Kumayambiriro kwa zaka za m'ma 1070 ku America, anagwiritsa ntchito mafoni ogona. Munthu yemwe wangoyamba kudzuka ndi kukumbukira maloto ake akhoza kuitanitsa foni ndikupeza kutanthauzira kwa tulo pamlingo wa lingaliro la Sigmund Freud, komanso malangizo ndi malingaliro othandizira kuthetsa maloto ake.
Pambuyo pake, masemina aumphawi omwe ankachitidwa pazikhazikitso za mayunivesite odziwika ndi ovomerezeka anabwera ku chithandizo. Mwachitsanzo, masemina okhudzana ndi malingaliro ndi zochitika za maloto akuluakulu ku yunivesite ya Stanford ankadziwika ndipo amafuna. Kenako maphunziro 10 amawononga madola 1500. Kenako panafika bungwe la American Association, lomwe linaphunzira malotowa, chifukwa cha izi zinawoneka mabuku ambiri apadera ndi ambuye osiyanasiyana pa nkhaniyi.
Amereka a America sanali apainiya m'masomphenya. Liwu ili silinapangidwe ndi iwo, koma ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku Denmark Frederick Van Eden. Iye adafalitsa bukhu lamabuku, woyendetsa mapazi amatha kukwaniritsa maloto ake m'zaka za m'ma 1900. M'bukuli, Idrenasskazival kuti iye mwini adalota maloto ake kotero kuti amatha kulota maloto (ambiri maloto akuwuluka m'maloto), kukakumana ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi ndikumwalira ndikupita ku mapeto a dziko lapansi.
Pulofesa wa ku America Stanford University University Steven Lauberge anakhala wopambana wamakono wotsogolera maloto. Amadziwa momwe angazigwiritsire ntchito yekha, komanso analemba mabuku othandiza omwe amachititsa anthu kukhala ndi luso lolota. Kuonjezera apo, adapanga chipangizo chapadera chimene chikufanana kwambiri ndi magalasi omwe amatha kuyankha ku kayendetsedwe ka maso ndipo amachititsa munthu kulowa mu loto ndikuzindikira kuti ali m'tulo. Kukonzekera kotereku kumawononga pafupifupi madola 200.
Koma kodi n'zotheka kuzindikira maloto anu nokha ndikuwongolera? Zonse zimadalira khama lanu. Malingana ndi ntchito za Edeni, LaBerge ndi Castaneda, pali ndondomeko ya zochitika ndi sitepe zomwe zingakuthandizeni pa izi. Anthu onsewa amanena kuti munthu aliyense amene amagona usiku akhoza kudziwa luso lolota maloto.
Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kukwaniritsa maloto anu?
Khwerero # 1
Kuti mudziwe momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito kugona kwanu, muyenera kufika m'maganizo mwanu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, choyamba muyenera kuphunzira kuti mudziwe nokha mu loto ndipo osaphunzira kutero, ndiye simungathe kugona tulo. Moyenera, muyenera kuphunzira kudzilamulira nokha mu loto.
Funso lofunika kwambiri: momwe tingachitire izi? Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kubwera ndi chinachake chomwe chingakupatseni phokoso. Mwachitsanzo, tsiku lonselo, yang'anani manja anu, pagalasi pamaso panu ndipo dzifunseni funso: Kodi ndimagona kapena ayi? Tsiku lina, mutagwera m'maso mwanu, kuganizira bwinoko kudzagwira ntchito ndipo mafunso akubwera m'maganizo mwanu: Kodi ndikulota kapena ayi? Momwemonso, inuyo nokha muyankhe funso ili: Inde, ndikulota.
Khwerero # 2
Kuwonjezera pa kufotokozera, muyenera kuganizira kwambiri anthu ndi zinthu zomwe zimagwera mu tulo. Zikuwoneka ngati mukukwera njinga ndikuyesa kuyang'ana pa zinthu zina zomwe zafalikira. Komanso, yang'anani manja anu. Chithunzicho chitangotuluka, akatswiri amalimbikitsa kuyang'ana kachiwiri pa nkhani yomwe mwazoloŵera kale (manja anu). Zina ndi zinthu mu loto ziyenera kuwonedwa mopanda phokoso, ndi kuyang'ana mwamsanga, koma nthawi iliyonse kubwereza malingaliro anu ku chinthu chodziwika-manja anu.
M'mabuku ake, Laberge akunena kuti ndi njira iyi imene ana amaphunzirira kugwira mutu wawo ndikuzoloŵera. M'masiku oyambirira a moyo wawo sangathe kuganizira za zinthu zomwezo. Pakapita nthawi, chidwi cha chidwi chimakhala cholimba ndipo chithunzi m'maloto chimakhala chenicheni monga momwe zilili m'moyo.
Khwerero # 3
Ndikofunika kuti musunge magazini yanu. Lembani zolemba zonse za maloto ndi momwe mumamvera. Ndikofunika kulembetsa zonse zomwe zimachitika popanda kutuluka pabedi, makamaka mu maloto. Tsiku lina mudzazindikira kuti zonse sizili monga mukulemba, mudzawona zosagwirizana. Mwachitsanzo, inu mumaloto anu mudzawona nkhani mu vegas momwe mungapangire maski kuti mawonekedwe a maso awo akhale ovuta kunyumba, ndipo mukamayang'ana kachiwiri pa nyuzipepala, muwona kale nkhani ina-yonena, momwe mungamangire nyumba. Ndizolemba zanu zomwe zidzakuthandizani kufufuza ndondomeko yonse ndikuwonetseratu kuti simuli mu maloto anu, koma chitani (mukuwerenga izi, werengani). Ndipo pamene chiwembu cha maloto chidzasintha kwambiri, zidzakhala chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti mukusintha mwana wanu nokha.
Khwerero # 4
Zonse zachilendo zomwe zimachitika mu loto ndi chizindikiro chabwino kwa inu. Izi ndi zomveka bwino chifukwa chakuti cholinga chanu chosintha tulo chimalimba. Sizowopsya kuti simungakwanitse kuchita izi, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti ndondomeko yayamba. Kwa inu, icho chiyenera kukhala cholinga chachikulu, chifukwa ndi cholinga cha zochitika zonse zikuchitika: misonkhano, kukambirana, kuyenda, ndege ndi zodabwitsa zina. Obwezera samaphatikizapo malamulo omwe ali okhudzidwa (malamulo a chirengedwe, zipembedzo zamakono, kuchuluka kwa thupi, makhalidwe ndi ena). Mungathe kumanga moyo wa maloto anu pokhapokha muthandizidwa ndi chilakolako chanu, chomwe chiri chosavuta kufotokoza ngati cholimba chidzafuna. Muyenera kudzipangira nokha kuti mukufuna kulankhula ndi munthu kapena kupita kwinakwake, ndipo izi zidzachitika pomwepo. Umo ndi momwe moyo wa malotowo umalowera, ngati muli, ndithudi, mudzilole nokha kukhulupirira.
Ichi ndi chiphunzitso. Kuchita kumafuna chipiriro, nthawi ndi chipiriro. Ngati usiku woyamba simunapambane ndipo munaganiza zosiya bizinesi iyi, ndiye simungapeze zotsatira. Tengani zonse m'manja mwanu ndikuchitapo kanthu Ngakhale mutaphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito maloto anu, ndiye kuti mukuyamba kudzuka, zomwe ndi zofunika kwambiri pa thanzi lathu.
Kodi mukufuna kuphunzira momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito maloto anu? Kapena mwinamwake mukudziwa kale momwe mungachitire zimenezi?