Zoonadi, izi zimatichititsa manyazi kwambiri, ndipo ife timayamba kudziyesa mwa ife tokha, kufunafuna zofooka zomwe timaganiza kuti zimamukankhira munthuyo. Koma kaŵirikaŵiri, chifukwa cha khalidweli chimachokera ku chikhalidwe cha munthu mwiniyo. Zingakhale zovuta zosiyanasiyana zomwe zikugwirizana ndi mavuto ake. Ndipo, monga mukudziwira, anthu samakonda kutenga khalidwe lawo kuti akambirane. Chifukwa sakufuna kuvomereza kuti mavutowa alipo. Kuyika kukayikira kumagwirizano a amuna ndi vuto pansi pa lamba kwa aliyense woimira gawo lolimba la umunthu. Muzochitika izi, njira yokhayo yeniyeni idzakhalire kumulankhula mwamunthu, kuyamba kukambirana poyamba. Zonse zimadalira momwe mukuyambira. Izi ziyenera kuchitidwa molondola ndi molondola, zomwe sizikanakwiya kapena zopweteka maganizo ake ndi maganizo ake. Choipa kwambiri apa ndikutchula mawu onyoza mu adilesi yake, mwamsanga mutangomva kukana kwake kugonana ndi inu. Kulankhulana kwachiwiri kungayambe popanda nthawi ino, koma, mwachitsanzo, dikirani mpaka mutakhala wokwiya mtima ndipo mukhoza kulankhula zakukhosi. Pokhapokha pazifukwazi muli ndi mwayi wambiri wodziwa chomwe chimayambitsa zomwe zikuchitika. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi nokha mukhoza kumvetsa mfundoyi, nthawi zina mwamuna safuna kugonana ndi mkazi.
Ndipo pamene inu simunamufunse nokha, tiyeni tione odziwika kwambiri mwa anthu chifukwa cha milandu imene mwamuna sakufuna kugonana ndi mkazi. Timatha kufotokoza maganizo athu, m'mawu omwe timakhala nawo. Amuna saganizira kwambiri chifukwa cha maganizo awo aumunthu, choncho, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuthana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi ntchito kapena banja. Nthawi zonse amadzimva yekha ndi izi komanso palibe kanthu kena ndipo sangaganize ngati njira yothetsera mavutowa. Ngakhale zomwe mumakonda kuchita, zomwe zinachitika tsiku lapitalo, zingayambitse "chilakolako chake". Monga chomaliza - iye sali pafupi ndi inu kapena anaganiza zophunzitsa inu njira iyi ndi kulanga. Komabe chifukwa chomwe chingathetsere mkati mwa "I". Mwachitsanzo, pakali pano, ndiwe amene anayambitsa kugonana, ndi muzhiks, monga lamulo, ngati kuti tikwaniritse izi kuchokera kwa ife eni. Ndipo chifukwa chake, sizinamuyenerere ndipo anamkhudza. Amuna ambiri samakonda pamene mtsikana akugonana, chifukwa amakonda kwambiri "chisudzulo" chomwecho. Pamene akunena malo olakwika ndi nthawi, mungachite chiyani pa izo? Onetsetsani kuti mudikire sitepe yoyamba mwachindunji kuchokera kwa iye, ndipo pokhapokha kuti muchepetse chidwi chanu ndi chipiriro.
Inde, ngati simukudziwa vuto lovuta kwambiri pankhaniyi ndilo vuto pamene mwamuna akutaya chidwi chanu ngati mkazi. Amasiya kumangokonda kugonana ndipo chifukwa cha ichi amakana. Izi nthawi zambiri zimachitika pamene ubale wanu uli ndi nthawi yochuluka kapena wongokhala wodandaula, koma kukusungani inu pamodzi, chizolowezi chowonana wina ndi mzake. Iwe unayimitsa kukondweretsa iye ngati mkazi, ndiyo yankho lonse. Kugonana kwanu, amaona kuti kumakhala kosangalatsa komanso kosangalatsa. Komanso pano tikhoza kunena kuti akhoza kukhala ndi mkazi wina yemwe amamukhutiritsa, ndipo alibe mphamvu zokwanira kuti agone naye. Mwa njira, za mphamvu. Musatenge zonse zomwe tatchulidwa pamwambapa. Nthawi zina maganizo ake pa nkhaniyi amafotokozedwa ndi kutopa kapena ulesi nthawi zonse. Ndipo ngati mumadziŵa kuti iye ndi wamtundu wotere (osati kugonana) amuna, ndiye kuti sikungakhale kovuta kumvetsa. Ndi bwino kwambiri kugona pabedi ndi mphamvu yakuya kuchokera ku TV (makamaka ngati mpira wagonedwa usiku uno) kusiyana ndikutumphira mphindi zisanu pabedi.
Komabe chifukwa chake - inu, pamaganizo osokonezeka maganizo a amuna, musamamukondwere ngati mkazi. Potero, amachitira nanu chiwerewere ngati chinthu chokakamiza chimene sichibweretsa chisangalalo chapadera. Iwe ndiwe wokhazikika pamgedi kapena mosemphana ndi zifukwa ndipo si chifukwa chake iwe sungokhala mkazi wamtundu wazinthu zogonana. Amuna akudzifunira okha ndi wokondedwa wawo nthawi ya chiyanjano, kotero iwo ali okhudzidwa kwambiri pankhani yosankha wokondedwa. Ndipo ngakhale mutayang'ana zana limodzi, simungakwanitse nthawi zonse kukwaniritsa zilakolako za kugonana ndi zosowa zawo. Ndiwe anthu osagwirizana ndi kugonana ndipo ndizo. Ndiyeneranso kutchula zinthu zina zochepa zomwe zimakhudza kukana kwake poyandikira. Zili zofunikira ngati simunayambe kukhala pachibwenzi choyamba ndi mnzanuyo. Uku sikuli kudalira kwake muzochitikira zake (kuopa kukukhumudwitsani), kuopa kugonana (mwinamwake iye akadali namwali). Kukula kochepa kwa mbolo (kapena kuperewera), kuvutika maganizo kwa ubwana, matenda osiyanasiyana (mwinamwake ngakhale matenda oopsa). Iye ndi wokhulupirira (kuphatikizapo mgwirizano wapamtima ndi mkazi asanakwatirane onse aŵiri, chifukwa ichi ndi lingaliro lake kuposa chigololo chotsogolera tchimo) kapena musatuluke kuti muli ndi nthumwi zazing'ono, . Zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zisamveke zodabwitsa, koma masiku ano zikuchitika.
Ndipo kotero tinkalingalira zifukwa zomwe zimawoneka ngati mwamuna sakufuna kugonana ndi mkazi. Ndipo kuchokera pamwambapa, ziyenera kukumbukira kuti, ngati panalibe, ndikuyankhula nanu pamutu uwu. Palibe chozunza wina ndi mnzake. Pambuyo pake, chikondi popanda kugonana sichichitika ndipo mosiyana.