Pakati pa anthu, akuganiza kuti sipangakhale ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ngakhale mwamuna ndi mkazi atagwirizanitsidwa ndi zofanana, ntchito, kuthandizana, ulemu. Zingakhale zokha ngati abwenzi ali a amuna okhaokha. Ndipo ngati izi zili choncho iye ali ndi banja. Pano, kulingalira za kumverera ndi ubale uliwonse wapamtima ndi iye sikoyenera kwenikweni. Ubwenzi woterewu uli ndi ufulu wokhalapo, ndibwino kuti upeze anzanu ndi theka lake lachiwiri - mkazi wake wovomerezeka. Iye akungodzimva kuti ali ndi chidaliro mu izi ndikudalira kuti angayankhulane nawe. Apo ayi, izi sizolondola ndipo sizolungama (zogwirizana nazo). Ziribe kanthu momwe dziko lathuli linalili zamatsenga, mukhoza kukhalabe mabwenzi ndi wina aliyense, chinthu chachikulu ndikuchita bwino ndi malingaliro, popanda kupitirira malire ndi malire olankhulana. Ndizofunikira kuti mumvetse bwino zolinga zomwe zingatsogolere ubalewu. Koma nthawi yokha iwonetsa zolinga zomwe mwamuna wokwatirana akufuna, zomwe zimafunikira ubwenzi ndi iwe, zimabisala. Ngati mwakonzeka kuphunzira ndikuyesera mwanjira yabwino. Ndikuganiza kuti ndizotheka kusiyanitsa maubwenzi achikondi ndi zizindikiro zowoneka bwino. Malingaliro a chiyanjano ndi maubwenzi ndi ophweka kuzindikira pambali iliyonse ya chiyanjano cha amuna. Ngati mwasankha kuchita izi, kumbukirani lamulo limodzi: ndi mwamuna wokwatirana, muyenera kuchita mosamalitsa komanso nthawi zonse kumbali, chifukwa pakati pa ubwenzi wanu nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi maganizo osiyana. Chifukwa chake, ziyikeni nokha osati monga munthu, koma ngati mnzanu-mtsikana. Zindikirani kuti si zanu, ndipo mulibe luntha pakupereka mgwirizano pakati pa dzina la chikondi cha wina. Ndipo komabe munavomerezedwa ndipo ndinu abwenzi. Konzekerani kuti nthawi zambiri simungathe kumvetsa. Ndipotu, muli ndi moyo wosiyana. Kodi ali banja? ndinu wosakwatira. Amadziletsa pazinthu izi kapena nthawi zonse, amamuitana mkazi wake nthawi zonse ndipo ngati akufuna kuti apite kwa iye nthawi yomweyo. Uyu ndi bwenzi lapadera, lomwe lidzakhala lovuta kwambiri kupereka uphungu kuposa wophunzira wamba. Mwa njira, chifukwa cha momwe iye aliri muukwati, iye adzawonetsa momveka bwino pa iwe. Izi zidzakhudzana ndi kuti mwamuna wokwatiwa, nthawizonse amadziona kuti ali ndi zodziwa zambiri pamoyo ndi nthawi zonse, amayesetsa kukupatsani chidziwitso cha zomwe simukuzidziwa konse, ndi chiyanjano chotani ndi chikondi chenicheni. Kwa inu, mwachindunji, ubwenzi umenewo ukhoza kukhala chitsanzo chabwino cha momwe zinthu zikuchitikira m'moyo wa banja. Inu nthawizonse, mungathe kufunsa za izi kapena vuto, limene adzakuululirani kuchokera kumbali yosiyana. Kuchokera pamlingo wa munthu wokhwima. Koma ngati mwamuna wokwatiwa akufuna kukhala mabwenzi, ndi kwa iye kusankha ngati mungachite, ndi inu nokha. Chinthu chachikulu, phunzirani kusiyanitsa zikhumbo zake ndipo musaiwale kuti mudzidziwe nokha zomwe mukuyembekeza.
Pofuna kuteteza kuyang'anitsitsa, muzochitika zotero ndi bwino kudziŵa psychology ya mwamuna wokwatira. Pomwepokha mutha kuyesetsa kuthetsa vutoli ndikupewa kusamvana kulikonse. Pambuyo pake, iwe, ine ndikuganiza, sungaganizidwe konse, yang'anani vuto pamutu mwanu. Bwerani, kuti tifotokoze momveka bwino, tiyesetse kupeza: mwamuna wokwatiwa, chomwe ali, momwe amachitira ndi atsikana ena, zomwe akufuna kumoyo komanso ngati ali ndi mtengo wapatali monga banja, kaya akufuna mbuye. Tiyeni tigawani "zhenatikov" zathu m'magulu atatu. Kwa oyamba, tizitchula, "otetezeka" ndi achibale athu okhulupirika. Awa ndi amuna okhulupilika amene amafunikira ubwenzi weniweni, chifukwa, kupatula mkazi ndi abambo angapo, alibe mbuzi. Izo sizikumveka zovuta, ndi mtundu wochepa wa munthu, komabe mu chiwerengero chake chochepa chomwe chili padziko lapansi. Kwa inu iye, ndithudi, adzachita ngati bwenzi ndipo palibe kenanso. Inu mukuzindikira, choyamba, kuti mitu yawo yonse idzachepetsedwa kukhala maziko amodzi okhala ndi dzina "banja langa". Gulu lachiwiri ndi amuna omwe sadzidziwa okha: zomwe akufuna ku moyo. Iwo ali ngati kuti akuthawa mosavuta ndipo nthawi imodzimodziyo akugwirizana kwambiri ndi banja. Mukusungidwa ngati njira yosungirako (wokonda pa malo). Koma ngati simumamuyesa, sangachitepo kanthu. Amapereka mowolowa manja kuti ayamikike komanso amasangalala. M'mawu anu onse amayesa kupeza chithunzi ndi kudzidzimangira okha. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kuthetsa nthawiyo. Mtundu wachitatu ndi amuna omwe samaimira moyo wawo wa banja ngati alibe amayi pambali. Mkazi aliyense kwa iwo ndi chinthu chogonana chokha. Pano iwe uyenera kutsegula maso, ngati palibe chizindikiro chosamvetsetseka cha chidwi, pambali yanu, chidzaonedwa ngati chizindikiro chosonyeza chifundo. Adzakuyesani kukugwiritsani inu mugona mu njira zonse ndi njira. Ndipo pali ubale wanji? Nthawi zambiri amakhala odzidalira komanso odzikweza. Ndipo ngati simukufuna kumverera ngati ambuye, muyenera kusiya ubwenzi ndi munthu woteroyo.
Choncho kuchokera pa zonsezi, ufulu wokhala ndi yankho ndi wanu. Ziri kwa iwe kuti ukhale mnzanu wokwatiwa kapena mbuye. Ichi ndicho chenicheni cha moyo ndipo palibe chomwe chingachitike pa izo. Ngati inu nokha simukudziwa kwenikweni momwe mungayankhire munthu chifukwa cha malingaliro ake, ndiye ganizirani za izo ndikuziwerengera nokha. Ndipo chifukwa chake, mwinamwake mudzapeza kuti mukufuna kungoyesera nokha - ndife abwenzi. Dziwani kuti ubwenzi ndi chikondi zimakhala chimodzimodzi - kulemekeza ndi kudalira, kotero pakati pa mwamuna wokwatiwa ndi mkazi wosakwatiwa, zonse ndizotheka ndipo m'mphepete mwa malingaliro amenewa ndi oonda kwambiri. Ndipo, mwinamwake, pamene mwamuna wokwatiwa akufuna kukhala mabwenzi, amatanthauza chinachake osati kungokhala mu cafe ndi periodicity inayake. Kodi mumasowa munthu wotere m'moyo? ..