Ndipotu, pokha pakhomo, pakhomo la banja lathu, timamva kuti tili otetezeka. Nthawi zina timachita zinthu zosatheka chifukwa cha okondedwa athu. Koma, mwatsoka, maubwenzi angwiro m'banja sali osowa. Kawirikawiri timawona mgwirizano wapabanja, umene abwenzi amatsutsana nawo, amapeza mgwirizano.
Kaŵirikaŵiri pambuyo pa kusokoneza zonse ndi kusudzulana. Iye amabwera mwadzidzidzi, koma zikuwoneka ngati izi zikuchitika. Zimakhala zovuta makamaka ngati mwanayo akukhudzidwa ndi chiyanjano ichi. Monga makolo sankayesa kuti chirichonse chimachitika kale, pali kusiyana pakati pa chiyanjano. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti makolo atatha kusudzulana amatha kulemekezana wina ndi mzake, zomwe zimakhala zosavuta kwambiri, chifukwa panthawi yomweyi onse akumverera, ndipo samayesa kukopa mwanayo m'njira iliyonse.
Pachifukwa ichi, mwanayo amatha kuona maganizo ake pa munthu amene khoti limamusiya kuti achoke mwanayo. Mwana sangakhale akudziwa choonadi chonse kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo sakuvomereza zochita za mnzanu wachiwiri. Ngakhale kuti akusudzulana, monga momwe amatsutsana ndi kusagwirizana, onse ali ndi mlandu, ndithudi. Kufufuzira zifukwa zothetsera ukwati ndi mwamuna ndikofunikira komanso palokha. Kawirikawiri maubwenzi amtundu wotero ndi kuika chitsanzo cha moyo wamtsogolo mtsogolo. Ndipotu, maubwenzi m'banja amathandiza kwambiri kumanga ubale wa mwana mtsogolo ndi abambo.
Ubongo wa ana, womwe ulibe "woyera" kuchokera kuzinthu zosiyana siyana zomwe timagwiritsa ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku mmoyo mwathu, mofulumira komanso mwakhama "amakolola" osati mawu okhawo ndi mawu omwe amalankhula, koma zomwe abambo ayenera kunena kwa amayi ake, komanso kuti amayi angachite izi Yankhani. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri timayesetsa kutsutsana ndi mikangano yotere m'maseŵera a ana, pamene wina wa ana amatsimikizira kuti amayi ayenera kulankhula motere (ndiko kuti, zomwe amayi ake amanena mu moyo wamba). Ana a psyche ayenera kutetezedwa ku zoopsya zoterezi. Koma kodi ndi wachikulire panthawiyi? Amamva bwanji, kusewera nthawi zina osasamala. Ndiponsotu, ndi mikangano zingati komanso kusudzulana kungapewe kokha poyesa kunyada komanso kuwerenga ndi kumvetsa malingaliro a mdaniyo. Koma, mwatsoka, izi, monga mawonetsero, ndi zosatheka m'moyo wathu.
Mavuto kuntchito, magalimoto, maulendo, mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku, kudzimvera chisoni. Nthawi zambiri, chifukwa cha kusadziletsa kwathu ndi kudzikonda kwathu, sitimva kapena kuona zomwe zikuchitikira wokondedwa wathu. Mawu a mawu, monga momwe amachitira nthawi zambiri, chifukwa cha zamkhutu, zomwe ndi zofunika kwambiri, timayambitsa mkangano. Kulankhulana zinthu zovuta, zimakhala zovuta kuti muchepetse ndikuyang'ana mkhalidwewu, muziyang'anitsitsa mosamala. Pa chisudzulo, ngakhale kuti maphwando awiri akuphatikizidwa, palibe wopambana. Kawirikawiri, munthu mmodzi amakhala woyambitsa, chifukwa chake chimakhala chozizira kwa mnzanu ndikukumana ndi chilakolako chatsopano.
Inde, izi mwatsoka zimapezeka. Onse awiri saganiziranso njira yabwino, ngati sakunena kuti akudandaula. Pambuyo pake, yemwe watsala motsogola amayamba kukonda ndi kuchoka ndi chikondi chopenga. Iye samvetsa kuti ili ndi lamulo la moyo: zomwe sitimasunga, koma timataya kulira. Chinthu chopembedzedwa, chomwe mpaka posachedwapa chinachotsedwa, tsopano ndi cha wina. Kunonso, nsanje, kudzimva kuti ndiwekha, kusadandaula, kusokoneza maloto a tsogolo.
Ndikuganiza, ndipo ambiri angavomereze ndi ine, kuthetsa banja kungakhale chifukwa cha zovuta kwambiri osati za banja limodzi, komanso za munthu. Makhalidwe ozoloŵera akugwa. Kaŵirikaŵiri amalephera kukhulupirira kwambiri amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ...
Kusudzulana ndi ubale wake ndi abambo ake, komanso kusewera tenisi, simungaphunzire kuchokera kwa munthu wina.