Atsikana onse akulota kalonga. Ichi ndi axiom. Koma amayi ambiri ndi amodzi amamvetsetsa mawuwa ndipo ali ndi njala ya "theka la ufumu kuwonjezera". Nthawi zina chikhumbo chokwatirana ndi munthu wachuma chimakhudza moyo wa mkaziyo. Ndipo apa siziri zokonda chikondi, chikondi ndi chikhalidwe ...
Cinderella Syndrome
Malinga ndi Institute of Comprehensive Social Research (ICSI), akazi 65 mwa azimayi a ku Russia akufuna kukwatiwa ndi munthu wachuma. Chikhalidwe ichi, monga "kusasinthasintha", chikuyimira malo olemekezeka achitatu (pambuyo pa malingaliro ndi kukoma mtima) mndandanda wa zofunika kwa wokwatirana naye. 40% mwa alendo onse ku malo akuluakulu a chibwenzi a ku Russia amavomereza kuti sakufuna bwenzi, wokonda kapena mwamuna, yemwe ndi wothandizira. Mitu "Ndikufuna kukhala mkazi wosungidwa", "Momwe mungakhalire mkazi wa oligarch" akukambilana mwakhama m'mabwalo a amai. Akuwuzani, sichoncho?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amachitcha kuti "Cinderella syndrome" ndipo amapereka atsikana amenewa kuti adzidziwe okha, akatswiri a zachikhalidwe cha anthu akulongosola zochitika izi pofotokoza za njala yowonjezera nthawi, amatsenga amatha kufunafuna chilichonse chomwe chili kumadzulo, ndipo zolengedwa zazing'ono (ndipo osati) zimapitirizabe kugawana pa intaneti. maloto: "Ndikufuna kukomana naye - wolemera ndi wotchuka, koma ndi Iyeyo ndidzakhala wokondwa."
Kusaka kwa Miliyoni
Amatsimikiza mtima kuti atenge zonse kuchokera ku moyo, atsikana omwe ali ndi maudindo amodzi amapita ku maphunziro a kupusitsa, maphunziro pa psychology ya oligarchs komanso amapereka ndalama zawo zochepa kuti akhale "okonda masewera". Natalia M., yemwe ali m'gulu la moyo wapadera wa atsikana osawuka, amadziona ngati Teresa wamakono. "Ndimagwirizanitsa mitima ya mazunzo." Olemera - iwowo ndi anthu, amangoopa zolakwa, koma ndimasankha atsikana abwino kwambiri. Pamapeto pake aliyense amapeza zomwe akufuna. " Ndiyenera kunena kuti, mautumiki a masewerawa ndi ofunikira kwambiri - kuchokera $ 1000, kotero iwo akufunikabe kuwonjezeka.
"Ndikufuna kukhala ngati kanema: kupita kumalesitanti, kugula madiresi odula, kukwera mumagalimoto okongola. Ine sindingakwanitse. Mayi anga anagwira ntchito moyo wake wonse ndipo sanathe kupulumutsa ngakhale kutchuthi ku Turkey. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndidzagonjetsa mafupa, koma ndidzakwatirana ndi oligarch. Kodi ukuona kuti miyendo yanga ndi yokongola bwanji? "Karina, wazaka 18. "Nanga bwanji chikondi?" Ndikufunsa. "Iwe amanyoza, inde? Kodi simukukonda chuma? "
M'mapazi a "Kukongola" ...
Choyamba, Anya, makolo ake adalinso chimodzimodzi ndi atsikana onse abwino a dziko lathu - kuvina, sukulu ya nyimbo, chinenero china. Koma tsiku lina adawona filimuyo "Wokongola Mkazi" ndi ... "Sindinapange chisankho chilichonse: tsopano, ndidzakwatirana ndendende, osati chifukwa cha chikondi. Pamene ndinali kusukulu, pa maphunziro oyambirira a sukuluyi, sindinaganize zaukwati, kukwatirana, ndi zina zotero - Ndinakumana ndi anyamata, ndinagonana, koma "sindinagwedezeke" monga akunena tsopano. Kenaka ndinakumana ndi Vadim - anali wokongola, woganizira, koma osasinthika moyo. Mofanana, ndinakumana ndi Mitya - adali wamkulu kuposa ine, osati wokongola monga Vadim, koma anatetezedwa. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo anandiitana kuti ndikwatire. Anandiuza kuti: "Muyenera kukwatira, chifukwa Vadim ndi munthu wofooka ndipo sangathe kukupatsani zomwe mukuyenera."
Mitya ankandiona ngati wokongola ndipo ankakonda kunditengera kumaphwando kumene anzake ndi anzake anali. Ndinayenera kuti ndikhale chete ndi kumwetulira - ndipo ndinali chete ndikumamwetulira, ndikukumbukira kuti tinagula kavalidwe kanyumba kogula kwambiri makamaka madzulo ano. "
Anna sanadzibisire yekha kuti Mitya anali wokondeka, makamaka popeza mkazi wake wam'tsogolo adamuchenjeza kuti: "Ngati muvomereza kukhala mkazi wanga, tidzasainira mgwirizano waukwati, ndipo ngati mutasudzulana, simudzasiyidwa ndalama." Malinga ndi Anna, Mitya anayesera kukhala munthu wake wapamtima, koma kugonana kwakukulu pakati pawo sikunayambe. Komabe, sakadandaula kuti: "Kawirikawiri, monga akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza, libido ikuponderezedwa, ine, kupatulapo mwachidule ndi Vadim, ndikukhalitsa bwino milanduyi. Mu mgwirizano izo zinanenedwa kuti chigololo amatanthauza kusudzulana mwamsanga ndi kuwonongeka kwa katundu. Koma chifukwa chakuti Mitya anali m'nyumba, nthawi yomweyo inatsimikiziranso kuti mutu wa mgwirizano unali "umodzi". Koma sindinakhumudwe nazo izi: Sindikufuna kupita kulikonse. Nayi nyumba yanga, munda wanga, khitchini yanga, mwana wanga. "
Mwanayo anakhala chinthu chapadera kwambiri pa mgwirizano waukwati. Kwa Mitya, adanena momveka bwino ponena kuti abambo adzanyamula zonse zomwe Colya adakonza, komabe ngati woyambitsa chisudzulo anali Anna kapena chifukwa chake ndiye kuti adamupereka, mwanayo adzakhalabe ndi bambo ake. "Malingana ndi lamulo, mayi nthawi zambiri amakhala wosamalira ana panthawi ya kusudzulana," Ana anafotokozera loya, "ndipo ngati mkangano uli pakati pa mgwirizano ndi Family Code, mawuwa akugwiritsidwa ntchito." "Koma ndinaganiza zopanda mwayi uliwonse," anatero Anna. - Mitya ndi munthu wolemera komanso wotchuka, kumumenya - ndithudi kutaya ndi kuchoka ku khoti ndi kunyansidwa ndi chidakwa kapena nkhani ina yowopsya. Ayi, ndithudi. Ndidzachita zonse monga mwa malamulo ace.
Ukwati anayi ndi maliro amodzi
Njira imodzi, koma mu moyo kwa onse omwe muyenera kulipira. Sizinthu zonse za Cinderella zomwe zingathe kukhalapo kwa nthawi yaitali. Mwamwayi, nkhani yonena za "Kukongola" ili ndi mapeto ena. Sizowopsa kuti m'dziko lathu muli ambiri "akale a Rublyov". Pambuyo pake, kukhala mkazi wa mamilioni ndi ntchito yovuta. "Ine ndinalibe ufulu woti ndiwone zoipa, kupweteka, kubwezeretsa. Oleg tsiku ndi tsiku anandiyika pa masikelo ndikuyang'ana kuti ndione ngati ndakhala ndi mafuta, ndipo ngati wothamangayo akuwonetsa makilogalamu oposa 48, ndinayenera kudya njala kwa sabata lathunthu. Sindingasankhe zovala zanga kapena abwenzi anga. Zonse ziyenera kuvomerezedwa ndi mwamuna wanga. Koma izo sizinali kanthu: mzanga wa Oleg, mwaukakamiza, anakakamiza mtsikana wake kuti nthawizonse abwezeretse anthu. "Ndibwino kuti ukhale wabwino!" - Anakhulupilira, "- amagawana kachiwiri, koma waulere wamkazi wa Kuunika.
Anthu olemera amakhala ndi miyambo yawo komanso miyambo yawo, ndipo "moyo wokongola" uli ndi mbali yosiyana. Zitha kuchitika bwino kuti ziyenera kulipira ndi chikondi, abwenzi, ana komanso ngakhale thanzi (pambuyo pake, si onse oligarchs akutsogolera bizinesi "yosunga malamulo").
Natasha anali mkazi wachinayi wa Boris, koma izi sizinamuvutitse. "Zinkawoneka kuti ine ndikhoza kukhala bwenzi langa lokhulupirika kwa moyo wanga wonse. Sikunali ukwati wokhazikika, kapena m'malo mwake, osati mwa kuwerengera. Poyambirira, ndinamva kumverera kwa iye, koma kusakhulupirika nthawi zonse ndinatero. Nditangokwatirana naye, adasiya kuyesera kuti andipatse ine, ndinangokhala nyumba zogona, mbali ya mkati, koma osati mkazi. N'zosadabwitsa kuti ndinali ndi chibwenzi ndi mlangizi wanga wosambira. Kwa miyezi iwiri ndinali wokondwa kwambiri. Komabe, chinsinsi chonse chimaonekera. Wina wa madalaivala anatiuza ife Bora, ndipo ine, monga akunena, ndikuimbira mluzu nyumba yolemera. Tinasudzulidwa panthawiyo, ndipo ndinasiyidwa mumsewu ndi kavalidwe kamodzi. Chinthu choopsa kwambiri ndi chakuti Max - wokondedwa wanga - wapita. Sindikudziwa zomwe zinamuchitikira: palibe amene akunena chilichonse, zitseko zonse zanditsekera tsopano. " ... Wina anganene kuti: ndiye wodzudzula, wina adzadandaula ... Njira imodzi, koma nkhani ya Cinderella akadali nkhani yachikondi. Ndipo chikondi - chidziwitso cha ubale ndi ubwenzi, chidziwitso cha mgwirizano weniweni - sichidzasinthidwa ndi kuwerengetsa ndalama, kapena chilakolako cha misala. Kufufuzidwa ndi kutsimikiziridwa ndi mibadwo yambiri ya amayi omwe anali okondwa muukwati. Funsani amayi anu.
Ndemanga ya maganizo
Denis LUKYANOV, katswiri pazochitika za banja ndikwati
Kawirikawiri amakhulupirira kuti munthu ayenera kukwatira kapena kukwatiwa kokha chifukwa cha chikondi, ndipo ukwati wokhala ndi chizoloŵezi chowoneka kuti ndi chinthu chochititsa manyazi kwambiri komanso chosayenerera, chifukwa nthawi zonse chimaganiziridwa molingana ndi chikhalidwe choyambirira "kugonana ndi ndalama". Komabe, izi sizomwe zimakhala choncho nthawi zonse. Mkwatibwi kawirikawiri imawoneka kuti ndi yotalirika kwambiri komanso yokhalitsa. Anthu amapereka chithandizo chawo ku mgwirizano wawo. Poyambirira izo zinali
kalym ndi dowry, tsopano - kukongola, maphunziro, kusagwirizana, kuthekera kupereka banja, kupereka lingaliro la chitetezo. Koma zina ndi zoipa. Mwachitsanzo, wina wa heroines wa nkhaniyi, Anna, amavomereza kuti alibe chidwi ndi mwamuna wake, kapena kuti akufuna kumanga moyo wawo (osati banja!). M'tsogolomu, ubale woterewu umadzaza ndi zipsyinjo za amayi ndi kusakhutira kwa onse awiri. Mkwatibwi angathe kupuma, apite "mwazovuta", kupereka moyo wopanda chikondi, popanda kugonana. Kuphatikiza apo, zimakhala zovuta koma zotsatira zowopsya ndi zotheka-kuvutika maganizo, "matenda a selo ya golidi," pamene mkazi ali ndi zinthu zonse zakuthupi, koma moyo umamuwoneka wopanda pake, chifukwa sangathe kudzipangira yekhayekha ndikuwopsa.
Mercantile kulemba.
Ngati mukhala mukulota kukwatira munthu wolemera ndikuganiza kuti ukwati wokha ndi mwamuna wolemera ungathandize kuthana ndi mavuto onse, ndiye muyenera ...
1. Kuganiza kuti, monga lamulo, amene akulipira, ndi kulamulira nyimbo. Ngati mmodzi wa abwenzi alowetsamo ndalama zambiri kuposa winayo, ndiye kuti ali ndi mtengo wolamulira mu ZAO "Banja" ndi voti yoyenera muzonse. Choncho musaiwale kuti mumagwiritsa ntchito ndalama zanu mukukondwera.
2. Kukhala okonzekera kuti uyenera kusonyeza wosankhidwa tsiku ndi tsiku kuti sunasankhe chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa chikwama chako, koma (ndithudi) chifukwa cha kuphatikiza kwa makhalidwe apamwamba omwe simungawakane. Osakhala olemera 100%, ndipo makamaka anthu olemera kwambiri amakhudzidwa ndi mtundu wotsikawu wovuta.
3. Musadabwe pamene, chifukwa cha kusagwirizana nthawi zonse, masewera osatha, mudzayamba kukhumudwa kapena kusasamala, kuwonongeka kwa mantha ndi kupsinjika maganizo. Zonsezi ndizofunika kulipira - pokhapokha izi sizikutanthauza lingaliro "ndi mawerengedwe"? Muyenera kulipira ndi mitsempha yanu.
4. Usadandaule pamene wachuma wako akukuponya mwadzidzidzi, wapita (kapena ayi) adzafa. Pazitsulo zoterezi nkofunikira kukonzekera pasadakhale, kuti musakhalebe pa malo osweka. Aphungu amatilangiza kuti tigwirizane ndi mgwirizano waukwati (ndipo tiwerenge mosamalitsa musanayambe kusaina). Ndiyenera kutenga nawo mbali pakugawidwa kwa bajeti ya banja, kulandira akaunti yanu ya banki, mzere wosiyana wa ngongole ndikubwereza nthawi zonse "stash" yanu. Ndipo funsani woyalamulo osati katundu wokhazikika komanso osasunthika wa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, komanso mafakitale ndi zombo zake (ie, mafiritsi ndi firmochkas) kotero kuti sizichitika kuti simunangokhala "malaya amodzi" pagawani, koma mwadzidzidzi mwapeza ndi ngongole za mzanu wanu wakale.