Zakale za mbiriyakale.
Pa zaka 70 zapitazo ku United States panali bungwe la osakhala makolo, omwe adatchula kuti "Childfree". Childfree imatanthauza ufulu kwa ana. Zimakhulupirira kuti tanthawuzoli linalengedwa ngati losemphana ndi "mwambo" wopanda chizoloŵezi ndipo chinali cholinga chogogomezera ufulu wosankha, osati kuwonongeka ndi chiwonongeko.
Mawu amenewa adatchuka kumapeto kwa zaka zapitazo, pamene gulu loyamba la anthu omwe adatsatira njira iyi ya moyo linakhazikitsidwa.
Chodabwitsa kwambiri, anthu osakhala achikhalidwe pakati pa oimira Childfree ndi ochepa. Kawirikawiri ndi anthu amodzi kapena akazi omwe amakana mwadala mwachangu kupitiliza mtundu wawo.
Kodi anthu awa ndani?
Mpaka pano, m'dziko limene anthu ambiri amafuna kukhala makolo, anthu opanda ana ndi, osasintha, osati chizoloŵezi. Komabe, chisankho chothandizira moyo wopanda ana, osakhala achiwonetsero, otengeka kapena openga.
Ena "osatuluka" amakhulupirira kuti ndizolakwika kuti abereke ana, chifukwa izi zimachitika popanda chilolezo cha ana ndipo poyamba ndi chiwawa. Chisankho chawo chikhoza kufotokozedwa ndi kuti dziko lathu si malo abwino oti tikhale mosangalala, pali zoopsa zambiri ndi chisoni, chilengedwe choipa, matenda ambiri.
Ena amafotokoza zosankha zawo chifukwa cholephera kukhala makolo abwino , osakhutira kupereka moyo wawo ndi chitonthozo chifukwa cha wina.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti ambiri omwe amatchedwa kuti ana osasunthika amakhala ndi mavuto ndi makolo kapena akuluakulu omwe amachititsa kusankha kwawo, mwina amachitiridwa nkhanza, kapena ali achichepere komanso odzikonda okha. Ena amangokhala ndi thupi loti sangathe kukhala ndi ana awo.
Ngakhale chifaniziro chomwe chimafuna kupanga "osatengeka" pamodzi, chifaniziro cha munthu wamakono, wodalirika, nthawi zambiri ndi anthu ena omwe sagonjetsedwa chifukwa cha mantha kapena zovuta. Zomwezo, zomwe zimasankhidwa chifukwa cha zifukwa zomveka, zodziwika bwino komanso sizidalira mavuto omwe alipo, mayunitsi.
Zitha kunenedwa kuti ambiri mwa "osasankhidwa" adasankha mosasamala, mosagwirizana ndi mabodza otsutsa.
Kodi ndi zoipa kapena zabwino?
Kufikira kuunika kwa chodabwitsa ichi kuchokera kumbali ya "zabwino kapena zoipa" sikuli koyenera. Mulimonsemo, izi ndi zosankha za munthu zopangidwa ndi iye. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kaya ndi zifukwa ziti zomwe zimasankha.
Kuchokera pa chikhalidwe cha anthu, chipembedzo ndi ndale, "mwana wopanda mwana" ndiwopanda ntchito yopanda phindu yomwe sichita ntchito yofunikira - kupitiriza kwa mtundu. Kuchokera pakuwona malingaliro amakono, aliyense wa ife ali ndi ufulu wosankha momwe angakhalire moyo, ndi ana angati omwe ali nawo ndi kuti akhale nawo konse.
Zimadziwika kuti anthu ambiri omwe mwazifukwa zina anaphonya nthawi yomwe kubadwa kwa mwana kuli kotheka, ndikudandaula. Palibe yemwe angakhoze kufotokozera momwe iwo angayankhire kuti iwo alibe ana awo mtsogolo. Wina angakhale wokhutira ndi zochitika izi, wina angadzitemberere yekha chifukwa chakuti ali mnyamata anali ndi malingaliro olakwika pa moyo.
Ambiri mwa iwo omwe amakana kubadwa ndi maphunziro a ana, amayesetsa kukula, kupanga ntchito yabwino, osayima. Izi ndi zoyamikirika, koma panthawi imodzimodzi, palibe ziwerengero zomwe zimatsimikizira anthu ochuluka kwambiri, opambana pakati pa omwe alibe ana. Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, kukhalapo kwa ana sikungasokoneze kukhazikitsidwa, ndipo nthawi zina, kumapangitsa kuti kukwaniritsa zolinga zapamwamba, chifukwa ana ndizolimbikitsa kwambiri za chitukuko.
Mulimonsemo, palibe yemwe ali ndi ufulu woweruza anthu omwe asankha kusiya kusangalala kukhala makolo, komanso omwe akufuna kukhala okhawo komanso kukana zopindulitsa zina. Kaya malingaliro a gulu lotchukali akulakwitsa, kapena ayi-nthawi idzawoneka.
Mu 2003, ziwerengero za US zinaonetsa kuti amayi opanda ana osakwanitsa zaka 45 anali oposa 44%. Chiwerengero cha mabanja opanda ana chikukula chaka chilichonse.