Pofuna kuyankha funsoli: "chifukwa chiyani anyamata onse akudzidalira", tiyeni tiyese kuyembekezera chiyambi-chomwe chidaliro ndi kudzidalira. Kodi pali kusiyana pakati pa zinthu ziwiri izi.
Kudzidalira ndi chinthu cha munthu, chomwe chimasonyeza malingaliro abwino kwa iyemwini, pazochita zake ndi zochita zake. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, mphamvu zake zonse sizikudziwika ndi iye yekha, koma ndi ena. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, ngati mumalongosola mophweka, ndiye kuti kudzidalira ndiko pamene munthu akuyesa kuti ali ndi mphamvu zenizeni.
Koma, ngati kudzikuza kwa munthu kuli kwakukulu kapena kochepa kusiyana ndi kachitidwe kaŵirikaŵiri, ndiye chodabwitsa ichi chimatchedwa kudzidalira kapena kudzidandaula.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti munthu wodzikweza amadzikonda kwambiri, amakhulupirira kuti zochita zake zonse ndi zolondola ndipo zomwe angathe kuchita ndi zopanda malire. Koma, kuti amatha kuweruzidwa ndi ena kapena samavomereza maganizo ake konse chifukwa chosagwirizana ndi luso lake - munthu wodzidalira samasamala.
Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa khalidwe la munthu wodzidalira ndi wodzidalira.
Nazi zitsanzo zochepa zomwe zikufotokoza kusiyana pakati pa anthu odzidalira ndi odzidalira:
- Munthu wodzidalira amachitira mokwanira ndi kuzindikira zomwe wapindula pamoyo wake, pamene kudzidalira kumatenga zonse monga nkhani.
- munthu wodalirika amadziwa mbali zake zolimba ndi zofooka. Pa nthawi yomweyi, ngati chinachake sichikugwira ntchito pamoyo wake, sangawononge zochitika zonse zomwe zikuchitika.
- munthu wodalirika amadziwa nthawi zonse zomwe angathe. Zolinga zimakhazikitsidwa nthawi zonse mogwirizana ndi luso lake lenileni. Nthawi zambiri anthu odzidalira amakhala odzipereka.
- Anthu otsimikiza, pamene chinachake chikukwaniritsidwa m'moyo, chimakondwera kwambiri. Ngati moyo wawo ndi kulephera kapena kulephera, iwo samaganiza kuti ichi ndi chifukwa chokhumudwitsa. Munthu wodalirika angasonyeze mphamvu, ayese zolakwa zake zonse, kuti asapewe kusowa kotereku. Anthu odzidalira, mmalo mwake, ndi zolephereka, kuzindikira chirichonse ngati chitonzo. Kawirikawiri amakhumudwitsidwa ndi kudzipatula okha, osadziganizira okha kuti ndi olephera.
Nchifukwa chiyani anyamata onse akudzidalira kwambiri .
Kukumana ndi nthawi yathu pa mnyamata wodalirika wakhala wovuta. Mwamwayi, kudzidalira mwa amuna nthawi zambiri kumawoneka ndi msinkhu, pamene watha kale chinthu china pamoyo ndipo ali pamapazi ake.
Ndipo, zoona zake n'zakuti achinyamata achinyamata nthawi zambiri amakhala odzidalira. Izi zikuwonetsedwa mu chiwonetsero chowonetseratu, zilakolako zapamwamba, zomwe sizili kumbuyo ndi chirichonse.
Sizodabwitsa, koma anyamata odzidalira okha, ngati mukufufuzira mozama m'maganizo awo, nthawi zambiri akhoza kubisala kukayikira komweko. Kudzidalira nthawi zambiri kumachitika chifukwa cha kuphulika kwa zofooka zomwe mnyamata wamng'onoyo chifukwa cha msinkhu wake sangathe kuzipirira ndi kuzigonjetsa.
Kawirikawiri atsikana omwe ali ndi khalidwe lawo ndi chikondi chochulukira amapatsa mwamuna mwayi wokhala ndi chidaliro-chikhulupiliro chakuti sadzabwereranso bwino kuposa momwe iye saliri komanso sadzakhala m'dziko lonse lapansi. Anyamata odzidalira ndi ovuta pozindikira kutsutsa kokondweretsa, osatetezeka kwambiri komanso otsekedwa ndi anthu.
Ngati mnyamata wanu ndi munthu wodzidalira. Ndipo, izi zimamulepheretsa, ndipo iwe ndi chitukuko cha ubale wanu, ndiye, mungathe kusankha njira ziwiri zomwe zikuchitika panopo.
Njira yoyamba ndiyo kuyesa kuthandiza mnyamatayo kudzipezera chidaliro. Yesetsani kumubweretsanso padziko lapansi ndikumuphunzitseni kuti azitenga mwayi wake mokwanira. Pankhaniyi, tiyenera kulingalira kuti miyezo yovuta kwambiri - monga kutsutsa nthawi zonse - ikhoza kukhumudwitsa munthu. Choncho, yesetsani kukhala osamala, owona, kusonyeza chidwi ndi chikondi.
Njira yachiwiri yotulukira, monga momwe mungathere ndikuganiza, ndi kugwirizana kwa maubwenzi. Mfundo ndi yakuti si mtsikana aliyense amene angapirire khalidwe la munthu wodzidalira.