Choyamba, tidzatha kuzilingalira. Ngati mnyamata wanu akugona ndi anyamata., Funsani kwa atsikana: kodi mukutanthauza chiyani "kugona"? Ngati ataledzera mumsana kuchokera pabedi pafupi ndi abwenzi patha phwando, ndiye palibe chachilendo kapena chamanyazi za izo. Ngakhale mnyamata atakumbatira mnzake wapamtima m'maloto. Musaiwale kuti mumkhalidwe woledzeretsa anthu amagona kwambiri mwamphamvu ndipo samvetsa zomwe zikuchitika pozungulira iwo. Choncho, atalandira Vova kapena Vitya yake, mwinamwake mnyamata wanu ndi wotsimikiza kuti muli pafupi naye.
Kapena mwinamwake mnyamata amakonda kuseka kwambiri. Inde, ndikuvomereza, kusangalatsa kotereku ndikulunjika, koma palinso anthu oterewa. Mnyamata akhoza kuseka nthawi zonse kwa abwenzi ake chifukwa cha nthabwala, kumukumbatira ndi kumpsompsona, kumuuza kuti mwamuna ndi phwando lokongola, ndipo ndizovuta kwambiri kugona ndi mkazi. Pankhaniyi, iye akukumbatirani, ndipo panthawi imodzi adzayamba kugwada kwa bwenzi lake ndikumupempha kuti amugometse ndikumupsompsona. Ndipo, m'maso mwake adzakhala achifundo komanso chikondi kotero kuti mumayamba kuchita nsanje kwa mnyamata. Musakhale ndi nsanje. Ndi zokha kuti munthu akufuna kukopa chidwi, ndipo, popeza njira zina zonse zakhala zowonongeka kale, amayesera kukopa malingaliro monga khalidwe lachifundo. Ndi bwino kusamvetsera "nambala" zoterezo. Nthawi zina anyamata amangotikwiyira mwanjira imeneyo. Ndipo, osati chifukwa cha mkwiyo, koma kuti musangalale. Iwo amaganiza kuti ndizosangalatsa, kusewera masewera komanso kumawoneka momwe abwenzi awo ndi atsikana amakhudzidwira.
Ngati munthu woteroyo akukhala ndi munthu wamba, koma nthawi yomweyo amaiwala za "zilakolako" zake zonse ndipo adzachita ngati munthu wamba. Ngakhale ola lapitalo iye adayesa kumukumbatira mnzake, osamvetsera kuti anali atatanganidwa kwambiri ndi chibwenzi chake. Choncho, m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, musamvetsetse kuti mnyamata akugona ndi anyamata ena. Zonsezi zimachitika m'mawu ndipo siziwopseza mgwirizano wanu mwanjira iliyonse. Chinthu chokha chomwe chingachitike ndikuti nthawi zina amayamba kusangalala ndi abwenzi ake ndi nthabwala zake ndi kuwachotsa pamaso.
Choncho, ngati muwona kuti mnyamatayo ali kale bwino kwambiri-akugwedeza ndodo, yesetsani kulipotoza, kotero kuti mkangano usawonongeke. Ngakhale mabwenzi apamtima komanso abwino omwe amazoloŵera chisangalalo chachilendo, posakhalitsa amayamba kukwiya. Ngakhale nthabwala zokhudza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndizo zotchuka masiku ano, ndipo amuna amayamba kuchita ngati madona, mwinamwake, posakhalitsa kapena mtsogolo, munthu wamba amayamba kunjenjemera ndipo amachoka pakunyalanyaza ndi mawu omwe akuwavutitsa. Choncho yesetsani kuteteza wokondedwa wanu ku mikangano yosiyana ndi anzanu. Amakhulupiriradi kuti zimachita zopanda pake. Kotero, izo zidzakhala zosasangalatsa kwambiri ndi zopweteka kwa iye, pamene pempho lotsatira la kupsompsona, bwenzi lake lapamtima limamuponyera pamaso. Musaiwale kuti amuna, nthawi zambiri amachita ngati ana. Kungokhala ndi msinkhu, amasintha masewerawo, koma lingaliro la chiwerengero, pazifukwa zina, sichiwonjezeredwa. Ndi chifukwa cha izi, motero, osayera, ngakhale nthabwala zachilendo, zingakhale zovuta mu ubale pakati pa abwenzi. Kotero, monga msungwana wanzeru ndi wamkulu, yesetsani kuti musalole izi kuti zichitike.
Muyenera kumanjenjemera ndikudandaula mukawona kuti mnyamatayu samaseka. Ngati muzindikira kuti sakugwirizana ndi amuna ena, ndipo iwo amawabwezeretsa, ndiye kuti mumayenera kuganizira za yemwe muli pachibwenzi. Alipo anyamata omwe amabisa maganizo awo osagwirizana nawo ndikukumana ndi atsikana, koma, kwenikweni, akumva chikondi chenicheni ndi kukopa kwa anyamata okha. Pankhaniyi, mwamuna akhoza kukhala ndi banja ndi ana, koma ayenera kuyamba kumbali ya okondedwa. Pali amayi omwe amavomereza kupirira moyo wotero ndi maubwenzi chifukwa cha chikondi, phindu la ndalama ndi zina. Zikhoza kukhala kuti mnyamatayu sakudziwa nthawi yomweyo kuti ndi wamng'onoting'ono, sakudziwa izi ndipo amatsegula zowonjezera zaka zingapo pambuyo pa ukwatiwo. Inde, izi ndizovuta kwa iye ndi kwa mkazi wake. Ndipo apa ndikofunikira kusankha momwe mungapitirire. Kodi ndi bwino kuyesa kukhalabe pabanja kapena ndi bwino kusiya wina ndi mzake ndikuyesera kupeza chimwemwe chanu chatsopano. Choncho, ngati muwona kuti mnyamata wanu akulakalaka amuna ena, ganizirani momwe mukuwonera tsogolo lanu pafupi ndi iye. Kodi mungagawane naye wokondedwa, osati ndi mkazi wina, koma ndi mwamuna wina.
Mwa njira, osati kuti mzimayi ayenera kukhala wamwamuna, nayenso, akhoza kukhala ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Pachifukwa ichi, akhoza kukukondani, koma, panthawi yomweyi, adzayang'ana anthu. Anthu oterewa ndi ovuta kukhala mitala. Sitinganene kuti iwo sali okhudzana ndi chikondi. M'malo mwake, amakhulupirira kuti chikondi sichitha kukhala chimodzi. Mnyamata woteroyo akhoza kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi mtsikana yemwe adzamukonda mofanana ndipo adzayesera kuchita zonsezi kwa anthu awa. Pano izi zidzadalira m'mene mumaonera dziko lapansi komanso kumasula makhalidwe. Ngati mungathe kukhala m'banja ngatilo, ndiye kuti musadandaule chifukwa cha khalidwe lake. Muzochitika zofanana, izi ndi zachilendo. Ngati kwa inu ndizosazolowereka ndi zachiwerewere, ndiye, mwinamwake, mumayenera kumusankha kapena kusokoneza chiyanjanocho.
Ndipotu, ngati mnyamata wanu akugonana ndi anyamata, funso kwa atsikana omwe adutsutsa izi, akhoza kufunsidwa, koma, komabe, inunso muyenera kupanga chisankho. Ndipotu, chimwemwe chanu ndi chanu, ndipo mumangomvetsa momwe zingakhalire kapena sizingatheke.