Zowoneka bwino
Tilimbikitsidwa kwa iwo, timakhudzidwa ndi miyoyo yawo. Tili okonzeka kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yathu ndikusamala za kudzikongoletsa, kupita ku vet ndi kupeza chakudya chothandiza ... Timalekerera zovuta zonse zomwe zimagwiridwa ndi kusamalira: ubweya wawo, womwe umawoneka, uli kale kulikonse mnyumbamo, malungo awo enieni. Kodi onsewa amazunzidwa ndi chiyani? Mpaka posachedwa, akatswiri onse a maganizo amagwirizana kuti kukhala ndi chiweto m'nyumba kumathandiza kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, pamaso pa galu wake, mwana yemwe sadziwa momwe angaganizire ndi amene alibe mwayi wophunzira ndakatulo, mwadzidzidzi amawafotokozera popanda chigamulo. Anthu okalamba amalandira kuyankhulana ndi ziweto zosowa. Timakonda kulankhulana ndi ziweto chifukwa zimakhala zotetezeka, zodziwika ndi zomveka. Tikudziwa kuti pamene toloka pakhomo la nyumba, mphaka wokondedwayo amayamba kupfuula mokweza ndikupukuta miyendo. Ndipo mosasamala kanthu kuti timaponya mpira wotani, galu wathu adzabweretsa kwa ife m'mazinyo. Kuyankhulana ndi abale athu ocheperako kumatibweretsera ife chisangalalo chenicheni ndi zomwe timapereka ndi zabwino, zimakhala zabwino kwa ife. Pambuyo pa zonse, timayankhula nawo, timagawana zinsinsi zathu ndi zochitika zathu, ndikukhulupirira kuti zinyama zimatimva ndikumvetsa zonse. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, timakhala otsimikiza kuti tidzalandira mayankho a maganizo kuchokera ku zochita zathu kapena ngakhale mawu, omwe ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa ife. Kawirikawiri, kupezeka kwa galu kapena kamba kunyumba kuli ndi ubwino wambiri. Zikuwoneka kuti amatimvetsetsa, timamva kuyamikira ndi chifundo chawo kwa ife, maganizo athu. Iwo sadzatidzudzula ife, kulandira ife monga ife tirili. Pambuyo pake, galu, mwachuluka, sizilibe kanthu kuti munthu ndi wabwino bwanji mwini wake. Ndi chinthu chofanana ndi kuvomereza kosavomerezeka, komwe kumabadwira kuchokera kwa mayi kupita kwa mwana wake. Ndipo pambuyo pake, ndi ife amene tikusowa pamene tikukula.
Gwirizanani, ndi kutali kwambiri ndi nthawi zonse zokhutira ndi zotetezeka kuti tikhale pamodzi ndi anthu ena, ngakhale pafupi kwambiri. Ndipotu, amakhalanso osadziwika, nthawi zambiri mawu awo ndi zochita zawo zimapweteka kwambiri. Komanso, amatiyesa, ngakhale kuti nthawi zonse sakhala abwino, nthawi zambiri amatsutsidwa. Mu gulu la anthu, nthawi zambiri sitingaganizire mmene timamvera poyankhulana ndi galu amene mumakonda kapena kamba. Pankhaniyi, sikuti tonsefe tidzakhala ndi zifukwa zotsutsana pazitsutso ndi mlembi wa aphorism wotchuka: "Pamene ndikuzindikira anthu, ndimakonda agalu kwambiri." Ndiyeno, ndi zinyama zokha zomwe timamva kuti ndi zamphamvu komanso zamphamvu. Pambuyo pa zonse, moyo wawo, ubwino ndi zosangalatsa zimadalira mwa ife ndi zisankho zathu. Ndipo kumverera kovuta komwe timakumana nazo, kudyetsa nyama, zimatitonthoza, zimatonthoza. Ndipo yankho la funsoli, chifukwa chake ziweto zamtundu wa nkhosa zamtundu wotentha zimakhala ziweto zathu, zikuwoneka kuti zikuwoneka bwino. Komabe, si zonse zophweka. Timayesa ndalama zochuluka zinyama zathu osati chifukwa chosowa zathu ndipo tikufuna.
Timapereka kwa ziweto zathu zamalingaliro, zochita, maganizo ndi malingaliro athu. Palibe zodabwitsa ife nthawizina timaganiza kuti pang'ono - ndipo iye ayamba kulankhula, ndi kukhala munthu wathunthu. Chodabwitsa ichi chimatchedwa anthropomorphism. Ziri zenizeni kuti nyama yaumunthu imakhala nthawi zonse kukhala membala wathunthu wa banja lathu. Ikuphatikizidwa mu moyo wathu wa banja. Sizongopanda kanthu kuti ena awiri a zaka zapakati, omwe alibe ana kapena ana, atakula kale ndipo asiya kunyumba kwa makolo awo, amatchula galu wawo kapena khate ngati mwana wawo. Kawirikawiri amavomereza kuti sawakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi ana awo.
Okhala ndi miyendo inayi
Kafukufuku wam'mbuyo samatsimikizira zokhudzana ndi ntchito yokhayo ya galu kapena khungu pakukula kwa banja. Chowonadi chakuti ife, osadziwa izi, tigwiritse ntchito ziweto zathu monga ochita mgwirizano poyanjana ndi mamembala ena. Nthawi zambiri kukhalapo kwa bwenzi lamachimuna anayi m'banja kumakhala chizindikiro cha kusowa kwa kugwirizana kwa mtundu wina mwa iye. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, chinyama chingathetsere vuto, kapena, mosiyana, chingalimbikitse icho. Koma sangathe kuthetsa vutoli. Nthawi zonse ndi theka laling'ono. Zimadziwika kuti nyama yazinyama ikhoza "kuthandizira" banja pamagulu osiyanasiyana a chitukuko, moyo wawo. Komanso, maonekedwe ake m'banjamo sizowopsa konse. Cholinga choyambitsa galu kapena kamba kawirikawiri chimapezeka pa nthawi yooneka ngati yopanda pake - pamene banja limasintha (pa nthawi ya mimba ya mimba, mwana atangobereka kapena atatembenuka 3, kapena 13-15). Ndicho chifukwa chakuti mamembala ayesa kuchepetsa nkhawa za maganizo, nkhawa zomwe zimayambitsa kusintha uku ndi kuthandizidwa ndi chiweto. Ndipo, mmalo mopulumuka iwo, banja silinakonzedwe kwa iwo, silingathe kupirira nawo. Ndiye chiweto chamankhuno chinayi chimawombera. Komanso, nthawi zoterezi sizingatheke kutsutsa banja kuti lisayambe chiweto.
Chachitatu?
M'chipatala chokhazikika, amalingalira kuti triad ndi yolimba kuposa dyad. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, banja la anthu atatu liri lolimba kuposa banja. Wachitatu amalola mamembala ena awiri kuti achepetse nkhawa. Mwachikhalidwe, wachitatu amakhala mwana. Iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yosonyeza mmene anthu akumvera: pamene akukamba za khanda, makolo sangakhudze ngakhale zovuta zomwe zimachitika pakati pawo. M'banja lachichepere lomwe mulibe ana, kapena mu banja lomwe ana achikulire amasiyanitsa kale ndi makolo awo, mwana kapena mwana wamphongo amalowetsa ... mwana. Ndipo kwa banja lachichepere, komanso kuti mwana wathanzi okhwima akhoza kukhala ndi "mwana woyenera". Pachifukwa ichi, iye sawalola kuti aphunzire kuthetsa mwakhama mikangano yomwe imabuka. Ndipo salola kuti banja liziyenda ku gawo lotsatira la moyo - kukhala ndi mwana kapena kulola ana okalamba kupita.
Wosalowerera m'malo
Nthawi zina bwenzi lamachimuna anayi akhoza kutenga m'malo mwa mwana yekhayo, komanso mamembala ena a m'banja. Nenani kuti, ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi wake amatha kusudzulana, amayamba kuyambitsa njoka yoopsa. Ngakhale kuyesayesa kwa wophunzirayo, wogwira ntchitoyo amamupangitsa galu kuti asonyeze khalidwe laukali. Pachikhalidwe ichi, mkazi amatha kubwezeretsa chizoloŵezi chake cha "wogwidwa ndi vutoli", chomwe anakumana nacho muukwati. Pachifukwa ichi, udindo wa chiweto chapakhomo siwothandiza. Muzochitika zina, mwana kapena mwana wamphongo amatha kupulumuka kuvutika maganizo komwe kumakhudzana ndi imfa ya membala wa m'banja. Apa udindo wa chiweto ndi wabwino.
Wopatukana Wachidule
Kawirikawiri, ziweto zimakhala zokhumudwitsa pakati pa achinyamata. Amagwiritsa ntchito mfundo - ngati simukukonda mphaka / galu wanga, ndiye kuti simundikonda. Choncho, ngakhale kudzibisa okha mantha awo, kukayikira ndi nkhawa zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi wokondedwa wawo. Nenani, msungwana amakomana ndi mnyamata, ndipo ali ndi mphaka pakhomo. Nthawi ina, mtsikanayo adayenera kusankha ngati apita kwa iwo kapena ayi? Msungwanayo anazunzidwa ndi funso: mnyamata ali ndi tsitsi lopweteka, kotero iye sakonda mphaka wake, momwe angakhalire? Zotsatira zake, mtsikanayo adaganiza zosiyana ndi mwamuna. Pankhaniyi, mphakayo, osadziwa, inakhala olekanitsa. Msungwanayo adakayikira yekha ndi malingaliro a mnyamatayo. Nkhawa yake inapeza njira yotulukira, yosintha zonse ku katsako. Ndipotu, ngati mtsikanayo anali ndi chidaliro kuti ndi munthu uyu adzakhala moyo wake, adzabala ana, ndi zina zotero, ziweto zake zikhoza kuyang'aniridwa ndi ambuye ena. Apo ayi, ziweto zong'onong'ono zinayi zingathandize kwambiri, kuthandiza achinyamata akusiyana ndi makolo olamulira nthawi zonse.