Koma pamene nthawi yathu mukupita ku nyumba ina, mukukumbukira nkhani yakalekale. Zimakhala zovuta kupondereza grin panthawi yopanda fumbi, mbale zosasamba ndi zinthu zobalalika. Mwinamwake, banja ili linapangidwa ndi mfundo zina za matchmaking. Mu nyumba ina pali dongosolo lomwe limadutsa pamtunda wotero, kuti ndi mantha chabe, chinachake chosunthira kapena chinachake chokhudza. Ndikovuta kuti tisakhale osangalala chifukwa cha ubwino umene umalamulira m'nyumba komanso kuti musamayamikire mwiniwakeyo. Ndipo nthawi zina, pamakhala chisangalalo komanso kusagwirizana m'nyumba. Ndipo m'nyumba yosadziwika anthu amakhala okhutana ndi kukhala ndi moyo, mumoyo. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika?
Katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America, dzina lake William James, ankakhulupirira kuti, kuphatikizapo zizoloŵezi, zikhulupiriro ndi zofuna za umunthu, ndikofunikira kuyika zomwe munthu amakhulupirira kuti ndizo: zokonda pamtima, zobvala za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimalemba mawonekedwe a mawonekedwe a thupi, mabuku omwe amawakonda pakhomo la nyumba, ndi zina zambiri. Kukongoletsa kwa nyumbayi ndi chinthu chokhazikika, ndipo wina akhoza kunena zambiri zokhudza anthu ake poyang'anitsitsa malo okhalamo. Chinthu choyamba chimene chimagwirana ndi diso kapena chisokonezo. Zomwe, kuchokera pamalingaliro a psychology, amatanthawuza matenda, ichi ndi chizindikiro cha kusowa kwachinyengo, kusalongosoka ndi kusaweruzika. Koma dongosolo loyenera limatsimikiziranso mfundo zoyenerera ndi mgwirizano wa uzimu. Koma kufotokozera koteroko ndi kosavuta kukhala koona. Popeza pa moyo uliwonse wa magawo amatiuza zifukwa zina zosaganizira.
Makolo pafupifupi ana onse akudandaula chifukwa cha zolakwika zawo kuti ndizosatheka kuwakakamiza kuti asunge dongosolo mu chipinda. Ndipo mfundo yonse ndi yakuti zofuna za achinyamata ndizozitali, zopita kudziko lakunja ndipo sizigwirizana ndi mfundo za moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwanayo akamangodzimva yekha zovuta zonse zomwe matendawa ali nawo, pang'onopang'ono adzakhala wodekha.
Pamene nambala za foni, zofunikira zimenezi zinalembedwa pamapepala ena, pamene simukudziwa kumene mungayikitse chinthu chofunikira, pamene malo omwe mukufuna kukomana ndi anzanu kapena magulu awo ali ndi zinthu zina, ndiye mumayamba kusamalira dongosololo. Koma kukhala munthu wokhwima maganizo, munthu amapeza molondola kwenikweni.
Kodi zikutanthawuza kuti matendawa m'nyumba akuwonetsa kuti mwiniwakeyo kapena mbuyeyo sanathe kukula bwino? Mwinamwake kudzakhala mwamuna woti azikhala ndi kuchita mu chirichonse, monga mwana wamng'ono. Koma vuto pano lingakhale lozama. Tonsefe, kumapeto, timvetsetsa kuti ndi zoipa kuti tipeze zinthu kutali.
Ngati munthu sangathe kubweretsa kunyumba kwake, ndiye kuti zimangosonyeza mkangano waukulu mkati. Zaka zowonongeka, zokubala zovala ndi zina zotero, kambiranani kwa mbuye wawo, kuti sangathe kuyika zinthu pamalo awo.
Kuthira kwathunthu kwa mbale zopanda kusamba, masabata ochapa zovala zowonongeka, zonyansa zowonongeka zingathe, kunena kuti sindikudziwa momwe ndingakhalire ndi kuthetsa mavuto, sindingathe kufalitsa magulu anga. Ngati munthu sangathe kukonza moyo wake, ndiye kuti ntchito zazikulu sizingatheke.
Bzinthu silikutsutsana, zonse sizikuchitika monga momwe mungafunire, simukuganiza kuti zovuta pamoyo wanu sizikulamulirani? Inde, ndikufuna ndikugonjetse kumverera kosasangalatsa. Yambani pang'ono, yang'anani kunyumba kwanu ndipo mudzifunse nokha kumene muyenera kuyeretsa.
Mukaika zinthu zanu zobalalika pamasalefu, ndiye kuti mumapanga zambiri, mumaphunzira, kukonzekera mavuto anu, ndiko kuti, kuwaika pa masamulo. Ikani mu "mawonekedwe anu enieni" momveka bwino ndiye zotsatira sizingakupangitseni kuti mudikire.
Palinso zovuta zina. Momwe mungayang'anire kwa psychologists, kudzipereka kwakukulu ku dongosolo ndi chiyero, chizindikiro cha kudzikayikira, chizindikiro cha kufooka kwa mkati.
Pokonza dziko lapansili pakhomo, mwamunayo, amafuna kuti adziteteze ku chisokonezo cha dziko lalikulu, chomwe chiri chowopsya komanso chovuta kwambiri kwa iye. Potero, phokoso loipa la mikangano limabwera: chinthu choperekedwa ndi wina kuchokera kunyumba sichiri m'malo mwake, chimabweretsa chisoni ndi kukwiya. Kugwira ntchito panyumba kumatenga nthaŵi yochuluka ndi mphamvu, sikumachokera mu zinthu zina zofunika. Kenaka mu chipolopolo ichi chokhala ndi vuto lokhala wosungulumwa.
Msampha woterewu ukhoza kusinthidwa ndi malemba omwe anaphunziridwa m'banja la makolo, pamene dongosololi linakhala cholinga chofunikira pamoyo komanso phindu lililonse. Munthu wotero akhoza kumumvera chisoni yekha, chifukwa ntchito yaikulu ndi mapuloteni okongola komanso matalala oyera. Ndiponsotu, kulangiza m'nyumba ndilofunikira, osati cholinga, kuthetsa mavuto aakuluwa. Ngati timvetsetsa choonadi chophweka, ndiye kuti tipeze tanthauzo la golide lomwe limasiyanitsa mgwirizano weniweni - uzimu ndi zakuthupi.
Chilichonse mu nyumba chiri ndi tanthauzo lophiphiritsira, ndipo chimakhudza chidziwitso chanu. Nsomba ndi nyansi mu chipinda chilichonse zimayambitsa kusamba ndi kusagwira ntchito m'zinthu zina za moyo.
Matenda mu khitchini
N'zosadabwitsa kuti khitchini imatchedwa "mtima wa nyumba." Pano mukudya, mumasunga mphamvu, ngakhale mutakhala ndi chakudya chamagetsi chotsitsa mankhwala mu microvine. Zakudya zopanda pake komanso zopanda pake zimayambitsa mavuto mu chakudya ndi zakudya, pa umoyo ndi uzimu. Pamene mumasamalira khitchini, mutha kudziwa momwe mumagwirizanirana ndi magwero a kuchuluka, magetsi, chakudya chanu. Kakhitchini yoyera ndi yoyera imatsegula malo kuti mutonthoze ndi chitetezo chomwe mukusowa kwambiri.
Matenda mu chipinda chodyera ndi chipinda
Izi ndi zipinda zomwe mukupita ndi anzanu, ndi banja lanu, ndi anthu otseka mokwanira. Pano mumalankhula ndi dziko lakunja mukakhala panyumba, kukangana ndi anzanu za ndale pa phwando la chakudya chamadzulo, werengani nyuzipepala, yang'anani TV. Chisokonezo chidzasandutsa danga ili kukhala khola, ndipo mwinamwake ndinu wonyansa kwambiri moti simuitana anzawo kwa zaka zambiri. Mwinamwake mukubisala kwa ena mu mulu wa zinyalala?
Gwirani m'chipinda chogona
Malo ogona a anthu akuluakulu ndi malo ogonana ndi ogona, ayenera kukwaniritsa ntchito yowonjezera maubwenzi ndi anthu. Matendawa m'chipinda chogona sangabweretse mphamvu, koma amalephera. Ngati muli pamalo ochepetsetsa mumakhala otopa, ingoikani zinthu, ndipo izi zidzakuthandizani kuchoka kupsinjika ndi kupumula. Ndipo pokhapokha mutha kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikugona mokwanira.
Kusokonezeka mumsewu
Mzerewu ndi chida cha nyumba yanu. Ndipo chisokonezo mu khola lanu, ngati "kupanikizana kwa magalimoto" pamsewu. Zimakulepheretsani kuyanjana ndi mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo wanu komanso kunyumba kwanu. Tayang'anani pa khola: ndi kovuta kwambiri kupunthwa mmenemo, kodi ndi zophweka kuyenda mmenemo, kodi ndi bwino? Ngati muli ndi zovuta poyankhulana ndi anthu komanso nokha, pakati pa banja ndi ntchito, mwinamwake, ndi nthawi yoti muike zinthu pakhomo.
Gwirani mu bafa
Kusamalira thupi ndi kuyeretsa ndizochita mwambo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Mu moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, danga lomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito, kuti mukonzekere kuyankhulana ndi dziko. Matendawa mu bafa amasonyeza kusadzidera nkhawa nokha, ndipo osati pokhapokha pathupi, amasonyezanso kudzichepetsa. Malo osambira okongoletsedwa bwino akhoza kukhala malo obwezeretsa ndi kudzikonda, malo osungira ndi amtendere. Lembani chipinda chanu chogona, yeretsani, chitembenuzireni kukhala malo omwe mukhoza kubisala kwa aliyense ndikukhala nokha, komwe mumakhala otetezeka madzulo ndi miyambo yotsamba.
Gwirani mu chimbudzi
Mukadzaza chimbudzi ndi zinyalala, mumasokoneza chidziwitso chanu. Chimbupi choyera chimasonyeza mavuto omwe amalepheretsa chitukuko mu ubale ndi ntchito, kusokoneza chitukuko chanu m'moyo, mavuto omwe simumamvetsa kwenikweni. Pamene khomo la chimbudzi limatsekedwa mwamphamvu, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mwasiya mavuto.
Matenda mu garaji
Galimoto yanu ndi chizindikiro cha kudziimira komanso kuyenda. Ngati muli ndi zinyalala m'galimoto yanu, galimoto yanu silingatheke pomwepo, ndiye muyenera kukhala osamala kwambiri, ndipo ndi kovuta kuti muyambe kudutsa mu moyo.
Tsopano ife tikudziwa chomwe chisokonezo mu chipindacho chimachokera ku lingaliro la psychology. Musaganize za kuyeretsa, ngati chinthu chowopsya. Khatipa iliyonse imene mumapereka kwa mwini watsopano, buku lililonse limene mumatenga ku laibulale. Komanso mapepala onse ndi magazini omwe mumayika mu junk, amapanga moyo wanu pazochitika, chimwemwe ndi mphamvu zatsopano.