Mmodzi mwa iwo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi makolo ake, pafupifupi popanda kumvetsa kusiyana kwa magawo awiri a moyo wake: asanakwatirane kapena atakwatirana. Wina, yemwe anadza kwa banja latsopano, akukumana ndi zovuta zambiri, komanso kusokonezeka maganizo.
Sizomwe zimachitika pazifukwa zotere pakati pa mpongozi ndi apongozi ake, apongozi awo ndi apongozi awo. Komabe, simukusowa kupita patsogolo, tiyeni tiyese kupeza zomwe phindu lalikulu ndikukhala pamodzi ndi makolo, ndizo ziti zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano, zomwe tingachite kuti tithe kuzigonjetsa, komanso momwe tingakhalire pamodzi ndi makolo. Nkhaniyi idzakhala yopindulitsa kwa okwatirana okha, komanso kwa makolo awo omwe akufuna kuti moyo wa ana awo ukhale wosangalatsa komanso wosavuta.
Ubwino ndi ubwino waukulu wokhala pamodzi ndi makolo.
Ngakhale zachilendo zingamveke, kuphunzitsa kumanena kuti zamoyo zinazake ndi makolo zimakhala zabwino komanso zolakwika pazitukuko zogonana. Tiyeni tsopano tikambirane mfundo zazikulu, komanso zifukwa zomwe zimagwirizana ndi iwo.
- Kukhala ndi makolo awo, banjali limakhala limodzi kapena kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi. Makolo a mmodzi mwa okwatirana, mwachibadwa, akupitiriza kuthandiza mwana wawo (kapena mwana). Anthu okwatirana kumene safunikira kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama pochita lendi nyumba yosiyana, kukongoletsa zinthu, kugula zipangizo zam'nyumba. Izi zimapereka mpata wapadera wosonkhanitsa ndalama zambiri za nyumba, tchuthi, ndi zosangalatsa zina. Koma mkhalidwe woterewu udzangowonjezera kudalira kwenikweni kwa banja lopangidwa ndi chilungamo, kusadziteteza kwathunthu muzinthu zosiyanasiyana za kukonza bajeti yawo.
- Moyo wamba wa mabanja awiri osiyana ukhoza kutsimikizira kuti muthandizana komanso kuthandizana pazovuta zambiri ndi zovuta zomwe zikuphatikizapo maphunziro a ana, kusunga nyumba, kuthetsa mavuto a m'banja. Inde, anthu ambiri sangakane kugawira ena mavuto awo. Kukhudzidwa, kukhudzidwa, kuzinthu za anthu ena kungalimbikitse ubale wa mabanja onse. Komabe, sizinthu zopanda pake kuti mawu akuti "amayi awiri osiyana mu khitchini imodzi sangagwirizanane" sizachabechabe. Mlamu wake sangafune konse, monga apongozi ake akuyamwitsa ndi mwana wake wokondedwa, apongozi ake sakhutitsidwa ndi TV yomwe yasinthidwa ndi mpongozi wake - ndipo lingaliro lothandizira silikuwonetseratu!
- Makolo, monga kale achikulire ndi anthu odziwa bwino angathe kuthandiza omwe angokwatirana kumene ndi uphungu wanzeru komanso wogwira mtima, mwamsanga ndikufulumira ndikuwatumizira ku "njira" yoyenera. Zingakhale zabwino ngati banja lina likufunikiradi malangizo abwino kuchokera kwa makolo awo komanso pamene akufotokozedwa mwa mawonekedwe abwino komanso osagwirizana. Kusiyanasiyana kwathunthu kungayambidwe ndi ndondomeko, yomwe inaperekedwa mwadongosolo. Malangizo ambiri omwe atembenuzidwa kukhala othandizira, nthawi, zomwe, komanso momwe angachitire, banjali limakonda kukana, ndipo mwinamwake - kungonyalanyaza iwo ndikuchita njira zawo.
- Chitsanzo chabwino cha maubwenzi abwino ndi abwino omwe makolo angakhale nawo angakhale othandiza komanso chofunikira kwa okwatirana. Ziri bwino, ngati makolo ali ndi banja lolimba komanso lokondweretsa, lomwe limaperekedwa pa kulemekezana komanso kumvetsetsa. Popanda kutha, makolo omwe amatsutsana, omwe maukwati awo akuphwanyidwa, amatha kuika chiwonetsero chosasangalatsa pa ubale watsopano m'banja.
- Chisamaliro cha makolo ndi chisamaliro. Makolo ena omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kusamalira mwana wawo wokondedwa amachotsedwa chizolowezi pansi pa mapiko ndi moyo wake. Kusamala kwambiri poyamba kumatha kusangalatsanso ana akuluakulu, koma pakapita nthawi adzawapondereza kwambiri. Kuonjezerapo, njira yomweyi idzakhala yopanda chidziwitso pakati pa achinyamata okwatirana, kuphatikizapo kuthekera kupanga zisankho zokhazikika komanso kusaganizira kwathunthu.
- Kuyankhulana momasuka ndi makolo pa maholide ndi panthawi yopumula kudzabweretsa chisangalalo chosangalatsa pamtendere umodzi wa zofuna, kupezeka kwa nkhani zofunikira ndi zochititsa chidwi kumbali zonse. Kulephera kukhazikitsa kuyankhulana, kusiyana kwa kulankhulana kumangopangitsa mavuto ena atsopano komanso kuwonjezera vutoli.
Zifukwa zikuluzikulu zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano.
Banja lachichepere limakhala ndi makolo awo ndilovuta, kotero mosakayikira padzakhala mikangano yosiyanasiyana, yomwe iyenera kuganizidwa palimodzi. Zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano ndi makolo zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri. Komabe, monga lamulo, iwo amagwirizana nthawi zambiri kokha ngati maonekedwe a "mlendo" kapena membala watsopano m'banja. Tsopano tiyeni tikambirane mndandanda wa zifukwa izi, kutanthauza, padziko lonse lapansi.
- Kusakondana , kapena "Sindinkafuna mwamuna wotereyo kwa mwana wanga wokondedwa!" Maganizo olakwika kapena apongozi kwa apongozi awo kapena apongozi awo omwe analipo asanakwatirane ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimayambira mikangano pakati pa makolo ndi ana. Ikhoza kufotokozedwa ndi zifukwa zilizonse ndikukhala ndi maonekedwe osiyana: kuchokera kubisala mpaka kuntchito. Inde, mwamuna ndi mkazi okwatirana payekha adzamva kuponderezedwa maganizo, kusokonezeka maganizo. Kupititsa patsogolo kukhudzana ndi vutoli ndi kovuta, ndipo nthawi zina sizingatheke.
- Zovuta zapakhomo , kapena "Ndi liti pamene adzamasula chipinda chosambira?" N'zachidziwikire kuti pamene munthu watsopano m'banja adzauka, padzakhala mavuto mu moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. N'zosakayikitsa kuti makolo adzafunika kudzipereka ndikusiya makhalidwe ena omwe kale anali nawo. Chitsanzo choyambirira kwambiri: apongozi ake sadzakhalanso ndi mwayi wokhala kwa ola limodzi kapena awiri mu chimbudzi ndi nyuzipepala, chifukwa chakuti mpongozi wawo nthawi ino amapita kuntchito, ndipo nayenso, ndizofunika kukachezera malo "okondedwa". N'zoonekeratu kuti "kuzunzidwa" koteroko kumakwiyitsa abanja, ndipo izi ndi zomveka.
- Kusiyana kwakukulu mu msinkhu , kapena "Pano padzakhala moyo wa msinkhu wanga, ndiye udzawona." Funso losafa la abambo ndi ana, pamene oimira mibadwo yosiyana sangathe kupeza chinenero chimodzi. Ndipo ngakhale malingaliro a mwana wawo wokondedwa aphunzira kale kuti amvetsetse, kuvomereza ndi kumvetsera, ndiye membala watsopano m'banja adzakhala ovuta makamaka makamaka poyamba.
- Kusokonezeka m'maganizo , kapena "Koma banja lathu silidzachita zimenezi." Kawirikawiri, vuto lofanana ndilo limapangidwa ngati mabanja a achinyamata ali ndi chikhalidwe chosiyana ndi chidziwitso, ali oimira mitundu yosiyana, omvera zipembedzo zosiyana, amadalira zosiyana pa moyo wawo. Usiku wonse, sikungatheke kukweza "kunja" kwa "nokha", ndipo nthawi zambiri sizingatheke.
- Kusiyanitsa kwakukulu mu chuma ndi chuma cha mabanja , kapena "Chifukwa chiyani tiyenera kulipira chirichonse?" Nkhani ya Cinderella wachifundo ndi yokhutira ndi yoyenera pa nkhani ya nthano. Pamene zinthu zoterezi zikuchitika m'moyo weniweni, onse omwe ali nawo akukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri. Kawirikawiri, banja lachinyamata limakhazikika pamodzi ndi makolo omwe ali ndi ndalama zambiri. Pambuyo pake, mwachibadwachi zimabweretsa madandaulo amodzi komanso osakhutira kuti ayenera kusamalira ana, kuwathandiza nthaŵi zonse, ndi kuwaika pamapazi awo.
Kodi mungakhale bwanji mwamtendere ndi makolo anu?
- Yesetsani kulankhula zambiri ndi wina ndi mnzake.
- Yambani kukambirana za mavuto pamene akuwuka.
- Yesani pamodzi kuti mupeze njira yothetsera izi kapena izi.
- Nthawi zonse muzilemekeza komanso kuganizirana.
- Ana akuyenera kulemekeza zomwe akumana nazo komanso nzeru za makolo awo, ndipo makolo awo ayenera kuzindikira kuti achinyamata angathe kupanga zosankha zambiri payekha.
- Yesani kusintha mawonekedwe a adiresi kwa achibale anu atsopano: mmalo mwa "apongozi anu" - nena amayi anu, mmalo mwa "mpongozi wanu" - ndi bwino kuuza mwana wanu, ndi zina zotero.
- Musakweze mau anu wina ndi mzake.
- Yesetsani kukhala olemekezeka kwambiri, osamala, nthawi ndi nthawi mudandaule za thanzi komanso maganizo, nthawi zonse mukondweretse bwino muzochita bwino ndikumvetsetsa mwaulemu ndi zolephera.
- Musaiwale za malangizo osapindulitsa komanso kuthandizana.
- Musalole kuti mphamvu yoipa ikhalepo.
- Lembani khalidwe lanu, kapena kukhala ndi chilakolako chochuluka, chifukwa - kaya mumakonda kapena ayi - panopa ndinu achibale.
Kodi ndi bwino kuti banja lachichepere likhale ndi makolo awo, kapena kuti lipeze malo osiyana?
Ndipo komabe, yankho lolondola ku funso ili ndi liti? Inde, chirichonse chimadalira kwathunthu pa umunthu waumwini m'banja lirilonse. Ndipo ngati, mutatha kuwerenga nkhaniyi mosamala, mwazindikira kuti padzakhala zowonjezera zowonjezereka zogwirizanitsa ndi makolo anu, ndiye kuti kukhala nawo pansi pa denga limodzi kudzakhala kosangalatsa komanso kosavuta kwa inu. Komabe, akatswiri ambiri azaumaganizo amaganiza kuti ndi bwino kufunafuna moyo wodziimira komanso wodziimira. Poyambirira, banja laling'ono komanso losadziŵa kale limayamba kumasambira momasuka komanso mophweka. Zidzakhalanso zosavuta kuti tipeze ntchito pa moyo wovutawu. Izi zidzalimbikitsa chitonthozo cha makhalidwe abwino, kudzidalira kwambiri, kudzititsa patsogolo kudzidalira. Inde, ndipo kumbukirani kuti makolo nthawi zonse sangathe kukuthandizani, ndipo kenako, m'malo mwake, mumayenera kuwasamalira.