Pambuyo pake, ngakhale mutakhala wokondwa momasuka mungapeze munthu wopambana ndi wopambana.
Ndikhoza kuyang'ana ndondomeko zonse zowonjezera nsanje ndi bwenzi langa. Kuchokera ku chimwemwe cha wina, maganizo ake amatha kuwonongeka, adayamba kunyoza ndikukwiya, kenako adakhumudwa ndipo anayamba kuyang'ana wolakwa yemwe ali wabwino kuposa iyeyo. Kawirikawiri, mwamuna wake anali wolakwa, chifukwa chakuti anali wapafupi kwambiri. Ngakhale patapita zaka zambiri, kaduka wake, ngati matenda obadwa, ukhoza kukhala pansi kwa kanthawi, kenaka nkuyambiranso. Ndipo kotero chaka ndi chaka.
Nthawi zonse ndimamumvera chisoni, chifukwa ndaona komanso kumvetsa zomwe akumva. Zimakhala zovuta kuti iye akhale pakati pa anthu. Momwemo, moyo wake unali kukula bwino, koma, mwachiwonekere, sikunali kokwanira kwa iye. Ndinkafuna zambiri, koma kuti "akadali" ayi, mwamuna wanga ali ndi mlandu. Nazi choncho.
Podzifananitsa nokha ndi malo anu ndi kupambana kwa anthu ena, kulingalira izi ndi ziganizo osati mwa inu kumayambitsa nsanje za otayika osowa, anthu omwe pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana sizingatheke m'moyo. Iwo amaganiza kuti sadakhutsidwe ndi chinachake, sadayamikiridwa, sanazindikire kuti ali ndi mphamvu. Ngakhale kuti akufuna kukhala olemera komanso opambana, olemera ndi ochenjera, anthu achisoni samachoka kumalo awo, akupitirizabe kuvutika ndi kaduka komwe kumawadya. Chifukwa cha chiyani? Kuti mukwaniritse zolembedwa kale, muyenera kudzipangabe nokha. Nthawi zonse yesetsani khama, ntchito ndi kukwaniritsa - mwa kuyankhula kwina, musakhale chete, koma nthawi zonse muzigwira ntchito paokha nokha ndikukumana ndi mavuto omwe akukumana nawo. Ngakhale kuli kosavuta kuyenda ndi kutuluka ndikusintha chilichonse pamoyo.
Ndipo moyo umakhala wotani kwa iwo amene amachitira nsanje? Mwachibadwidwe, kukhala chifukwa chokhumudwitsa cha wina ndikumakhala kosangalatsa. Anthu achisoni amanong'oneza pambuyo, akulira ndi kunong'oneza, ndipo nthawi zina amakhala odetsedwa mwakukhoza kwawo komanso luso lawo.
Kukhumudwa sikuyenera kukhalanso, asiyeni atenge poizoni kumbuyo kwanu, koma akukuchitirani nsanje! Kupambana kwanu, iwo awayamikira kale iwo. Chiwerengero cha anthu achisoni chikhoza kuonedwa kuti ndi chizindikiro cha kupambana kwa zochitika pamoyo wanu. Koma kuti awonetsere mwadala mwachindunji kupambana kwawo, sikuli koyenera kuwakopera iwo mozungulira, ndi njira yolunjika ku kudzikuza ndi kusungulumwa.
Munthu wololera ndipo amadziwa kuchitira nsanje ndi nzeru. Wina adzati: "Wapatsidwa bwanji, ndipo sindikutero?" Wina - yemwe ali wololera, adzaganiza: - "Anatha kukwaniritsa, koma bwanji? Kodi ndikuipiraipiranji? "Izi zimatchedwa nsanje yoyera, imatithandiza kukhala ndi chitukuko komanso chitukuko. Munthu amene amadziwa kuchitira nsanje njiru yoyera akhoza kunena poyera kuti: "Inde, ndimasirira, koma ndikhoza kuchita chimodzimodzi, kapena kuposa." Ndipo iye adzachita zimenezo.
Nsanje yakuda ndi poizoni imaipitsa moyo wanu, ndipo nsanje yoyera imathandiza kupitilira patsogolo, kuti ipite patsogolo. Musaope kukhala ndi nsanje. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuchichita kuti musakwiyire munthu amene wapambana, ndikuwonetseni chidwi chake. Ndipo muzichita izo kuchokera mu mtima.
Nsanje yakuda ndi yoyera nthawi zonse ili pafupi ndi ife ndipo nthawi zambiri mwa ife tokha. Mmodzi ayenera kumasiyanitsa wina ndi mzake ndi kusagonjetsedwa ndi nsanje yakuda. Ngati muli ndi nsanje, yesani nsanje yoyera, ndipo ndibwino kuti musakhale ndi nsanje konse, ndi bwino kutenga vutolo lina popanda kuyang'ana kumbuyo kwa ena.