Ngati simunayambe mwamvapo mwamuna akulira, zikutanthauza kuti mnyamata wanu amatsatiranso maganizo omwe amavomerezedwa ndipo amakhulupirira kuti iye alibe ufulu woti asonyeze misonzi yake kuti musamuone ngati wofooka.
Ndipotu, palibenso anthu omwe nthawi zina salekerera. Ngati munthu sangathe kutulutsa mtima woterewu, izi sizinayankhule za mphamvu ya chikhalidwe, koma m'malo mwazolakwika. Ndipotu, munthu ayenera kulira pamene wapweteka kwambiri. Sindinaganizepo chifukwa chake amai ali ndi vuto losiyana maganizo kuposa amuna? Amayi achidule amatha kuwatulutsa pamodzi ndi misonzi ndikuchotsa nkhawa, koma anyamata samadzilola okha. Zotsatira zake n'zakuti amadziunjikira okha zoipa ndikusiya. Khalidwe limeneli limabweretsa mavuto ndi mtima ndi mitsempha. Choncho, ngati bwenzi lanu likuyesera kuti asamasonyeze kuti akumvera, ndibwino kumufotokozera kuti khalidweli silipadera. Inde, mumakonda amuna amphamvu, koma pambali pake, mukufuna kumvetsa kuti pafupi ndi inu si fano la miyala, koma munthu wamoyo.
Chifukwa chimene mnyamatayo sakufuna kusonyeza malingaliro ake akhoza kukhala ambiri. Zoonadi, zambiri zamakono ndi zikhulupiliro zimachokera muubwana. Mwina chifukwa chimene mnyamatayu safuna kusonyeza misonzi ndikuti bambo ake anali ovuta kwambiri omwe amasankha njira zowakomera. Amuna amenewa, omwe makamaka ali ndi ntchito yogwirizana ndi zankhondo, amafuna kuti mwana wawo akhale wosagwedezeka yemwe sangasokonezedwe ndi zochitika zilizonse. Zoonadi, kumbali imodzi izi ndi zabwino, chifukwa pa nkhaniyi, munthu saopa mavuto alionse. Koma, abambo oterowo amatsimikizira ana awo kuti alibe ufulu wolongosola malingaliro awo, mosasintha kanthu, mwinamwake iye adzakhumudwitsa abambo ake. Ngati mnyamatayo akadalira chifukwa chake, bambo ake angamulange chifukwa cha bodza kapena mwakuthupi. Mwachidziwikire, maphunziro oterowo amakhalanso pamutu ndipo amachititsa kuti akule, anyamatawa amakhala ndi chidaliro chakuti ngati wina akuwona misozi yake, adzakhumudwitsidwa ndi anthu apamtima ndikumupeza akufooka.
Chifukwa china chomwe chingapangitse kuti anthu asamasonyeze misonzi, akhoza kukhala paubwenzi ndi anzawo ali aang'ono. Mwachidziwikire, anyamatawa anali atakhala chete ndi ana apakhomo, omwe ankakonda kwambiri makolo ndipo anakulira mokoma mtima komanso kumvetsetsa. Koma akafika mdziko, kumene ana ambiri ali achiwawa, anyamatawa amaonedwa kuti ndi ofooka, amawaseka, amanyoza komanso amamenya. Makamaka, anyamatawa amanyozedwa chifukwa cholira. Si chinsinsi chakuti anyamata ambiri adiresi amaleredwa ndi mavuto aakulu ndipo amakhulupirira kuti sikungathe kulira kwa anyamata. Ndipotu, anyamatawa amangoyang'anani okha ndikukhulupirira kuti bwenzi adzaseka pamisozi yake, akudzibweza. Ndipo pamene wina akuwonetsabe kufooka pamaso pawo, iwo, poopa kuti awoneke ofooka pamaso pa kampaniyo, ayamba kupondereza munthu yemwe sanawope kukhala woona mtima. Anyamata onse amafuna kulemekezedwa pakati pa anzawo. Ndicho chifukwa chake, ambiri amayamba kubisa maganizo awo, kuti asamawoneke moipa kuposa ena ndikuyang'ana misonzi, ngati chinthu chochititsa manyazi komanso cholakwika. Ngakhale akukula, anyamata akupitiriza kuganizira chitsanzo ichi cha khalidwe ndikulondola, ngakhale pamaso pa mtsikana wokondedwa. Lingaliro limeneli nalonso limachokera muubwana, pamene atsikana okongola kwambiri ankakonda kwambiri komanso amphamvu kwambiri, makamaka anyamata oipa.
Kuphatikiza pa izi, pali zifukwa zina zambiri zomwe zingachititse kuti achinyamata nthawi zonse am'pweteketse ndipo samasonyeza kuti akumva kupweteka, chisoni komanso misonzi.
Momwe mungachitire mu nkhaniyi ndipo kodi ndi bwino kuchita chilichonse? Inde, kuti mnyamata samalira, palibe chinthu chowopsya, komabe, atsikana ena amawopsya chifukwa chosowa mtima. Amayi angathe kudzifunira okha mavuto ndikuwona khalidwe lomwe mnyamatayo sakudziwa, komanso chikondi. Ndipotu izi siziri choncho. Ngakhale mtsikanayo akufunsa zopusa, koma, funso lodziwika kwambiri: koma mudzalira ngati chinachake chingachitike kwa ine, ndipo bamboyo akuti sadzalira. Ndipotu izi siziri choncho. Pafupifupi atsikana onse amakhumudwa ndi mawu amenewa, ngakhale kuti si koyenera kuti achite zimenezo. Ndipotu, munthuyo amadziwa kuti adzachita zosiyana, koma sakudziwa izi, chifukwa chochita chonchi chidzamusonyeza kufooka kwakukulu. Osati akazi onse amadziwa kuti msungwana wokondedwa ndi wofooka kwambiri wa munthu aliyense, kuti ndi kovuta kuthetsa maganizo ndi iye. Choncho, sikofunika kufunsa mafunso otero, komanso, kukhulupirira, mu mayankho otere. Kungoyenera pang'onopang'ono kutsimikizira mnyamata wanu kuti maganizo anu si chinachake cholakwika, chinachake chimene chingathe kuweruzidwa.
Ngati simunayambe mwamunapo akulira, ndiye kuti mufunika mwezi kuti mumuthandize. Kuti muchite izi, mumangokhalira kulankhula ndi munthu ndipo mwachikondi mumanena kuti munthu aliyense wamphamvu, weniweni ali ndi ufulu woganiza. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mnyamatayo ayenera kulira pamutu uliwonse. Mwachidule, ayenera kumvetsa kuti ngati ali ndi zopweteka komanso zovuta, akhoza kukuwuzani ndikuponyera mtima wake wonse. Mnyamatayo ayenera kuzindikira kuti simudzatsutsa misozi yamwamuna, mumamumvetsa ndi kumuthandiza pazochitika zilizonse.