Ganizirani maubwenzi oterewa pamene pali kukhulupirirana ndi kumvetsetsa pakati pa okondedwa. Iwo ali bwino komanso omasuka palimodzi. Iwo akhala ndi nthawi yokwanira pamodzi ndipo adakumana ndi mavuto ambiri, pokana nawo ndi ulemu ndi palimodzi. Iwo ali pafupi kwambiri wina ndi mzake, nthawizonse pali chinachake chokambirana. Pa nthawi yomweyi, ubale wawo susiya chiyanjano ndi chisangalalo kwa kugonana, iwo amakopeka wina ndi mzake. Zingathe kutsutsidwa kuti chikondi chimakhalabebe mu ubale wawo, komanso chikondi.
Ubale wawo ulibe zopanda pake zopanda pake chifukwa cha nsanje kapena kusamvetsetsa. Iwo anakhala achibale ndi anthu apamtima, kuti nthawizina ngakhale mawu sakufunika kuti amvetse zomwe gawo lina likufuna.
Ubale wabwino ndi wodzaza ndi makhalidwe omwewo. Koma, ngakhale pansi pa zochitika zotere, nthawi zambiri mumakhala kukayikira, koma kodi si chikondi? Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa chikondi ndi chikondi? Momwe mungamve ndi kumvetsetsa pamene chikondi chimasanduka chikondi.
Pamene chiyanjano chanu sichingatchedwe chikondi, koma mukhoza kutcha chizoloŵezi. Mumakhala pamodzi ndi mnzanu palimodzi, koma panthawi imodzimodzi, kukhala pamodzi sikubweretsa chimwemwe ndi mantha m'moyo. Koma, lingaliro loti mugawanitse ndikuyamba moyo mwatsopano sichikuwuka ngakhale mmutu mwanu. Kupatukana ndi chinthu chimene inu nonse simukuganizira.
Chikondi chingafotokozedwe motere: zipolopolo zanu zili pafupi, koma miyoyo yanu, kwenikweni, igawa makilomita zikwi mazana ambiri.
Ubale umene mulibe chikondi komanso umene umakhala wofanana ndi chikondi, ukhoza kufotokozedwa monga: "Monga sutikesi yopanda chogwirira ntchito - ndi zovuta kupirira, koma ndizomvetsa chisoni."
Chifukwa chiyanjano chimakhala chikondi? Nthawi yochulukirapo yatha, maubwenzi akulepheretsa mavuto, banjali limagwiritsidwa ntchito wina ndi mzake kotero kuti atha kuyang'ana kukhalapo kwa wokondedwa. Koma, panthawi imodzimodziyo, ngakhale kuti ubale umenewu sungagwirizane ndi onse okwatirana, saganiza ngakhale pang'ono kupatukana. Aliyense wa iwo amaopa kusintha miyoyo yawo, kusakhutira kutaya mphamvu zawo ndi nthawi yomanga maubwenzi atsopano.
Amadziwononga okha mwayi wawo wokhala osangalala komanso okondedwa.
Maubwenzi omangidwa pa chikondi, amatanthauza chikhumbo cha okwatirana kuti apatsane chimwemwe ndi chitonthozo. Anthu okondana wina ndi mzake amakondana wina ndi mnzake; iwo ali okondwa chifukwa iwo ali palimodzi; pakati pawo pali kugwirizana ndi kumvetsetsa. Muzovuta, munthu wachikondi nthawi zonse amapulumutsa ndi kumuthandiza wokondedwa, chifukwa sasamala za moyo ndi tsogolo la theka lachiwiri.
Chikondi ndi chikondi ndizosiyana kwambiri. Mulimonsemo n'zotheka kuika chizindikiro chofanana pakati pawo. Chikondi - ndi pamene munthu wachikondi alibe chidwi ndi kanthu kakang'ono m'moyo wa wokondedwa.
Chikondi ndi kusayanjanitsa ndi zochita zodzichepetsera poyenderana ndi mnzanuyo.
Chikondi chenicheni chimakhala kwamuyaya. Mu izi tiyenera kukhulupirira. Ngati mwapeza chikondi chenichenicho, chomwe moyo wanu wonse umakondweretsa, ndiye chitetezeni ndi chitetezo chake ndipo sichidzasanduka chikondi.
Koma ngati maubwenzi anu, omwe kale adabweretsa chimwemwe ndi zosangalatsa, asandulika chikondi ndipo simudziwa choti muchite. Timalangiza, tawonani moyo wanu ndikuwonanso ubale wanu ndi mnzanu. Yesetsani kuyang'ana mu moyo wanu ndi kumvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna: kukhala okondwa ndi okondedwa, kapena kukumana ndi moyo wanu wonse kuti musayambe chikondi, chomwe chiri chovuta kusiya?
Mukamvetsa ndikupeza mayankho a mafunso onse, ndiye kuti mutha kuchitapo kanthu. Ngati ndinu munthu wamphamvu ndi wodalirika - ponyani zonse ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo.