Kuti mupambane, muyenera kumvetsera bwino
Malamulo a kumva
1) Tikulimbikitsidwa kuti tikwanitse kumvetsera mosamalitsa pamodzi ndi chidwi. Chiwonetsero choterechi ndikutamandidwa kwakukulu komwe tinganene kwa aliyense.
2) Muyeso lanu mukhale olemekezeka ndi kuyamika ndikuyesera kukhala odzipereka. Aliyense amakonda, akamayamikira zomwe amachita, ndikutsindika ulemu wake.
3) Pokambirana, limbikitsani kuti wothandizana nawo azigwira nawo ntchito. Funsani mafunso otsogolera, khalani ndi chidwi ndi nkhani, fotokozerani zomwe akukufunirani.
4) Yesetsani kumvetsera munthu kuyambira pachiyambi kufikira mapeto, osamupunthwitsa, chifukwa inu, mumasonyezeratu mopanda nzeru kapena mumangosokoneza wothandizana naye.
5) Ngati interlocutor sakufuna kunyengerera, ndiye kuti asasokoneze ubwenzi ndi iye, avomereze maganizo ake.
6) Funsani mafunso kwa munthu yemwe angakonde kuyankha, khalani womvera mwatcheru, kulimbikitsa womulankhulana kuti akuuzeni zambiri za zomwe wapindula, zopambana, za iye mwini. Choncho, mumasankha khalidwe labwino ndi anthuwa ndikukhala paubwenzi ndi iye. Mmodzi ayenera kuphunzira kumvetsera wothandizira. Ziyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti kulankhulana ndichinsinsi chopanga bizinesi kapena mabwenzi, kupeza chidziwitso choyenera, komanso phunziro lokhalitsa.
Musanyoze anthu. Kudzudzula pa nkhaniyi sikungakhale kopanda phindu, pakuti pakali pano munthu ayamba kudziteteza yekha ndikuyesera kudzilungamitsa motere. Pambuyo pake, kutsutsidwa kumabweretsa chifukwa cha kunyada kwake, kumamuchititsa kukwiya. Yesani kumvetsa anthu, m'malo mowadzudzula.
Musati muziyamika ndikuyamikira ulemu wa ena. Phunzirani kuzindikira ulemu wa munthu. Kwa kanthawi, lekani kuganizira zokhumba zanu ndi zofuna zanu, koma yesani kuyesa makhalidwe abwino a anthu ena. Lankhulani moona mtima ndi kuvomereza kwanu. Muyeso lanu mukhale owolowa manja ndi olemekezeka, ndipo anthu adzabwereza ndikuyamikira mawu anu m'moyo wanu wonse.
Chinsinsi cha kupambana ndikugona mukumatha kumvetsetsa munthu wina ndipo nthawi yomweyo yang'anani zinthu kuchokera kumagulu awiri, ndikuyang'ana njira yothetsera vuto linalake. Lemezani maganizo a wina, ndipo ngati mukulakwitsa, muyenera kuvomereza naye. Lankhulani momasuka. Yesetsani kuonetsetsa kuti kuyambira pachiyambi wofunsa mafunso anayankha "inde, inde."
Lolani womulankhulanayo aganizire malingaliro anu nokha. Ngati muli ndi lingaliro labwino kwambiri, perekani mwayi kwa woyimilira, kotero iye anaganizapo. Ndiye adzasangalala kugwiritsa ntchito lingaliro lanu ndipo adzaliona kuti ndi lake. Ndani angakhoze kuchita izi, iye adzapambana, ndipo aliyense yemwe sadzakhala yekha.
M'nthawi ya mafoni a m'manja, malo ochezera a pa Intaneti komanso njira zina zolumikizirana, anthu amazindikira kuti sakudziwa momwe angalankhulire molondola. Ndipo ayamba kufufuza mayankho a funso: kodi munthu angaphunzire bwanji kuyankhulana?
Momwe mungapambane ndi chidwi ndi chithandizo cha kulankhulana?
Njira yaikulu yolankhulana ndiyo kuthekera kwa chinenero chofanana ndi wogwirizanitsa. Pokhala munthu wokondweretsa, kukhala ndi dziko lamtundu wochuluka, wokhala ndi chidziwitso, wina akhoza kukhala ndi mavuto aakulu poyankhulana. Muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulire kuti wothandizana nawo azisangalatsidwa.
Kodi mungasangalatse bwanji interlocutor?
Munthuyo amamva kufunika kwake. Ndipo ichi ndicho chinsinsi chachikulu pa kuyankhulana. Kuti muphunzire kuyankhulana, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungayankhire chidwi cha interlocutor pa zomwe akunena, kumumvetsera mwatcheru, kumuthandizira kukambirana, kumvetsetsa kwenikweni malingaliro ake, kumvetsera mwatcheru ndi mokoma mtima kwa iye.
N'zosangalatsa kuti munthu aliyense alankhule ndi anthu omwe amayang'ana kutali pa zokambirana, pewani kugwirana chanza akamakumana. Ndipo ndizosasangalatsa kulankhula ndi anthu omwe samakuitanani ndi dzina lawo ndikuwona zolakwika pa chilichonse. Ndipo ndimakonda kulankhula ndi anthu omwe ali ochezeka, otseguka, omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi malingaliro anu, anthu abwino, pokambirana nawo, maganizo awo akukwera.
Mwachidziwikire, ndizosavomerezeka kulankhulana momveka bwino - sikuli koyenera kumenyana ndi interlocutor paphewa, kumugwira ndi batani, kumuukira munthuyo. Wodziwika bwino pa kulankhulana si wothandiza wothandizira. Ngati mukufuna kuphunzira kulankhulana, musagwiritse ntchito ziweruzo zosatsutsika, musayesere pa mkangano uliwonse, kotero kuti mawu omalizira akhalebe kwa inu, osayankhulana ndi anthu pansi. Kuti muphunzire kulankhula, lankhulani momveka bwino ndi momveka bwino, Chitani zomwe wina aliyense amachita, khalani okoma mtima komanso okoma mtima.
Gwirizanitsani ndi interlocutor, kumwetulira, kugwedeza mutu wako, gwiritsani ntchito malo omasuka poyankhula. Fotokozani mwachidwi chidwi chanu ndi chimwemwe chanu. Kwa oyankhulana, izi sizidzadziwikiratu, ndipo adzasangalala kukambirana nanu ngati akumva kuti mumamuthandiza ndi kumuvomereza.
Yesetsani kuphunzira momwe mungalankhulirane mwaubwenzi, osati ndi okondedwa anu okha, komanso ndi anzanu, ogwira ntchito, oyang'anira, ogulitsa nawo malonda ndi odziwa bwino.
Tsopano tikudziwa momwe mungaphunzire kumvetsera ndi kulankhulana molondola. Pogwiritsira ntchito njira zonse, mukhoza kuphunzira kulankhula momasuka ndi kukhala munthu wotero, kulankhulana komwe kumapangitsa anthu kukondwera ndipo kumathandiza kukhala moyo wa kampani iliyonse.