Mmene mungasiyire miseche ponena za chikondi chanu

Gulu lazimayi kuntchito ndi mayeso kwa munthu aliyense. Kodi ndi miseche yochuluka bwanji yomwe imapita m'magulu awo, ndi angati akudzidzimutsa, ndipo ngati mwadzidzidzi selo ili lagwirizano lawona kuti wina ali ndi chikondi chokonzekera. Ndiye iwo adzatopa mwatsatanetsatane chitukuko cha zochitika, akusonyeza momwe angakhalire mu izi kapena mkhalidwe umenewo, momwe angayankhulire molondola ndi munthu wotuluka. Mwachidule, iwo amayamba kukhala nanu nkhani yonse ya buku latsopano. Chabwino, ngati simunamvere ndemanga zonsezi, malingaliro, malangizo, ndiye kuti potsirizira pake adzasokonezeka nazo, ndipo adzakusiya kumbuyo kwanu. Ndipo mudzasangalala ndi chikondi chanu mwakachetechete. Ndipo ngati ndinu munthu wokayikira kwambiri ndipo mukuda nkhawa ndi maganizo a anthu, kodi mumamvera malangizo awo, koma nthawi yomweyo mumatopa ndi kuti amayi awo nthawi zonse amamveka mphuno zawo? Ndiye tifunika kuganizira zomwe tingachite pa izo? Kodi mungasiye bwanji miseche za nkhani yanu yachikondi kuntchito?
Mukhoza kuwaletsa pogwiritsa ntchito choyamba chofotokozera, osamvetsera chidwi ndi "ofunira bwino" awa, samakufunirani zabwino, koma zomwe akuwona kuntchito ndipo alibe chochita, momwe mungakambirane moyo wanu. Kunyalanyaza kwathunthu zokambirana zomwe simukuzikonda ndizojambula, choncho yesani kumvetsera miseche yanu kwa nthawi yochepa, zomwe, monga lamulo, sizikugwirizana ndi zochitika zenizeni. Kotero iwe uyenera kukhala pamwamba pa miseche iyi ndi kumachita ntchito yakoyomwe, ndi moyo wako payekha kunja kwa ntchito. Ndiye iwo sadzakhala ndi kanthu koti akambirane. Ndipo ngati sizigwira ntchito mwanjira imeneyo, ingoyang'anirani mokoma mtima kwa alangizi ndikuchoka kwa iwo, ponena za ntchito. Gulu la azimayi, ngati sakuwona chitukuko cha maubwenzi, akukhazikika, ali ngati chiphalaphala, ngati sakuwotcha kuchokera pansi, ndiye kuti lava sichidzatuluka. Ndipo ngati atapatsa pang'ono pang'ono, amakuseka panthawi yozungulira. Mulimonsemo simungathe kudziletsa, kutemberera nawo, kusiya kuyankhulana, izi sizikutuluka, adzalandira zambiri ndipo ayamba kukambirana momwe munachitira mantha.

Siyani miseche za nkhani yanu yachikondi kuntchito, ndithudi, ndi mnyamata wanu. kuimirira pa ubale wanu. Chifukwa chakuti nthawi zambiri adamva kuti akudwala chifukwa chakumva kwanu, zomwe zimakukhumudwitsani anthu ogwira nawo ntchito. Izi sizowonjezereka, amuna oipawa amangotsiriza, koma akhoza kuyankhula za inu amene amadziwa zomwe. Koposa zonse, musamuuze mnyamata wanu kanthu kalikonse, muyenera kuthana ndi vutoli, momwe mumalinso ndi mkazi ndipo mutha kumvetsetsa momwe mungasiyire aphungu anu.

Njira yabwino kwa onsewa ndikutanthauzira chidwi chawo ndi chidwi chofuna kuthandiza wina. Amangofuna kupindulitsa okondedwa onse. Iwo ali ndi chidziwitso chochuluka, ndipo sadziwa kumene angapereke, kwa omwe angapereke. Kotero ndikusowa kupeza wina wodwala chifukwa cha miseche yawo, kuchokera ku gulu lomwelo lomwe mwangoyamba kutero. Inu mukuti, sizoyendetsa, mwinamwake, koma palibe njira ina yotulukira. Aloleni mmodzi wa iwo aganizire kuti kubwereza koteroko, pamene mubwera ndikugwira ntchito. ndipo amawoneka ngati malo a x-ray. Kodi mumamva bwanji? mumayang'ana bwanji? Mulungu alephere kuona, matumba pansi pa maso, adzakhala okongola, ndipo masana mudzazunzidwa ndi mphekesera, zomwe mumaganiza kuti ndinu openga usiku. Ndiye ganizirani komwe mungatembenuzire kusamala kwawo kosalekeza pa inu, sankhani wozunzidwayo ndikuchitapo kanthu. Ndipo adzalimbikitsabe nkhani yake yachikondi, ali kutali ndi miseche komanso gulu la amai.