Mu moyo muli zongopeka zambiri zomwe zimakhudza amayi osakwatira. Kotero tiyeni tiwone chomwe, kwenikweni, ndipo ndicho chipatso chabe cha malingaliro a winawake.
Nthano nambala 1 - "palibe" ntchito.
Mwinamwake, mu dziko lamakono pali akazi ochepa amene angayang'ane ana okha, banja ndi njira ya moyo pamoyo wawo. Makamaka ngati mkazi ali yekha. Chikhumbo chofikira pazitali za ntchito, pakuti akazi ndi achilengedwe monga amuna. Makamaka ngati mkazi sakusowa kuthamangira kunyumba, khalani ndi ana paulendo wodwala, ndipo azungulira ndi chisamaliro cha mwamuna wake. Iye akhoza kulipira izo kwathunthu. Perekani bizinesi yanga yomwe ndimakonda. Kotero ngati pali mwayi, bwanji osagwiritsa ntchito. Kawirikawiri, monga momwe amasonyezera, amayi osakwatiwa amapeza bwino ndi kuwafunsa abwana, ndi akatswiri apamwamba.
Ndipo moyo wathu ndi wakuti amayi ochepa okha amatha kupanga ntchito yabwino panthawi yomweyo, kukhala mkazi wabwino komanso mayi wachikondi. Nthawi zambiri muyenera kusankha.
Chisankho chovuta kwa amai sichingapangidwe ali wamng'ono kwambiri. Izi zimachitika m'njira zosiyanasiyana, koma chiwerengero chapakati chimatchedwa zaka 16. Kenaka amasankha kukhala moyo wake wonse "ngati khoma lamwala," kapena kukankhira "khoma" ili kuti apindule yekha ndi kudzizindikira.
Ngati mkazi asankha choyamba, kenako, adzayesa kuzindikira zolinga zake kuti apambane. Kapena mosiyana, pambuyo pa kubweranso kwa ana kukhala moyo wodziimira, akuyamba kuganiziranso zofuna zawo, zokhumba zawo ndikuzizindikira. Inde, palibe funso lililonse la ntchito pano.
Mkazi wosakwatira pankhaniyi ali ndi ubwino wambiri. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti sichidzachititsidwa manyazi ndi malo osakhalitsa a "wosungulumwa". Koma pali mtundu wa amayi omwe, mpaka kukalamba, sadadandaula kuti apereka zomwe amakonda pa ntchito.
Momwe mungakhalire - zosankha ndizopadera.
Nthano nambala 2 "osati malingaliro amodzi okha."
Makamaka pakati pa amuna amalingalira kuti ngati mkazi ali wokongola, ndiye kuti si mkazi wamphamvu. Ndipo ngati kukongola kukuwonjezeka ndi kupambana muntchito, ndiye kuti imamva fried yokazinga. Koma ndi nthawi yoswa fictions zonsezi. Inde, kachitidwe ka kuganiza kwa akazi, kuphatikizapo malingaliro olemekezeka azimayi, kawirikawiri amasiyanasiyana ndi kuwongolera mozama kwa amuna. Koma izi zimapereka zifukwa zowonetsera kusiyana kwa malingaliro. Mofananamo, pazinthu zina mkazi amatha kupereka amuna kuyamba mutu, mwachitsanzo, kukhala ndi chidwi chodziwikiratu, komanso kutha kumudalira.
Nthawi zonse kunong'oneza bodza kumayang'ana mkazi - bwana, makamaka ngati ali yekha. Kumbukirani filimu yonse yotchuka "yonyansa ya chikondi ...". Zikatero, nkhani zodabwitsa zokhuza mkazi zimatha kulembedwa, chomwe chimatha kukhala miseche ponena za kusungulumwa kwake. Komanso nsanje, ndizo, zimafalitsa mphekesera, nthawi zambiri zimatchulidwa kuti ziyanjano kwa akulu apamwamba, ndi zina zambiri.
Koma apa pali chododometsa cha mkhalidwe wonsewo, pa chifukwa china anthu amafunika kupanga chithunzi chomwe iwo akufuna kuchiwona pa zifukwa zina, koma n'zosatheka kuyesa momwemo.
Nthano nambala 3 "bizinesi si ntchito za akazi."
Mwinamwake zaka 50 zapitazo izo zinali choncho. Koma lero mkazi wosakwatiwa mu bizinesi sizatsopano, ndipo amadziwoneka mofatsa. Kulongosola kolondola kolingana ndi tanthauzo la mawu awa kungaperekedwe mwanjira yakuti mkazi wa bizinesi amadalira kwambiri ena. Ndipo kupambana kwake kumakhala kofanana kwambiri ndi kuthekera kwa abwenzi ndi ogwira ntchito kuti azikhala mopepuka popanda kunena za chiwerengero cha amuna. Lamulo ili la makhalidwe abwino nthawi zambiri limaphwanyidwa mu bizinesi. Mofananamo, nthawi zina kudana ndipadera kungayambidwe ndi ntchito ya mkazi mmodzi. Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ngati munthu sangathe kumanga ubale weniweni, ndiye kuti anzakewo sangakhale nawo. Ngakhale kachiwiri, uwu ndi lingaliro lovomerezeka la mayunitsi, omwe samasamala kwambiri za njira yabwino yopezera bizinesi yomwe ili ndi zotsatira zake.
Iyenso iyenera kunyalidwa mu malingaliro kuti, kawirikawiri, kuti akwaniritse zotsatira zina, amai amafunika kudzipereka kwambiri ndi kuchita khama kwambiri pa njira yomwe amuna nthawi zambiri alibe vuto.
Nthano nambala 4 "ndipo zonsezi zimadzudzula zofuna zawo."
Mofananamo, pankhani ya ntchito ya mkazi yemwe ali wosungulumwa, wina akhoza kugwedezeka pa zifukwa zambiri ndi malingaliro chifukwa, komabe, mayi wolimbika, wokongola kwambiri adasankhira ofesi ndi bizinesi yokondedwa, osati nyumba, ana ndi mwamuna wake. Izi zikhoza kuchitika chifukwa cha chikondi chosasangalatsa, ndi zofuna zowonongeka, ndipo ngakhale kuyambitsa nkhani za zinthu zina zachirendo zomwe zimadziwonetsera okha kunja kwa ntchito. Monga, amabwera kunyumba, ndipo kamodzi bwana wamkazi atembenuka kukhala chule, ndiwo amphawi ndi kuthamanga.
Chifukwa chofala kwambiri ndi zofuna za amai, makamaka ngati akwanitsa kukwaniritsa chinachake. Sichisangalatsanso amuna, pafupipafupi nsanamira. Ayenera kukhala ndi anthu angapo amene adzamupambana. Zonsezi kuti kachiwiri umve ngati mkazi. Choncho, ambiri a sutiwa amachotsedwa nthawi yomweyo, ndipo iwo omwe angatenge malo oyenera m'moyo wake, safuna kuwona pafupi ndi iwo okha mpikisano.
Choncho nthano zokhudzana ndi chilakolako zingakhoze kuonedwa kuti ndi chimodzi mwa zochepa zomwe zimatsimikiziridwa muzochita.