Ndipo mochuluka kwambiri ngati iye ataperekedwa pa tsiku. Ndikofunika kwambiri apa kuti mphatsoyi ikugwirizana ndi ziyembekezo za mnzako, kufunika kwake, komanso tanthauzo lake.
Ndikhoza liti kubweretsa mphatso yamtengo wapatali pa tsiku?
Choyamba, kupereka zinthu zogonana kwa mtsikana yemwe sadziwa bwino ndikumamufunsa kuti apatule msanga. Kapena kufuula kwa nkhope. Pafupifupi 0, atsikana asanu mwa asanu ndi atatu (5%) malinga ndi chiwerengero cha mphatso ngati imeneyi, operekedwa pamsonkhano woyamba kapena wachiwiri ndi mlendo, adatengedwa mokwanira. Enawo anachita mosiyana, koma nthawi zonse nthawi zambiri amatsutsana kwambiri: kuchokera kumtsinje waukulu wa zonyansa kwa wopereka, ku banal slap ndi kuthawa mwadzidzidzi. Choncho, pokonzekera kupereka mphatso yamtengo wapatali kwa mtsikana amene amamukonda, iye sadamudziwe bwino khalidwe lake, mnyamatayo ayenera kukonzekera zinthu zosangalatsa kwambiri.
Komanso, ngakhale chilakolako chodziwika bwino chopereka chinthu choterocho chiyenera kusamala kwambiri. Choyamba muyenera kudziwa maganizo ake okhudza mphatso zoterozo, koma molakwika mwafunsapo za momwe angayankhire mphatso. Pali njira zambiri zoti muchite izi: Mutha kumuwuza nkhaniyo kuti mnzanuyo adachita izi ndikumvetsera ndemanga zake, kapena kuwona filimu yomwe mtsikana wina pa tsiku amauzidwa ndi mphatso ya kugonana. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti iye sazindikira kuti mwanjira imeneyi mnyamata amayang'ana momwe amachitira ndi mphatso zoterezi.
Ngakhale mtsikanayo ali wokhulupirika kwambiri kwa mphatso zogonana, amakonda kwambiri malingaliro ake ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala pachibwenzi ndi mnzake yemwe sadziwa bwino, sikoyenera kumupatsa mphatsoyo. Poyamba, mwina sangathe kugonana ngati akufuna kuonekera. Ndipo momwe amamukomera mtima ndikungofuna kuti munthu wokongolayo azikhala pafupi naye pang'ono. Chachiwiri, munthu sangakhoze kuiwala kuti misonkhano nthawi zambiri imachitika pamalo ammudzi. Ndipo ngakhale ngati mtsikana amakonda khalidwe lotayirira pabedi ndi iye yekha, ndiye pagulu, kulandira mphatso yoteroyo, akhoza kuchita manyazi. Chotsatira chake, m'malo mwa usiku wamasiku otentha, woperekayo adzasokoneza maganizo a mnzakeyo ndipo azidzachita madzulo onse akukhulupirira kuti sakuyesera kuwonetsa omvera kuti ali kale ndi chibwenzi chogonana ndi chibwenzi chake.
Kodi zinthu zoterezi ziyenera kukhala chiyani?
Ngati mnyamatayo atulukira kuti msungwanayo akuthandizira komanso ali ndi mwayi wochuluka akhoza kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu pofotokozera mmodzi wa iwo pa tsiku, ichi si ntchito yake yokwanira. Gawo lotsatira ndikuyankha funso limodzi lofunika kwambiri. Kodi ziyenera kukhala bwanji - mphatso yokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa mtsikana pa tsiku? Apa ndikofunikira kugwira ntchito bwino. Ndipotu, mu nkhaniyi, phunziro lopambana sikuti limangopitiliza kupitiliza madzulo, komanso chizindikiro cha chidwi kwa mnzanu wokongola. Iyenera kukwaniritsa zofunikira zonse za mphatso. Koma pa nthawi yomweyi, khala wokongola kwambiri.
Kotero, njira yoyenera - masewera a masewera olimbitsa thupi. Ndi mbali imodzi, ndi chinthu chopanda pake. Kumbali ina, chikhalidwe chosadziwika cha mphatso ya kusalakwa kwake sichikuchepetsa. Zingakhale kuti ngakhale kwa mtsikana, kugonana komwe kumakhudzana ndi chikhulupiliro, koma osakhala ndi chisangalalo - nkhaniyi idzachita zabwino. Adzayamikira kulimbika kwa woperekayo, kukhulupirika kwake, kutsindika chikhumbo cha mtsikanayo ndipo adzakondwera kusewera masewerawa.
Chinthu chinanso chabwino cha mphatso yokhudza kugonana ndi chiyambi cha kulenga. Zimakhala zovuta kulingalira mkazi yemwe sakanakhudzidwa ndi ndakatulo zake ndi wovomerezeka, kumene iye anamuuzira iye. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kulingalira kuti mtsikanayo sakonda chithunzi chomwe chinamulembera ulemu ndi burashi lotsutsana ndi wojambula. Ndipo chinthu chosangalatsa kwambiri mu zonsezi ndi chakuti mu ntchito ya kugonana kumayang'ana oimira kugonana kosalimba sikunyoza konse, koma ndibwino. Kujambula umunthu wake wamaliseche - mwachindunji kuchokera ku heroine mwiniwake, kawirikawiri umawoneka usiku, kapena kuchokera ku lingaliro la wolemba - adzachititsa kuyamikira ndi kuyamikira koposa kukwiya. Ndipo zokhudzana ndi ndakatulo ndi zozizwitsa zowonongeka, mwinamwake ngakhale pamapeto pa zonyansa, koma osati mopitirira apo, ndipo sizili zoyenera kunena za: palibe mkazi yemwe anabadwa yemwe sanafune kukhala heroine wa ndakatulo yachikondi.
Nchiyani chomwe sichiyenera kukhala muzogonana?
Mulimonsemo - kaya mtsikanayo akuyembekezera mphatso ya kugonana pa tsiku kapena ayi, kaya ali wokhulupirika ku mphatso zotere kapena ayi, kaya akufuna kuzilandira kapena ayi, chisankho chosonyeza chinthu chofunika kwambiri chidzakhala cholimba. Azimayi omwe ali ndi chisangalalo, amatha kumvetsa mafanizi awo komanso okonzeka kuwakhululukira chifukwa cha zolakwitsa zakuya kwake. Atsikana okayikira mwa iwo okha adzawathokoza: mphatso yamasewera ndi chikhumbo choyera kwa iwo. Ndipo mkazi aliyense amakonda kukhumba. Koma pali malamulo omwe ayenera kuwonedwa posankha mphatso yoteroyo. Kupanda kutero, mphamvu yonse ya malemba ake sangatumizedwe kuti apindule, koma motsutsana ndi theka lawo lolimba.
Choyamba, mphatso yamtengo wapatali yokhala ndi tsiku iyenera kukhala yabwino kwambiri. Zosangalatsa zokha, koma osati zonyansa. Apo ayi, kuti mumupatse tsiku lomwelo sikuli koyenera: mukhoza kukhala wopanda mnzanu. Chachiwiri, chinthu chofunika kwambiri chiyenera kukhala chaching'ono komanso chokwanira bwino, koma - ndi chivindikiro choyera, kuti wolandirayo asafunike kufalitsa bokosi lonse, akufuna kumangoyang'ana ndi ngodya ya diso lake. Chachitatu, mphatso ngati imeneyi iyenera kukhala mphatso kwa mtsikana wina - kuganizira zofuna zake, zokonda za mtundu wake, makhalidwe ake, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo, pamalo otsiriza, palibe mphatso imodzi yamakono pa tsiku iyenera kukhala yonyozeka, mwamantha, molakwika. Apo ayi, cholinga chonse chogula chidzatha.