Titha kuwopa kuti watsopano wosankhidwayo sangafanane ndi chikondi chanu chakale. Mwadzidzidzi adzakhumudwa? Mwadzidzidzi adzakupatsani malingaliro omwe adali nawo ndi munthu wakale.
Inu mukuwopa kuvomereza chikondi cha mwamuna, chifukwa inu mukuganiza kuti mudzakhumudwitsidwa, kapena kuperekedwa. Chifukwa cha mantha awa, nthawi zambiri ubale ukugwa kapena saloledwa kuti ayambe. Pa chifukwa chimenechi, amai nthawi zambiri amasankha maubwenzi apakati, omwe amaitanidwa kugonana. Mwamwayi, atapulumuka kugulitsidwa kwa mnzanu, mkazi akuganiza kuti akhoza kukhala ndi maubwenzi atsopano, oopa kukhulupirira ndi kutsegula kwa mnzake.
Pali chifukwa chake pali mantha a ubale watsopano. Chifukwa ichi chimachokera pa ubwana wokha. Ngati, makolo sanali chitsanzo cha banja losangalala, ndiye kuti mayi akufika pamapeto kuti sangakhale ndi banja losangalala. Sizimamuchitikira iye kuti ubale ukhoza kukhala wophweka, wokondwa, ndi wosangalatsa. Zomwe makolo sadaphunzire pomanga ubale, amapanga mantha kuti ayambe ubale wawo.
Ngati mkazi anakulira m'banja losangalala komanso wachikondi, komwe akuyesera kutsimikizira kuti banja lachiwirili m'chilengedwe silinalipo. Izi zimapangitsa kuti mfundo za amai zokhuza banja komanso maubwenzi zikhale zowonjezereka. Ndipo kupeza munthu woyenera sizingatheke.
Ngati mumamufunsa funso la momwe akuwonera ubale wake wam'tsogolo, ndiye kuti adzayamba kulemba makhalidwe omwe munthu ayenera kukhala nawo. Banja liyenera kukhala losangalala, sipangakhale mikangano ndi mikangano. Ngati sakudziwa kuti zonse zidzakhala momwemo, n'zosavuta kukhala ndekha kusiyana ndi kuvutika m'banja losasangalala. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti vuto lalikulu la amai, lomwe limayambitsa chiyanjano chatsopano - ndilokuti amalingalira kuti munthu akhale "kavalidwe katsopano m'sitolo." Zofuna zake zokha zimaganiziridwa. Poyamba, iye sali wokonzeka kupereka chiyanjano.
Ngati mkazi adzigonjetsa yekha, amavomereza moyo ndi chirichonse chozungulira iye ngati chenicheni, ndiye adzakhala ndi mwayi wabwino womanga ubale weniweni. Zowopsya ndi chikoka cha zolakwika sizosiyana ndi anthu akuluakulu komanso odzidalira.
Kutetezeka ndi mantha ena a ubale watsopano. Kudzichepetsa kumadzipangitsa kuti mkazi asamangokhalira kumanga banja kapena ngakhale kukonda mwachidule.
Muzochitika izi, pali malangizo amodzi okha: yambani kukonda ndi kudzidalira nokha.
Akazi amphamvu, okhulupiliranso amaopa ubale. Pali zizindikiro mwa iwo, kuti mphamvu ndi udindo wake ziwopseza munthu aliyense. Chigoba chake ndi mphamvu, kukongola, kudzidalira, kupambana kuposa ena. Ndipo, mkati mwake, mzimayi wachitsulo amakhala ndi msungwana wachikondi yemwe amalakalaka kumverera kosavuta ndi kokongola - chikondi.
Kuopa kutayika ufulu, kukhala womangidwa ndi malingaliro ndi maudindo pa manja ndi mapazi. Mkazi ali ndi moyo, mwamuna samalowa mu niche iliyonse. Pa iye ndi ubale alibe nthawi, chifukwa tsiku lililonse amajambula pa zinthu zing'onozing'ono.
Kuwopsya kwakukulu kwa ubale watsopano kumachitika ndi amayi omwe ali ndi ana atatha ukwati wawo. Zikuwoneka kuti anawo sangavomereze watsopanoyo, kapena sangathe kupirira ntchito zatsopano, sakonda ana, monga momwe angafunire. Muzochitika izi, nkofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti ana adzalera posachedwa ndikukhazikitsa soya za banja, ndipo mudzakhalabe pamalo osweka.