Kufuna kugonana ndi kukongola kwa mkazi aliyense kumadalira osati kukongola kwakunja, koma pachithunzi chamkati. Atsikana ena okongola sayenera kukondweretsa anyamata kapena atsikana. Ndipo chinthucho ndi chakuti iwo sali achigololo.
Mukawona kuti amuna samakuganizirani, ziribe kanthu kuti mukuyesera bwanji, si chifukwa chokwiyitsa, chifukwa mungathe kugwiritsira ntchito pempho lanu lachiwerewere, ndikulikulitsa pa moyo wanu wonse. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kukhala otsimikiza komanso kutsatira chilankhulo cha thupi, komanso kulipira mokwanira maonekedwe anu.
Mkhalidwe
Kuchokera kwa munthu aliyense kumabwera kutaya kwa mphamvu. Zabwino kapena zoipa - zimadalira zomwe timaganizira komanso zomwe timamva. Maganizo amasonyezedwa osati m'maonekedwe okha, komanso m'chinenero cha thupi, chimene nthawi zina sitidziwa.
Ngati muli ndi maganizo oipa komanso nkhope yosagwirizana, simungathe kuti wina angakonde kucheza nanu. Akatswiri atsimikizira kale kuti anthu otsegula otseguka ndi mawu osangalatsa amapezeka mosavuta ndi atsikana. Choncho, malingaliro abwino amachititsa kuti mutha kupeza munthu wa maloto anu.
N'zotheka kuti mutakhala osiyana, mumawopa kulankhula ndi munthu yemwe angakonde kulankhula nawe. Kotero, chirichonse chomwe chinali mu moyo wanu, chiri chofunikira kwambiri kwa iwo omwe ali pafupi kuti adziwe za izo.
Inde, munthu aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi maganizo oipa, koma izi siziyenera kukhala zamuyaya. Muyenera kuphunzira kusangalala ndi nyengo ngati nyengo, nyengo yachakudya yokoma, nyimbo yabwino pa wailesi. Munthu amene amachititsa kuti munthu asamachite zabwino, amachititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kumbukirani, amuna samakonda akazi okhumudwa, osakhutira.
Choncho, kugonana kwachinsinsi koyamba kuli ndi maganizo abwino omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ndi chiyembekezo komanso maganizo abwino.
Kukongola
Mkazi aliyense yemwe akufuna kukonda amuna ayenera kuyesa kukhala wokongola. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndikofunikira kukhala chitsanzo ndi kuyang'ana modabwitsa, monga kukongola ndi chivundikiro. Pambuyo pake, pali akazi omwe amawoneka akuwoneka bwino, koma pa zifukwa zina amatsutsa ena, akunena mawu amodzi.
Mpaka pano, fano. Kaŵirikaŵiri kupanda ungwiro kochepa kunja kumapangitsa munthu kukhala wokongola kwambiri. Zitsanzo ndi amuna ngati TilShwiger kapena Ralph Bauer, omwe ali ndi mawonekedwe abwino, koma panthawi yomweyi mamiliyoni ambiri aakazi padziko lonse akulota za amuna okondwa achikazi.
Aliyense ayenera kupeza kalembedwe kake, ndipo atsatire kalembedwe kake kupyolera mu moyo. Musayese kusangalatsa mtheradi. Ngati muli ndi chidwi ndi mtundu wina wamwamuna, muyenera kusankha chithunzi choyenera kwa inu, motero mukuwonjezera mwayi wanu wopambana. Mosiyana ndi chikhulupiliro chofala chakuti zotsutsana zimakopeka, munthu aliyense amazindikira mofanana.
Yambani ndi kusankha zovala zabwino. Ganizirani zojambula zanu ndi tsitsi lanu kuti musinthe. Ngati zigawo zonsezi za sukulu yanu zikukutsatirani, zikutanthauza kuti simungokongola, koma ndi zofunika kwa amuna.
Chinsinsi chachiwiri chokhudzana ndi kugonana: chokopa chomwe chingapezeke mwa kutsindika ulemu.
Chilankhulo cha thupi
Ayenera kuyamba ndi malo. Sizingatheke kuti msungwana yemwe ali ndi mutu wagwa pansi adzikonda. Koma kudzikuza osalaba ndi chizindikiro cha kudzidalira ndipo mkazi wotero amawoneka moyenera.
Ganizirani pa chilankhulo cha thupi lanu, samalani kuntchito, yesetsani kuti mukhale bwino. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo mumakhala ndi chidaliro kwambiri. Kumbukirani, kuchokera kumbali kuti muwoneke wokongola komanso wokongola, muyenera kumwetulira wokongola, kuyenda bwino, kokweza mutu, kuyang'ana anthu mwachindunji ndi mokoma mtima, kukhala olimba komanso odzidalira.
Kuti mumvetse kufunika kwa thupi lanu, ganizirani izi monga chitsanzo. Amuna awiri akutsutsana pa pepala. Zonsezi zimawoneka zokongola poyamba poyang'ana ndipo zavala bwino. Mmodzi mwa iwo amawerenga nyuzipepalayo ndi chidwi, amamwetulira mwaulemu kwa waitress, akulamula khofi. Pa masaya ake, kumwemwetulira, kumaoneka mdima, pomwe pamapeto ake a milomo yaying'ono yayamba kuoneka bwino. Kuchokera kwa iye, ngakhale patali, mphamvu zabwino zimabwera. Mwamuna wachiwiri ali ndi mawonekedwe osayandikira komanso osakhutira nkhope, nkhope zawo siziloledwa, ndipo palibe chithunzi cha kumwetulira. Zikuwoneka ngati akukangana ndi munthu wina. Kuchokera kwa iye, ndipo mumayesetsanso kukhala wosakhutira kapena wokwiya. Taganizirani za ndani mwa amunawa omwe mungabwere nawo? Ndithudi, ikuyankha.
Kotero, chinsinsi chachitatu chobisala: yang'anani chinenero cha thupi lanu. Kusuntha kwanu, mawonekedwe, kumwetulira kumawonetsa zokha, zachilengedwe, zotseguka, zokondana.