Pafupi mkazi aliyense posakhalitsa akukumana ndi vuto ngati lachimwene mosadziwika ndi losadziwika kuti adzilamulire. Zilibe kanthu kaya mukukhala ndi plumber, wolemba mapulogalamu kapena munthu wamalonda wabwino kwambiri. Zotsatira zake ndi chimodzi: mikangano chifukwa cha zomwe nthawi zina zimawoneka ngati zopanda pake komanso zowoneka zozizwitsa.
Kodi si zoona, kusunga nyumba, pamene mtsogoleri wanu akukonzekeretsa mapepala a ashtrays okhala ndi tiyi, makoswe okhala ndi tiyi, komwe moyo umakhumba, masokosi ake amapezeka m'malo osayembekezereka, malaya oyera amakhala osakanikirana ndi osambitsidwa ndi osowa kwambiri. Mafunso ena okhumudwitsa ndi amuna: "Kodi ndimakumbukira kuti ndimayika galimoto yanga yakuda dzulo liti, ndipo ndili ndi masokosi ndi zovala zopanda phindu?" Mukamayesetsa kukondwera, mumakumbukira nthawi imene mumakonzekera nkhaniyo, suti ndi maulendo mu bokosi lokhala ndi linens kufunafuna chuma. Momwe mkaziyo anadabwa kuti n'chifukwa chiyani iye anali kuvala zovala zamkati komanso kuti ndi njira yoperekera okhulupirika. Zoona, kuchokera kunja zikuwoneka zozizwitsa, koma apa ndikukhala kuti mukukhala mozunguliridwa ndi masokosi omwe atayika, nyenyeswa pabedi ndi gorgryaznoy mbale, ochepa okha angazipeze zosangalatsa.
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika?
Mukhoza kuseka pa nkhaniyi monga momwe mumakonda, koma tiyeni tione chifukwa chake izi zikuchitika.
Ngati timaganizira kuti tonsefe tinachokera ku zinyama, zimakhala zomveka kuti zinthu zilizonse, kaya makompyuta, chipinda, galimoto kapena nyumba, woimira gawo lolimba laumunthu amayesa ngati katundu wawo. Tikakumbukira kuti m'chilengedwe, amuna amatha kufotokozera gawo lawo ndikujambula fanizo, zimatsimikizira kuti masokisi otsala pansi pa sofa, kapu yosasamba pafupi ndi laputopu ndi zinthu zina sizowonjezera chigawo chake ndikuwonetsa mdani yemwe ali mbuye wake.
Koma amayi, osamvetsetsa bwino nkhaniyi, aganize kuti mwamuna akufalitsa zinthu zake, chifukwa samayamikira chitonthozo ndi ukhondo zomwe theka lachiwiri likutsatira.
M'mabwalo ambiri a amai komwe vutoli likulongosoledwa, omvera omwe akukambirana mobwerezabwereza, akuganiza kuti asiye kuyeretsa m'nyumba, osasamba mbale, kusonkhanitsa masokosi pansi ndi zina zosasinthika m'malo ano, mbale zosasamba zimasunthira ku theka la tebulo. Malangizo opotoka akhoza kukhala ndi malingaliro oti ataya zinthu zomwe siziri zawo zokha, pawindo.
Kodi mwakonzeka kumvetsera malangizo awa openga? Sichivomerezeka, chifukwa munthu sangayamikire zolinga zanu, amakhumudwitsidwa, kapena amalephera kulankhula nanu.
Kodi mungathetse bwanji vutoli?
Choyamba kukumbukira ndi chakuti mwamuna wanu alibe mphamvu zamatsenga ndi telepathic, ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti kuti amvetse zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi inu, muyenera kumuuza momveka bwino. Dziwani kuti ngakhale munthu wanzeru kwambiri sangaganize chifukwa chake mukuyankhula naye ndi mawu ake. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri pa nkhaniyi ndi chiganizo chotsatira: Sonyezani bwalo lanu lomwe mumalikonda, pansi pomwe mungathe kuwona zotsalira za tiyi ndikufunsani ngati ndizosangalatsa kuona chonchi. Ngati palibe chilakolako chakumwa tiyi kuchokera ku bwalo limodzi, sakuuka kachiwiri, mumufunse kutsuka mbale ndikuyiika pamimba. Mwamunayo, akung'ung'udza pang'ono, anakwaniritsa pempho lanu? Musaiwale kutamanda okhulupirika anu pa chinthu choyenera.
N'zosavuta kuthetsa vuto losiyanitsa zovala zoyera. Kwachiwiri ndikofunikira kugawa dengu kapena bokosi, momwe mungatumizire masokosi, zovala, zithunzi zakuda. Funsani munthu wanu kuti atumize zovala zonse zomwe zimafunikira kutsuka, molunjika kumalo omwe wapatsidwa. Fotokozani kwa iye kuti mwanjira ina simudzatha kudziwa ngati pali masokosi otsala komanso ngati adzatha kuvala malaya atsopano mawa.
Kawirikawiri amayi amadandaula kuti sangapeze kachiwiri kuchokera pa awiriwo. Pachifukwa ichi, pali njira yowonjezera, koma yosachepera yochepetsera: perekani ndalama zina ndikugula masentimita 15-20. Msonkhanowu ukhoza kuchepetsedwa ndi awiri awiri awiri a masokosi a mtundu wosiyana, mwachitsanzo, imvi. Tangolingalirani momwe zidzakhalira zosavuta "kuwotcha" masokosi - tsopano simukusowa kuti muwone kuti ndi yani yomwe ili kumanja, ndi yani - kumanzere kumanzere. Koma kuti mamuna m'mawa uliwonse asafunse komwe angayang'anire masokosi, perekani chotsalira chosiyana kwa iwo mu chifuwa cha zojambula.
Ponena za T-shirts zonyansa, T-shirts, masentimenti, ndikofunikira kuphunzitsa mwamuna kumapeto kwa tsiku ndi tsiku kuti aike zovala zonyansa pokhapokha atatha kuwonetsa ndikuyika zinthu zatsopano. Zomwezo zikugwiranso ntchito ku malaya ndi zithumwa. Pofuna kuti asamatsukidwe tsiku lililonse, phunzitsani wokondedwa wanu kuvala thukuta, malaya kapena shati ku Maika woonda.
Koma kuti panalibe mikangano pa nthaka yapakhomo, ntchito zapakhomo zimagawanika pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wake akhoza kutsuka mbale, kuchotsa zinyalala ndi kugwira ntchito ndi choyeretsa. Kuti nyumbayo ikhale yoyenera, mungathe kukonzekera kukonzekera limodzi kumapeto kwa sabata. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, nyumba yanu idzawala, vyeshche ndikuyandikira kwa okhulupirika anu, chifukwa ntchito yovomerezeka, monga mukudziwa, kupatula munda umabweretsa chimwemwe.
Ngati mwamuna wanu ali wokonzeka kutsatira malamulo ophweka, koma ogwira mtima, ndipo simukukondabe chinachake, kumbukirani kuti pali anthu ochepa chabe padziko lonse lapansi. Kodi ndinu a iwo ndipo mwamuna wanu sanakhululukirepo vuto lanu laling'ono osati khalidwe laumulungu? Lemekezani wina ndi mzake, ndipo kenako chikondi chidzakhazikika kwanuko.