Nanga bwanji amuna opusa ngati amuna? Choyamba, nkhaniyi ili mu chithunzi chawo. Atsikana ameneŵa, nthawi zambiri, amawoneka okongola komanso opanda chitetezo. Amayang'ana anyamatawo ali ndi maso akulu, amawombera mawindo awo komanso maonekedwe awo amasonyeza momwe amafunikira kutetezedwa ndi kuthandizidwa ndi munthu wamkulu, wamphamvu ndi wolimba mtima. Inde, anyamata ngati atsikana, kumene aliyense angamve ngati mphunzitsi. Komanso, amuna nthawi zonse amayesa kusonyeza kuti amamvetsa bwino kwambiri kuposa atsikana. Choncho, ngati pambali pawo pali atsikana omwe angathe kuthana ndi kuwonjezera ndi kuchotsa, amamunthu amadzimva. Amakonda anthu omwe ali okonzeka kumvetsera zonse zomwe akunena, ndikukhulupirira mawu onse. Atsikana osalankhula ndi omwe ali abwino kwambiri pa ntchitoyi. Ndi amayi oterewa, ngakhale amuna omwe amapanga sukulu zapamwamba angadziyerekezere kukhala ophunzira. Atsikana oterewa amakonda nkhani zawo zonse, ndipo chofunika kwambiri, amakhulupirira chilichonse. Amayi achilendo amatha kumupangitsa mnyamata kumverera ngati mwamuna wamwamuna.
Koma, chimachitika ndi chiyani munthu akakhala wokhutira? Apa ndi pamene kusangalatsa kumayamba. Ngati mwamuna ndi munthu wochenjera, sangakhale ndi mtsikana wotere nthawi yayitali. Ndipotu, posachedwa kamphindi kamabwera pamene mukufuna kulankhula za zinthu zazikulu ndi zofunika ndikudziwa zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakumvetsa. Ndipo, osati kumvetsa kokha, koma amatha kufotokoza maganizo awo, kukambirana ndi kutsutsana. Pankhaniyi pamene msungwana wina yemwe sadziwa kulingalira nkomwe, zokambirana sizikuchitika, ndipo pakapita nthawi zimayamba kukwiya. Kupusa kumeneku, kupusa ndi ubwana wachinyamata, zomwe poyamba zinakhudza, zimayamba kukwiyitsa ndikudziwononga. Mnyamata samvetsa momwe wina sangathe kudziwa zinthu zoyambirira, ali wokwiya komanso wamanjenje. Komanso, msungwana uyu sakudziwa momwe angakhalire wodekha, chifukwa ana opusa amakhala opusa mu chirichonse. Zimagwiritsidwa ntchito podziwa kuti nthawi zonse amatsutsa amene adzathetse mavuto awo. Ndipo pamene iwe uyenera kutenga udindo kwa iweeni, amayiwa kawirikawiri sakudziwa zoti achite, chifukwa uyu ndi mzere wake, osati iye. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe chiyanjano ndi opusa zimadzitengera okha.
Komanso, abambo akuyenera kuona mtundu wina wothandizira mnzanu wa moyo. Mwinamwake sangakhale wanzeru kwambiri, koma mkazi wanzeru ndi womvetsa bwino yemwe amadziwa momwe anganyengerere ndi kumuthandiza wokondedwa wake mu nthawi yovuta. Madona achichepere sakudziwa choti achite, ngakhale vuto lalikulu kwambiri likuchitika. Poyamba, zimakhudza anyamata. Amakonda kupulumutsa asungwana oterewa m'mavuto ndikuwathandiza muzonse komanso nthawi zonse. Koma, patapita nthawi, ndizosautsa. Mwamuna amamasuka pamene mkazi sangathe kuchita chilichonse payekha. Iye sakufuna kuphunzira chirichonse, nthawi zonse amakhulupirira kuti adzabwera ndi kupulumutsidwa, ngakhale pamene mpulumutsi alibe kokha kuti athetse mavuto ake osafunikira. Ngati mnyamata akufuna chinthu choti am'chitire, amangofuna kuti adziwone kuti ndi mtsikana, amafunika kukonzekeretsedwa komanso kuyamikiridwa. Ndipo, ngati mtsikana wopusa atenga ntchito, ndiye kuti siigwira ntchito. Mnyamata adzayenera kubwezeretsa zonse ndipo zitenga nthawi yaitali. Ndi mkazi wotereyo ndibwino kuti mukhale ndi nthawi mu makampani akulira ndikuwonetsa anzanu, koma kukhala moyo wa banja ndikovuta. Ngakhale amayiwo akwatiwa ndi amayi oterewa, nthawi zambiri amakhala opusa komanso osowa manja omwe angapereke uphungu wabwino ndipo samatha kusankha khungu la msomali, komanso amasintha magudumu pamoto ndikulemba chiphunzitsochi.
Chowonadi n'chakuti akafika kunyumba, mwamuna aliyense amafuna kukhala wotsimikiza komanso womasuka. Koma, izi sizichitika ngati pali mkazi kunyumba, yemwe sangakhoze kuchita chirichonse ndipo sangakhoze kuchita chirichonse. Iye ali ngati chidole cholankhulira. Ndipo izi sizilandiridwa kwa munthu wamba. Ndi otero akhoza kusangalala, koma osamanga banja lenileni. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake kupusa, kwenikweni, kumakonda kwambiri kuposa akazi ena amawoneka. Iwo amadzikuza kwambiri ndi kusewera, ndipo pamene zamkhutu zawo zimayamba kukwiyitsa - zimangotaya kunja. Koma asungwana osaphunzira samaphunzira kanthu ndipo amapitiriza kukhala ndi khalidwe. Nthawi zambiri samadziwa momwe angasankhire amuna abwino. Kawirikawiri, amayiwa, nthawi zambiri, ziribe kanthu kuti ndiyani, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti iye anali, mwinamwake sichimatha, chifukwa palibe amene angathetse mavuto ake.
Koma, komabe, ngati mukudziwa kukhala wopusa bwino, izo zibala chipatso ndi kulimbikitsa maubwenzi. Choncho, aluntha komanso okhumba amai amafunikanso nthawi zina kukhala opanda nzeru ndi opusa. Koma simukusowa kuchita izi nthawi zonse, koma nthawi zina. Mwachitsanzo, ngati chibwenzi chanu chimawauza anzanu, ndipo mukudziwa kuti nkhaniyo ndi yonyenga, musayisinthe. Ndi bwino kudziyerekezera kuti simudziwa chilichonse ndikuchichirikiza. Amuna samawakonda pamene amatsutsidwa kuti sadziwa bwino pakati pa anyamata, ndipo makamaka, mtsikana akamachichita. Choncho, nthawi zina, ndibwino kudzipangira nokha. Koma, ndithudi, sikofunikira kutsimikizira mawu aliwonse a iwo, pamene mnyamata akulankhula mwatsatanetsatane, simukusowa manyazi naye.
Ndiponso, ngati mnyamata atakuuzani chinachake, musati muzitsuka nthawi zonse ndi kunena kuti mumadziwa kale chirichonse. Mvetserani kwa izo, kusonyeza chidwi. Ngakhale mutadziwa kale zambiri, mungathe kudzionetsera kuti simudziwa zomwe akudziwa. Kwa amuna, izi ndi zofunika kwambiri. Ndiponso, lolani nokha kukhala ovuta komanso ofooka. Aloleni akutetezeni. Kupusa mopanda malire ndi chinyengo chabwino cha akazi abwino.