Zovuta zovuta
Mwini wokha, kudziona ngati wolakwa sikubweretsa chirichonse cholakwika. Kodi ndi zoipa, pochita choyipa, kuzindikira ichi ndikuchikonza (ngati n'kotheka), kapena kulakwa, lapani ndipo musabwerezenso. M'mawu ake, amatiphunzitsa kupeza malire a zomwe ziloledwa ndikusawadutsa. Koma izi ndi zabwino. Zoona, ndizosiyana. Kawirikawiri zinthu zimakhala zoipitsitsa kwambiri: titalakwitsa, "timayamwa" chifukwa chodziimba mlandu nthawi zonse. Ndipo mwa inertia sitikumva chisoni chifukwa cha zolakwa zathu, koma chifukwa cha kupanda ungwiro kwa dziko lonse lapansi. Musadabwe kumene zimachokera - matendawa amachokera muubwana.
Kuyambira ali wamng'ono, makolo, osadziŵa, amaphunzitsa mwanayo kuti azidziimba mlandu. Poyambirira, ndizo zonena za iye komanso kukonda, momwe angagwirire ndi kuchita, potero amafunsa mwayi wa mwanayo mwiniyo. Ndipo, nthawi zonse, amalingalira nthawi zonse za zomwe sizinali zoyembekezeretsa ziyembekezo. Ndi msinkhu, kupanikizika kumawonjezeka. Anzanga, ogwira nawo ntchito, ndipo, ambiri, gulu lonse, akuwonjezeredwa kwa achibale. Zimakhala kuti tili ndi ngongole kwa aliyense. Nthawi zambiri timawathandiza kuti agwire ntchito yawo, pamene ali odzaza, timakhala ndi ana a anthu ena, pamene zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kwa ife, timamvetsera zodandaula za moyo, ngakhale kuti ndizovuta kwambiri. Ndipo bwanji kuti musamuthandize, kukhumudwa chifukwa. Ndicho chimene chiyenera kuthyoledwa pakati pa kudziimba mlandu ndi zofuna zanu. Ngakhale, ndithudi, siziyenera kukhala choncho. Ndipo tinganene chiyani za zinthu zovuta kwambiri. Pamene mwadzidzidzi anapunthwa ndikulakwitsa, wamkulu, ngakhale padziko lonse lapansi. Ngati simungadzikhululukire pakapita nthawi, "adye" inu, bwino, masabata pang'ono, kapena ngakhale moyo wanu wonse. Ndipo khalani chete.
Pewani kudziimba mlandu
Njira yochiritsira ku chidziwitso nthawi zonse si nthawizonse yosavuta. Kusiya kupita nokha kumakhala kovuta nthawizonse kusiyana ndi kukakamiza. Koma ufulu ungayambe! Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kutenga sitepe yoyamba. Ndipo zikhale zodziwa kuti kulakwitsa kopanda pake kulipobe m'moyo wanu. Mukadzizoloŵera ndi kugwiritsira ntchito lingaliro limeneli, mukhoza kupitiriza. Ndiyeno mavuto enieni adzayamba. Tifunika kuphunzira kuti tisanthule bwinobwino mkhalidwewu, kumvetsetsa mthunzi wa malingaliro ndi maganizo, kuti tisagwiritsidwe ntchito ndi anthu ena, kukhala ndi mphamvu komanso chidaliro. Zonsezi zingapezeke mwa kugwira ntchito mwakhama payekha.
- Choyamba, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungasamalire kulankhula kwanu. Kwenikweni izo zidzakhudza mawu akuti "chisoni" ndi "kukhululukira". N'zachidziŵikire kuti muyenera kuigwiritsa ntchito pokhapokha ngati mwalakwitsa. Muzochitika zonse, ndibwino kuganiza: kodi ndinu wolakwa?
- Phunzirani kuvomereza anthu ochita zinthu. Iwo akhoza kukhala onse ogwirizana ndi anthu apamtima kwambiri. Koma mosasamala za izi, muyenera kunena "ayi" kwa aliyense mofanana. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse ayenera kukanidwa. M'malo mwake, tidzakhala tikudzidziwa nokha kuti chithandizo chidzaperekedwa, koma pazidzidzidzi zoopsa kapena osati kuvulaza nokha.
- Chofunika kwambiri ndi luso losiyanitsa udindo waumwini kuchoka pa kusintha kwa mavuto a anthu ena pamapewa awo. Sikoyenera kukhala ndi udindo, koma panthawi yomweyi ndidzidzimva, chifukwa cha zolakwa za wina chifukwa chakuti wina sangakwanitse kuthetsa mavuto awo.
- Musayambe kudzipangira nokha ndipo chifukwa chodzimvera kumatsatira nthawi zonse chilango. Ndipo nthawi zonse kuganiza za cholakwika, iwe mosadziwa mumachikoka icho. Choncho, ngati kusamvetsetsana kokhumudwitsa kumayamba kuchitika m'moyo wanu, ndibwino kuganizira, mwinamwake ndi nthawi yoti muzitsutsa nokha chifukwa chake?
- Mukudziwa, ngati kudzimva kukhala wolakwa kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kuti n'zosatheka kulimbana nokha, ndi bwino kutembenukira kwa katswiri-maganizo a maganizo. Inde, si zophweka kutsegulira munthu wina, ngakhale dokotala. Koma mphotho idzakhala ikuchotsa kulakwa kopanda pake ndi kudzibwezera.
Mmene mungamenyere
Musati mulindire mpaka nthawi yomwe kulakwa kumakhala vuto lalikulu, nthawi yomweyo yambani kuchotsa izo. Kuti muchite izi, mukufuna pepala ndi pensulo. Njira imeneyi "yomenyera" imagwiritsidwa ntchito chifukwa chophweka kuti imakulolani kuwona malingaliro. Ndipo, chifukwa chake, ndi bwino kumvetsetsa nokha ndikuyang'ana pazochitika kunja. Kotero:
Khwerero 1 . Pang'onopang'ono, kumbukirani zochitikazo ndikuzilemba. Ziyenera kuwoneka ngati mawu owuma a zowona, osakhala ndi maganizo, osadzipenda komanso oimba, monga "chabwino, sindinaganize ...". Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukumbukira chirichonse, ngakhale chiri chochititsa manyazi komanso chosasangalatsa, ndikulemba.
Khwerero 2. Kumvetsetsa kuti pachithunzi chilichonse timakankhidwa ndi chifukwa kapena, ngakhale, ochepa, ndikofunikira. Kotero, inu mukhoza kufotokoza chirichonse! Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, lemberani kumapeto kwa nkhaniyo. Inde, izi si zophweka. Makamaka, ngati kuchita choyipa, kunayambitsa kaduka kapena, mwinamwake, kunyoza. Koma kuti mudzivomereze nokha muyenera kukhala woona mtima komanso moona mtima.
Khwerero 3 . Ziribe kanthu momwe izo zimamvekeretsa, dzifunseni nokha. Tangoganizirani mozama za chifukwa chake mungachite chinthu chimene mukudziimba nokha. Ndipo mwamsanga mukamazipeza, musaiwale, kubwereza tsiku ndi tsiku. Mpaka lingaliro la kusalakwa liri mwamphamvu "osati zasyadet" mumutu mwanu.
Khwerero 4. Chotsani zammbuyo, zenizeni. Ndipo ngati mutanena mozama, ndiye kuti tsamba lochokera pa tsamba lililonse. Ikhoza kutenthedwa ndi kutambasula phulusa ku mphepo, inang'ambika mu zidutswa zing'onozing'ono ndi kutayidwa. Kawirikawiri, chitani nacho chilichonse chomwe mumakonda, musisunge. Kuchita izi kudzakuthandizani kuchotsa malingaliro oipa ndi zochitika. Zoonadi, zolakwa zonse kuchokera kwa inu sizidzatha, koma mutha kukakamizika kuti mupite patsogolo.
Khwerero zisanu . Nthawi zina, zinsinsi zathu zimakhala zochititsa mantha komanso zochititsa manyazi kuti ndizosatheka kuuza anthu omwe ali pafupi. Koma, ngati simungathe kukhala chete, auzani ndi munthu amene sakudziwani: munthu wokhulupirira, wansembe kapena mnzanu wina. Ndi aliyense, nkofunika kuti zikhale zosavuta.
Khwerero 6. Kukhululukira mlandu, kukumbukira kuti zakale sizingathetsedwe. Tsoka ilo, sitingathe kubwerera mmbuyo, ndikuchita zonse mosiyana, naponso. Koma tikhoza kupempha chikhululukiro kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe anakhumudwitsidwa, kuyitanidwa kapena kukomana, kapena maganizo, ngati ali kutali kapena sali moyo. Pachifukwachi, ndikofunikira kulingalira chithunzi cha munthu kapena kutenga chithunzi chake ndi yekha, koma moona mtima pemphani chikhululuko. Kenako phunzirani kuchokera ku phunziroli, kumbukirani, ndipo musakhalenso mmenemo. Koma ngakhale bwino, ngati kuzindikira kwanu ndi kumvetsetsa kwa cholakwikacho zidzathandizidwa ndi zochita za konkire. Mwachitsanzo, tchenjeza anthu ena kuti asatenge vuto lomwelo.
Khwerero 7. Ndipo chinthu chomaliza choti muchite ndi chovuta kwambiri. Khululukirani nokha ndikuiwala. Dzifunseni nokha: "Ndichifukwa chiyani ndikuyenera kukhala ndi moyo nthawi zonse ndikudziimba mlandu? Sikulondola! "Anthu si makina. Nthawi zina timadziiwala tokha, kukwiya, kudana, kukwiya. Ndipo nthawi zina moyo umakhala ndi "zodabwitsa" panthawi yomwe iwo sali okonzekera iwo. Ndipo chinthu chokha chimene tinganene kwaife tokha: "Zinalipo ndipo zidadutsa." Ndiyeno flip tsamba ili mu tsogolo lanu ndikukhalabe opanda kudzidzimva, koma ndi zochitika zazikulu.
Zakale sizingasinthe, koma zimadalira inu, zomwe zidzakhalapo komanso zamtsogolo. Phunzirani kuchokera ku zolakwika za maphunziro ndipo musabwereze. Khalani pa mbali yowala ya moyo - ndipo kumverera kolakwa kudzasiya kukuchezerani inu konse.