M'dziko lathu lamakono komanso losasulidwa, osungulumwa atsikana okongola pang'onopang'ono amakhala chodabwitsa kale.
Komabe, zifukwa izi zikupitiriza kukhala zosangalatsa ndipo zimakambidwa zambiri, chifukwa sizidziwika bwinobwino. Ndipo ndithudi, zikuwoneka, kuwoneka ndikofunikira kwambiri kwa akazi, ndipo kukhala ndi mawonekedwe owala ndiwopambana mphoto kumoyo wodala wokondwa. Komabe, molingana ndi chiwerengero, zokongola zambiri ndizosalepheretsa chimwemwe chenicheni, chifukwa munthu sangathe kukhala wokondwa yekha.
Kapena kodi si za maonekedwe? Ndipotu, nthawi zambiri mumatha kuona atsikana omwe ali wamba, wamba, otchedwa "imvi zakuda", zomwe zikuzunguliridwa ndi amuna ochulukirapo kuposa abwenzi awo apamtima apamtima. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika? Tiyeni tiwone chifukwa chake atsikana okongola amakonda kukhala okha? Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo za izi.
Mdziko lathu, kukongola kwa akazi ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali. Chidziwitso ichi kuyambira paubwana kupita kwa ife pamutu, chithunzi, malonda ndi malingaliro otchuka a pagulu. Ziribe kanthu momwe timayankhulira mochuluka za kukongola kwa moyo, za dziko lapansi lakuya ndi zauzimu patsogolo pazinthu zakuthupi, atsikana, ndipo atsikana amafuna kukhala okongola pamwamba pa zonse, motero amakhala anzeru, achifundo, ofatsa. Chifukwa masamba a mafashoni - zokongola, chifukwa makanema a televizioni - zokongola, chifukwa atsikana ndi atsikana a ndale, othamanga, apamwamba nyenyezi - zokongola. Kukongola ndi chizindikiro cha mtundu, chofunika kwambiri cha moyo wabwino. Ngati muli ndi mwayi wokhala wokongola, ndiye kuti ntchito yanu ndi kusunga, kuchulukitsa ndikugulitsa kukongola kwanu pamapeto pamapeto. Koma palibe kulengeza, palibe buku losaoneka bwino lomwe limaphunzitsa atsikana kuti kukongola ndi chinthu chobwera, chosakhalitsa, chosakhulupirika, chomwe, m'chinenero cha mawu a zachuma, sichikhoza kukhala ndi ndalama zodalirika.
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, kukongola kwachikazi kulibe mphamvu. Kodi ndi kangati timayang'ana atsikana okongola osangalatsa opanda chidole, atsikana omwe amachokera kunja, osakhala ndi chuma china: alibe maphunziro, alibe chikhumbo chochita chinachake pamoyo wawo, alibe zilakolako, alibe zolinga zenizeni za moyo, kupatulapo - Pezani wolemera wothandizira. Ndipo moths amauluka mpaka kuunika kwa golide ndi kutentha mmenemo, otsalira pambuyo pa mabuku osapindula omwe ali ndi zilembo zopunduka.
Koma zimachitika m'njira zina - nthawi zambiri aluntha okongola ndi maphunziro ndi ntchito amakhala okha. Ndipo apa pali zifukwa zosiyana.
Choyamba, mtsikana wotero amadziwanso kuti ndi wofunika. Ndipo, monga lamulo, mtengo uwu ndi waukulu kwambiri moti sungatheke. Pamene akunena, "osati kwa inu, anthu ambiri, mayi anga anandilera ine wamkazi." Motero chifaniziro cha mfumukazi ya "chisanu" chozizira, chosayenerera. Ndipo ndi iye yemwe amalepheretsa kudziwana ndi wokondedwa naye. Mtsogoleri wamwamuna adzaopsezedwa ndi chithunzi cha "mkazi wachitsulo", ndi amuna ofooka amene amagwiritsidwa ntchito kulamula sadzakhala olimba mtima kuti afike kwa mkazi wodzikuza woteroyo.
Izi zikutsatira "chachiwiri" - atsikana okongola nthawi zambiri amabereka m'maganizo mwa anthu za maganizo awa: "okongola kwambiri, ambiri mafani; amatanthauza, ndithudi ayi; zikutanthauza kuti ndithudi zidzatha, ndipo, chifukwa chake_izo siziyenera kuyesedwa. " Pakali pano, msungwanayo angakhale wodzikuza kapena wamantha kuti akhale woyamba kudziwa munthu amene mumamukonda. Kapena mwinamwake agogo aakazi omwe anamulera iye, yemwe anali akulimbikira kuyambira ali wamng'ono mpaka kwa mdzukulu wake, "atsikana okongola sali oyamba kuti azidziwana nawo" ndilo mlandu. "
Komabe, ndithudi, kudzidalira mokwanira komanso kukhala ndi thanzi labwino kumakhala ndi msungwana aliyense, koma (!) Ndikokwanira ndipo ndi wathanzi. Simukusowa kukhala chiwonongeko chokwanira, chifukwa ngakhale ndi mawonekedwe okongola kwambiri, kawirikawiri atsikana amakhala osungulumwa chifukwa cha kukhudzika kwakukulu kuti iwo, okongola kwambiri, angathe komanso amawonetsa nthawi zonse kusonyeza amatsenga. Kuti munthu asamasuke kuti adziwe, ndi diamondi ya mtengo wapatali, yomwe imadalira chithandizo chapadera, ndipo zonse zimaloledwa kwa iye, ndipo amatha kudzichepetsa modzichepetsa ndikupempherera chikhululuko, kunyenga mulungu wake ndi mphatso ndi mphatso.
Inde, kukhala phokoso pang'ono sikungapweteke, chizoloŵezi chachikazi ichi chimasiyanitsa mgwirizano, chimapereka mwa iwo chinthu chokhudzidwa, chimakhala ndi mtundu wa "peppercorn". Koma, monga mukudziwira, tsabola kwambiri ikhoza kusokoneza mbale yosangalatsa kwambiri. Ndicho chifukwa chake nthawi zonse zimachitika kuti amuna ataya abwenzi awo okongola ndi khalidwe losasamala, ndipo amasiya zochepetsetsa, koma amakhala chete, ofewa ndi okondwa, omwe ali omasuka, omwe safuna "nsembe" chifukwa cha kukongola kwawo, omwe amatha kumvetsera, pepani, kapena ngakhale kuyika phewa lanu mu nthawi yovuta. Ndipo ziribe kanthu konse, kuti kunja ndiwo wamba, wamba.
Ndipo chifukwa chinanso chomwe atsikana okongola amakhala nthawi zambiri amakhala osungulumwa ndi lamulo losakanikizika la nthawi. Kawirikawiri mtsikanayo akudziuza yekha kuti: "Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi nthawi yokwatira ndi maonekedwe ngati amenewa, koma tsopano ndikofunika kwambiri kuphunzira, kupanga ntchito." Ndipo ndi changu chonse, amayesetsa cholinga. Ndipo pamene, pamapeto pake, pamapeto pake, amuna onse okondwa amakhala okwatiwa kapena otanganidwa, ndipo otsalira samakonda, ndipo kusankha sikunapindule kwenikweni. Kotero izo zikutulukira kuti ndi zokongola, ndipo moyo umawoneka kuti wapangidwa, koma uli wosungulumwa.
Choncho, kufotokoza mwachidule, tikhoza kunena kuti nthawi zambiri ali okhaokha atsikana okongola ayenera kudziimba mlandu. Kukongola sikuli chitsimikiziro cha chimwemwe chenicheni, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale chosiyana kwambiri. Kukongola sikulikulu, komwe kumayenera kugawidwa ndikupindula nayo. Kukongola kwa akazi ndi mphatso yamtengo wapatali yomwe iyenera kubweretsa chisangalalo kwa mwini wake komanso kwa ena. Ndipo iye sangakhoze kukondweretsa osati msungwana chabe, koma mwamuna yemwe adzakhala pafupi ndi iye, iwe umangoyenera kufuna ndi kuyesa pang'ono. Ndipotu, msungwana wokongola kwambiri amapangidwa osati kokha ndi chiwerengero cha chic ndi zofunikira, koma kuthekera kumwetulira, kutseguka ndi anthu, kukoma mtima ndi chifundo. Yesani kukhala monga choncho ndipo mudzapambana. Ndipo sipangakhalebe maphikidwe ena pano.
