Agogo athu aakazi adati: "Mudzakhala patebulo ngati kuti muli mu paradaiso." Iwo ankaona kuti ndibwino kwambiri kuti azidya bwino komanso kuti azikhala ndi chikhalidwe cha kudya. Posakhalitsa, mwambo wa kunyumba kapena Lamlungu umadya chakudya, malonda, makonzedwe apangidwe mtsogolo, mavuto a banja anali kuthetsedwa, koma nthawi idasinthika, zaka zofulumira zatha, chizoloŵezi chodyera mwachizolowezi ndi mwambo wokusonkhanitsa pamodzi.Zomwe zimakhala zovuta kuti munthu apulumuke, nthawi yopuma bwino, ngakhale pakhomo.Zikhoza kunenedwa kuti zokambirana za banja zomwe zimamwa mowa ndizochitika zenizeni za psychotherapy, pamene aliyense anapeza mayankho a mafunso awo, analandira chithandizo ndi chitonthozo.Tsopano izi siziri choncho.Makhalidwe a moyo mwachibadwa amawonjezera kwa onse a m'banja , kuphatikizapo ana ang'onoang'ono. Njira yabwino yopezera chakudya ndi gome (mwachidule) liwathandiza ana kuti asamangodziwa chikhalidwe cha pulayimale, komanso kuti akhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso osangalala. Tsopano tiyeni tiyankhule za chirichonse mu dongosolo.
Bwanji osadya?
Tiyeni tiyambe ndi zolakwitsa zathu, chifukwa ndife, makolo, omwe nthawi zambiri amachititsa mavuto ambiri aubwana. Ndipo nthawizina ngakhale palibe mwayi woti muwone nokha kuchokera kunja ndikuyesa zomwe mumachita. Sitidzasanthula mwadongosolo kwambiri, ndi bwino kumvetsera mmene mwana wathu amadya. Ndipotu amayi ambiri amayamba kuganizira za momwe angaphunzitsire mwanayo kudya yekha.
M'mabanja ambiri kukhitchini, pamodzi ndi stowe ndi firiji, TV imagwira ntchito mwakhama. Nthaŵi zina sitingathe kulingalira popanda iye Lamlungu, ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala kuti TV imatiyendetsa nthawi zonse, kupanga phokoso losangalatsa. Koma kodi amafunikira mwana wamng'ono? Nthawi zambiri amayi amadandaula kuti mwanayo safuna kudya popanda zojambulajambula, ndipo akamagwiritsa ntchito nkhani zawo, zimakhala zophweka kuti mayi "asamalire" chilichonse chomwe chili chofunika kwa mwana wake. Chifukwa cha chida ichi, mwanayo amathyola kugwirizana pakati pa njala, chakudya chimakhala chosangalatsa ndipo sichimangirira chifukwa thupi silinayang'ane bwinobwino kuti chimbudzi chimangokhala bwino. Mwanayo amamwa mofulumira ndipo amakoka kwambiri, ndipo zotsatira zake zimakhala zosokoneza kwambiri ntchito ya pulogalamu ya chakudya dongosolo hydrochloric.
Wina "miyala yamtengo wapatali m'munda wathu wa khitchini" ndi kusowa kwa chakudya chodyera chaching'ono chochepa. Posachedwapa, maonekedwe a "ufulu waulele" ndi moyo kunja kwa boma aonekera. Makolo, motsogoleredwa ndi malingaliro ovomerezeka, amakhulupirira kuti mwanayo mwiniwake akumva nthawi yake ndi zomwe ayenera kuchita, ndipo amalepheretsa pulogalamu yake - kungofuna kusokoneza chilengedwe. Sitikutsutsa kuti pali choonadi chokwanira m'njira iyi, ngakhalenso chachikulu. Komabe, zonse ndi zabwino moyenera. Musaiwale choonadi china: thupi lathu limagwira ntchito ngati ola. Ndi kosavuta kuti achite zomwezo pa nthawi yomweyo. Mphamvu zochepa zowonjezera zimatha ndipo pali nthawi yochuluka yophunzira zatsopano ndi zosangalatsa. Pamene mwana adya yekha, thupi silingathe kuzindikira nthawi yayitali pakati pa chakudya. Amayamba kugwiritsa ntchito chuma chamtengo wapatali, amapereka mphamvu zochepa kuti azikula. Chotsatira chake, mwanayo akhoza kukhala wovuta, wosokonezeka ndi wokwiya.
Mwinamwake, cholakwika chofunikira kwambiri cha makolo - pafupifupi zonsezi, mwa njira imodzi, zimayika tanthauzo lina mu chakudya.
Chakudya choyesera kusintha khalidwe la mwanayo. Ana amalimbikitsidwa kuti akhale ndi khalidwe labwino komanso opambana ("Muchita zinthu mwakachetechete - gulani bunji omwe mumawakonda!"), Blackmailing ("Ngati simukusiya, simungapeze chilichonse!"). Zakudya zimalangidwa komanso kuopsezedwa ("Sindinamvere - tsopano idyani msuzi wanu, komanso mchere wanu ndikupatsa ana omvera!") Izi ndizowopseza ... Ana amayamba kuchita zinthu mofulumira kwambiri, chifukwa ambiri a iwo atha nthawi yayitali (ndipo bwanji osatero, ndi iwo omwe amachitanso zomwezo?) Mtengo wa chakudya ndi waukulu (ndipotu wokhawo) kutanthawuza ndi kofiira, m'malo ndi kutayika.Ndipo, ndithudi, Mwinamwake, mmimba sichikumva chifukwa cha izi, koma umunthu wa mwanayo akukula. Makhalidwe a zinyenyeswazi, pali makhalidwe omwe makolo sangakonde kuwona mwa mwana wawo, mwachitsanzo, umbombo, kuchenjerera. Koma sitidzawadzudzula ana, amangovomereza malamulo athu a masewerawo, ndipo sitidzataya nthawi yochulukirapo Zolakwitsa zathu zimapangidwa ndi onse, tingofunika kuthana ndi kuthetsa kwawo (ngati pali chinachake chochotsa) ndi kupewa.
Chisa chokoma
Sikoyenera kokha kuti makonzedwe apangidwe, komanso ku khitchini, omwe amapanga zakudya zoyamba zapakati. Zomwe zimatonthoza kunja ndikusintha thupi kuti zigwiritse ntchito zinthu zomwe ziri patsogolo pathu, kaya ndi pillow, plaid kapena cutlery. Choyamba mwanayo ali ndi botolo lake lomwe. Karapuz itangotenga dzino loyamba - ndi nthawi yowonjezera mndandanda wa nkhaniyi. Perekani mwanayo mbale yambiri, yokongola komanso yothandiza, makapu osiyanasiyana (raba, pulasitiki, siliva), apuloni, mapepala, mapepala, zofewa, maloto pansi pa mbale - mwanayo ayenera kukhala ndi zake zokha, zokongola komanso zowala. Tsopano timasankha malo apamwamba. Mwanayo ayenera kukhala pa tebulo limodzi (ngakhale pa kompyuta yake) ndikuti palibe chomwe chingamulepheretse pa mbaleyo. Chisamaliro cha kukula kwa mimba chimakhala chosakhazikika, ndipo zimasokonezeka mosavuta. Choncho, ndi bwino kupatula TV kuchokera kumalo a "mwana", pakhomo la khomo ndi mawindo aakulu kwambiri.Ngati mpando wapamwamba uli pafupi ndi khoma, pangani chithunzi pafupi ndi mwana, mwachitsanzo, kumene chiberekero chimadya uchi, kapena kuyika thaulo pafupi ndi mbale ndikupukuta manja musanadye Pambuyo pake. Kulandira kumeneku kudzakhala "beacon", kukumbukira chakudya chochuluka ndikuthandizira kuyisintha. Ngakhale pamene mudyetsa mwanayo ndi supuni, lolani pafupi ndi iye atagona china, ndikumupangitsa kutenga choyamba ndikuchigwira. Inde, kudya chakudya chosiyana ndikumutu kwa amayi, chifukwa ubwino sudzatha posachedwa. Koma dzichekeni pamodzi ndikuyesera kuti musamamvetsetse zidutswa za chakudya ndi msuzi wa msuzi kuzungulira.
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti mwanayo adzidyera yekha ndikuwone kuti mumangokhalira kulimbikitsa ndi kusangalala nawo.
Ngati tilankhula za mbale zokha, ndizomveka kumvetsera nthawi yomwe ikulimbikitsidwa kupereka izi kapena mankhwala. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mimba ndi dongosolo lonse lakumagazi limasintha nthawi zonse: limasiyana ndi kukula, limakhala ndi mabakiteriya opindulitsa. Potsatira ndondomeko za kuyambitsidwa kwa zakudya zowonjezeramo komanso zakumwa zoyambirira, simukupweteka thanzi la mwanayo ndipo musamumenya kuti asakale chinachake choti aphunzire "mano" (kutanthauza, mwachitsanzo, chakudya choyambirira kwambiri kapena chakudya chokoma).
Ndipo ngakhale mutamva nthawi zonse pamsewero momwe wina (munthu wabwino kwambiri!) Amadya maswiti ndi ketchup pachaka, ndipo amakondwerera biennial ku McDonald's, musayambe kuchotsedwa mu njira yoyenera. "Thanzi la mwanayo liri m'manja mwanu, ndipo zidzakhala bwino kwa iye ngati simuthamanga.
Ndikadya ...
Chikhalidwe cha zakudya ndichabechabechabe kuposa zakudya zapamwamba kapena chikhalidwe chokhalira. Muzizoloŵera bwino, nayenso, pasadakhale. M'malo mwake, ziyenera kukhala ndi "chakudya" choyambirira, ndiye kuti musayambe kubwezeretsa nthawi ndi khama pazimenezo. Kuphunzitsa bwino pang'onopang'ono pang'onopang'ono popanda kutengeka. Kutenga mbali kumayesedwa ndi chitsanzo chake. Choncho, musanayambe kulera mwana, mudziyesetse nokha.
Thandizo labwino lingakhale mabuku ndi zithunzi zosonyeza anthu omwe mumawakonda komanso zinyama. Werengani nkhani ya mwana kapena kupanga nkhani zanu, zomwe zimalongosola momwe nyama zimakonda kudya ndi momwe zimachitira.
Uzani mwanayo momwe angadye bwino: musathamangire, musati muthamangitse pakamwa panu, chezerani pang'ono. Ndipo kuti phokosoli linali losangalatsa komanso lomveka bwino, werengani nthabwala (mwachitsanzo, mbewa zinkacheka, zikunyozedwa, zikunyozedwa, zikunyozedwa bwino ndi mbewu zameza). Pezani chizolowezi chosatha cha kudya: musadye chakudya komanso mutatha kudya muyenera kusamba m'manja, mutha kuimirira patebulo pomwe mayi anu alola, mutatha chakudya chamasana muyenera kuthokoza makolo anu. Malamulo osavutawa amapereka chisomo chofunikira cha chakudya ndikupanga chisangalalo kwa mamembala onse a m'banja. Ana a zaka 2-2.5 ali ndi mphamvu zokwanira zochita zina mwazochitazi.
Mwinamwake wina angamve kuti palibe chifukwa chodya kwambiri. Komabe, tisaiwale kuti kudya zakudya moyenera kungapereke kokha kukhutira, komanso kukhala wokhutira ndi moyo, bata, kuthandiza kuthetsa mavuto. Dzipatseni nokha ndi mwana wanu nthawi yambiri kuti mudye ndikudya nawo patebulo, ndiye kuti mutsimikiza kuti muli ndi moyo wodekha. Ndipo kukula kwanu kwakukulu kudzayamikira izi.