Zifukwa za kukayikira.
Zifukwa zomwe munthu mwadzidzidzi amasiya kudalira wokhala pafupi kwambiri, ndiko kuti, kwa iye, khamu. Choyamba, ndizovuta.
Timadandaula pafupifupi tsiku lililonse, ndipo tikakhala ndi moyo wokhutira kwambiri, timakhala ndi mwayi wochuluka kuti mavuto athu adzatipeza panthawi imodzi. Zodabwitsa zina zimatha kugwedeza mphamvu, mwachitsanzo, mavuto osayembekezereka kuntchito, kuganiza zopusa ndi munthu wapafupi, kunyoza popanda chifukwa kapena china chirichonse. Izi zimatipangitsa ife kukhulupirira kuti, mwinamwake, ife tokha ndi amene timayambitsa mavuto, ndipo kulakwa kumakhudza kwambiri kudzidalira. Timaganiza kuti sitingathe kuthetsa vutoli, zomwe zimatipweteka ngati snowball.
Chinthu chinanso chomwe chimayambitsa kusadzikayikira kumakhala kuyambira ubwana. Nthawi zina makolo amapereka mwaufulu kapena mosakayika kuti mwanayo sangakwanitse chilichonse. Kumbukirani izi: "Ndinu munthu wamkulu!", "Ana onse amadziwa kale, amodzi inu ...", "ndinu ovuta kwambiri"? Zonsezi zimasungidwa kukumbukira, ndipo mwanayo sadziwa kuti nkofunika kuti akhale wanzeru, wochenjera komanso omvera, koma kuti sangakhale bwino monga ana a anthu ena omwe mwanjira ina ngati amayi anga. Ndili ndi zaka, ndithudi, izi zaiwalika, komabe pakadalibe chidaliro, ngakhale kuti sizovuta kupeza chifukwa chenicheni cha kusatsimikizika uku.
Nthawi zina munthu amasiya kudzidalira yekha, chifukwa cha maganizo ake. Muyenera kudziwa kuti kuopa kusintha, ngozi, manyazi kapena manyazi kungakhale zachilendo. Anthu ena amayamba kudzidzudzula okha chifukwa chokumvetsetsa komanso kumvetsetsa, koma monga mukudziwa, ngati mutengeka nokha kwa nthawi yaitali, zidzakwaniritsidwa. Izi ndi momwe timakhalira ndi makhalidwe atsopano, ndipo kusatsimikizika ndi chimodzi mwa iwo.
Kodi mungatani kuti musamakayikire?
Choyamba, muyenera kudziwa kuti munthu wodalirika si munthu yemwe amawoneka wonyada, wodzikweza kapena ayi. Chidaliro chimasonyezedwa ponena kuti munthu amangoganiza chabe za funso kapena mkhalidwe wina. Chidaliro ndi pamene maganizo anu pazinthu zina sizingatheke pokhapokha ngati muli owonjezera kapena opanda pake - mumangochita zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizofunikira popanda mantha ndi kukaikira. Uku ndiko kudalira kwathunthu.
Kudzidalira sikudali kutayika penapake, komwe kungapezeke, kutengedwa ndikuyikidwa. Kupeza kukayikira koteroko sikudapangitse moyo kukhala wosasokoneza khalidwe la moyo kungakhale njira imodzi yokha. Choyamba chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chimalepheretsa kukwaniritsa cholinga ndicho mantha olephera. Koma muyenera kudziwa kuti ndi okhawo omwe sapanga zolakwa sizinali zolakwika. Kulephera kumadzetsa kudzidalira ngati muli otsimikiza kuti mwachita zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti muthe .
Kudzilemekeza kwanu sikuyenera kudalira zinthu zakunja. Choncho peĊµani kuunika kwanu pazomwe mukuchita, musagwiritse ntchito malemba monga "Sindingathe kuchita izi, kotero ndikulephera", "Sindikumvetsa momwe zimagwirira ntchito, choncho ndine wopusa." Izi zidzangowonjezera mkhalidwewo.
Dzitamandeni nokha pa kupindula kulikonse kakang'ono, yesetsani kukumbukira okha. Pachifukwa ichi, patapita kanthawi simungathe kudzitcha nokha. Mfundo yofunikira ndikudzipatsa nokha zolakwitsa zilizonse. Mukatsimikiza kuti mumatha kuthana ndi mavuto, pakakhala choncho zolephera zanu sizidzakhalanso zovuta. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri sikuti tisiyirepo kanthu, osasankha njira yochepetsera moyo, yomwe imadalira inu pang'ono. Kanthawi kochepa, khama, ndi kudzidalira zidzabwerera, chifukwa chodziwikiratu - mumatha zambiri, kuposa momwe munaganizira mpaka posachedwapa.