Kugonana ... Zomwe zili zobisika m'mawu awa. Nditafunsana ndi abwenzi anga, ndinatsimikiza kuti anthu ambiri amawagwirizanitsa ndi lamoto, chilakolako, chinsinsi, chikhumbo choyaka komanso maonekedwe a malingaliro. "Ndiwe wokhazikika kwambiri padziko lapansi!" - mwinamwake kuyamikira kwakukulu komwe munthu anganene kwa mkazi, chifukwa ndizochita zachiwerewere kuti ndiwe wolandiridwa. Ndipo ngati mwamuna akufuna mkazi, ndiye kuti ali wokonzeka zambiri chifukwa cha wokondedwa wake. Kodi si zomwe timasowa nthawi zina, madona okondedwa? Mzimva ngati mulungu pamaso pa anthu.
Choyamba, muyenera kumvetsa bwino za kugonana. Dikishonaleyi ikutanthauzira kuti: "Kugonana ndi njira yomwe timachitira ndikudziwonetsera ngati munthu wina." Chiwerewere sichiri zobisika kwinakwake mbali imodzi, yomwe ili kutali, ya ubongo wathu. Mbali zina za moyo, muzosiyana zawo zonse, zimapezanso malo awo mmenemo.
Ndikufuna kuwonjezera kuti kugonana ndi masewera, mzere wabwino pakati pa kunena zoona ndi kuletsa. Ngati simukutsegulira nokha kudziko lapansi, ndiwe wovomerezeka, ngati alipo ambiri, ndinu wochimwa; kotero ndikofunikira kusankha njira yomwe imasiyanitsa ndi mzimayi, koma sichikhala wochimwa.
Choyamba choyamba pa njira yopita ku kugonana ndi mtima wamaganizo. Mayi wokhayokha akhoza kukhala wachigololo (ngati muli ndi manyazi wamanyazi amene, mwa mphamvu zake, sali otsika poyerekeza ndi "Via Gry", ndiye kuti, ndizo masewera olimba). Ngati kudzidalira ndi vuto, ndiye kuti tidzakweza.
Choyamba, yongolani maganizo anu pa inu nokha. Ndiye pitani ku malingaliro a ena za inu: kumbukirani chirichonse - ndi kuyamikira, ndi ndemanga. Kudzudzula sikungathetsedwe ndi udani, kumatipatsa chakudya chakuganiza ndikuyamba njira yodzipangira yekha. Maganizo akulu ndi abwino, ndithudi, kulemba, chifukwa pamapepala malingaliro amaoneka bwino komanso mwangwiro. Lingaliro lachiwiri, lomwe panthawi inayake liyenera kuganizira malingaliro anu: "Kodi ndikusowa kupanga chifaniziro cha kugonana?" (Mwachidule ndi pa zinthu.)
Chitsanzo: "Ndine wosiyana, koma mimba yanga siipanda."
Zochita: "Sungani zofalitsa tsiku ndi tsiku ndikupanga zovuta zapadera kwa minofu imeneyi."
Motero, tikulimbana ndi zofooka, timayang'ana pa zabwino ndikuwonjezera kudzidalira. "Popeza ndimakhala nthawi yochuluka, pangakhale kusintha!" - ndipo maso akuyamba kuoneka kuwala. Pankhaniyi, ndikutha kukuthokozani chifukwa chakuti munatenga njira yoyamba komanso yovuta kwambiri pa njira yogonana. Ma bonasi oonjezera, omwe mumangowonongeka msanga, adzakhala chidwi cha amuna - chinachake chimene sichikhoza kuyamitsidwa pa msinkhu uliwonse.
Komabe, pali zolakwika zomwe sitingathe kuzikonza, choncho tiyenera kudzivomereza tokha monga momwe tilili. Ndipo musataye mtima; Zofooka zing'onozing'ono zingasandulike muzithunzi ndikukupangitsani kukhala okongola modabwitsa. Ndi mkazi wopanda ungwiro yekha amene angagone, kumbukirani izi!
Mfundo imodzi yokha: tsiku lililonse mumayamba kunena kuti ndinuwe-kwambiri, ndipo posachedwapa chiwonetsero pagalasi chidzasintha. Kodi mukukumbukira heroine wa Irina Muravieva mu filimuyi "Yokongola komanso yokongola"? Kotero, iye anali ndi malingaliro oterewa tsiku lirilonse. Ndipo tsopano kumbukirani mapeto ndi amuna atatu omwe mitima yawo adawapambana. Zotsatira zabwino.
Kwa zida zamaganizo, ndikanakhala ndi chinsinsi. Mkazi wokhudzana ndi chiwerewere nthawi zonse amavomereza. Iye samutsegula mwamunayo kwathunthu, kumukakamiza iye kuti aganizire tanthauzo la mawu oyankhulidwa kapena za kusewera, kusasintha. Iye samanena mwachindunji, koma mwachidwi amamvetsa zolinga zake ndi zolinga zake, amasiya yankho lake ku funso losayenera, amawoneka mosalankhula kapena, mosiyana, akunena chinthu chofunikira. Zilonda, ngakhale zilizonse, ziyeneranso kukhala zochepa. Ngati mutangosekerera usiku wonse, ndipo mmalo moyankha ndi mayankho, ndiye kuti simungayitanidwe tsiku lachiwiri.
Kugonana ndi masewera, kotero kusewera ndi kuyesa kupambana.