Zonse zimaphunzitsidwa poyerekeza?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amati kudziyerekezera nokha ndi ena ndi khalidwe la umunthu. Choncho, sizingatheke kuti zisawonongekenso. Ngakhale poyenera kuyenera kuzindikila kuti anthu ena amatenga njirayi, ena amachepera. Popeza kuti kawirikawiri sayerekezera zimenezi, akatswiri amalangiza amayi kuti asiye mwambo umenewu. Zili choncho kuti iye satibweretsera china koma kupweteka.
Kuli koyenera kukumbukira ubwana wanu wokongola ndi wokongola, kumvetsa: chiyambi cha chisokonezo chathu lero chikugona ndendende. Kuyambira pa sukulu ya sukulu, kenako ku sukulu, tinaphunzitsidwa nthawi zonse kuti tipikisane, kuyamikira kupambana kwathu ndi ana a anthu ena. Chowonadi n'chakuti makolo ambiri angafune kuti ana awo akhale "ambiri". Ndipo achikulire nthawi zambiri sakhala ndi chidwi chodziwa zambiri zomwe mwana wawo amaphunzira kusukulu. Kwa iwo, chinthu chofunikira ndi chimodzi chokha - kuti mwanayo amamuona kukhala wophunzira woyamba m'kalasi. Ndipo bwino - komanso kusukulu yonse. Koma mwa njira iyi, amayi ndi abambo amaphunzitsa ana awo kuti azifanizira mosalekeza zomwe apindula ndi za ena. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, kukhala m'dziko lachidziwitso, osati zenizeni. Ndibwino kuti, ngati mwana wotereyo, akamakula, sichimasintha. Koma ndi akazi angati okalamba omwe amavutika kwambiri ndi izo!
Palinso chifukwa china chimene chimatiloleza kunena kuti pazimenezi akazi amadziimba mlandu. Pamene odwala amakono a psychologist anali atsikana ang'onoang'ono, nthawi zambiri ankalera kotero kuti nthawi zonse ankakayikira luso lawo ndi luso lawo. Ndipo mulimonsemo simungadzimvere nokha. Makolo amakhulupirira kuti izi zidzawapulumutsa kukhumudwitsidwa m'tsogolomu. Ndipo izo zikutanthauza kuti chirichonse chiri chimodzimodzi mosiyana! Amapitiriza kufufuza zomwe angathe kuti "troyka", ndipo anthu ena amaona kuti ndizodabwitsa. Ndipo izi, ndithudi, siziwonjezera ku chimwemwe chawo. Inde, ndi kumene angapeze izo, ngati zikhazikitsidwa kokha pa zomwe sapeza. Ndipo panthawi yomweyo amaiwala za kupambana kwawo, komwe kudzapezeka nthawi zonse mwa ife.
Azimayi akutembenukira kwa akatswiri a maganizo, omwe moyo wawo umakhala wosasunthika pang'onopang'ono. Pamene abwenzi awo aakazi amachita zabwino, kaya ndi thukuta lopotoka kapena chiphunzitso cha Ph.D., iwo amabwera m'maganizo ndi lingaliro limodzi lomwe limawapangitsa iwo kuchisoni. Awa ndi lingaliro lakuti iwowo sangathe konse. Ngakhale zili zofala kuti akazi oterewa azidandaula za chinachake, palibe: banja lolimba, moyo wotetezeka, mutu wowala. Zikuwoneka kuti mukufunabe kukhala osangalala? Koma ayi, samakumbukira ngakhale. Ndipo amadzimva kuti ndi amtengo wapatali, omwe mungathe kupenga. Mwa njira, nkotheka kuti wina akubwera kwenikweni.
Kawirikawiri, makolo amapanga zolakwika zina mu maphunziro, chifukwa ana awo amakakamizika kuti akhulupirire okha zosungulumwa zawo. Ambiri mwa inu mumakumbukira momwe amai anu - m'malemba omveka kapena mwachinsinsi - akulowetsani mwa inu, atsikana omwe ali achinyamata, kuti moyo umaonedwa kuti ndi wopambana kokha. Zomwe, ngati zakhala zikugwirizana molingana ndi dongosolo linalake. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wolemera ndi wosamala, ana angapo ozindikira komanso ntchito yabwino. Choncho akazi ochokera msinkhu amaphunzitsidwa pazomwe amagwiritsa ntchito kuti ayesetse kumapiri. Ndipo pamene akukhalabe padziko lapansi, ndizomwe amalephera kuchita. Koma popeza sikuti onse ali okhoza kufanana, nchifukwa ninji n'zosadabwitsa kuti amayi okongola zikwi zambiri amadziona okha otayika!
Kawirikawiri anthu ena amawoneka ngati ife poyerekeza ndi iwo okha apambana chifukwa chakuti mwachikhumbo amafuna kutitsimikizira za izi. Ndipo iwo ali, monga lamulo, abwino kwambiri. Kuti mudziyese nokha, mnzanuyo akhoza kuwonjezera zowonjezereka zomwe wapindula. Adzayesa kuyang'ana maso anu mosangalala kuposa momwe zilili. Ndipo musamuimbe mlandu chifukwa cha izi. Pambuyo pake, akazi ambiri, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, amachita mozindikira kwambiri, ndiko kuti, osati cholinga. Ndipo zonse chifukwa chilakolako cha kudzigonjera mwabwino chimayikidwa mu chilengedwe. Kuonjezera apo, zimakhudzidwa ndi lamulo loletsa kulera amayi kuti atulutse nyumbayo.
Mmodzi wodwala wodwala anabwera kwa katswiri wodziwa bwino maganizo ndipo ananena kuti mu ntchito yake sakanalinso: anachiritsidwa mwangozi. Muzochitika zamaganizo zammbuyo, mayi yemwe ali ndi nkhope yosautsika ya nkhope yake adadandaula kuti chifukwa cha chimfine cha mwana wake wamwamuna wamng'ono, amayenera kuchoka ntchito ndipo moyo wake unawoneka kuti walephera. Ndipo pa nthawi yomweyi adagwidwa ndi nsanje yakuda pamene anali kuyang'ana banja la wokondwa yemwe adangobwerera kwawo. Mayi wokonzekera bwino, mayi wokondwa, bambo wolemekezeka, mwana wamkazi wokondwa ndi wolemekezeka ... Onsewa amawoneka osasangalatsa kwambiri moti amachotsa mwadzidzidzi mtendere wawo ndi chimwemwe chawo. Koma adadabwa bwanji, pamene adachokera ku dokotala wa ana aakazi mwangozi kuti mu banja losangalala ali ndi mwana wamng'ono yemwe ali ndi matenda osachiritsika. Ndipo mkaziyo nthawi yomweyo anachita manyazi ndi iye, kawirikawiri, moyo wopambana.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziwa chifukwa china chimene ambirife timayesera kudziyerekezera ndi ife eni ndi ena, kuyerekeza zomwe tapindula ndi ena. Pansi pansi kudzidalira kwa munthu kumagwa, chofunika kwambiri kudziyerekezera ndi wina. Ndipo ndizowonjezereka kuti adzakondweretsa miyoyo ya ena. Pali vuto lodziwika bwino: ngakhale kuti munthuyu sangadziwe momwe angayesere mphamvu zake, komabe amawoneka chifukwa chake kuti amatha kuyesa mozama zomwe angakwanitse.
Moyo wochuluka wopanda mabwenzi ndi mabwenzi amadziwika nthawi yomwe moyo wathu sukhala bwino. Kotero, wodwala wina anapereka chitsanzo chodziwikiratu: ndikumangodwala ndi mwana wake wamng'ono, pomwe iye amayamba kuwona kuti ana a mabwenzi ake akungodzikuza ndi thanzi. Ndipo ngati wamkulu kwambiri amapeza awiri kusukulu kuti asamalire, ndiye kuti nkhani za mnzakeyo zothandizira mwana wake pamaphunziro a masamu zimatengedwa ngati thumba la mchere pa bala.
Musataye mtima!
Mukakhala kuti munamvapo malingaliro omwe atchulidwapo, yambani kuyamba kudzigwira nokha kuti muwachotse. Izi zidzakhala zophweka kwa inu, mwamsanga mutamvetsetsa momwe zinthu zilili. Ndipo ndikofunikira kuchotsa, chifukwa kudziyerekezera ndi ena kungapangitse kukhumudwa, kukhala ndi nkhaŵa nthawi zonse, kumverera kwachisangalalo chosadziwika. Ndipo apo_kuponyedwa kwa mwala ndi kusintha kwa organic mu thanzi. Kumeneko, kuti tipeze mphamvu kuti tichite ntchito zabwino!
Ngati mwangokhalira kukondwera ndi inu nokha ndipo mutangotha kukomana ndi munthu wina mwadzidzidzi mudasokonezeka ndipo munayamba kukayikira muyeso lanu lapitokha, dzikumbutseni nthawi zonse momwe mungathere: inu nokha munasankha njira yeniyeni ya moyo ndi ufulu wanu wosankha. Kotero, izo zimagwirizana ndi zofuna zanu ndi khalidwe lanu. Ndipo simukudziwa momwe mudzamverere mu nsapato za wina.
Palinso mfundo imodzi yofunika kwambiri yomwe simungakhoze kuiikira ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi mtendere wa m'maganizo komanso mogwirizana ndi inu nokha. Dziwani kuti palibe munthu wotere amene anabadwa ali ndi mwayi muzonse. Ndipo ngakhale mutayankhula ndi bwenzi lanu lapamtima, kumbukirani: amakuuzani za zomwe akuganiza kuti muyenera kuzidziwa. Ndipo osati mawu ochuluka! Ndipo pakalipano, mumayesa moyo wa bwenzi pazithunzi zabwino kwambiri zomwe adajambula, ndipo mumakhulupirira kuti chilichonse chiridi chomwecho. Kwa inu izo zidzakhala zothandiza kwambiri, mutamvetsera nkhani ya kupambana kwake kokongola, kugawa chirichonse ndi 10.
Musaiwale kuti moyo uliwonse, kuphatikizapo wanu, ndi mndandanda wa zowonjezera. Ndipo ngati inu simukukhala nthawi yosangalatsa kwambiri ya moyo, ndipo mtsikanayo, mosiyana, zonse ziri mu dongosolo, ndi izi zolakwika zomwe zimapangitsa kudzimva kukhala wopanda pake. Koma kumbukirani mfundo imodzi yosatsutsika. Kuti patapita kanthawi, muzitha kusinthana malo ndi izo. Ndiyeno iye, poyerekeza moyo wake ndi wanu, adzamva kumverera kwathunthu kugwa.
Pamene iwe, mu lingaliro lako, chinachake sichikuyenda bwino, gafuzani mozama mkhalidwewu. Fufuzani zinthu zabwino mmenemo ndipo ganizirani za iwo okha. Pamapeto pake, kudandaula za moyo wa munthu pafupi ndi inu. Pofuna kukulimbikitsani, iye mwiniyo adzakusonyezani ubwino wodziwika wa kukhala kwanu. Ndipo pa nthawi yomweyo ndikukondwera ndi chifukwa cha bwenzi, yemwe ali bwino tsopano. Munthu aliyense wabwino amakhala omasuka pamene anthu oyandikana naye ali okhutira ndi moyo wawo - samalira, samadandaula. Pambuyo pake, kulankhula ndi anthu omwe akusangalala kumatanthauza kupeza mlingo wathanzi wa chiyembekezo.
Musataye mtima chotsatira. N'zotheka kuti bwenzi lanu, ngati inu, likufanizira moyo wake ndi wanu. Mwinamwake iye, nayenso, akuganiza kuti ndiwe munthu wopambana ndi wotheka. Kodi ndikofunika kuti ndidziwe izi poyerekezera ndi ine ndi ena?