Kodi kusasamala ndikutuluka bwanji mu dziko lino?

Ngati mukutulutsa nyimbo yonena za "no-che-ho-ho, sindikufuna" zolemba za capriciousness, ndiye kuti sitidzakhala ndi mfumu yapamwamba, koma chitsanzo chabwino cha mtsikana yemwe alibe chidwi. Ife, akazi a m'zaka za zana la 21, tikudandaula za vutoli nthawi zambiri pamene tikufulumira ndi mawu akuti: "Ndine wovutika maganizo!" Koma kodi tikudziwa chomwe chiri kumbuyo kwa izi? Nchifukwa chiani mwadzidzidzi, kuyambira pamenepo, kuyambira tsopano, nthawi zina kumalo okongola, chilakolako chokondwera ndi moyo chimatha ndipo kodi kumabwerera kotereku? Kuchokera kunja kumakhala kokwiyitsa. Amakhala namwali - wathanzi, wokongola, wathanzi, amapita kuntchito ndikuyendera chibwenzi chake, amalankhula ndi abwenzi, amatha kulipira mtundu uliwonse wa zosangalatsa, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo akuti: "Sindikufuna chilichonse." Iye sakufuna kudya chokoleti chake chomwe amachikonda, sakufuna kupita ku phwando lozizira ndikuthawira ku Paris kupita ku muluwu - nayenso. Ndipo izi sizikutanthauza. Kapena, titi, iwe ukuyang'ana ngati bwenzi, nthawi zonse ndiwopseza kwambiri kuyang'ana maonekedwe ake, mwadzidzidzi anayamba kuvala kuti choyamba chikugwera kunja, anaiwala za zidendene ndikutsuka mutu wake nthawi zonse. Ndipo sichichita chifukwa cha kulimbikira kulingana kwa amuna ndi akazi. Mwa njira, kodi simunayambe mwachitika mwanjira iyi?

Yakhala wopanda maganizo
Mawu ofunika pofotokoza osasamala ndi "osasamala". Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zoyamba ndi mawu akuti "Sindikusamala" komanso kumverera kuti kulibe kanthu. Ndipo mu gawo kumene moyo wokha umagwiritsa ntchito kuwira. Nthawi yanji ku funso lakuti: "Kodi iwe udzakhala wotani, kapena wonyezimira?" inu mukuti, "Chabwino, ndipatseni ine steak." Koma osati chifukwa chakuti mumakhumba nyama kapena simungathe kulekerera zokoma, koma chifukwa choti muyenera kusankha chinachake, kuphatikizapo mukukumbukira - kusunga moyo ndikofunikira chakudya. Kulankhula m'malingaliro, munthu wosayanjanitsika akunena zomwe zikumuchitikira: pakuti iye alibe kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa zochitika zomwe zimachititsa chisangalalo ndi kukhutira, ndi zomwe zimayambitsa kuvutika ndi ululu. Kusayanjanitsika ndiko kupezeka kwa malingaliro. Sitiyenera kusokonezeka ndi abulia - kuphwanya malo omwe akufuna, pamene wina sakufuna kuchita chirichonse. Kuchokera pa zosakhudzidwa ndi kusagwira ntchito kumatenga nthawi. Munthu wosasamala akupitirizabe kugwira ntchito, kupita kwinakwake ndi abwenzi, kuti atsogolere moyo wake wamba - mwa inertia, popanda kumva kukoma kwake. Chimene chinapita ku filimu, kuti iye angakhale pakhomo, kuti chifuniro chake, kuti iye anali akapolo ...

Kupezeka kwa "kusasamala" palokha kulibe. Mu lingaliro lachipatala - mwinamwake kulibe chidwi, pamene silitenga mbali iliyonse ya moyo mu nthawi inayake, koma zonse (moyo) kwathunthu. Koma pazimenezi mumafunika zofunikira kwambiri (matenda): kuvutika maganizo, schizophrenia, kuwonongeka kwa ubongo - mu chithunzi chotero, kusowa mtima kwathunthu ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro. Ndiyeno wodwalayo akulowetsa vuto ndi dokotala wake. Ife tikufuna kuti tiyankhule za chinachake. Kupanda chidwi kungathe kudziwonetsera ngati chochitika "chapafupi" m'moyo waumunthu, njira yomwe ikuphatikizidwa muzinthu zina zofanana. Mwachitsanzo, zotsatirazi.

Kupitirira malire
Kudzimva kumangotenthetsa mphamvu ngati kuchita chinachake. Ndipo zowonongeka (sizofunikira, zolemetsa, zokhudzana ndi kutayika kapena chisoni kapena zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa) nthawizina zimachitika kwambiri. Ndiye zamoyo zoganiza zimasankha kuti: "Zonse, zitha!" Ndipo ngati kompyuta, imalowa mu njira yopulumutsa mphamvu - imangowatulutsa. Ndipo mu ichi palibe chowopsya. M'malo mwake, muli ndi mwayi wopuma pang'ono. Inde, nthawi zina kumverera kumafuna kupumula.

Kuchuluka kwa ntchito
Ngati muli ndi chizoloŵezi choyipa, yesetsani kukwaniritsa zolinga ndizitsitsimutso ndi minga - ndizotemberera. Kapena apa pali mtundu wina - wodalirika ndi wachangu, amene amagwira ntchito mwakhama ndipo sadzapumula mpaka atapanganso chirichonse ndi pang'ono kuchokera pamwamba. Pazifukwa ziwirizi, heroine akudikirira kudikirira kutopa - pathupi ndi m'maganizo, kutopa. Kenaka amakakamizika kugona pa sofa, osachita kanthu ndikumva kanthu, chifukwa mphamvu zomwe zilibe kanthu, zasiya, kukwaniritsa ndi kugonjetsa. Thupi limapanganso dongosolo kuti likhale lachangu kuti lipeze mphamvu zowonjezera.

Ntchito yoteteza
Tiyeni titenge chitsanzo. Munapangana ndi munthu amene mumakonda kwambiri. Koma ndikuuza anzanga kuti simusamala ngati akuitana kapena ayi. Ndipo chinthu chodabwitsa kwambiri n'chakuti musanyengedwe. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mwanjira imeneyi simukugwirizana ndi zochitika zenizeni, koma kuwonetseredwa kwa zovuta zomwe zinachitika kale. Ngati zogwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti zimamva zopweteka, zoopsa, zoopsa, ndiye kuti pali chiyeso chopita ku zosasamala, kuti muteteze ku zowawa zomwe zikukuvutitsani. Njira, kuvomereza, zosasintha, ndi kuyamwa kuti muzigwiritsa ntchito nthawi zina pokhapokha mutagwira ntchito ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.

Zotsatira za vuto lalikulu / nkhawa / vuto
Ndizosatheka kuti ndizimva, zingakhale zowonongeka pambali ya kukula kapena khalidwe lakumverera. Kuwatembenuza iwo, inu mukhoza kupirira ndi kudutsamo. Kenako vutoli linatha, koma maganizo ake anatha. Zimatengera nthawi kuti pang'onopang'ono ayambe kutsitsimuka. Komabe, izi nthawi zambiri ndi chitukuko cha zochitika. Kuwopsya kunali kolimba kwambiri moti kunali kosatheka kuyamba kuyambiranso - zinali zoopsa kukumana ndi zomwe munadzipatula nokha popanda chosamvetsetseka. Ndipo psyche imatetezedwa ndi osasamala. Ngati kusokonezeka kumakhudza gawo laling'ono la moyo, ndiye mukuwona mawonetseredwe osasamala. Pokhudzana ndi vuto loopsya la zotsatira zapadziko lonse, kusasamala kwathunthu ndikotheka. Chotsatirachi, kuphatikizapo, monga tanena kale, chiri pakati pa ma syndromes of post-traumatic stress disorder. Ndipo pano mungafunike thandizo la katswiri ndi ntchito inayake yokhudzana ndi maganizo pofuna kuti muthe kukwanitsa kumva.

Matenda a Somatic
Kuchepetsa kugwira ntchito kwa thupi lonse kumakhudza magawo amalingaliro ndi maganizo makamaka - ndipo ntchito yake, tsoka, ikufooketsa. Ndipo apa, naponso, pali kusiyana.

Pamene kuli kofunika kuti ugule belu kuti asakuitaneni, funso ndilokha. Koma wina ayenera kukhala tcheru pamene magawo a moyo akuchulukira, momwe kusamvera kumadziwonetsera. Pano, mwachitsanzo, mu chitsanzo cha mwamuna wokongola yemwe ayenera kuyitana. Pamene kusasamala kwenikweni kumakhala chitetezo, mumapitiriza kuyenda molimba moyo, kungochotsa zokhazokha, ponena za vuto linalake - "Sindikusamala ngati tili ndi zina zambiri." Koma ngati mutangomva tsiku latsopano simukufuna kuchita kalikonse - kuphatikizapo kuchita, ndipo simungakhulupirire kanthu kabwino, kuli ngati boma losautsika, osati kokha komanso osakhudzidwa nazo.

Momwe mungatulukemo kusamvera
Kotero, iwe unayang'ana wekha kuchokera kumbali ndipo unapeza zizindikiro za kusamvera. Tsopano ntchito yanu ndi kupeza nkhani yomwe yabweretsa izo ndipo, ndithudi, ikusintha. Nenani, nkhaniyi ikugwira ntchito mopitirira malire - ndikofunika kuti mupumule. Mukuwona kuti zochitika zomwe zikuchitika nthawi zonse zimayambitsa kusayanjanitsika, mumamva kuti "mukuganiza" pachitidwe - mwina muyenera kutembenukira kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo ndikukambirana ndi vutoli. Komabe, n'zotheka kuti mutha kupirira nokha, mukuzindikira chifukwa chake mukusowa chidwi. Kuti muchite izi, yesetsani kupititsa mayeso ang'onoang'ono. Ngati wina wa mau awa akhoza kutchulidwa ndi liwu lanu lamkati, werengani moonjezera - kodi izi sizomwe mukuchita?

"Ndimakhala wokhutira, wokhutira ndi moyo, kuphatikizapo maganizo. Ndine wokondwa, ndikuda nkhaŵa, ndikuyembekezera, ndikuda nkhaŵa, ndikudandaula." Koma zimachitika, ngati kuti sindimvetsetsa, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti ndizofunikira kwa ine, ndipo sindikusamala chomwe chidzatha. "

Mwachidziwikire, zomwe zikukuchitikirani panthawiyi zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi zolakwika m'mbuyomu, pamene umvetsedwe wanu ukhoza kukupwetekani inu ndipo munaukaniza. Muyenera kuchotsa malingaliro ake pakalipano, kotero kuti mutha kukhala ndi moyo wanu wonse pamodzi ndi anyamata onse.

"Ine ndiribe malingaliro - ndipo musatero.
Popanda iwo, moyo ndi wosavuta komanso wosavuta. Kugona bwino, kudya zakudya zathanzi, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi komanso kusafa kuntchito - ndizo zonse zomwe ndikufunikira. Mutu womveka bwino ndi ndondomeko yoyenera yogwira ntchito. "

Kukonzekera kwakukulu! Muyeneradi kupumula. Kuchokera kumvetsetsa kwambiri molondola, ndipo mwinamwake, kuchokera ku ntchito yowonjezera. Choncho, mukuchira bwino. Ndipo pambuyo pake, kubwerera kudziko lakumverera - watsopano ndi wokonzeka kuzindikira izo mu mitundu yonse.

"Sindingathe kuchotsa kumverera kwanga komwe ndikukhala pandekha." Inde, ndikugwira ntchito, ndikupambana, ndili ndi mauthenga osiyanasiyana, koma sindinapeze chimwemwe ngakhale kuti sindinganene kuti ndikukumana ndi mavuto.

Samalani ndipo mvetserani maganizo anu. Kusakhala ndi malingaliro ozindikira pa zomwe zikuchitika ndi chizindikiro chowopsya, kungakhale kusokoneza maganizo. Mwina, ndi bwino kutembenukira kwa katswiri kuti mubwezeretse moyo wanu ndikumva bwino.