Ndikuganiza, choyamba, ndikuganiza kuti ndinu ndani? Ayi, ndikudziwa kuti mwadziwa nthawi yambiri yogonana, koma sindikuyankhula za izi. Ndithudi, munamva kuti mkati mwa munthu aliyense mumakhala munthu wake wamkati (wam'mbuyo - VM) ndi mkazi wamkati (pambuyopa - VZh). Iwo, nthawi zambiri, amazindikira zochita zanu, zochita zanu ndi khalidwe lanu. Kuwonjezera pa iwo, mumakhalabe nokha, ndiko kuti, Chifukwa Chake pogwiritsa ntchito chifuniro chanu. Nthawi zina malingaliro a utatu uwu amagwirizana, nthawizina amasiyana, ndiyeno simungathe konse zomwe maganizo Anu asankha, ndizo nokha.
Tangoganizirani kuti VM ndi VZ amagwiritsa ntchito gawo lina la dziko lanu lamkati. Tiyeni tiwone chimene munthu amaimira, momwe VM imakhala ndi malo 90%, ndi VZ - 10%. Mukuganiza bwanji?
Ngati uyu ndi munthu, ndiye kuti ndiwe wotchulidwa mwamuna. Iye ndi wodzidalira, wokwiya, ndi makhalidwe abwino a utsogoleri. Anthu oterewa amapezeka kuti ali ndi mphamvu zamagulu kapena magulu apadera. Kuphatikiza apo, iwo akhoza kukhala ochita bizinesi, othamanga, ochita kafukufuku ndi zina zotero. Poyanjana ndi akazi, mwachibadwa, amakhala ndi udindo waukulu, ndiko kuti, iwo ali oyenerera kwa oimira akazi omwe ali odzichepetsa. Amavomereza khalidwe ndi khalidwe la munthu woteroyo. Ena onse, omwe amadziimira okhaokha komanso omwe amazindikira, amakhala ndi zovuta, chifukwa pali mfundo zochepa zothandizira.
Nchiyani chiti chichitike ngati anthu 90 mwa anthu amakhala mukazi? Kawirikawiri ndi mkazi wamphamvu, wolimba, wodziimira ndi khalidwe lachimuna ndi khalidwe lake. Mwachibadwa, oimira oterewa, omwe amalephera kugonana, amadzipeza okha mu ndale, bizinesi, chifukwa ndi bwino kusewera masewera a amuna ndikuwonetsa munthu.
Akazi oterewa ali ndi mavuto aakulu pamoyo wawo. Njira yowonjezereka - munthu amaluma kunja, koma pambuyo pa misonkhano ingapo imatha. Chifukwa chiyani? Inde, chifukwa amuna ozoloŵera amapezeka kawirikawiri ndi amuna. Ndipotu, amayi oterewa ali ndi chidwi ndi amuna omwe ali ndi VZH. Zili ngati amuna ... koma nthawi zonse amafunikira chinachake ngati kulira mu chovala kapena paphewa la munthu wamphamvu.
Ngati mkazi wotereyo amavomereza ulamuliro wake, akhoza kupanga banja logonana ndi mkazi wina yemwe amatchedwa VZH.
Tiyeni tione chinthu china choposa - munthu, pamene ВЖ ili ndi 90%
Mkaziyo. Iye ndi wodabwitsa, ali wachikazi, amakonda ana ndi banja, zochitika za pakhomo ndi zina zotero. Amuna ambiri amakopeka ndi akazi oterowa, chifukwa samamanga aliyense ndi kukhala ndi khalidwe lachikazi.
Mwamunayo. M'malo mofooka, zofewa, zovuta. Akazi, monga lamulo, sali okhudzidwa ndi iye, kotero iye amakhala amzake nthawi zambiri.
Takhala tikuganiza kuti ndizovuta kwambiri, ambiri a ife, timakhala ndi malo apakati. Ngati uyu ndi mwamuna yemwe ali ndi VM yambiri, ndiye kuti ndi munthu wabwinobwino ndi khalidwe la munthu. Ngati mkazi ali ndi VZ yowonjezereka, ndiye kuti ndi mkazi wachibadwa ndi mkazi wake wokhazikika .
Mmene mungagwirire ndi kugonana? Izi ndizo, ndi mavuto ati, akulu ndi aang'ono, omwe amawuka pankhaniyi?
Mayi wina yemwe ali ndi VM wodalirika adzakhala ndi mavuto opeza naye, zomwe zikutanthauza mavuto ndi kugonana.
Mwamuna yemwe ali ndi VM wamphamvu adzakhala ndi mavuto poyendetsa ndi amayi omwe ali odziimira okhaokha. Zikakhala kuti amakopeka ndi zoterozo, zovuta sizipeŵeka.
Maubwenzi ogwirizana amatha kupangidwa pakati pa mwamuna yemwe ali ndi VM wa 60-75% mkazi yemwe ali ndi VZ chimodzimodzi. Zotsalira 30-40% zimapereka mgwirizano womasuka ndi kumvetsetsa pamodzi ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Pali buku lotero - Tantra yokhala ndi mwamuna mmodzi. Wolemba wake, Atma, analemba kuti VM yathu ndi VZ zimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi moyo wathu ndikukopa anthu omwe ali ofanana nawo.
Kuonjezera apo, likuti VM yathu ndi VZ ndi ife eni, koma m'mabuku akale. Mwachibadwa, n'kosatheka kutsimikizira izi. Komabe, chowonadi chimakhalabe kuti ife tikulowerera mopanda chidziwitso mu miyoyo yathu ofanana anthu mu chirichonse. Poganiza kuti uwu ndi ntchito ya VM yathu ndi VZ, mukhoza kulingalira momwe akuwonekera ndi zomwe ali. Ndikuganiza kuti ndizosangalatsa, ndipo, panthawi imodzimodzi, ndizosavuta.
VZh.
Ngati ndinu mkazi, ndiye kuti ganizirani abwenzi anu, ndi makhalidwe ati omwe ali nawo komanso ma data omwe ali nawo. Pezani chinachake mofanana ndipo mukhoza kuganiza kuti izi ndi zomwe VZ yanu akuwonekera, kupanga kampani ndi akazi oyandikana nawo.
Ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kudziwonera nokha ndi kumvetsa makhalidwe omwe muli nawo ochuluka, ndi omwe mukuwona kuti ndi osafunika kwa inu nokha. Kuyesera kuwachotsa iwo, koma zambiri sizichitika. Mwachitsanzo, mumagwirizana kwambiri ndi chinthu cha chikondi chanu. Ndichibadwa kuti munthu sali wokonzeka kunyamula udindo wa mkazi yemwe wasiya moyo wake yekha osati moyo wake. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, mumamvetsetsa kuti khalidweli limangolepheretsa, koma simungathe kuchita chilichonse. Mwinamwake izi zimapangidwa mu VG yanu, yomwe imadzichepetsa ndipo imakhala yoopa kukhalabe nokha.
Ngati muli munthu, kumbukirani mbali ndi zakunja za osankhidwa anu. N'zotheka kuti nthawi zambiri munamanga maubwenzi ndi amayi omwe amawonekera mofanana .. kutalika, kulemera, ndi zina zotero kapena ndi makhalidwe ofanana. Ngati mutha kusiyanitsa zinthu zomwezo ndikupanga zithunzi zofanana - iyi ndi VZH yanu.
VM.
Ngati ndinu mkazi, yang'anani mmbuyo - ndi anthu omwe mumakonda kumanga maubwenzi, omwe amuna amasonkhana nthawi zambiri pamoyo wanu. Kodi ali ndi chiyanjano chotani, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo, apa, ife sitikulankhula za zabwino zomwe mukufuna, koma za enieni.
Mwachitsanzo, mu maloto mumaziwona nokha ndi munthu wamphamvu, wolimba mtima, wachikondi komanso wokonda, koma simungathe kuchita nawo chilichonse. Ndipo zenizeni, mumakhala ndi nthawi zosasamala, zomwe zimasangalatsa ndipo simungaganize za mawa. Pankhaniyi, uyu ndi munthu wamkati. Ndipo ndi iye amene akusankha inu kampani, mosiyana ndi zofuna za Reason.
Ngati muli munthu, yang'anani pa anzanu ndi abwenzi apamtima. Ganizirani zomwe ali nazo. Iwo akhoza kukhala ofanana ndi inu, ndi osiyana kwambiri. Pachifukwachi, pangakhale mavuto omwe VM yanu idzayambitsa.
Mwachitsanzo, ndinu wololera, wodekha komanso wodabwitsa. Ndipo abwenzi anu ndi amuna odzikuza komanso ovuta. Zitha kuchitika kuti VM yanu ndiyomweyi, ndipo nthawi zonse idzakuchititsani kuchita zinthu zomwe sizikufanana ndi inu (mwamsanga ndi zokhumudwitsa).
Ngati mbali zonse siziwoneka.
Musamawopsyeze kapena kuchita zinthu mwankhanza kuti muwulule zomwezo mwa anzanu ndi abwenzi anu. Chinthu choyenera kwambiri kuti musachite chilichonse. Khalani ndi kuthetsa mavuto pogwiritsa ntchito mutu.
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zingatheke? Zolingaliro zina zimati anthu angapo amatha kukhala mwa ife, ndipo aliyense wa iwo amatsogolera bwenzi kapena chibwenzi. Motero, palibe mwa iwo omwe amalamulira, ndipo kufotokoza chinthu chofala ndi chovuta. Izi ndi zachilendo.
Komabe, tiyeni tibwerere ku mavuto aakulu ndi ang'onoang'ono pa kugonana kwa omwe ali ndi mwayi wowulula zinthu zazikulu za VM kapena VZH yawo.
Mmene mungathetsere mavuto.
Nthawi zambiri, mukakhutira ndi makhalidwe omwe muli nawo. Nthawi zonse ndimafuna kusintha, kukonza, kuchotsa, ndi zina zotero. Mutaphunzira za chikhalidwe chanu chomwe mukukhala mwa inu, pali zifukwa zambiri zowonjezeramo. Makamaka zimakhudza milandu imeneyi pamene VM yanu kapena VZ yanu ikuyambitsa mavuto.
Pali malingaliro ambiri omwe amati inu mukhoza kusintha VM yanu ndi VZ. Makamaka, izi ndi Psychosynthesis ndi NLP. Pali mitu yapadera yoperekedwa kwa izi. Ngati muli ndi chikhumbo komanso mwayi woyankhulana ndi akatswiri mu gawoli, ndiye mukhoza kuchita. Komabe, kuti kukokomeza zokhoza zawo sikuli koyenera, ndi anthu okha.
Ngati palibe anthu oterewa, ntchito yothandiza ikhoza kuchitidwa nokha. Nazi njira zochepa zofunikira izi.
1. Kudziwa kuti ali ndi udindo wapadera - tachita kale izi.
2. Kuwonetseratu. Tangoganizani, mwachitsanzo pazenera, pamene mutseka maso anu.
3. Kufotokozera ndi kuwongolera. Kulimbikitsani gawo lomwe silikugwirizana ndi inu, musasokoneze moyo wanu.
4. Kuwonetsetsa. Onani ndikuwone zomwe zasintha ndi kusintha.
Mwachitsanzo, mutengenso kachiwiri, munthu yemwe ali ndi VZH 10%. Ayenera kumufunsa kuti atenge malo ambiri. Pambuyo pake, muyenera kuzimva pang'ono ndikuzisiya. Osati nthawi zonse .. ngakhale mu nthawi zina zovuta ... mwachitsanzo, kuvina kapena kugonana. Mwinamwake izi zidzathetsa mavuto ake onse pabedi ... ndipo munthu mwiniyo adzakhala pulasitiki komanso womasuka.
Mayi wankhanza omwe ali ndi 80% VM angathe kupempha VM kuti apange malo pang'ono ndikupatsa malo ena a VG. Mutha kumufunsa kuti asonyeze zachikazi komanso zofewa. Mwachibadwa, a VM angatsutsane ndi zionetsero - zotayika zotayika mu bizinesi ndi zina zotero. Konzani izi ndipo ganizirani kupyolera mu malo anu pogwiritsa ntchito kuti zikhala bwino kwa aliyense.
Ndiyeno chokondweretsa kwambiri - ngati mukuona kuti pakadali pano, chidwi cha VZ, ndiye kuti mumamuuze kuti adziwonetse yekha. Pambuyo pake, musiye kuyendetsa mkati ndikuwona zomwe zimachitika ku thupi lanu ndi khalidwe lanu. Inde, zotsatira zake siziwonekera nthawi yomweyo, zimafuna kubwereza machitidwe 5 mpaka 10.
Apa chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhulupirira mwa inu nokha. Ndipo mudzadziwona nokha - zozizwitsa zimachitika.
Kuposa momwe izo zawonongeka?
Zimadziwika kuti msewu umadziwika bwino ndi zolinga zabwino, mukudziwa komwe. Choopsa chachikulu ndikumasokonezeka kwambiri. Poyamba inu munali nokha, ndipo tsopano muli atatu mwa inu. Ndi ndani yemwe ali ndi udindo wa kusintha kumeneku ndi momwe angasungire vutoli? N'zosavuta kusokonezeka ndikukhala munthu wovuta komanso wotsutsana kwambiri. Ndipo ngati chiyanjano chanu chiyamba kumanga zolekanitsa pakati pawo? Zomwe zakhala zikusowa ndi zosaoneka zamatsenga ndipo zodzala ndi chithandizo chapadera. N'zosatheka kuti kukhala m'zipatala ndi zomwe mukusowa. Palibe njira zothetsera mavuto ogonana, monga momwe mukumvera. Chifukwa chake, ngati mumakonda kukhala ndi zokayikitsa, ndibwino kuti musakhudze anthu anu. Khalani monga momwe mudakhalira ndikuchita zinthu zina.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti kupanga bwenzi lanu lachikhalire kukhala osakwatirana kapena osakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana kwa inu, nkovuta - mukulakwitsa. Tiyeni tione njira yophweka kapena, bwino kunena, mkhalidwe.
Kusokonezeka maganizo.
Chirichonse chimadziwika kuti kupanikizika ndi mkhalidwe wa chisokonezo cholimba cha thupi, chomwe chikhalidwe chathu chopulumuka chimayesa kukhala choopsya ku moyo. Komabe, chisangalalo pa nkhaniyi ndi chosasangalatsa, mwanjira iliyonse yokhudzana ndi kugonana. Yerekezerani kugonana ndikupanikizika pamodzi - ndipo kugonana kumathera. Mwachitsanzo, wokondedwa wanu ali wokondwa, kapena amawonedwa zolaula, kapena akuwona tsitsi lofiira lamasentimita 4 ndikukugwirani ndi .. momveka kuposa. Ndipo inu simuli mu mzimu kapena mukukhumudwa. Sungunulani izo, kondwerani mochuluka kwambiri, ndiyeno fotokozani chirichonse chomwe inu mukuganiza. Chisamaliro chikugwira ntchito momveka bwino - tsopano iye waika mutu wake kuti kugonana ndi ntchito yowopsya, chifukwa anthu onse samawakonda. Bwerezani zomwezo kangapo, ndipo izo zikwanira. Mungathe, kuti mutsimikizire zotsatira zake, nenani chinachake monga "ndi mapeto awa ndibwino ndipo musayambe" ndipo mukhoza kuganiza kuti kugonana naye kwatha. Makamaka ndi inu.
Zomwezo zimagwiranso ntchito kwa amai - zimadula mwamuna kangapo kuti atchule mawu opusa pankhani ya kugonana kwake ndipo thupi lake lidzakhala ndi lingaliro lomwelo: chifukwa chiyani ndiyenera kukhala ndi zosangalatsa zoterezi? Ndiko kulondola. Sichifunikira. Pa nthawi yomweyi, maubwenzi onse angathe kukhala okongola.
Mmene mungathetsere mavuto ndi kugonana?
Ngati mwadzidzidzi munazindikira kuti mukuopa kuti mukukhala mukudandaula, mukuyembekeza zosangalatsa za kugonana chifukwa wina adakuchimwirani, kukhumudwa kapena kuchititsidwa manyazi pa malo awa, pangani anzanu ndi mantha anu! Yerekezerani izi, mutumizeni chikondi chonse, chikondi ndi chikondi. Ikhoza kugwira ntchito. Kuonjezerapo, mukhoza kupanga mantha anu ndikupanga mtundu wina wotsutsa pulogalamu. Mwachitsanzo, dzidziwe wekha - "Ndikuwopa kuti ndikugonana, chifukwa ndikuwopa kuti sindikumvetsedwa kapena ndikusokonezeka." Kenaka perekani ndemanga ndi tanthauzo losiyana - "Ndili wotseguka kugonana, ndimadzikuza ndekha nthawi zonse ndipo ndimangokhalira kukondwa kwenikweni ndi kugonana". Pambuyo pake, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochuluka ndi mphamvu kuti mubwereze kapena kulembanso mowonjezera maulendo anu, kuti chidziwitso chigwire lamuloli ndikuliika ndi maganizo oipa.
Mu mau, pali mwayi wokhala wabwinoko, mumangochita khama ndikukhala oleza mtima.
Mphamvu yoipa.
Mwachiwonekere, kugonana kumachepetsa thanzi. Koma, kuti mugonane, mukuyenera kukhala ndi zina zambiri. Kugonana - monga maphunziro a thupi, ziribe kanthu momwe zimamveketsa. Ndipo sikofunika kuti musamangidwe, koma m'malo mwa mphamvu ndi mphamvu zamkati. Izi ndizo, ngati mwakhumudwa kapena mukugona mokwanira, ndiye kuti simudzakhala ndi mphamvu yophunzitsira thupi. Koma, ngati muli ndi mizimu yangwiro, yodzala ndi mphamvu, pitiriranibe ... pasakhale mavuto ndi kugonana ... ngati, ndithudi pali anthu omwe angayang'ane nayo. Nthawi zambiri, nthawi zonse mumakhala pakhomo, choncho musataye.
Choipa kwambiri ndizochitika kwa zaka zana pamene mukupukuta nthawi yovuta ya ntchito yanu yamakono, otopa kapena opsinjika maganizo ... zonse zomwe mumaganizira ndizomwe mukuganizira, ndipo pali mphamvu. Sikuti kugonana ... kapena zabwino.
Kodi mungathetse bwanji?
Yankho lake ndi lodziwikiratu - kuchotsa zonse zoipa, kupeza mphamvu, kugona. Koma, izi si zokwanira. Mwinamwake, simukuzoloŵera ziwalo zanu zakuthupi - zenizeni, kuganiza, zopanda pake, ndili nazo zambiri zoti ndichite.
Kumbukirani - mphamvu zidzasonkhanitsa kulikonse kumene mungakhale. Kotero, inu mumagwiritsa ntchito kuthetsa vuto lotsatira kuntchito kapena kumudzi. Pali njira zambiri zowonjezera kugonana kwanu - powerenga mabuku okonda zachiwerewere kapena kuwonera mafilimu olaula, kugonana (popanda malire). Kwa amayi, njira yowonjezera yowonjezera kugonana kwa amai ndiyomwe imaganiziridwa.
Toys.
Kummawa, nthawi yayitali kale, amamvetsa kufunika kwa kugonana ndikupanga njira zambiri zothetsera mavuto a kugonana - aakulu ndi ang'onoang'ono.
Akazi pa izi angagwiritse ntchito masewera apadera monga mabala kapena mazira ... galasi, mwala kapena pulasitiki. Kodi chikuchitika chiani? Thupi lachilendo limakhumudwitsa abambo ndipo limakopa kutentha ndi chidwi, kutanthauza mphamvu! Zimakondwera kwambiri pamthupi lanu ... kuima njinga yopanda malire! Pali zotsatira zitatu:
- Kukula kwa chiwerewere, mumatsegula nkhope zawo zatsopano
- amasiya kuthamanga kosafunikira, mumasuka, mumtima mwathu mumakhala bwino
- Konjezerani mphamvu zanu, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mwayi wanu upambane popita kuntchito.
Tili ndi chiyani? Zochitika zenizeni zogonana.
Kwa amuna ngati masewero, mwatsoka palibe. Komabe, chipatso cha malingaliro anu ndi kukhala ndi mnzanu pambali panu chikhoza kuchita zodabwitsa. Pamapeto pake, ganizirani za ... ndi mavuto ati ogonana omwe muli nawo ... ngakhale mutha kuchita nawo ndekha pogwiritsira ntchito njira zapamwambazi kapena mukufuna thandizo la mnzanuyo.
Kuchita khama ndi zonse zomwe mungachite bwino.