Amafuna kusunga dongosolo lomwe likupezeka ndikukaniza kusintha. Wamng'ono, mosiyana, pokhala ndi udindo wa onse omwe akuthandizidwa, akukula amodzi, osasamala, otseguka kwa atsopano. Koma malingaliro awo nthawi zambiri amatsutsana, chifukwa, pambali imodzi, iwo ali zinyama, ndipo pamzake, nthawi zonse amatsalira kumbuyo kwa mamembala ena, ndipo izi zimakhudza kudzidalira. Ambiri amaumirizidwa kumvetsetsa malamulo a chiyanjano ndi misomali yaing'ono kuti apitirize kukhala paubwenzi wabwino ndi mchimwene kapena mlongo wamkulu komanso ndi wamng'ono, choncho "pakati" nthawi zambiri amakhala omasuka, okondana, osasinthasintha, ndi omvera bwino. Koma dongosolo la kubadwa mwinamwake silo lalikulu komanso osati chokhacho. Kugonana n'kofunika, chiwerengero cha mamembala m'banja, kusiyana pakati pa zaka pakati pa ana. Mlengalenga mu banja ndi mavuto ake azachuma, kufalitsa ntchito pakati pa amayi ndi abambo ndi zochitika zina zimakhudza kwambiri banja. Koma sitingatsutsane kuti dongosolo la kubadwa m'banja limakhudza kwambiri ana ndipo lingathandize kuti ziwonetsedwe zina ziwonetsedwe. Njira yokhayo ya mwanayo kusukulu iyenera kukhala yofanana ndi mayi wa mwanayo.
Woyamba kubadwa
Kwa nthawi yaitali mwana wamkulu amakhala ndi udindo wokhawokha m'banja (mosiyana ndi ana omwe akutsatira), makolo onse akuganizira kwambiri za iye, chikondi chonse ndi chisamaliro chapatsidwa kwa iye. Koma mwanayo atangoyamba kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi umenewu, zinthu zimasintha. Tsopano samangokhala yekhayo, ndipo amakakamizidwa kugaŵana nawo makolo ndi mwana wina, komanso ndi kupeza malo atsopano a "wamkulu" amatenga katundu wolemetsa wothandizira naye, kumene iye sali wokonzeka ndi wosafuna kwenikweni. Zofunikira kwa mwanayo ziwonjezeka kwambiri, maganizo a makolo, monga lamulo, samasinthira bwino, pambuyo pake, mayi akukonzekera ntchito yatsopano. Poyamba, gawo la mkango wa makolo limaperekedwa kwa mwanayo, sichigawanika mofananamo, kotero, woyamba kubadwa amene amatha kusamalira mwachikondi amalandira gawo lake la chikondi mwa kudutsa kapena mwachitsulo chokhazikika. Choncho, tiyenera kusamala kuti kusintha koteroko sikukhala, kovuta kwambiri, ndi zofuna - zochuluka.
Chithunzi cha maganizo
Mapulani Nthawi zambiri mwana wamkulu amakhala ndi zinthu monga kudzidalira, kudzipereka, udindo, kutsogolo. Ana onse okalamba ali ndi nzeru zoposa ana awo ndi alongo awo, chifukwa ndizochokera kwa iwo omwe makolo amayembekezera kuposa ena, komanso kuti ndi achinyamata. Chotsatira chake, makolo ambiri amayamba kukhala oyamba kubadwa: amatha kukhala alangizi, amatha kutenga udindo ndikukhala mtsogoleri. Zowonongeka Nthaŵi zina kulemera kwa udindo umenewu kumakhala kolemera kwambiri kwa munthu wamng'ono, ndipo amachititsa kuti azikhala ndi nkhawa zambiri. Panthawiyi, mwanayo akuyang'ana chifukwa cha kusintha komwe kwakhalapo, ndipo popeza ana amadziimba mlandu pazinthu zonse, kulingalira kwawo koyenera nthawi zambiri sikukugwirizana nawo. Kenaka mu chikhalidwe cha mwanayo mwadzidzidzi pamakhala kusweka, kusamvera, pangakhale kusokonezeka mu tulo kapena mantha osiyanasiyana, mwanayo amayamba nthawi zambiri kupuma kapena kubwezeretsa. Chifukwa chokha ndicho kusowa chidwi. Simusowa kupanga mwana wamwamuna wobadwa woyamba. Kumbukirani kuti, pamwamba pa zonse komanso mwana, ndiyeno wothandizira wanu. Sonyezani mwana wanu momwe mumayamikirira thandizo lake, kumutamanda ndi kumuthandiza. Komabe, samalani kuti abale ndi alongo ang'onoang'ono sayenera kulemetsa mchimwene wake wamkulu, ngati kuli koyenera, akhale okonzeka kuteteza malo ake ndi katundu wake. Nthawi zambiri amamvetsera woyamba kubadwa ndi ubwino wake. Ana aakulu amaloledwa zambiri. Lolani mwana wamkulu kuti nthawizina akhale wamng'ono, khalani mmanja mwanu, amwe botolo kapena agone pansi pa khungu la mbale wamng'ono.
Chidwi chanu
Mulole mwana aliyense akhale ndi zidole zake zamwini, mabuku ndi magazini, ndi onse, kuti aziphunzira limodzi. Mwachitsanzo, lolani mwana wamkulu alembe magazini onena za sitima, wamkazi wokhazikika - za akavalo, ndi wamng'ono - za moyo wa zinyama, zojambula kapena puzzles kwa wamng'ono kwambiri. Limbikitsani ana kuti azilemekezana katundu wawo komanso, ngati n'koyenera, funsani mafunso nthawi zonse. Mwana aliyense adzapeza zochitika zapadera zokha, zomwe zidzakhala zosiyana ndi zina. Izi zidzakupatsani chifukwa chinanso choyenera kumvetsera kwa ana aang'ono, apakati ndi akuluakulu padera, kuyang'ana ndikuwerenga nawo makope awoawo.
Zamkatimu
Kukhala wamkulu sikophweka! Mbali imodzi, mkuluyo amamuyang'ana iye, chifukwa amamukana udindo wapadera wa mwana yekhayo. Koma, iye mwini sakonda mwana wachitatu, chifukwa iye amamukana iye kukhala wamkulu. Chotsatira chake, mkuntho wamalingaliro otsutsana ndi kuvutika kozindikira udindo wawo m'banja. Mwana wamba alibe mwayi wopezera udindo wa mtsogoleri, yemwe nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti mwana woyamba kubadwa, komanso alibe nthawi yokhala ndi mtsogoleri. Pa nthawi yomweyi, adzamva kuti zofunikira kuchokera kwa iye ndizochepa kusiyana ndi zoyamba, ndipo izi zimadzetsa bata. Koma pa nthawi yomweyi, iye akusowa chidwi. Mwana woteroyo amakakamizika kuti azipikisana nthawi zonse ndi mkulu wamphamvu ndi wokhoza komanso wamng'ono. Mwinamwake, simukuwona zambiri zomwe mwana wapakati apindula? Ndipotu, "chatsopano" chomwe mwana wachiwiri amachita, makolo "adadutsa" ndi oyambawo, kotero iwo samachimverera.
Chithunzi cha maganizo
Zabwino: Mwana wanu wamba amakhala wokonzeka kuyankhulana, kuyang'ana pakati pa anzako. Mwina adzalandira udindo wa mtendere mu ubale wa mwana woyamba komanso mwana wamng'ono kwambiri, ndipo izi zidzatha kukambirana. Kawirikawiri ana awa amadziwika ndi kumvera, kusinthasintha, kulankhulana, kusagwirizana. Kuyambira ali mwana, mwana wamba amakakamizika kukambirana ndi anthu osiyanasiyana, ndipo izi ndi zabwino kwa iye, amaphunzitsa kuti azigwirizana ndi aliyense, akhale wololera, wochenjera komanso wosatsutsika. Chinsinsi chachikulu kuti mwana wabwino apambane ali ndi mphamvu pa chinthu chapadera. Lembani mwanayo ku maphunziro a gitala, mumulangize njira ya origami ndikumuphunzitseni kupanga masewera okondweretsa, kumuthandiza kuti apeze chitsanzo kapena kutengeka ndi makina opangidwa ndi wailesi. Mulole kuti asakhale ndi mpikisano pankhaniyi, ndiye adzalandira kudzidalira ndi kulemekeza mu gulu la abale ndi alongo. Zikuwoneka kuti malo achiwiri omwe mwana wamba amawatenga m'banja samulola kuti aziwerengera ubwino wake pa abale ndi alongo ake, iye sali wamng'ono kwambiri pazinthu zopanda thandizo, kapena wamkulu kwambiri ndi wachibale wake wachibadwidwe. Koma mungathe kuthandiza mwana wanu pogwiritsa ntchito "mgwirizano wotsutsana". Ndi akulu ake, ntchito yowunikira yofunikira imasonkhanitsidwa pamodzi, mwachitsanzo, kupita ku mafilimu. Nthawi zina mumulole kuti akhale "wamng'ono", mumulole kuti awone chojambula pamodzi ndi wamng'ono. Muwonetseni iye kuti, mosiyana, ali nawo mwayi wopindula pa zaka zonsezo. Ngakhalenso zovuta kwa makolo omwe ali ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya ana m'banja. Pachifukwa ichi, udindo wa "mwana wamba" ukhoza kusinthidwa ndi "mkulu" kapena "mchimwene wamng'ono". Ndiye mwana wamba angakhale kosavuta kuzindikira udindo wake m'banja, ndipo makolo amazindikira kuchuluka kwa ubwino wake pakati pa ana.
Tamandani nthawi zambiri
- Zotsatira
Pang'ono kwambiri pakhale pamodzi osasamala, mwachifundo, adventurism. Ana awa nthawi zambiri amajambula, zomwe amafunikira kuti akhalebe pakati pa anthu onse. Pa nthawi yomweyi, wamkulu, komanso pakati, amaphunzira kukambirana mwamtendere, ndikupanga luso lamakono, chifukwa amadziwa mwamsanga kuti mphamvu yakukwaniritsira cholinga (poyang'anizana ndi amphamvu "wamkulu" ndi "pakati") siwothandiza. Ana aang'ono ndi otchuka ndi anzawo ndipo amatha kugwirizana ndi anthu.
- Wotsutsa
Wamng'ono kwambiri amapatsidwa chidwi chachikulu ndipo amakhululukidwa kuposa ena. Kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi zonse kudalira chithandizo cha akulu, nthawi zambiri amamangirira patsogolo pa zovuta ndikuperekanso mwamsanga. Kawirikawiri, amalephera kudziletsa ndikukumana ndi mavuto pakupanga zisankho; ozoloŵera kusamalidwa ndi achibale awo ndi kupondereza kwambiri, wamng'ono amakhala wamkulu waulesi, wamng'ono komanso wodalira, angayambe kusonyeza kudzikonda, chikhumbo chofunafuna nthawi zonse.
Kanema mu njira yolondola
Kuti musasokoneze chonchi, khalani ndi chizoloŵezi chowombera ndikupewa kutamandidwa mopitirira muyeso komanso mopanda nzeru. Koma simungakhale otanthawuza "kutamanda pa ngongole": khalani pa kujambula kwa maginito, zomwe adazikoka mwachangu. Ngakhale ngati zotsatirazo sizikhala zofunikiratu, chizindikiro choterocho chidzalimbikitsa achinyamata kuti ayesetsedwe mwatsopano. Ngati chinachake sichimagwira ntchito kwa iye ndipo amakhumudwa, chithandizani chitsimikizo, kutsimikizirani kuti zonse zidzatha. Musanyalanyaze zopindula zilizonse, ngakhale zikuwoneka bwino kuti: kutenga nawo gawo ndi kukhudzidwa kumalimbitsa mtima wake wophunzira luso latsopano popanda kuyang'ana ana okalamba. Ntchito yanu ndikutsegula chitukuko cha mwana wamng'ono ndikulimbikitsanso kufotokoza za luso lake ndi zofuna zake. Mwanjira ina, wamng'ono kwambiri amayesetsa kulumikizana ndi akulu ake moyo wake wonse, koma adzapambana chifukwa cha zofuna zake zokha. Onetsetsani kuti wamng'onoyo amachitanso nawo ntchito zapakhomo. Ngati nthawi zonse mumamasula mwana wachitatu ku nkhawa, chifukwa "ali wamng'ono kwambiri", izi zidzasokoneza chisangalalo pakati pa ana okalamba, zovuta kuyanjana pakati pa ana. Phunzitsani mwana wanu kuti agwire ntchito - kupeza ntchito yamakono yomwe angakwanitse, mwanayo sayenera kukhala ndi mwayi wapadera, umene sagwiritsira ntchito malamulo apakhomo. Musalimbikitse chizoloŵezi chakunyoza ndi kuwuza abale ndi alongo achikulire. Phunzitsani mwana wanu kuti ayang'ane mawu abwino oti akambirane ndi mchimwene wake kapena mlongo popanda kukhudza akuluakulu.