Amanena kuti ife, atsikana achichepere, timakhala achisoni ndipo timakondana kuti pamene tikukumana ndi mpikisano kapena zovuta, timakonzekera kukamba bwenzi lathu lapamtima, ndikutembenuza ubwenzi wamuyaya kukhala udani wongodzikonda. Ndikofunika kudziwa momwe zolankhulirana zotere zimachokera, zomwe zili zoona mwa iwo, ndi zabodza. Kotero, nthano zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi chachikazi.
Zoonadi mumadera anu muli amayi oposa khumi ndi awiri omwe ali mabwenzi ochokera ku sukulu, mosasamala kanthu za kutalika, kusintha zosangalatsa ndi maonekedwe a banja. Ndiye vuto ndi chiyani?
Akazife timakhala okhudzidwa kwambiri komanso omasuka kuposa amuna. Chifukwa chake, nthawi zina timakhala ndi chidziwitso chodziwika nthawi yomwe timayambira, komanso kuti "kubwereza" - ndi okonzeka kuthandiza. Koma vuto likadzathetsedwa - abwenzi a dzulo akugawana. Chifukwa chiyani? Inde, chifukwa iwo sanali abwenzi. Iwo amangokhalirana kuthandizana pa nthawi yovuta.
Nthano yachiwiri yokhudza ubale wa chikazi inapangidwa ndi anthu. Mwamuna akamagawana ndi munthu wina, ndi bwino kuti athandizidwe moyenera, zoposa zonse. Mwa lingaliro lawo, bwenzi sayenera kuyankhula, koma ziri kwa iye. Ife, akazi, tiri ndi chidwi chosiyana. Ife sitikusowa chithandizo chamumtima: ameneyo anali, kwa yemwe tinganene, kulira, ndi yemwe pamodzi poahat-poahat. Tidzachita izi mtsogolo, titalandira umboni wotsimikizira kuti zonse zili bwino.
Kuyambira tili mwana tinayesedwa ndi ana ena oyandikana nawo, anzathu akusukulu, anzathu a m'kalasi, omwe amachitira mpikisano nthawi zonse ndikuyang'ana mmbuyo kwa ena. Ikani mdani wopambana kwambiri "m'malo", ifenso nthawi zambiri timayesa njira yosavuta - tisonyeze zolephera zake. Chotsatira chake, ife, tikukula, timalingalira kuti chiyanjano chimenechi ndi chachilendo. Kotero timayankhula tsiku ndi tsiku, ndikuyang'ana malo achitetezo. Ubwenzi wokhawo ulibe chiyanjano ndi ubwenzi.
Kodi mumamva kangati kuti: "Ndiwe mtsikana wanji ngati iwe usapite nane ku maphunziro a ikebana"! Zimamveka kuti muyenera kukhala ndi zolaula zofanana, pokhapokha palibe chifukwa chokhala anzanu! Ndipo ngati palibe amene akukaikira za kufunikira kokhala ndi zofanana, ndiye kuti malingaliro olakwika onena kuti dziko lonse liyenera kugawidwa ndi bwenzi nthawi zonse ndilo limodzi la zoopsa kwambiri. Tonsefe ndife osiyana ndipo timalankhula momasuka kwambiri osati podziganizira zathu, koma ndi munthu wina yemwe ali ndi malingaliro ake, zikhulupiliro, zokondweretsa.
"Zenizeni" za ubale zimangowonongeka ndi momwe anthu awiri aliri omasuka mu izo, kukhala okha, komanso osasinthidwa. Tsoka ilo, izi ndi zoona. Maganizo athu nthawi zambiri amaposa nzeru, ndipo chifukwa cha mawu ofiira timatha "kugulitsa" chibwenzi. Ndipo popanda cholinga chilichonse choipa, koma chifukwa chakuti sitikuganiza kuti mfundo zomwe timapereka kwa munthu wina zingakhumudwitse, kukhumudwitsa kapena kuchikhumudwitsa. Chifukwa chachiwiri cha khalidweli ndi chikhumbo chokwaniritsa ubwenzi wapamtima mu chiyanjano cha akaunti ya wina. Monga, inu mukuwona, ku ungwiro wotani umene ine ndabwera kwa inu, ine ndavumbulutsa zinsinsi zonse. Koma izi sizinali zobisika zanu ... Kuti musakhale wokhudzidwa ndi wogawana miseche, samverani kuti ndi ndani ndi zinsinsi zomwe mumakhulupirira.
Kuyankhulana ndi amayi pafupipafupi kumapereka chisangalalo kwa anthu onse, mosasamala za chikhalidwe. Ndipo zimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale wosungulumwa - kutanthauza kuti, ngati munthu ali ndi abwenzi ndi amayi, amachepera. Zoonadi, sizokhudzana ndi kugonana, koma za kuyankhulana. Kuyankhulana ndi amayi ndi mtundu wa "elixir", umene "umayimba" ndi mphamvu zake anthu ambiri.