Inde, zimachitika. Ndipo mu mphamvu yanu kusintha mwanayo ndi kuyimba moyenera, kotero kuti ulendo wotere unali wosavuta ndipo mwamsanga mwatsalira.
Tiyeni tiyambe dokotala
Njira yanu yopita kuchipatala "nthano" imadalira zaka za mwanayo. Mwana wakhanda, poyamba, ayenera kutsimikiziridwa ndi kutsimikiziridwa kuti kuchipatala sikugwirizana ndi kusamvera kwake kapena kusakondwera ndi makolo ake. Makamaka zovuta kulekerera kukhala m'chipatala ndi ana omwe ali ndi zaka 3-4, pamene amayi ndi abambo akuwoneka kuti ndiwo okhawo anthu achikondi padziko lonse lapansi, pamene mantha amawomba mwachiwawa, kuphatikizapo mantha a imfa. Ana amazunzidwa ndi kuganiza kuti adzafunika kupirira zowawa ndi zopweteka, amatsimikiza kuti nthawi zonse amacheza nawo njira iliyonse yachipatala. Tiuzeni kuti izi siziri choncho nthawi zonse. Mungathenso kutchula nthawi zingapo zosangalatsa: mwayi wokhala ndi ana ena kapena kudya pabedi.
Mwana wamkulu ayenera kupatsidwa chidziwitso chofunika kwambiri pa chifukwa chake adzalandila kuchipatala komanso zomwe zidzachitike kuchipatala. Mwanayo ayenera kumvetsetsa: vuto lalikulu ngati chipatala ndilofunika kuti likhale labwino, komanso kuti adzalandira bwanji malangizo a madokotala ndi anamwino, nthawi zambiri zimadalira nthawi yomwe chipatala chidzatha. Fotokozani kwa iye malamulo a khalidwe m'bungwe ili, atsimikizireni kutenga naye zinthu zomwe zikhoza kuwonetsa moyo wake m'ndende: albamu ndi mapensulo, zojambula, mabuku, zipangizo zamakono ndi masewera.
Makolo, panjira yopulumukira!
Kuchokera mumalingaliro a amayi m'njira zambiri kumadalira mwanayo. Yesetsani kudzisunga nokha ndi kukhala chete, chifukwa mu nthawi yomwe zimakhudza, nthawi zambiri timachita zomwe timachita manyazi, ndipo sitingawone bwinobwino zomwe zidziwitso zomwe madokotala amanena. Ziribe kanthu momwe iwe uliri woopsya, kumbukirani kuti chinthu chofunika kwambiri tsopano ndi thanzi la mwanayo. Musati mupange mwana kuchipatala kuti achite nawo sewero lonse, musati "muthamangitse" nokha, khalani kutali ndi achibale osasunthika. Kuika kuti chipatala ndi ngozi, kupweteka ndi mantha, m'malo mwa ena: apa ndi malo omwe amathandizira, kubweretsa kuyambiranso pafupi.
Yesetsani kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino kwa madotolo ndi ogwira ntchito zamankhwala. Mwanayo akhoza kuwerenga zabwino zakale za "Doctor Aybolit", kugula mankhwala omwe amachititsa mankhwala, kuti athe kuyesa ntchitoyi, mwana wamkulu - afotokoze nkhani zoona zokhudzana ndi zozizwitsa za madokotala zochokera kwa Mulungu, zomwe ziridi zambiri. Izi zidzakupatsani mtendere ndi chidaliro kuti chirichonse chidzakhala bwino. Lemekezani madokotala: musamatsutsane ndi zochita zawo ndi mwanayo, khalani okoma polankhulana nawo. Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mukhoza kuthawa: zolakwika zachipatala zimachitika, ndipo sizili zovuta. Choncho musazengereze kufunsa mafunso, muli ndi ufulu wokhala ndi chidziwitso chilichonse chokhudza chithandizo cha mwanayo, kudziwa chomwe chake ndi chifukwa chake iye wasankhidwa, kuti afune kutanthauzira mawu.
Lembani zonse zomwe zingathe kubwera: Mayina ndi maina a madokotala, mayina a mankhwalawa ndi ndondomeko zawo zovomerezeka, zochitika tsiku ndi tsiku kuchipatala, katundu ololedwa ndi oletsedwa, ndi zina zotero. Zonsezi zidzatithandiza kukonza chidziwitsocho, komanso pang'ono, kusiyanitsa ndondomekoyo, kulondola kwa chithandizo kulandira makalata kufunsa kuchokera kwa katswiri wina.
Nthawi X
Ndi liti pamene ndi bwino kuuza wodwala kuti apite kuchipatala? Zimalangizidwa kwa masiku angapo - mwanayo ayenera kukonzekera m'maganizo komanso mwathupi. Sizabwino kubweretsa mwana kwa dokotala ngati ngati akuyesa kafukufuku wam'tsogolo, ndipo kenaka amadzilembera kuchipatala - izi zimamuchititsa mantha. Koma kutambasula mazunzo okhudza kupatukana kwa milungu iwiri sikuli koyenera. Yesetsani kusonyeza mwana wanu wamwamuna momwe mumamvera, m'malo mwake, yang'anani chirichonse chili chabwino. Mwana wanu amafunikira thandizo lanu!
Kodi mwana amafunika chiyani kuchipatala?
- Kuchepetsa kwaukhondo: ubweya wa mano ndi phala, sopo, pepala lakumbudzi; (mndandanda wathunthu ukhoza kufotokozedwa kuchokera kwa antchito a malo ena);
- zovala zoyera (inu mutenga zovala zodetsedwa);
- chakudya chokonzekera (ndithudi, ngati chiloledwa);
- foni yam'manja yowonjezeranso chikwama kuti mwanayo alumikizane nthawi zonse.
Mfundo yaikulu - wodwala wamng'ono ayenera kukhala ndi chilichonse chomwe angafune, koma palibe chodabwitsa.
Kuchokera ku doko kufikira kukhetsa
Mwanayo amathamangira mofulumira kuchipatala kumadalira kulemera kwa zinthu izi: kuopsa kwake kwa matenda ndi njira zochiritsira, msinkhu wake, chikhalidwe, malingaliro ake pamaganizo, ndipo potsiriza, kuchokera ku kampani (ndi abwenzi ndi okondwa!). Monga lamulo, patapita masiku 3-5 wodwala wamng'ono pang'onopang'ono "amatha", akuzoloŵera zatsopano. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, amakumana ndi zovuta kwambiri panthawi yochezera makolo ake: maonekedwe a mtumiki kuchokera pakhomo nthawi yomweyo amakukumbutsani momwe ziliri zabwino komanso momwe mukufuna kubwereranso mwamsanga. Choncho, maulendo a makolo nthawi zambiri amathera ndi misonzi ya ana ndi amatsenga. Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti maulendo ayenera kudula osachepera. Ndipotu, bambo ndi amayi ake, ana a msinkhu uliwonse amawoneka kuti ali ndi chidaliro komanso bata.
Kulankhulana uthenga wabwino okha, ndi zina zonse zomwe mungathe ndikudikirira, funsani mwanayo zomwe zinamuchitikira kuchipatala, kachiwiri ndi kutsindika pa zabwino: werengani buku latsopano, apange ubwenzi ndi munthu wina, phunzirani momwe mungapangire puzzles, ndi zina. Mutamandeni ngakhale zosalala ngati gawo la phala, amadya mpaka kumapeto, kapena khalidwe lolimba mtima mu chipinda chochizira.
Konzani zam'tsogolo, zomwe mudzachita akadzabwerako, komwe mukupita kukacheza, omwe mumamuitanira kukacheza ... Ndikofunika kuti mwana asatope kuchipatala: ngakhale masewera omwe mumawakonda komanso zochita zanu, mobwerezabwereza tsiku lililonse , akhoza kukhumudwa - muyenera kusamalira kusintha kwawo. Mwa njira, ili m'chipatala komwe muli nthawi yambiri yaulere, mwanayo akhoza kukhala ndi luso lenileni: wina amakonda zokongoletsera kapena macrame, wina ayamba kukoka, kujambula kuchokera ku pulasitiki kapena kulemba ndakatulo!
Ponena za mankhwala enieni, kupambana kwake kumadalira kulanga kwa wodwala ndi mayi ake. Yesetsani kusunga malamulo onse a chipatala tsiku ndi tsiku, musanyalanyaze malangizo a odwala. Musatengedwe ndi chifundo chanu nokha ndi mwana wanu, koma musamufunse zosatheka kwa iye. Mwachibadwa, amawopa njira zopweteka (jekeseni, bandeji, droppers), ngakhalenso ngati ana ena akuchita bwino, musamukakamize! Musamawopsyeze ndikunyenga, "Musamalize kulira, kenako adzaika jekeseni yochulukirapo", "Mudzachita mwanjira imeneyi - sadzakulemberani kuchokera kuchipatala", "Tawonani: palibe amene akubangula," "Sikuti mukukonzekera mapiritsi "(ndipo panthawiyi dokotala amadzipangitsa mwadzidzidzi jekeseni) - izi ndizoletsedwa ndi ndondomeko.
Landirani!
Pomalizira, nthawi yoyembekezera ya "ufulu" - mwana wanu ali pakhomo kachiwiri! Ichi ndi chisangalalo chachikulu. Komabe, zina mwa zotsatira za kukhala m'chipatala - maganizo amodzi - akhoza kutha posachedwa. Kuvutika, mwanayo akhoza kukhumudwa, kukwiya kapena kutsekedwa mwa iyemwini, kapena kukhala wokwiya, wosazindikira komanso wosokonezeka. Osati nthawi zambiri komanso kambek "ali mwana - izi zimachitika ndi ana a zaka 3-4. Afunsanso kukonza, kukana kuvala okha, amatha kulemba m'matumba - izi ndizobwezeretsa maganizo, ndiko kuti, kubwereranso kumbuyo kwa chitukuko. Kukhala ngati chonchi, mwanayo akuwoneka akutetezedwa: Amayi a mwanayo sadzaloledwa kuyika mwanayo kuchipatala.
Kukhala m'maboma a chipatala nokha kungapangitse psychotrauma pa mwana. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti ali ndi zaka zingati: ngakhale makanda omwe amakakamizidwa kuti azikhala nthawi ina kuchipatala popanda amayi kukumbukira, ndipo pambuyo pake vuto lachisokonezo lothamangitsidwa kumalo osadziŵa limabweretsa mavuto ambiri, kupanga khalidwe lachilendo. Chodabwitsa ichi chimadziwika kuti "chipatala cha ana." Ngati zochitikazo zapanda kuti musakhale ndi mwayi wopeza nthawi yachipatala pafupi ndi mwanayo, ndibwino kuti mutenge njira zothetsera vutoli mwamsanga. Thandizani masewera - ntchito yaikulu ya ana ndi chida champhamvu chokonzekera maganizo. Kutaya zovuta zosiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo kupweteketsa mtima, mwanayo amachititsa mantha ndi nkhawa zake, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti chikhalidwe chake chikhale bwino. Mu masewera a zamaganizo, masewera ambiri apadera pa milandu yotereyi, ena mwa iwo makolo angathe kugwiritsa ntchito pakhomo. Psycheche ya mwanayo ndi pulasitiki - posakhalitsa zonse zidzasintha.