolo akhala akulota za maonekedwe ake kwa zaka zochuluka kwambiri moti ali okonzeka kuchita chilichonse kwa "chick" wokondedwa wawo, ngakhale kuti "mwana wa" mwanayo wakhala akuvekedwa.
Mwana wamng'ono mu banja lalikulu. Nthawi zambiri amatha kusungunuka, kusamala mosamala, nthawi zambiri amalanga. Kwa iye, monga lamulo, nannies si amayi okha ndi abambo, komanso abale ndi alongo achikulire.
Anyamata amene nthawi zambiri amadwala kuyambira ali ana. Makolo, owopsedwa ndi matenda awo osatha, yesetsani kuteteza oloŵa nyumba osati kokha kuchokera ku zojambulajambula, komanso kuchokera kuzing'onong'ono zochepa: "Musasese pansi, koma mwadzidzidzi mudzakhala ndi zovuta zowonjezera fumbi?"
Olowa nyumba, omwe amagwira ntchito m'miyoyo ya anthu. Makolo akhama, olimbikitsa, okhutira nthawi zina amatenga anawo ndi kufunikira kwawo ndi kupambana kwawo: "Ndawerenga m'mayambiriro anu masiku a Shakespeare ndi Dickens, ndipo simungathe kugwirizanitsa mawu awiri mu Chingerezi!" Kukhulupirira kuti sangathe kufika pamtunda woterewu, mwanayo amatha kupita patsogolo pa moyo wake wonse, amakhala wamantha komanso wosadziletsa, kuyang'ana pozungulira amayi onse ndi abambo amphamvu.
Palibenso chinthu china choopsa kwambiri , pamene makolo olemera amawasamba ana awo mwaukhondo: "Kodi mukusamba mbale? Nanga bwanji woyang'anira nyumba?" Panyumbayi, nyumbayi ili ndi dishwasher. " Choncho, akuluakulu amalimbikitsira ana aakazi ndi ana kukhala osakhutira kugwira ntchito. Koma ngakhale Rockefeller, mwamuna yemwe ali wosauka kwambiri, amakhala wolowa nyumba yake m'magulu a mittens, akuwapatsa ndalama zokhudzana ndi ntchitoyo. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, kuwongolera kwa pensulo kumagula masenti khumi, ora la maphunziro a nyimbo - asanu, chifukwa namsongole khumi anatulutsidwa m'munda wamsongole mwanayo amayenera kukhala ndi dola imodzi, ndi nkhuni zokhazikika - masenti khumi ndi asanu. Ngakhalenso njinga, ndipo imodzi inali ya ana a Rockefeller mmodzi mwa anayi: bamboyo amakhulupirira kuti motero ana adzaphunzira kugawana wina ndi mnzake.
Muloleni iye apite ku msonkhano!
Kodi mukuwopa kuti mwana wanu ali ndi mwayi uliwonse wokhala ndi mwana wodula komanso wosasamala? Ndiye mutenge mwamsanga kuti mumuchotse iye mu mathithi awa! Komanso, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, ndi chidziwitso chosasinthasintha cha kudzichepetsa - kusakhutira kwa munthu kukula, zowonongeka nthawi zambiri zimapindulitsa - maphunziro a ntchito yothandizira, yofunikira, komanso yofunika kwambiri, ntchito zothandizira - ndipo mwanayo akukula pamaso pathu! Koma makamaka m'milandu yanyalanyaza popanda wothandizira sangathe kuchita, chifukwa kupatulapo zokambirana zopulumutsa moyo, mungafunike mankhwala.
Choyamba ife tikukupemphani kuti mugwiritse ntchito malingaliro a akatswiri a maganizo.
Limbikitsani mwanayo kuti azidziimira yekha. Ngati adasankha koyamba kuti apange pasitala (yomwe adasandutsa phala), musanyoze katswiri wodziwa zophikira. Komanso - mwa njira zonse zotamanda! Ndipo osati kokha kokha, koma ndi chakudya chokonzekera. Ndipo pakati pa milandu ikundiuza kuti nthawi yotsatira pasitala idzakhala yokoma kwambiri, ngati nthawi zina idzasokoneza.
Musagwirizane ndi wolowa nyumba: kulankhula zambiri ndi iye, yesetsani kusunga zochitika zake zonse. Konzani maholide a banja, nthawi zambiri muzipuma ndi banja lonse. Ana amasiye ali osowa mosavuta ndipo amatha kugwidwa ndi makampani oipa ndi zotsatira zake zonse ...
Ganizirani za mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe mwana wanu angathe kuchita. Zidzamukhumudwitsa, zimupulumutse ku zosafunikira, zim'phunzitse momwe angakonzekere tsiku lake ndikukhala ndi maudindo enaake. Tiyerekeze kuti wophunzira wapamwamba wa sekondale amatha kutsuka tayi ya tcha tsiku lililonse, kuyeretsa chipinda chake ndikupita ku sitolo kuti adye chakudya. Perekani malangizo kwa mwanayo, akhale osasinthasintha komanso akulimbikira. Ngati munati: "Kuyeretsa kamba - ntchito yanu ya tsiku ndi tsiku," musakhale aulesi madzulo kuti muwone ngati wolowa nyumbayo akukumbukira. Mukuiwala? Onetsetsani kukumbutsani! Ngati mwanayo akuphunzira kuti ali ndi udindo pazinthu zing'onozing'ono, pakapita nthawi, ngakhale akuluakulu adzachita moona mtima komanso mwachangu.
Ana amasiye ndi odzikonda okhaokha. Kumbukirani izi! Ntchito yanu - kuwatsogolera zofuna za ana mu ulendo wamtendere. Mwana akulota ulendo wopita ku mayiko ena? Lembani mu gawo la zokopa alendo. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti njirayi idzagona pafupi ndi nkhalango ya steppe, osati ku chipululu cha Sahara, koma alendowa adzabweretsa wolotayo kuchokera kumwamba padziko lapansi. Pambuyo pake, mmenemo adzaphunzira momwe angamangire moto, kukonzekera chakudya, kuyenda nyenyezi. Uku ndikokonzekera kwazitali zenizeni!
Mwana wa Amayi ndi woopsa!
Amuna, omwe mayi wa moyo sanafune kumwa - anatenga dzanja lake, anamuteteza kwa "abwenzi" oipa, amalepheretsa mikangano ya ana, amakula monga ana aamuna ndi ... amuna opanda pake. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti kupembedza kwakukulu kwa amayi kumabweretsa mfundo yakuti munthu amakula kudzikonda, ndikukhulupirira kuti chilichonse chomwe chili m'dziko lapansi ndi cha iye yekha. Iye sakonda kutenga ntchito zosafunika - pambuyo pake zonsezi zinachitidwa ndi amayi ake, ndipo tsopano, malinga ndi lingaliro lake, chirichonse chiyenera kuchitidwa ndi mkazi. Amuna osakwatiwa amakhala ngati ana: amafuna kuti azisonkhanitsidwa kuntchito, kuphika chakudya cham'mawa, ngakhale wokondedwayo sanagone usiku wonse kapena ali pabedi ndi kutentha kwakukulu. Pamene khanda limalowa m'banja, mikangano imalephera, chifukwa "kusamvetsetsa kumeneku" kumachotsa chidwi cha mkazi wokondedwayo! Vuto ndilokuti amuna oterewa amakhala okongola kwambiri, chifukwa amakhala okondana kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, amatha kuponya maluwa okwana miliyoni imodzi pamapazi awo. Zoona, ndalama za maluwa zikhoza kutengedwa kuchokera kwa makolo ...
Mwana wamphongo ndi wosavuta kupewa kusiyana ndi kuchiza. Onani ngati ana ...
- Iye sanyamulidwa ndi chilichonse kapena zofuna zake zikusintha nthawi zonse;
- zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa kwa iye ndi zofunika kwambiri kuposa kuphunzira;
- nthawi zonse amatsutsa chifukwa chake, akudzudzula ena:
- Nthawi zonse funsani maganizo a akulu, ngakhale pa nkhani zosafunika kwenikweni;
- amavutika ndi kusokonezeka maganizo; Kudzudzula kuseka kumafika pakulira;
- osati досоживает mpaka mapeto a phunziro, sichimaika chidwi.